Love never dies…it just takes on a new form and meaning.
It matures…
It sheds illusion…
It releases longing…
It stops begging to be chosen…
and becomes self-honoring.
You can let love remain real and heartfelt without letting it remain illusory.
This is “sovereign healing.”
And it aligns perfectly with the wisdom I have gained…and live…
“As within, so without.“
Love and blessings,
Wendy
Alienation and estrangement in relationships occurs over a course of time and is the result of patterns…
betrayal of trust, unmet needs, accumulated emotional triggers, and repeated attempts to connect that go ignored or invalidated.
Setting firm boundaries at the onset of a relationship is the only way to preserve mutual respect and emotional safety…
and the only defense against the heartbreak of disconnection.
Love,
Wendy
We all have feelings and emotions. Some days they may stop us in our steps and say, “Hello, I need to be acknowledged!” Sometimes this may be a delayed trauma response, or it may be a culmination of chronic stressors where we feel overwhelmed.
Give your feelings a voice. Honor your emotions.
“STOP. PAUSE. EMOTE. ALLOW. REST. – S.P.E.A.R.“
S.P.E.A.R. and S.W.I.M. Into Wellness! (You can read about this in my book, Write Pray Recover:A Journey To Wellness Through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care https://a.co/d/a8lzF4O
When you feel triggered, or you feel your symptoms escalating…S.P.E.A.R.
This is a non-linear recovery plan that is specific to your health and wellness goals.
STOP where you are.
PAUSE TO BE PRESENT. PATIENTLY PROCESS. Take one slow deep breath through your nose, and exhale slowly through your mouth.
Repeat three times. Your breath is your most accessible tool to intervene with your physiology in real time. Focus on your breath to align with the present moment.
EMOTE safely anything that you are feeling. You are allowed to feel whatever you feel!
Try the Alternate Nostril Breathing below to self soothe as you release your feelings/emotions.
Allow yourself to feel, and take whatever time you need. Practice extra self care.
ACCEPT your emotions and feelings. Take as long as you need to practice acceptance and validate what you are feeling in a safe space without self judgement. Acceptance promotes peace.
REST and RE-ALIGN, and allow yourself time to process. Hydrate!
Write about it! Take your time with this step. Then, RE-FRAME using a healthy mindset and being open to new perspectives to re-frame the experience as you move forward. Ask yourself, “In moving forward, how can I use my self awareness of this trigger/ stressor in conjunction with my self regulation skills in order to navigate constructively? (Daily self care to stay ahead of the stressor? Take a “time out?” Etc.)
For those who mean well by telling you to “Focus on your blessings! Be positive,” give yourself permission and power to realize when others do not know how to support us appropriately, and do not have the skill, or the experience and words that we may need at the time, and know that they mean well. And, some may be uncomfortable observing as we experience emotions and feelings because it may force them to go within where they may be suppressing their own feelings and emotions that also need validation.
We ALL have mental health.
When we are feeling mentally unwell, we do not need to “focus on our blessings and all the positives in our lives.“ What we need is a safe space, and the time, however long that is for us, to experience the experience.
S.P.E.A.R. yourself into the experience. Ask for support if you feel you need support. This begins the healing process.
Whatever healthy practices you need to heal, do it…and take your time.”
To read more about my S.P.E.A.R. and S.W.I.M. Into Wellness component of my “Integrative Approach to Wellness” program, read my book, Write Pray Recover:A Journey To Wellness Through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care. https://a.co/d/a8lzF4O
Love and blessings,
Wendy
In a dreamy escape laced with nostalgia, I thought I could rekindle with you…
And then…
I saw you…really saw YOU.
Not the you who you pretended to be, but your “truth.”
And I remember the heartbreak.
I remember the devaluation of me, the day you just disappeared, and the years of healing it took for me to recover from loving you.
I suppose I still feel the love, but my peace and serenity that I find through Spirit are invaluable to me now.
They are my anchor to loving myself as I continue to wait for the warm embrace of “true” love once again.
Always and Forever,
Wendy
The world is changed by your example…
not your words.
Love,
Wendy
Angels reveal miracles when we allow events to unfold organically…
Things really do change instantly when God is ready to reveal, and when we have faith.
Love and blessings,
Wendy
CULTIVATE THE DISCIPLINE TO REMAIN PRESENT IN EVERY MOMENT…
Perfection is so overrated.
Perfection can sometimes prevent us from the beauty and meaning of simply experiencing each experience as it unfolds…
Staying in the moment is a mindful practice.
Therein lies our challenge.
Love,
Wendy
I observe the ones who stop and squeeze my hand and offer words of comfort.
I receive the calls and texts ongoing with kind words and prayers…
And I feel comforted.
And then I observe the ones that look at me, smile, and keep right on walking without a word. I observe others who do not call or text unless it is for their own personal gain.
And I feel sorry for them…as they lack empathy.
When we “feel empathy,” we are connected. When we cannot offer even one word of comfort in a crisis…there is a disconnect between our hearts and our presence.
Stay connected. Be present. Comfort one who is experiencing pain. Offer your time and a brief reprieve.
Herein lies empathy that may change the trajectory of one’s day.
Love and blessings,
Wendy
As a spiritual student and teacher, I have learned that once I release any expectations, and I trust in my spiritual connection, I experience the experiences I have dreamed about.
These spiritual experiences have been awe inspiring and captivating.
I choose to allow Spirit to lead me to, and through the magnificence of these spiritually aligned experiences.
Through inner introspection and an open heart…I hear “the calling.”
I am a believer, an explorer and a survivor.
Love, Wendy
Use discernment in sharing and trusting.
Protect your energy and your most intimate thoughts. Not everyone will honor you in the way that you would honor their vulnerability with care.
Be selective in who you allow close.
Trust is earned over a period of time.
Love,
Wendy
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