Unfiltered:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
The filters cover the wrinkles…the earned character and badges of honor. They smooth the sagging skin that quietly bears witness to a life fully lived. Filtering reflects our longing to reclaim youth and outward beauty. But remember…no lens has ever been invented that can enhance kindness, deepen compassion, or filter the light of a beautiful soul. Love and blessings, Wendy
Keep readingBreadcrumbs:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Breadcrumbs tease the palate…but never nourish the soul… My cup runneth over. Love and blessings, Wendy
Keep readingThe Road Less Traveled:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Lift people up. Make them feel valued, appreciated, and loved. When you align yourself with those who target good people because of their own insecurities, biases, or fears, you send a powerful message of disregard toward someone who has done nothing to deserve it. When you genuinely care about someone, you walk alongside them. You don’t leave them standing alone on the side of the…
Keep reading“Radical Acceptance: That I Would Be Good” – Love, Wendy
Tara Brach tells the story of Marilyn sitting with her dying mother night after night, holding her hand, meditating with her, and telling her she loved her. Most of the time her mother was unconscious. Then, shortly before her death, she opened her eyes and looked directly at her daughter and said: “All my life I thought something was wrong with me.” Tara writes that…
Keep readingAlways and Forever:Unwritten and Unfolding – Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
When a relationship has history, a deep-rooted spiritual connection, emotional intimacy, and a bond that neither time nor distance has been able to erase—a love that continues to find its way back to itself—I believe that even where we differ, including in our political views, love can still find its way home. And when the time comes, we will know what to do. Love and…
Keep reading“Too Nice” is a Trauma Response: Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Being ‘too nice’—something I have learned to curb as I began honoring my own needs and desires first—is often praised, but sometimes it develops as a survival strategy rather than a genuine expression of kindness…a “trauma response.” Those of us who grew up in environments where love, approval, safety, or acceptance felt conditional may learn to keep the peace by putting everyone else’s needs ahead…
Keep readingLoud Whispers…Silent Truth:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
READ BETWEEN THE LINES… LISTEN TO WHAT IS NOT BEING SAID. WHEN YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN OF THE QUIET NOISE—THE LOUD WHISPERS—IT IS AN EAR-OPENING EXPERIENCE THAT IS DEAFENING. WHAT IS BELIEVED TO BE A SAFELY GUARDED SECRET HAS ALREADY BECOME FRONT-PAGE NEWS. THE ONLY PEOPLE WHO DON’T SEEM TO KNOW ARE THE ONES STILL WRITING THE GOSSIP COLUMN. POWER OFTEN MISTAKES SILENCE FOR IGNORANCE. AFTERTHOUGHT: Simply…Loud…
Keep readingDominoes:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
A single domino falls, and suddenly an entire chain of events unfolds. Sometimes the first domino was set in motion years earlier by something we didn’t choose—a childhood lesson, a painful experience, an illness, a relationship, a loss. Other times it’s a decision we make that quietly changes the direction of everything that follows. This image below of the dominoes suggests that one event directly affects…
Keep readingUnlearning is a Learned Mindset:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
We make choices and decisions based on what we have been taught and what has been modeled as normal. Yet, unlearning can also be a learned behavior…one that is mindful, healthy, and transformative. It invites us to open ourselves to new perspectives, challenge old assumptions, and view situations through a wider lens. Growth often begins not with learning something new, but with being willing to…
Keep readingEmergence:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Growth is emergence into a new way of thinking and being, shaped by experiencing our experiences with an open mind, open eyes, and the willingness to see through a wider lens. It is the process of allowing life, reflection, mistakes, insight, and awareness to transform how we understand ourselves, others, and the world around us. Through this process, we evolve into something expanded, more conscious,…
Keep readingChoosing Myself:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Your health is not something you can replace. Choosing yourself is self care…and self respect. Paying attention to your body’s reality rather than to the pressure of what you think you “should” be doing or what other’s thoughts about it are…is self care…and self respect. When you do not lead by example in this way, the more you push through, the more you are expected…
Keep readingThose Were The Days:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
I want to bring back landline phones and in person conversation…NO TEXTING… I want to bring back pick up sticks and jacks to play with, Toys R Us, going to the neighbors house or having them to mine for coffee in the morning where they just walk in without having to knock. I want to sit in a drive in theater and watch a movie…
Keep readingJust Breathe:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
There is nothing more frightening—and humbling—than losing the ability to draw in the air that surrounds you—the oxygen that sustains life itself. Breath is more than a biological function…it is a metaphor for freedom. Our breath is our most accessible tool for intervening with our physiology in real time. When the body becomes so depleted that breath is no longer readily accessible…it reminds us that…
Keep readingDating – Love, Wendy
Dating is optional for me. My bills are paid. My home is clean and peaceful. My bed is big. Peace already exists in my life. It is non negotiable…I cherish my autonomy… If you enter my life, bring honesty, integrity, kindness, laughter, and ease. Anything less does not add value to the life I’ve worked hard to create. Love, Wendy
Keep readingAnd…I Do See You:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
After starting my life over at 54 years old, it took a great deal of courage… Now, after fourteen years, I have grown into the woman, mother, grandmother, friend, and teacher I choose to be, and I am proud of who I continue to become…”Proud” as in earned…not boastful. I embrace every opportunity to learn, grow, and keep an open mind and heart. Each day,…
Keep readingWelcome Home:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Home is not always a place…Home can be a state of mind, found in any setting when we are with people who make us laugh, help us feel seen and heard, make us feel safe to just ‘be,’ show up consistently and stay present through life’s ups and downs, and remind us that we are loved…even when we don’t feel lovable. Love and blessings, Wendy
Keep readingThe Many Forms of Love:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Love is not a single emotion, even though we try to contain it within one word. It stretches across countless human experiences. It lives in long-term partnerships where people continue choosing each other through the passing years and decades, not simply existing beside one another. It exists in enduring friendships that can withstand silence and distance, resuming effortlessly without resentment or explanation. It appears in…
Keep readingHolding Space for the “Ands” – Dancing Slowly Through Life:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Music is one of my greatest lifelines, and moving my body to the songs I love is a kind of euphoria I never want to lose. Last night, knowing my spinal challenges and Lupus required care, I still got lost in the music—“Hurts So Good” (pun intended). I stood up beside Dan at the restaurant table and began to move with joy and exhilaration…and belting out…
Keep readingThe Beauty of Friendship and Companionship:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Although we both live with our “one and only forever loves” deep within our souls, we enjoy a close friendship…laughing, talking, walking, dancing, hugging, eating… sharing. Tenderness. And it is a pleasure-filled space with ease, grace, emotional maturity, and pure joy. We meet each other exactly where we are with absolutely no expectations. Last night, we realized our friendship has been growing organically for a…
Keep readingMay is Mental Health Awareness Month – Depression Is A Mental Health Disorder – Love, Wendy
May is Mental Health Awareness Month. Please be mindful of your words and language… Things not to say to someone who is depressed: “It will pass.”“Just forget about it.”“Other people have it worse.”“Just think positive.”“You have so much to be grateful for.” Depression is not weakness, negativity, or lack of gratitude.It is emotional pain that deserves compassion, patience, support, and empathy.It IS a mental health…
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