Choices:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
I reserve the right to change my mind at any time without giving notice… To choose again in any moment… AND… I reserve the right to offer no explanation… To soften… or to stand firm.To speak… or to stay silent.To be understood… or to walk away without explanation. Agency. Authenticity. Articulation. Affirmation. Absolute Autonomy. Love and blessings, Wendy
Keep readingDownsizing: Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Maybe downsizing isn’t about losing space, but about creating it. Space to breathe.Space to feel.Space to live without chaos…Space to build a life that isn’t driven by appearances, but by authenticity. This life is smaller, more compact…yes.But it is also transparent…softer… There is structure here.There is honesty here.There is love here—real love—the kind that shows up with tools in hand and says,“Let’s build this together.”…
Keep readingButterfly Days:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
There comes a point when you realize that some things in life do not respond to patience or reason. Like a fly that keeps circling your head…buzzing, distracting, disappearing just long enough to make you think it’s gone…only to return again.You swat it away once, twice, dozens of times, hoping it will finally leave you in peace. But it never does…It feeds on access…on hesitation…on…
Keep readingPrayers into Presence:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
When prayers come to pass, you realize that possibilities are born from unwavering, proactive prayer. Prayer moves possibilities into presence. True story. Love and blessings, Wendy
Keep readingFrom Death To Life:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
I felt lost when my “old self” had “died” and my newborn self was still awakening—learning, experiencing, and finding my own personal zeitgeber, my inner rhythm and guide. That “in between” space is one’s opportunity to honor the transition and consciously write their next chapter…to use all of the experiences that caused their “death” as the very breath that brings them back to life. Love…
Keep readingLiving with Purpose:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Life is happening now…you do not get a do-over for this moment. Live your life…live it like every moment is your last…Live it with passion and purpose…dance, sing, eat well, fall in love again, try new things…create joy and practice gratitude. Each day sit in reflection and ask yourself, “What do I need in this moment and on this day to promote peace and wellness…
Keep readingWrapped In Bitterness – Love, Wendy
When the wrapper comes off and you see what’s on the inside after great anticipation…think carefully before taking a bite… Sweet anticipation can become the bitter truth. Love and blessings, Wendy
Keep readingThe Silver Lining – Love, Wendy
A draft—an intentional blooming of revelation from my upcoming book, “Soul Notes.” 14 years in recovery…blooming, releasing, rebirth. There is always a silver lining, but sometimes it comes at a cost that bankrupts you…energetically, spiritually, physically, mentally…and yes, financially. For a long time, I was diminished by the voices around me—and eventually, by the one that took root inside of me. I learned early in…
Keep readingThe Heart of the Matter
Some of us do not have traditional families. Some of our closest connections are friends who have become family over decades of love and shared life…where the lines blur so completely, you no longer know where friendship ends and family begins. Some are children we didn’t give birth to, but love just as deeply and somehow resemble us in our mannerisms, values and lifestyle…Some of…
Keep readingEmbracing the Boredom:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Boredom is not something to escape…it’s something to embrace…and dare I say… Revere… We’ve become a culture that constantly fills the space—scrolling, watching, distracting…mistaking stimulation for engagement and activity for productivity… But when the noise stops, something else begins. Fourteen years ago, in the earliest days of my recovery, I didn’t have the option to distract. I had to sit with myself. Hours turned into…
Keep readingGrief and Peace:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
This is no longer just about hurt feelings—this is a chronic pattern that is physically, emotionally, and spiritually depleting. And when you live with health challenges, the stress weakens the immune system further…and you step off of the merry go round when you finally admit that you are simply going in circles and that this is not sustainable. It is a conscious choice to step…
Keep readingIn Pieces:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
In order for transformation to occur, you must experience enlightenment… Being willing to face your truth without rose colored glasses or convenient excuses, and doing the inner work is the first step… Enlightenment occurs in pieces…slowly…a breakdown—and then a purposeful rebuilding… “Build it up…tear it down…leave the pieces on the ground… Better take it easyTry to find a way outBetter start believing in yourself…” -…
Keep readingReaction vs. Peace:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
I no longer feel a pull to engage. I embody a completely different energy. This is not detachment in a cold sense.It is, in fact…emotional sovereignty. Kindness does not require access. Compassion does not require engagement. I wish them well, always, but I choose not to engage. No guilt required… Because guilt used to come from this belief: “I am responsible for maintaining this connection.”…
Keep readingThe Bridge Between Us:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
There is something sacred about being in the presence of another human being…really being there. Not just exchanging words, but exchanging energy, tone, breath, pauses…the subtle language of being seen and heard…communication that uses language, inflection, and even non verbal responses that create depth to the exchange. So much of our communication today lives behind screens, where meaning can become lost in translation, and intention…
Keep readingInformation Travels Quietly:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Information Travels Quietly For a long time, I carried the weight of being misunderstood.Of having my struggles minimized.Of feeling like I had to justify what my body was going through… But recently, I didn’t have to say a word…and I felt the shift. The truth spoke for itself. Not loudly.Not forcefully.But quietly… and clearly. And in that quiet, something else arrived too… Support.Kindness.Community. It made…
Keep readingFrom A Distance:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
I have been researching and studying “low engagement responding” aka a way of avoiding deep conversation and connection. This pattern is more often a form of emotional distancing. People who carry unresolved resentment toward a parent or loved one sometimes manage it by limiting emotional contact rather than confronting the feelings directly. It is important to remember that this silence is about THEIR capacity, not…
Keep readingMixed Signals:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Stay on your own side of the street. If you are not asked to step off the curb into the intersection on my behalf to help me clear the way…please don’t take it upon yourself to ignore the red light… Read the sign—-NO TRESPASSING. This is where emotional fatigue sets in after repeated hurt and I no longer feel moved or connected because…the pattern is…
Keep readingWeaponizing Words:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Your tongue can be a shieldwhen guided by restraint… and when we choose a spiritually aligned mindset. But without impulse control,it becomes a weaponwith the power to destroy. Character is revealed in how we use it. Love and blessings, Wendy
Keep readingPeace Begins With Me: Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
When the body feels safe, it can access curiosity, kindness, peace, even humor. Without safety, the body goes straight into fight, flight, or freeze. When we mindfully practice composure—it is self-leadership and can promote equanimity and peace. “Peace begins with me.” Love and blessings, Wendy
Keep reading“The Joker and the Queen” – Love, Wendy
When I heard the song, The Joker and The Queen by Ed Sheeran and Taylor Swift…it deeply resonated. It reminded me that love arrives gently when the timing finally lines up. The metaphor is beautiful… The queen doesn’t have to chase, or prove her worth. The joker is the one who recognizes her value, and chooses her with his whole heart. And the deeper message…
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