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“UNHEALED TRAUMA” – LOVE, WENDY

“One’s behavior and consistent unhealthy patterns are indicative of one’s experience of trauma and of one’s inability and unwillingness to acknowledge, to validate and to heal. It is easier to live in a victim mentality than it is to find one’s courage to change one’s mindset in order to heal. “Woe is me,” vs “It feels good to feel good!”

Through daily, healthy self care practices, we do heal, if we are willing to slowly and patiently do the work…with support.

“Self care is the actions that we take to achieve wellness and wellness is where we stand in our power.”

Love, Wendy

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IN THIS MOMENT – LOVE, WENDY

“Yesterday as I looked back over my shoulder just for a moment, I saw my past in the far off distance…and I smiled at how far I have walked since then.

No regrets…no sense of “I wish,” or “I miss…” Just a sense of peace and gratitude for all that I have experienced.

As I turned back around to face my present and my future, my heart is filled with excitement for the experience in every moment where I am mindfully present. I now know the true meaning of love, of joy, of wellness, and of meaningful abundance as I experience these emotions in real time, cemented in a Spiritual foundation.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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YOU’RE FIRED! – LOVE, WENDY

What else can you expect from a bully who is a pathological liar, with a severely unwell mind other than cowardice encouraging of others to be bullies, and then as in true cowardly form…once he has his posse of the exact same unwell minds to mimic his words and reckless actions, to stand in the background, egging on the crowd all while laughing as he watches from the sidelines…

A leader empowers others, and teaches them where they may be able to thrive… a leader radiates loving kindness wherever possible to reassure others in unprecedented, volatile times…he doesn’t use them for personal and professional gain. This poor excuse for a “leader” has no loyalty, empathy or love for another living soul.

It is an unwell, weak mind who cannot think for themselves, and who may have lacked nurturing attention throughout their lives, that attaches to one making the most noise for the attention they themselves crave. “See me! Hear me! I’m not invisible!”

However, one so empty can never be “full filled.” It is a dry well…a bottomless pit…

And now the beautiful irony…

We get to point our finger and say, “You’re fired!”

Love, Wendy

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A WELCOME DIALOGUE WHICH SPEAKS TO THE HEART – LOVE, WENDY

“A heart to heart conversation can only be successful between two evolved souls who are willing to extinguish the ego, listen without judgement, keep an open mind and heart, to be flexible, to get excited about mutually beneficial solutions, and whose end goal is to find a sustainable, fair and loving resolution.

A conversation such as this is always welcome.”

Love, Wendy

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PRAY FOR THEM – LOVE, WENDY

“One who stands in judgement and uses unkind words to communicate is merely reflecting how they feel about themselves. Their own inner unhealed wounds takes on a meaning of its own. One is in pain and doesn’t have the tools to find a constructive resolution within, or with another…yet.

It’s nothing personal.

Send him love and peace energetically. Pray for his healing.

Take a spiritually aligned approach. ”

Love, Wendy

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THE UNIVERSE – LOVE, WENDY

“Falling in love with one who comes into your life as if out of nowhere…is a gift from the Universe…a Divine counterpart.

One who celebrates all of who you are…and understands everything you have lived through to become the beautiful soul you are today. He appreciates how you have turned your broken past into an imperfect masterpiece. He celebrates every imperfection. He loves and protects you in every way. You never wonder if you are loved. It is clear in every loving word, and in every tender action.

“Where did you come from?” I ask. He points upwards towards the sky and answers, “The Universe.”

Love, Wendy

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GET READY! – LOVE, WENDY

I have been praying and visualizing a business situation that I’ve desired for almost 8 years. My hard work and determination, and positive visualization and prayer have brought my dream to fruition.

Approximately two hours ago, I received the most amazing offer. I will be consulting for a large consulting firm in the field of mental health and prevention education in drug addiction for youth.

I already had signed with this firm for the first position as a consultant and the grant just came through in December. When this second grant comes through, I will be serving an entire county including youth ages 12-17, law enforcement, primary care physicians, teachers, families, etc…anyone interacting with youth ages 12-17.

My children and besties are incredibly proud of my accomplishments, and this one, in particular. Soon beginning my 9th year in recovery from prescription drug addiction and mental health disorders, now being asked to be a part of the wellness based solutions, and told they are “so excited” to partner with me, is an honor and blessing offered only by our One loving God/Universe/Spirit.

The more aware of His presence in my life and the more grateful that I am, the more present and active He becomes in bringing forth my dreams into reality.

I am so overwhelmed with gratitude that I could not stop crying for an hour. LOL

I am beyond blessed.

As I just shared with my children and besties, prayer, meditation, a positive mindset and the willingness to be disciplined in one’s passion and work, are all a part of manifesting our desires, also known as the Law of Attraction…

Spirit is ever present. Whether you call your spiritual connection God, Spirit, Source, the Universe, or any other synonym, believe that you are heard… Never, ever give up, be humble, be of service, work hard every day, pray, stay positive, be ever grateful for every experience and relationship that is your teacher, and know how to take loving direction from our Highest Source. He knows what is best for us. In His own time, he will deliver.

Get ready!”

Love, Wendy

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I AM… – LOVE, WENDY

I don’t think I have ever known personal freedom and joy as I do today body, mind and spirit as I approach the beginning my 9th year in recovery from prescription drug addiction and co-occurring mental health disorders. (I include here the full 8 months of 2013 as I began my recovery on April 3, 2013, and so I begin my 9th year without any mind altering substances on April 3, 2021!)

I have created my amazing life guided lovingly by His Divine Grace where I have learned and practice hundreds of natural and organic solutions through a holistic lifestyle in managing any symptoms of dis-ease of physical and mental health. I am free. I am joyous. I am love… I am beyond grateful for it all! And, I have earned it all!

I confer daily with just One Source…He who knows best, and with whom I have co-created my wellness, my loving relationships, my career, my gorgeous life!

As I got outside this morning at 7:30 AM to take a 2 mile walk before the snow storm that is impending in my area, I am exuding my joyous spirit, beaming from within involuntarily because…”I AM!” I feel so grateful for His love and guidance, and for the ease in walking all on my own post Lupus flare, not to mention it is freezing outside, yet my abounding joy offers me such a warm inner glow, singing to a song that just began playing on Sirius XM “I Will Survive!,” and knowing that Spirit is sending me this song as a reminder that I am a survivor! Actually, as my bestie David reminds me, “A thriver!” During one of our long conversations not too long ago, David said to me, “I don’t want you to use the word survivor anymore. You are more than that, you are a thriver!” Bless David’s heart…a ride or die friend, and always my cheerleader.

Recovery has offered me the space, time, holistic lifestyle, and spiritual practice that has helped me to explore my soul, and to transform and emerge into the awesome woman, mom, friend, counselor, teacher, author, and spiritual student that I see and feel before me.

Out of it all, I am humbled and I am grateful for His love and guidance.

It is due to my Divine relationship that…

I AM…

EVERYTHING that I AM, and that which I am eager to share.”

Love, Wendy

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GOD IS LOVE; I AM LOVE – LOVE, WENDY

“Love is present in the hearts of those who love God, and those who freely give their love away, as He teaches us.

The feeling of giving love, and receiving love, simultaneously, and freely, is only learned through knowing God deeply and intimately.

If we think we can navigate and thrive in love without the loving guidance of Spirit, we will never experience true and eternal love.

God is love, therefore I am love…”

Love, Wendy

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MINDSET AND HUMILITY – LOVE, WENDY

“A victim mindset saturated in negativity and a “woe is me,” mindset, coupled with aligning oneself with a whole virtual community who are also playing the victim, will never provide one with any solutions. When you choose a positive mindset, and live aligned with like minded people, you discover solutions that you had never even thought of on your own!

In these unprecedented times, we need each other, and I find so much encouragement, and solutions that I had never thought of, as well as offering solutions to others in my chosen community of go getters, positivity providers, wellness junkies of body, mind and spirit, and people offering to be of service to those less fortunate, myself included.

If you know me personally, you know I will do everything I can for those I love, and I have been helping people I don’t know…because when I was near destitution, others helped me, and I want to pay it forward in deep gratitude. It makes me feel angry when I hear someone say and convince themselves that they are not going to survive…most especially when from a distance, I already see small solutions.

It’s not a matter of luck, it’s a matter of being resourceful, of taking action, of one’s mindset and being humble, as well as getting up to work at finding solutions as if it were your full time job. You’ll never find the answers in a virtual group setting with those whom are doing nothing but complaining and talking about their woes, all the live long day.

I have seen men and women over 60 working in our local markets as cashiers, or gathering shopping carts. I have seen them working in a variety of positions in our community and there are “Hiring” signs in many of our local establishments. People are working for minimum-wage because they need that pocket money, and something is better than nothing. In addition, they need to be out of the house where they can be with other people, social distancing, to stay in good mental health which is directly correlated to our physical health. Connection is how the human condition thrives!

We have to take precautions to protect our health, and do whatever it takes, including asking for help from those who may be able to do so.

Humility…

In these most challenging times, we have to humble ourselves. We must re-evaluate our circumstances, and we must begin by taking baby steps toward creating change for ourselves. “Nothing changes if nothing changes…”

Remember “God helps those who help themselves.“

Faith, diligence, resilience, mindset, actions, humility.

Baby steps…

I’m not saying it’s easy, of course it’s extremely challenging! Align yourself with doers and those who are willing and able to brainstorm with you. You may just find a solution. And never, ever give up!

When we choose a wellness mindset, we completely stand in our power! Here is where we find the answers…

We truly are all in this together.”

Love, Wendy

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2020…WHAT A YEAR – LOVE, WENDY

2020…What a year…

As I reflect on this year as it comes to an end, I observe the losses and the blessings of 2020. It has felt like a drive by…

I lost my mother in March right on the heels of a global pandemic…isolated and having a memorial via Zoom…two traumatic experiences. I am still processing my mother’s death and the deeply sad circumstances of her death. I allow myself small increments of time to process, and to adjust through healthy practices that are necessary for me to heal.

I found closure in a relationship that I had prayed would work out, but did not, and as is the Universe’s style, it worked out exactly as it was supposed to offering me that final sense of closure that I needed. I have learned so much about myself from this experience, and have grown exponentially. I wouldn’t change a thing. Today would have been our 6 year anniversary. I wish him well always.

My son, Matthew and I, have grown even closer through this Pandemic experience initially spending quality time once a week outdoors, and most recently after his move, daily texts and FaceTime once a week for an hour. We share our love of books and music, food and writing, politics and COVID concerns, and everything in between. This is my greatest blessing of 2020.

My ex husband, Alan and I, have grown our friendship, and we will become grandparents in May, 2021 as our daughter, Olivia, is expecting a baby girl. We are excited and so grateful to be able to enjoy this experience together.

Alan and I have worked through some deep wounds, and we cherish this friendship. We have done the work as adults do when there is a common goal and where both people are willing to do the work. No excuses, and no hiding from the difficult or challenging conversations. We learned to listen non-judgementally and to offer empathy and compassion as we worked through each conversation. We are always family.

My health has been challenging this year, but with my deep faith, self care and so much support from my children and friends, and doctors, I am doing well. I am proud of myself for staying the course in my treatment plan as I choose to heal. And my son, Matthew and one of my closest friends, David, have been my biggest supporters, along with my closest friend of 30 years, Miriam, and Bill and Vicky, best friends of 41 years. David said to me yesterday, “I’m proud of you.” He knows the ordeal I have been through with my health, yet always remaining positive and connected to my faith. We speak on the phone once a week, and text all throughout the week staying connected.

It is the loving connections that keep me grounded, feeling loved, and gives me the encouragement and strength to never give up. It is the consistency of these relationships that remind me that I am loved and cared about and that which adds to my wellness. Yes…consistency.

I have also been blessed with a career that I love in mental health and wellness as a coach and educator. I work with school districts and organizations as a consultant, and work privately with clients in my practice. It’s a slow but steady process of growing my business.

My greatest lesson this year is the realization of my inner strength and resolve, and how independent and healthy I have become after a lifetime of dependency on stimulants to numb out the trauma, and in unhealthy, co- dependent relationships. I have been forced out of my comfort zone, compliments of the Universe, and then left to find healthy solutions on my own to situations that just eight years ago would have had me reaching for pills to self medicate and numb out. And at times, engaging in suicidal behavior.

Of course, I am never truly alone as Spirit is always present and guiding me.

As I continue to evolve, I am grateful to have a platform to share my experiences in recovery and in wellness in the hopes of offering someone else tools for achieving wellness through spiritual solutions and self care.

Life is always reminding me of challenging times, and of blessings, and that it is all about how we choose to respond to each situation that builds our resilience and humility.

I am grateful for it all. I would not change anything. I have learned so much. I am richer for each experience.

May 2021 bless us with wellness, peace, joy, abundance and lots and lots of love.

Happy New Year.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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TIME IS TIMELESS – LOVE, WENDY

“Whatever you give to a “relationship/friendship” is exactly what you will earn in return.

Time spent together, is in my opinion, the most loving and meaningful gift one can bestow upon us.

Time is priceless.

Time is precious.

Time is timeless.

Those who are in my closest circle never forget that time is all that I ask in our connection, and they always deliver…

And, they’ve earned my time in return.

We invest in each other through spending time, which is part of our respective self care and that which nourishes our soul…albeit mostly through virtual and social distancing. Time together says, “I love you…You matter to me. Our connection is always a priority.”

Gifts that are purchased are a beautiful token, but time is eternal and lives on in the heart, and breathes life into the soul.”

Love, Wendy

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SEEK SPIRITUAL SOLUTIONS – LOVE, WENDY

“The first 50 plus years of my life was spent praying for safety, love and validation. As a young child, as a young adult, and through my middle aged years…I prayed.

I experienced a spiritual awakening years ago in my 50s, and I continue to shed the toxic, heavy layers of a tumultuous childhood and young adulthood, and even into my mid 50s, that had become deeply ingrained in every muscle, joint, and bone in my body, promoting inflammation on a cellular level. I continue to transform and reawaken often on my journey where I provide for myself all that I had never received from others. My heightened level of self awareness and deep soul work is ongoing, and I continue to evolve as I let go of each unhealthy belief and behavior to create a new healthy lifestyle.
I experience an ongoing cell rebirth through spiritual solutions and self care. My journey is Divinely structured and guided where all of the love, safety and validation I seek is found within where I am lovingly connected to Spirit.

The Divine lesson is that when God is at the center of our lives, we need look no further. We are filled with blessings of abundance in all that we need, desire and deserve.”

Love, Wendy

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DIVINE GIFT – LOVE, WENDY

The most meaningful Christmas gift this year, Divinely created, is after months, weeks and days in deep prayer and meditation as I sought clarity, is awakening on Christmas morning in the most peaceful place I have been in quite sometime. What a year…

I have realized that I am happy and joyous on my own this Christmas Day, and I no longer desire what I once thought I wanted.

The pain of a past life is all but a distant memory. Closure…

I begin this new year with renewed hope and wellness.

Freedom…

The best gifts in life are free.”

Merry Christmas!

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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I TAKE BACK MY POWER – LOVE, WENDY

The greatest challenge I face is standing in my faith as I experience the torture of chronic pain invading my body.

And at the moment I begin to cry, I remind myself that my thoughts create my reality. I cannot allow myself to think negatively where I may further fuel this autoimmune disease.

I stop. I breathe. I rest. I will not allow fear to take over my mindset. I am stronger than the Lupus traveling within my body. Immediately, I begin to utilize my smorgasbord of healthy practices that completely nourishes my body, mind and spirit. I use visualization to see my desired outcome of wellness. I will arrive there my way…using natural and organic solutions. I remind myself again that given the chance, the body will heal itself. All I need do is listen for what it needs…and breathe…Mindful breathing as I visualize this foreign invader exiting my body. And my pain exits along with this disease.

As my body speaks to me, I understand what it needs to heal…Love, rest, water, healthy foods, connection to loved ones, positive thoughts and visualizations, and my deep connection to Spirit.

I pray. I meditate. I am certain of my outcome.

Wellness.

You see, I choose to be well. And as the late Wayne Dyer, psychologist and author of over 20 books states, “ it’s been proven that the thoughts we choose have everything to do with our emotions. I can tell you that a commitment to feeling good can take away a stomach ache, fear, depression, sadness, anxiety…you name it. Any stress signal is a way of alerting you to say the five magic words: I want to feel good. This is your intention to be tranquil (well) and stress-free and it’s a way of connecting to spirit.”

It feels so good to feel good. And it’s up to me to lead myself out of fear, out of pain, and into wellness…body, mind and spirit. I take back my power. And sometimes I need to take back my power often during the day, as I experience fear. And, I am always ahead of this visitor, and I show it the door.

Pain is a mindset. Wellness is a choice.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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HAPPY HOLIDAYS, DEAR READERS! – LOVE, WENDY

Dear Readers,

Thank you for your interest in my work, thoughts and ideas. I am truly grateful to you for following me, for your likes and comments, and loving support.

Sharing my journey of WELLNESS RECOVERY THROUGH SPIRITUAL SOLUTIONS AND SELF CARE is my honor and passion, with the intention of serving others, and I look forward to connecting with you throughout the new year!

Wishing you and your family a safe, healthy and blessed holiday season and 2021!

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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LOVE IS THE ANTIDOTE – LOVE, WENDY

As I observe hate and unkind words, I send a blessing of love as I recognize that this is a response of one who feels unloved, unworthy and insignificant. We can only give away what we ourselves have.

As for me, I am filled with love, and always give it away, especially in the face of fear, judgement, and hate. Love is the antidote.

As in the prayer of Saint Francis of Assisi, “Where there is hatred, let me sow love.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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DRIVING WITH SPIRIT – LOVE, WENDY

If you are running into a brick wall on a dead end street at each and every corner, you are out of alignment with Spirit.

This is Spirit’s guidance lovingly re-directing you to an open highway filled with endless possibilities that will align with your passion, your purpose and an abundance of blessings.

Listen…Reset…Realign…Stand deeply in your faith…

The road is wide open where we allow Spirit to drive this thing.”

Love, Wendy

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PAIN IS A MINDSET – LOVE, WENDY

I continue to believe that my fight against active Lupus will make me even stronger.

I continue to believe that part of my unbearable pain is my purpose.

I continue to believe that my immobility is my body’s message to let go, slow down, and to rest.

I continue to believe that this will come to pass as it has before, and my strength, determination, faith and self care will provide me with wellness once again, and that I will be given a Divine opportunity to help someone else to fight with grace against an autoimmune disease that is as stubborn as I.

Pain, indescribable pain, can be the purpose in, and of itself, where we use our mindset over the matter of disease.

Prayers are also welcome.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

#strongerthanlupus

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MY WELLNESS APPROACH TO RECOVERY! – LOVE, WENDY

“When I share my journey of my wellness approach to recovery lifestyle program, I connect with others, who see themselves in me. This is where empathy, hope and inspiration are born. This is an untapped power to recovery that which I created, and thrive upon in my own recovery from prescription drug addiction. I am in my 8th year of recovery! This is where others come to learn new tools and strategies that offer new and healthy lifestyle changes, body, mind and spirit. Here is where we, you and I, work to realign our mindset with wellness through spiritual solutions and self care.

The more I share my story, tools, and strategies, the more I create a ripple effect of a wellness approach to recovery through spiritual solutions and self care.

“Self care is the actions that we take to achieve wellness and wellness is where we stand in our power!”

I am excited about the release of my upcoming book, WRITE PRAY RECOVER:A JOURNEY TO WELLNESS THROUGH SPIRITUAL SOLUTIONS AND SELF CARE in 2021!

For information on my wellness coaching program and how I can support you in your own recovery in achieving your wellness goals, through natural and organic solutions, and/or working as part of your treatment team as I do with many clients, please email me at wendyblanchard044@gmail.com, or fill out the contact page on my website www.Harmonioushealth4life.com. I am currently offering a FREE 20 minute consultation!

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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AWAKENING – LOVE, WENDY

“The most precious gift we can give another is to show up for them, to listen nonjudgmentally, to be unconditionally present, and to let them know that they have been heard and seen as they are…to validate another through a loving connection that tells them, through our actions, that we see their beauty, and that we hold them dear to our heart.

To be present in every moment reflects our connection to our own spirit, and also reflects the connection between ourselves and another’s spirit…recognizing the divinity within…

We call this an awakening.”

Love, Wendy

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SPIRITUAL SOLUTIONS – LOVE, WENDY

Ghosted and blocked as an ongoing pattern for years is all about the unwell mindset of one who lacks emotional intelligence. It is their only weapon in response to their own trigger where they feel a loss of control.

Very predictable and transparent…

It brings sadness to my heart to know one is still living with demons which encourage one to use such a juvenile response, and that which has absolutely nothing to do with an adult, constructive, spiritually aligned, emotionally intelligent response…

and…

further reinforces the years of lies and deceptions of this unwell soul.

I offer empathy, and then gratitude for Spirit’s redirection of my near ill fated path.

When God is ever present in our life, we offer spiritual solutions and never retaliate as we come from a place of love and peace.

Love, Wendy

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A CONSCIOUS COUPLE – LOVE, WENDY

”It takes TWO complete souls to become ONE in a relationship. We do not look for someone to “fix” us. Completeness and willingness to love, and to be loved, are steered by the heart. When we feel the urge to “fix“ another this is the mindset steered by the ego.

A conscious couple arrives in two complete souls, ready to enhance the others life, makes them a priority, and practices complete acceptance of the other as a whole.

A conscious couple intuitively makes love in more than the physical sense. Their intimacy is spiritual, and is deeply experienced energetically through the heart that connects them to the deepest part of the self. This intimacy of a spiritual and emotional connection is Divinely guided.

The conscious couple always defends the honor and integrity of this union.”

Love, Wendy

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EXCERPT: WRITE PRAY RECOVER:A JOURNEY TO WELLNESS THROUGH SPIRITUAL SOLUTIONS AND SELF CARE – WENDY BLANCHARD, M.S., CHHC, CPS

“Jesus take the wheel, take it from my hand, I can’t do this on my own, I’m letting go…” The words to the song that was the first to play on my radio after I prayed for God to save my life on April 2, 2013 at the age of 54. Living with lifelong Substance Use Disorder and with personal trauma stacked in my past, I was positioned in life for relapses and overdosing. At one point, I was taking over 2000 prescription pills a month. In my darkest hour, a family member told me I was a burden to my children and talked me into killing myself. In the moment before I acted, I pictured my children standing around my coffin and I prayed for a different way out. Eight years later, I am a Certified Holistic Health Counselor, Recovery Specialist, Certified Mental Health Educator, advocate, and Keynote speaker on recovery, self-care, wellness, and awareness. 
Through self-care and spirituality, I found my daily journey leading me to wellness of mind, body, and spirit. Throughout my teaching and working with clients, I share these tools with others who are recovering from substance use disorders, mental health disorders, and trauma. I support and guide them through their own journey. Write Pray Recover: A Journey to Wellness through Spiritual Solutions and Self-Care is to bring that same audience to wellness. “Self care is the actions that we take to achieve wellness, and wellness is where we stand in our power.” The 36,000 word manuscript is part memoir and part recovery journal for the reader. I walk the reader through my experiences discovering and implementing tools of fearlessness, boundaries, self-care, meditation, prayer, awareness, surrender, and strength-building. Work pages with prompts allow readers to begin using my experiences to form their own path to wellness. Every recovery journey is different and Write Pray Recover is about identifying one’s own needs to make that journey as successful, sustainable, and fulfilling as it can be.
I delivered the Keynote speech on my Wellness Approach to Recovery program at the Chris Ashman Wellness and Recovery Conference in December, 2018, to 500 people, to rave reviews. In addition, I am one of the creators, along with 6 other professionals from the Mental Health Association of NYS of the Mental Health and Wellness 101 training which we created to support the newly passed (2018) Mental Health Education Law in NYS. Further, I am the sole creator of the newly developed and very popular Mental Health and Wellness Literacy Professional Development which I have been providing to educators, administrators and support staff in the surrounding school districts in Rockland and Orange County, NY.
In my first year of recovery, which began on April 3, 2013, my story as it stood then, was published in the book, “Living Passionately: 21 People Who Found Their Purpose – and How You Can Too!” My blog articles were purchased and published in an online recovery magazine called www.recoveryconnection.com.
I am eager and excited to share my journey since that time offering solutions and suggestions to a life where one can thrive post addiction and mental health disorders through spiritual solutions and self care!

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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HUGGING THE UNIVERSE – LOVE, WENDY

“Each day as more is revealed, I raise my hands and open my arms to hug the Universe in deep gratitude for saving me from a near certain demise in my years with a toxic partner.

God always steps in where he is invited. When we ask for clarity and guidance to align us with our most meaningful relationships that enrich our lives, God always gets involved.

God will never barge in…but He happily enters upon invitation.

Pray for your highest level of alignment with another soul. No conditions or attachments to outcomes.

Here is where unshakable faith prevails.”

Love, Wendy

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“ZOOMOLIDAYS”:THE NEW NORMAL – LOVE, WENDY

We are all experiencing such adversity and challenge and we worry constantly about how this is affecting our children no matter how old they are. There has been so much loss this year on so many different levels. Loss of life, loss of job, loss of home, the ability to buy food to eat, loss of security and feelings of safety, loss of contact in the way that the human condition thrives, and many of us wake up each day wondering “how does this end?“ And this year due to COVID, no Thanksgiving, no Hanukkah or Christmas in person. It’s a “ZOOMOLIDAY.”
I worry about my adult children in the different challenging situations that they are facing. I worry about my 12 year old granddaughter, Rosie, and wonder what emotional and physical challenges may manifest in the future related to the pandemic. I worry about my pregnant daughter, Olivia, who is a school counselor and COVID cases that are in her school, and her baby, my future granddaughter’s health, my daughter, Sarah, who is feeling deeply saddened by a broken relationship and the social distancing from our family and friends where hugs and connection are healing and that which she craves and longs for, especially now, and my beloved son, Matthew, who moved last week and placed us further away in proximity, and that is heartbreaking for both of us. I visited him and spent quality time with him every week. I am already crying as even more distance now prevails.

I worry. I cry. I pray. I meditate. I practice self care. And each day I get up, show up, stay connected to my loving family, friends, colleagues, and clients, and go to work. I live my life believing that God is in control and that these experiences are planned for us for reasons known only to Him. I trust Him. I have great faith that one day, in the coming years that we will all be reunited and truly appreciate all of what we have been blessed with…family.

Happy Thanksgiving however you are celebrating.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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I AM NEVER ALONE – LOVE, WENDY

“In the midst of chaos, I am faced with escalating adversity, and on days like yesterday, I feel that all of my strength and resolve are tapped out…

Therefore…I tap inwards…

I retreat… I go within where I connect to Spirit where I seek loving support and guidance.

I cry and allow myself to feel my emotions. I still grieve my losses of 2020. I ask for strength to meet myself where I am, and to know that it is the absolute perfect place for me to stand. I offer myself permission to feel.

I practice extra loving self care. I eat a healthy home cooked meal. I stay hydrated. I pray and I meditate. I take a brisk walk. I connect to nature and to my music. I connect to my two dearest friends for support, and they remind me that I am loved. I use my tools. I hear Spirit offer me the guidance that I seek. “Rest, realign, rest even more. You are never alone. You are supported, and you are well.”

I remain still, and I listen. I am calm in the presence of Spirit.

These are the components of my daily self care practices that are now my lifestyle. I practice, and I heal. I move forward.

Feeling promotes healing.

I remind myself that I have a very impressionable audience that I choose to be an example for. My children, my grandchildren, my loving friends, my colleagues, my clients, and my students.

Wellness is where I stand in my power for myself, and to create a ripple effect.

My purpose…my inspiration…my honor.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life

SELF FORGIVENESS – LOVE, WENDY

“As the years go on and I reflect on the memories of my years in addiction and the ways that it affected my body, my mind and my spirit, and that of my family, I continue to work on self forgiveness.

With deep self care and loving compassion for myself as I had been living with a disease, Substance Use Disorder, that nearly took my life, I remind myself often that in this very moment I am doing the very best that I can for myself, and for my loved ones. Had I known better and had I been equipped with the tools as a child, young adult and grown adult, I would never have inflicted so much pain within, or to those whom I love so deeply.

Nearly eight years of wellness post Substance Use Disorder, I still live with the remnants of a life I do not recognize, yet hauntingly surreal.

Today, I pray for Spirit to support me as I practice self forgiveness.”

Love, Wendy

BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life

TREASURES – LOVE, WENDY

“If you want for others to treat you with respect and loving care…offer it.

If you give your word to others…keep it. If it cannot be kept, alert them.

If you want to be included… embrace others.

You see, we teach people what is acceptable to us by what we offer to them, and that our time is as precious as anyone else’s. We command respect and consistency.

I offer my time unconditionally even with a packed schedule and challenges of my own. Time is a precious gift, and I thrive in giving to others. I also thrive on being the recipient of someone else’s precious time.

We all need each other, most especially now.

It’s never about feeling obligated or that we have to answer to someone else…it is always about integrity…keeping our word unless extenuating circumstances prevent it. Even then, we take the time to let another know that plans have changed…

And…

Offering to others that which we hope to receive…

Love, patience, empathy and time. Treasures.”

Love, Wendy

BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life

LOVE IS NOT ALL THAT WE NEED – LOVE, WENDY

“The song says, “Love is all you need…”

I disagree…

In the presence of love, we need to feel heard, and have mutual respect and trust…

Love is a partner who is our friend and lives up to that honor…

We need to have a partner that is present, willingly, when it matters…when it’s important to us…

We need to establish healthy boundaries…

We need to understand our partner’s love language and to learn to speak it fluently…

We need to have room to grow and encouragement to do so…

Together, we create experiences of joy, and offer empathy and compassion, and to offer space for “me” time when needed…

We need a partner who is our spiritual twin and one who feels God’s presence in their soul…one who is willing to share that presence, and one who lives authentically in faith…our soulmate…

Love is an unbreakable bond…no matter what the circumstances…we work through it and emerge even stronger…

Love is many things…yet not all that we need.”

Love, Wendy

BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life

SPIRITUAL INTERVENTION THROUGH THE POWER OF LOVE – LOVE, WENDY

“Have you ever noticed that when others you observe do not get their way, they have a temper tantrum like a child who doesn’t get that toy he/she is screaming for, and these same individuals look for excuses and for others to blame? They even go as far as to fabricate and/or embellish stories in their minds, run with it, and spread untruths on global platforms that exacerbate hate, and where they align with others of the same angry, entitled and bullying mindset. These are the same individuals who sit behind a computer and spew venom, and use degrading words and hurl hurtful insults at selected groups to gain followers, yet never coming out into the light where they can be seen, or to engage in constructive conversation that emulates emotional awareness and intelligence. I often say that when one isn’t equipped with the tools to eloquently express themselves, they resort to name calling and other unkind behavior that will get them the attention they have been seeking their entire lives…albeit in a negative way.

Yet, when these same individuals do get what they perceive as “justice,” and outcomes meet their own selfish demands (with an underlying agenda that is so transparent…when you have no control in your own life, align with a group of similar mindset who will offer you a false sense of control and power) the “system” is perfect, and just. They “told you so.”

I nearly aligned myself with such an individual. and then Spirit stepped right in front of me, and reminded me that I AM PURE LOVE, and suggested that I reconsider my decision to join forces with such a tainted soul.

I chose, in that moment, to realign myself with love, and to infuse love into every breath that I take… When you are on a spiritual and enlightened path, you are able to live and love in a state of peace, and offer an example of this gorgeous path to others who are like minded.

No matter what your preferences are, that being sexual, political, etc., you are my friend… until I witness an ongoing degradation, and unkind behavior of those who do not agree with your outlook and sentiments. I AM LOVE…

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.“ – 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

I live, breathe, work for a living, serve others and love with deep compassion for all humanity in real world U.S.A. And, I proudly lead by loving example.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life

LOVING FRIENDSHIP – LOVE, WENDY

He lifts me up without any provocation when I need to be reminded that I am loved…he sings to me and I smile from the inside out…he stimulates my mind in deep and meaningful conversation…he makes me laugh, and he laughs with me, and he always reminds me that “you’ll never walk alone.“ And he follows through in loving support. We are always connected…

He is my bestie. And this is a friendship that has grown in mutual love and respect over the years both professionally and personally, even though he’s half a world away, yet perhaps his dream of relocating to NY will soon be realized.

A beautiful validation of an everlasting friendship. One that enhances both our lives, and one which brings joy…effortlessly.”

Love, Wendy

BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life

LETTING GO – LOVE, WENDY

“Once we make peace with knowing that another has “lost that loving feeling,” even in friendship, it is the simple act of acceptance and letting go that offers us freedom.

As I evolve and learn more extensively about the human condition, mine, and theirs, “I think to myself, what a wonderful world,” and remind myself that I get to choose where I direct my energy, and with whom.

I recognize my inner beauty and the unconditional love that I offer, and I seek another who excitedly offers the same. As the Universe provides me with information, I step forward gingerly, and open my heart to a new possibility.

The Universe is always communicating and guiding us, IF we are listening, and humble enough to “hear.”

Love, Wendy