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WAITING FOR A SIGN – LOVE, WENDY

Today someone asked me why I was still single. He said, “you are an amazing, inspirational and loving lady! Don’t you miss having a partner?”

My answer is simple …

I have yet to meet a man who is my spiritual equal, and one that is secure enough in himself to be truthful, have integrity, be responsible and dependable, and who will make us a priority. So, I know that I can always depend on me, and for now that is enough. I know what I am looking for, and I will recognize him when I see him.

He asked, “What inspires you?”

My answer is simple…

Spontaneity, a man who shows up at my door unannounced, with a smile, and a heartfelt hug, a man who shows consistency and eagerness to be connected, a man who aligns his actions with his words, effortlessly, who is secure in standing in his truth, whatever that looks like, a man who believes in something bigger than just himself as in God/Spirit/Universe, and offers to be of service to others no matter how small the gesture.

We do not have to be wealthy to serve others. We only need to give of our time. Time is priceless…at least to me. If you willingly bring yourself and your time to my door, I’m in.

As I told someone not too long ago, all that I need from a potential life partner, is love, unconditional and devoted.

My needs are simple…

Love is simple.

You either have it to give away, or you don’t.

I am still waiting for a sign. I can “feel it” on its way.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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SEE ONLY LOVE – LOVE, WENDY

“Although I am familiar with the truth, and that love differed in definition between us…his being fleeting, it does not negate my experience of love.

My book speaks of my experiences and my perceptions of what I connected to in real time.

His perception may be different.

I choose to “see only love” through a clear lens of reality.

My book is where I memorialize MY experiences.

My story told in my voice.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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ADVERSITY BITES PODCAST WITH ARIC H.MORRISON

https://www.buzzsprout.com/849151/9368665

Aric H. Morrison speaks with Wendy Blanchard M.S., INHC, NYCPS from Harmonious Health 4 Life, and the author of a new book titled Write, Pray, Recover.  She is a survivor of domestic, emotional, psychological, and sexual trauma from a very young age. On this compelling episode, Wendy takes the listeners on a very emotional journey weaving her dysfunctional childhood through mental health awareness, substance abuse disorder, attempted suicide, and many of the key life learnings in-between. Listen-on as her story truly has been used to re-shape and re-define this most remarkable women speaking on the podcast today.
Listen also, as she takes you on a ride from hopelessness to courage, from near death to summoning a will to survive and live another day for her children and grandchildren.  If there has been one guest on this podcast who truly embraces the wonder of each day from new a new positive approach to  her life gift; it is Wendy Blanchard. What an inspiration.

Adversities presented: Domestic Abuse, Rape, Substance Abuse Disorder, Suicide

Visit www.adversityrockstar.com for speaking, appearances, coaching, books, and more.

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EXCERPT FROM MY UPCOMING BOOK WRITE PRAY RECOVER:A JOURNEY TO WELLNESS THROUGH SPIRITUAL SOLUTIONS AND SELF CARE – LOVE, WENDY

“Healing from trauma is a lifelong process, and I am all in. I want to heal, to grow, to evolve, and to be a shining example of what recovery and wellness truly looks like, feels like, and is:

Awareness, self-regulation, balance, and self-care steeped in spiritual solutions.

This IS recovery.”

Excerpt from Write Pray Recover:A Journey To Wellness Through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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OWN YOUR EMOTIONS AS A PART OF YOUR SELF CARE – LOVE, WENDY

“Part of your self-care is to own your emotions.

Fear, anger, rage, and the like, become stuck in our cellular structure, and when suppressed, promote inflammation on a cellular level.

Speak your truth.

You are allowed to feel whatever you feel. Allow your emotions the time and space to move through your body, and through your self-care practices, allow them to be released.

What we hold onto, is what we become. If we want to be healthy and joyous, and experience love, we must mindfully release what is blocking us from feeling those emotions, and experiencing those experiences.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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EXCERPT FROM MY UPCOMING BOOK:WRITE PRAY RECOVER:A JOURNEY TO WELLNESS THROUGH SPIRITUAL SOLUTIONS AND SELF CARE – LOVE, WENDY

MUSIC, NUMEROLOGY, AND DIVINE EXPERIENCES

For years, while I was in a relationship with Steve, on and off, I had a specific request that I would make for validation that Spirit was guiding our loving relationship, and each day it was revealed. I would ask to hear our song, “At Last” by Etta James. I would also ask for “our number, 555,” to be revealed to me. Some days it was so powerful that I would feel like the Universe was screaming, “Don’t worry! Everything is going to be alright!” That number, 555, is still my favorite for Spiritual connection as it means that big exciting change is on its way! Recently, my son, Matthew, was getting on a NYC train, and as he took his seat, he saw a phone number for a law firm on an advertisement banner:  800-555-5555. He sent it to me immediately and said, “Mom, I think this is meant for you!” It never ceases to amaze me that, day after day, my signs are revealed, and so clearly. I am still in awe of it all, and I feel so blessed and so grateful for this connection. Having that faith restored each day creates an even stronger faith, and it builds such a strong foundation. I know​ that I am never alone. 

My spiritual practice and connection to the Universe have offered me so much peace during some very unsettling and tumultuous times, especially in my recovery from prescription drug addiction. ​My faith is what saved my life.​ I asked for God/Universe/Spirit to show me a clean path, to lead me there, to stay close to me as I navigated, and I still ask for His grace every day, and as always, my prayers were, and are, always answered. Even when things in the recent past appeared worrisome, and sometimes even dark, I kept my faith strong because I knew that if I stayed in my faith, everything would come to fruition as I was being shown it would. When God/Spirit/Universe decides it is time, I will receive. I went from a mindset of  “I need it now” to learning how to be patient. Learning delayed gratification as opposed to instant gratification takes practice and patience, and when it finally arrives, it is so well worth the work, and the wait.

​I wait with ease, as I know for certain, through my enlightened guiding Spirits, what the outcome will be. ​A Course In Miracles​ states, “Those who are certain of the outcome​ can afford to wait and wait without anxiety.” This is an ongoing lesson in patience for me, a teaching tool, as patience was something I previously lacked, and is something I still struggle to implement sometimes. The Universe continues, intermittently, to re-assign this lesson to me, and I accept the lesson as its student eager to further evolve. I am, of course, always open to “continuing education.”  Here is where we may learn something new that we may have missed in a previous lesson. This may serve me, and those whom I serve as a conduit for others to awaken to their spiritual journey. We all need brush-up assignments from time to time. ​Life lessons are always ongoing. We are always learning, growing, and evolving, if we remain humble and open.

I always say, “When all hope is gone, have faith!” When I felt close to the edge of losing faith, I dug my heels in deeper, asked for Divine support, and stood in my faith, unfazed and unwavering. The Universe delivered at the perfect time. It is a commitment that I’ve made to have faith, to believe, and to ask for support from the Universe to align with my intentions. And the Universe always provides. I speak my intention and release it. I surrender it over to the Universe. Spirit does the rest. Spirit is always busy on our behalf. 

Say aloud, “Today, I set an intention to ___________. I ask my ever-loving, enlightened, guiding Spirits to wrap your loving arms around my intention as I release it to you.” Then I let it go. As you let go, you will be amazed at how your intention begins to reveal itself! A miracle! When we have a shift in perception, and awaken to the realization that when we surrender to Spirit and “wait without anxiety,” we are saying, “I trust God/Spirit/Universe to bring to me what will serve me in my highest blessings.” This is a miracle! The realization that we are not in control, and that we have a higher energy, or higher source that is cradling us, guiding us, and lovingly caring for us is the miracle! And if we are open to this communication, we co-create!

Although the “on again/off again” relationship with Steve ended, the Spiritual signs throughout the years that we spent together were my guide. Some guided me to understanding on a spiritual level why this particular relationship was to be only for a “season and reason,” and not for a lifetime. I understand now, years later, after spending time reflecting upon the information that I had been given from Spirit, that the relationship “presented itself” at a time when I needed to learn specific spiritual lessons early in my recovery that only this union with Steve could afford me. I am a firm believer that when a person or situation is removed from our lives, it is in our highest blessing. I am certain that whatever Spirit removes from my life will be replaced by a far more healthier Spiritual union that will last a lifetime. 

And I “wait without anxiety” knowing that the perfect spiritual partner will show up in God’s timing. Thy Will Be Done.”

Write Pray Recover:A Journey to Wellness Through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care is set to be released in December, 2021!

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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“What is love?” – Love, Wendy

“The way in which another treats you is how they feel about themselves. It is their authentic self. If one doesn’t love themselves, they have no compass on how to love another.

Today ask yourself, “Do I believe that I deserve to be loved in a fulfilling and exciting way where I am cherished and cared for unconditionally?”

Perhaps you haven’t had the experience of receiving and embracing love. This can be a challenge and one where we will just accept the words, “I love you,” without aligning behaviors. It can be a comfort zone. It can be self appeasement.

Step out of your comfort zone. Set boundaries. Require more of, and for, yourself. Love yourself.

If you don’t know where to begin, go within. Ask yourself what is the underlying factor(s) that cause you to accept “less than” love. You “know” the answer.

“Do I feel worthy?” “What is the connection to my lack of self love?”

Ask Spirit to guide you to resources and people that can help you to explore this question, and begin there.

Mine has been a long journey of self hate, self sabotage, and self abuse. Over the nine years of my recovery, I have experienced lifelong lessons about myself, about the human condition, and about true love.

I remind myself that where true love is present, I feel it deep within my soul. It is a feeling of completeness and excitement. It is given freely. It is joyous. It is honest and stands in integrity. It is excitedly present in every moment, whether two people are in the same physical space, or not. It is eternal connection.

It is not a once in awhile fleeting, “I love you.”

We teach people what we will, and will not accept.

What are you accepting that you inherently know is not “love?”

Just some food for thought, or crumbs for a taste of the truth.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Ask and keep asking – Love, Wendy

“One of the most important lessons that I have learned in recovery, and continue to be challenged with, is to speak my truth, and to ask specifically for what I need, no matter how many times I need to ask. When I “know” that what I am asking for is one hundred percent achievable, and doable on the other person’s part, I realize that I am being pushed out of my comfort zone to speak up. Spirit is always guiding me for my highest blessings.

In my years of living with substance use disorder and mental health disorders, I “knew” almost daily that I was settling for “less than” what I desired and deserved, yet I would never dream of speaking up. This is early life conditioning and old thought/behavior patterns embedded into my cellular structure. And, why I continued to numb out. I myself felt “less than” and undeserving.

Until I no longer did.

In the recent past, I have made requests both professionally and personally, yet my requests were met only halfway. I continue to kindly and respectfully remind those with whom I am engaged of my desires, and expected outcomes. Otherwise, we are not aligned.

As I give my word and one hundred percent of the time act upon and honor whatever I promise, I do expect the same in return.

Thus far, I have never met with any resistance of my follow up requests, and in fact, have been applauded for my perseverance.

When others realize that we are dedicated to a cause, a relationship, or situation, they applaud diligence and tenacity in speaking our truth, and never settling for “less than.” And in some cases, it is a test to what it is that we will accept, or demonstrate that we are willing to strive for.

We teach people how to treat us, and we show them through our actions what we will, and will not accept.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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“Activate Your Life Force” – Love, Wendy

“When we live authentically where we are an “open book,” we stand in our power.

When we live a life where bringing our iPhone into the bathroom or walking outside when the phone rings, or telling stories and giving explanations that we “know” are untrue, and others “know” are untrue, we are powerless.

Speak your damn truth. Give yourself freedom. Take back your power. Experience the experience. Activate your life force.”

Love, Wendy

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EXCERPT FROM MY UPCOMING BOOK WRITE PRAY RECOVER:A JOURNEY TO WELLNESS THROUGH SPIRITUAL SOLUTIONS AND SELF CARE – LOVE, WENDY

CHAPTER 7 – STRENGTH FROM WITHIN AND LOVE ALL AROUND

“During these years of my recovery, I have met with many challenges. These experiences so often challenged my physical, emotional, and spiritual strength. I was armed with many tools to assist me in navigating in a healthy way using natural and organic solutions. This included a professional therapist who I met with on and off along the way, as well as Sheila, my loving friend/coach/mentor who has also counseled me from the beginning of my recovery, my best friend and “sister from another mother” of thirty years, Miriam Moccio, who was my “unpaid” therapist and usually has the best and most meaningful insight whom I called frequently for a loving ear, and advice, knowing that she always had my best interest at heart, my best friends of forty years, Bill and Vicky Kelder, my “brother and sister from another mother,” who were also always there for me with loving insight, advice, and an empathetic ear, all of whom surrounded me with their insight, light, and love. Of course, my greatest and most loving Guide, was that of God/Spirit/Universe, whom I speak to daily.

I have faced losing my beloved grandmother, the one person who I knew, beyond any doubt, loved me unconditionally and with whom I had the strongest and most loving connection. I summoned all of my inner strength, using all of my holistic health tools to keep myself in a healthy, positive mindset as I felt my sadness escalating and causing anxiety. I could feel my heart race though it literally felt heavy in my chest. I was experiencing a profound sadness at her passing. I cried for most of the day, my stomach was tied up in knots, my throat was tight, and I felt an overall feeling of being unwell. Despair at losing my “person.” I felt so alone in the world. My grandmother was really my only “person.” After a few days, I found my resiliency underneath my pain. I made a mindful choice to stay present, to ask for support from my life-transitions coach/therapist, to get outside every day (sometimes multiple times a day) for a walk, for fresh air, and to stay connected to others. I know from my own experience that isolating is extremely dangerous and unhealthy for anyone, and most especially for those of us living with substance use disorder and mental health disorders. Writing a blog and memorializing my feelings and emotions daily was cathartic, and was the catalyst (along with my Spiritual practice) that brought me back to wellness, not to mention the onset of writing this book.

I faced bankruptcy shortly after I began my recovery, directly following my divorce. I felt humiliated. I felt so broken and terrified of the future. What would happen to me now, with nobody but me to rely on and no money. It was an uncertainty, moment to moment, that frightened me. My attorney at the time, Desiree DeMoya, a kind and empathetic soul for my journey, suggested that I go out and buy as many non-perishable supplies as I could store in my two-bedroom apartment, because I might not have the money to buy what I needed once bankruptcy was declared. I WAS TERRIFIED at the possibility of this becoming a reality.

Seems funny now, but I was so scared that I would not be able to afford toilet paper! I went to the supermarket and stockpiled toilet paper in order to give myself peace of mind.

Straight out of recovery, I had nowhere to live. I went to my hometown after returning from rehab in California, so I would be in familiar surroundings in Nanuet, NY, and found a motel with a tiny little kitchenette to live in for two months until I found a condo I was able to rent. 

I actually began my blog back then, in July of 2013, with my son being my “editor.” He kept me on a strict schedule of writing and getting the material to him a certain number of days per week and always by midnight of those chosen days. I kept to the integrity of that schedule as the structure gave me great peace and a deep sense of predictability and accomplishment. 

I would blog about my addiction recovery, as well as new recipes that I was trying. I would take pictures of my experiences and new creations, and post them on my website at that time. My son said to me one day, after sending him one of my new blogs, “Just think, Mom, years from now, you can tell the story of how it all began again for you, and how you started this new business in a small motel room that you had to live in at the beginning of your recovery. It will be so inspiring!” And then, my son gave me the best piece of advice I’d received in a while: “Slow and steady wins the race.”

Touche.

Amen.

Slowly, I built my credit back to good standing. I prayed every single day. I remained certain, calm, and determined to succeed, always having faith in my ability, and in the Universe to provide for me. Whenever I would have a fleeting thought that I might be homeless, I reminded myself that God had not brought me this far to let me fall now. I knew He had saved my life for a very high purpose. He was just providing me with the enlightening experiences that I would need to serve others. After all, it is my lived experience, and thriving recovery, that gets those I serve excited about recovery, and about working with me. 

I am not a coach/counselor/consultant with only “book experience.”

I have lived it all, navigated it all, survived it all, and I am thriving.

I had been living paycheck to paycheck for quite a number of years when I began my recovery, after having a life where I was financially sound and free to spend without ever looking at a price tag for anything, and I mean anything, in my twenty-four-year marriage. Clothes, jewelry, cars, trips, you name it. However, it was mostly my husband’s earnings that provided for our family. I was too ill and drug-addicted to work or contribute to our financial health. 

I was being “awakened” in many areas, shown options as I began my new life, and recovery, now solo. These were “sobering” experiences. No pun intended.

Throughout my recovery, I sometimes had as little as $30 left at the end of the month. I had no savings, and worried every day about how I would pay my bills and what I would do if an emergency should present itself. Yet, I got up every day, went to work, showed up (body, mind, and spirit) fully present, and did a wonderful job as I served my community as a mental health professional, recovery specialist, mental health community educator, and the client/family advocate in mental health and substance use disorder for our county. 

I took care of myself, ate healthy, exercised, got enough sleep, and stood firmly in my prayer and meditation practice, which was my foundation. I used holistic means of relaxation to manage my anxiety, such as essential oils, music, writing, exercise, and talk therapy with my life-transitions coach and therapist. 

Very recently, after years of hard work, diligence, discipline, and determination, I found a new job that affords me financial stability, a little bit more freedom to have that weekly dinner out, or to buy a new shirt, and my business as a mental health and wellness coach/consultant/educator has begun to grow. I am now being asked to do podcasts and to speak on radio shows, globally, to share my message.

During the very challenging times, I would become extremely anxious and sometimes very sad, crying every day, frustrated and angry at myself, yet I prayed for solutions and never gave up. Truthfully, I knew that I was doing the best I could, and that these circumstances were residual from my unhealthy lifestyle during my addiction. I knew that it was, in fact, just temporary. I never thought about ending my life as I had during my active addiction, and I never, ever thought about using drugs to self-medicate. Just spiritual solutions and self-care. I was, and still am, learning as I go along.

I faced a re-diagnosis of Lupus after being in remission for six and a half years, as well as a serious spine/back/leg injury that culminated in my being unable to walk, sit, stand, or lay down without pain. I had to modify my lifestyle and my exercise regimen, and I even had to stop wearing fashionable shoes, as I sometimes experience chronic pain in my left leg and back. However, I had a feeling that much of the deeply repressed trauma and current stressors were adding to my physical pain. The body/mind connection is so powerful.

I became so tired of autoimmune flares and prayed for Spirit to show me how to heal, and to send me an authentic healer who would guide me safely, and strategically, and offer me a long-term solution. 

I was being bounced around from one specialist to another, with no long-term wellness results. As the Universe always provides for me—and for you if you are open to Divine communication—I happened to be on my Instagram feed, and the first post was for a free evaluation with a place called “Phoenix Physio,” which happened to be in the county where I am from. I was lying in bed in so much pain, which had been going on for weeks and occurred every couple of months. My entire body was swollen with inflammation, and I was unable to walk without pain or use my hands/wrists due to gross swelling. I decided to click on the “Bio” of this post to see what it was all about. I was desperate for a new perspective, and an alternative type of healing that was married to traditional medicine, coupled by a medical professional. Dr. Zazu, Cioce, DPT, SFMA, CAPP-OB, was both. We immediately clicked. She listened. She heard me. She encouraged me. And after listening to my story, my concerns, and my challenges, she used a phrase that I now know is one she uses often when she is totally certain of an outcome. I asked her if she thought she could help me to heal on a cellular level. She said, “One hundred percent.”

Wow.

Today, in 2021, I am working with my awesome physical therapist Zazu (Arantzazu Garate Cioce), founder of Phoenix Physical Therapy, a brilliant woman who is actually a DPT (Doctor of Physical Therapy) with a background in Biomedical Sciences and a Functional Movement Specialist. She treats the body, mind, and spirit simultaneously, and specializes in bowel disorders, which have been a lifelong challenge for me. We recently spent over an hour just talking about my most recent bowel challenges, and how my physiology has been hijacked by ongoing stress, and even my abuse as a child, which is still “stuck” in my cellular structure.

She speaks my language.

Zazu tells me that, if I do the work (You know I do it!), I will not only heal but also rid my body, once and for all, of disease and challenges and steer the trajectory of my mind and spirit to a higher level of wellness. She tells me that the work I have done thus far is outstanding, and that I have come such a long way. Inherently, I knew there was still so much more beneath the surface that I had to release, and to heal, and Zazu has given me my life back, in full. Her deep knowledge of how the body works, and her practice of holistic healing, as well her gorgeous smile, animated personality, and eagerness, which meet me at every session, are just a few of her wonderful attributes. I truly appreciate the patience she displays in listening to me, as well as the variety of “options as solutions” she offers, from which I can choose whatever will work for me. Knowing that I will heal “one hundred percent” promotes my wellness on a cellular level. She even tells me that I will be able to dance again, and that which I absolutely did on Labor Day Weekend, 2021 while out enjoying the weekend with my dear friends, Jason and Annie. It was magical! My body was freed, and I felt so light. Singing every word to every song, and my body moving in ways that it hadn’t moved in many years.

Zazu is one of my many earth angels.”

To read more about my Wellness Approach to Recovery, please check back for updates on the release of my book coming in December, 2021, and for a pre-order link shortly prior!

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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RESTORING PEACE – LOVE, WENDY

“Once again Spirit reveals the truth in real time to remind me that ”nothing changes if nothing changes.”

Once we are re-enlightened, and re-awakened, as Spirit whispers in our ear that our gut instinct is correct, we always have the choice to change our minds in order to do what is in our best and highest blessings. We say farewell and offer wishes of peace.

As we restore our own.

“Love rejoices with the truth.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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THE TRUTH IS REVEALED FOR OUR HIGHEST BLESSINGS – LOVE, WENDY

As more ”truth” is revealed, and the clearer picture comes into focus, yes, it is disheartening, yet it confirms that I made the right decision…the healthiest decision, for myself.

Spirit always reveals the ”truth.” When we are shown, through a clear lens, the extent of deceit on another’s part with lies that were habitual, we take the best action that will serve our highest blessings, including wishing them well as we choose a new path without them.

”I can choose peace rather than this.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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EXCERPT FROM MY UPCOMING BOOK WRITE PRAY RECOVER:A JOURNEY TO WELLNESS THROUGH SPIRITUAL SOLUTIONS AND SELF CARE – LOVE, WENDY

“In the beginning of my recovery, I sought out advice on every decision I was about to make, from everyone, including family, friends, and even mere acquaintances. At times, I allowed my fear to overtake my faith in myself, and in God. At the beginning of my early recovery, I often felt I was on shaky ground and did not trust my intuition. I found that every single person I asked for advice or opinions differed from each other, and from me. After a short while, I realized that the Universe/God/Spirit orchestrated this confusion in order to remind of my deep spiritual connection, which was the catalyst in my seeking initial help for recovery, and that it was all that I needed as I sought guidance.
As fearful as I felt in speaking my truth about my addiction, on April 3, 2013, I was even more fearful of losing my battle and leaving behind my precious children and my only granddaughter at that time, Rosie. I asked for God’s grace, strength, and guidance, and single-handedly, by the grace of God, took the initial step in asking for help to save my life. When I finally spoke up, I felt empowered. I felt an even deeper spiritual connection.
My best friends of over forty years, Bill and Vicky Kelder, were right there with me the entire journey. They observed me in a complete mental breakdown, where I was incoherent and telling them all about the things I believed to be true (including that my husband was trying to kill me) just weeks before I asked for help. And when I went to the hospital in New York to detox, they were right there doing everything that needed to get done so that I would not have any responsibilities to worry about during my initial stage of recovery. Vicky visited me in order to bring me some clothes, but was not allowed through the double steel doors that separated us. We waved to each other through the little window. I felt like a prisoner. And in a way, I was.
After a few weeks’ post-recovery, when I returned home from rehab, I sought out advice (an old pattern of unhealthy behavior) from so many. Everything from “Where should I live now?” to “What should I do to earn a living?” And “What type of recovery practice do you think I should implement into my life now that I am in recovery?” The people at the recovery centers (two of them) where I did my rehab said that I “had to attend twelve-step meetings in order to recover properly.” I remember my life coach at that time, Maria Blon, a beautiful and kind soul, who said to me, “Only do what feels right for you,” as I expressed to her that I did not want to go these meetings as they did not resonate with me. I had wanted to explore and experience a holistic lifestyle using natural and organic solutions. Maria’s words gave me the strength and encouragement that I needed to begin my exploration and successful discovery of what I soon learned was an untapped path to recovery. Here is where my “Wellness Approach to Recovery” program was born.

During this time of seeking out so many opinions and so much advice from others, I felt like I was on a hamster wheel, and with Maria’s ongoing guidance, I decided to turn back to my faith, writing, praying, and meditation. We all falter at times. However, when we catch ourselves, and we are resilient through constant healthy practices and repetitive actions that reinforce our strength and our faith, it becomes a lifestyle.
A therapist suggested that I was “depressed,” and that medication would be helpful for me. I disagreed, as my body was finding its “new normal!” I had no intention of taking pills to regulate my brain ever again. Look where doing so had gotten me!
I knew inherently what I needed to heal, and what I did not need.
I was up every day, eating, going to work, working through my feelings with my life coach, Maria, feeling healthy, and yes, finding my way.

Healing from trauma is a lifelong process, and I am all in. I want to heal, to grow, to evolve, and to be a shining example of what recovery and wellness truly looks like, feels like, and is: awareness, self-regulation, balance, and self-care steeped in spiritual solutions. This IS recovery. I have a great support system, and my greatest support and direction comes from the Universe/God/Spirit. As I remain alert and awake and willing to embrace my spirituality, I understand more and more deeply why my life was saved on April 3, 2013.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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SPIRITUAL SOLUTIONS – LOVE, WENDY

“The awareness enlightens us as to our dis-ease and our unhealthy thinking and behaviors the moment we embrace God. He leads us and brings to us the resources and people to guide us on a healing journey. We co-create our wellness when we have the willingness and humility to do the healing work, and when we let go of the insanity that has temporarily defined our being.

We heal in the space where we allow our truth to emerge, and we ask for Spirit to guide us.

Subsequently, we then become a person and resource, a conduit, for another beautiful soul who opens their body, mind and spirit to Him.

It is a ripple effect of wellness.

Spirit is always present. Observe beyond your physical limitations. Humble yourself. Ask. Embrace. Spirit will meet you there.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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A SPIRITUAL GUIDE – LOVE, WENDY

“It is in an awakened state of consciousness that we are given the gift of Spirit’s grace in recognizing one that is in an unawakened state where their skewed perception is their only reality.

Spirit guides us as a conduit for others who may begin to slowly awaken to their own skewed awareness and trapped emotions by placing us directly onto their path as a spiritual guide. 

We live authentically on our gorgeous spiritual path, and invite others to join us at any time whenever they feel ready, and whenever they feel called to create change that will elevate their own spiritual awareness and connection.

As a conduit for Spirit, we are encouraged to meet another where they are, and guide them from there as we listen and see Spirit’s direction observing beyond our physical limitations.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life

EXCERPT FROM MY UPCOMING BOOK – WRITE PRAY RECOVER:A JOURNEY TO WELLNESS THROUGH SPIRITUAL SOLUTIONS AND SELF CARE – CHAPTER 12 – “FAITH AND SPIRITUALITY-MY WAY”

“As fearful as I felt in speaking my truth about my addiction, on April 3, 2013, I was even more fearful of losing my battle and leaving behind my precious children and my only granddaughter at that time, Rosie. I asked for God’s grace, strength, and guidance, and single-handedly, by the grace of God, took the initial step in asking for help to save my life. When I finally spoke up, I felt empowered. I felt an even deeper spiritual connection.

My best friends of over forty years, Bill and Vicky Kelder, were right there with me the entire journey. They observed me in a complete mental breakdown, where I was incoherent and telling them all about the things I believed to be true (including that my husband was trying to kill me) just weeks before I asked for help. And when I went to the hospital in New York to detox, they were right there doing everything that needed to get done so that I would not have any responsi- bilities to worry about during my initial stage of recovery. Vicky visited me in order to bring me some clothes, but was not allowed through the double steel doors that separated us. We waved to each other through the little window. I felt like a prisoner. And in a way, I was…

About a year and a half into my recovery, I had met and fallen in love with Steve. My therapist at that time, Mignyetta, discouraged me from the relationship, saying that she did not think I was “ready.” I left her practice, because at that time, I didn’t feel she was serving me in my best inter- est. I did, however, years later, return for a brief period of time when Steve and I were experienc- ing challenges, and my mother became gravely ill and subsequently passed away. I still work with my therapist as unhealed trauma rears its ugly head now and then, and I ask for support and assignments to help me “heal deeper.” I have learned that, even in therapy, we can take what res- onates for us, and just say no to what does not. We do not need to walk away completely, as long as we use our voice to stand in our own power to speak our truth. Inherently, we know all that we need. It was what I had learned as a child. If you don’t like something, just leave. Don’t give it a second thought.

I have learned to “take what works and leave the rest.” In every situation, there will be some- thing that doesn’t resonate with us. We can’t walk away from every situation. We need to be open and flexible.

Healing from trauma is a lifelong process, and I am all in. I want to heal, to grow, to evolve, and to be a shining example of what recovery and wellness truly looks like, feels like, and is: aware- ness, self-regulation, balance, and self-care steeped in spiritual solutions. This IS recovery. I have a great support system, and my greatest support and direction comes from the Universe/God/ Spirit. As I remain alert and awake and willing to embrace my spirituality, I understand more and more deeply why my life was saved on April 3, 2013.

With Spirit as my guide, I never feel the temptation or need, in any circumstance, to self-med- icate. Spirit is my strength. Spirit always has my back. Spirit is my alignment. Spirit is within, and Spirit is all around. Listen, look, listen, and feel beyond your physical limitations. Experi- ence this miracle: With just a simple shift in perception, we are always in the presence of a high- er source of energy. It is never “me.” It is always “we.” A loving, guiding, powerful, and know- ing higher source that teaches us and provides us with our highest blessings, if we are open to this gorgeous presence.

Trust your own intuition, reset your mindset to a healthy outlook and possibilities, and allow the Universe/God/Spirit to lovingly guide and direct you. I stand deeply in my faith. It is unbreak- able, unshakeable, unwavering. Here, we can be a catalyst for change, for ourselves and for others.

We must “update” our thinking through truthful self-reflection, and deep soul work, which is how we continue to evolve. We look for connection and meaningful conversation as a construc- tive tool in resolving conflict and healing, rather than infecting ourselves with anger and frustra- tion. This may be an opportunity to learn, to grow, to evolve, and to share. This is what I think of as a true spiritual awareness and awakening.

When we put in the work to better ourselves on a personal and soul level, we have the ability to offer solutions (through our own experiences) to those with open hearts, open minds, and the willingness to learn, update, and evolve. It offers the opportunity to greet each new day with re- newed hope, to work on our “universal assignments,” which promote a deeper sense of self- awareness. It promotes an eagerness and excitement to see new things that may offer a new per- spective as we step way outside of our comfort zones. It is everything we put into our lives—di- rected by purpose, passion, faith, joy, and love that manifests our best selves. It is how we channel our thoughts, emotions, and feelings.

The healing you seek begins in your soul. Inherently, each of us knows what we need to heal.”

The following are my personal favorite daily spiritual self-care practices that keep me grounded, connected, and in a beautiful and deep alignment with myself and with Spirit:

1. Early morning meditation/prayer, where I seek daily, loving guidance, and using one-minute “realignment” meditations as needed throughout the day.

2. Five to fifteen minutes of free writing in my journal, including gratitude for spiritual connec- tion, based on my early morning meditation/prayer experience, and writing a daily inspirational blog on www.writeprayrecover.com
3. Taking a walk with purpose (mindfulness at the beauty and sounds that surround me, and mindful breathing).

4. Staying connected to others in a way that is cathartic for my soul, as well as offering healing and hope to others.
5. Listening and connecting to music or an inspiring audiobook.
6. Eating mindfully and organically, and choosing foods that promote wellness, including plenty of water.

7. Practicing empathy and compassion, utilizing a judgement-free mindset of myself and others. 8. Using essential oils in a diffuser, or inhaling in a deep breathing exercise.
9. Cooking and baking.
10. Unplugging from social media in “chunks” throughout the day and replacing it with face-to- face or phone connection, or just silence. I absolutely LOVE silence!

A few of my favorite spiritual practices that offer me faith and peace on my journey, and with which I always end my day, are gratitude prayers, and body-scan meditation/mindful breathing strategy, which are effective for stress reduction, relaxation, wellness, and physical, emotional, and spiritual awareness.

I use a “gratitude prayer” that is as simple as I can make it, and yet it is powerful in reminding myself of my blessings, and says, “Thank you,” to God/Spirit/Universe for bestowing blessings on me:

“Thank you for your loving presence, guidance, support, and protection today, for all of my physical blessings, and most of all, for my loving connection to you.”

A body scan is a simple yet powerful type of mindfulness strategy that allows one to observe, or to “scan” their body, one body part at a time, to be cognizant of how one is feeling. If one choos- es to do more than “scan,” they may breathe into any tightness or uncomfortable feelings, which will soften that area of the body and promote relaxation and an overall feeling of wellness. You may want to accompany the “scan” with a relaxation/mindfulness app like “Calm” (or one of your own choice), as well as relaxation music, or even listening to a “Gong Bath” music accom- paniment. A “Gong Bath” offers a “psycho-acoustic gateway to heightened states of awareness and consciousness. The frequencies surpass the intellectual part of the brain and travel to the core of the cellular system where the healing qualities are fully absorbed.” I find it extremely healing. You can Google “Gong Bath” and find many on YouTube.

BODY-SCAN MEDITATION:

Observe how you are feeling physically as you “SCAN” each body part.

One at a time, bring your attention to the top of your head, your face, shoulders, arms, hands, chest, tummy, legs, feet. Just observe how each body part feels as you scan. Tight or relaxed? Clenched or soft?
Next, purposefully relax your forehead, open your jaw and let it fall, relax your facial muscles, and relax your shoulders, if they are pulled up to your ears (we do this when we feel stressed, and when we do, it also tightens our neck, which may cause neck and back pain).

How does your chest feel? You can put one hand on your chest, and one on your tummy to scan. Let your belly relax and continue to scan the rest of your body all the way down to your feet, one body part at a time. Just notice. Are your hands clenched into fists, or resting softly in your lap? Are your feet “floppy” in your shoes, or do they feel curled up and tight? How do your legs feel?

Now, that you have scanned, choose a “breathing cavity” of your choice where you can focus as your breath goes in and out. (Mouth, tummy, chest, nose) and begin a “box breathing” for about three minutes, focusing on your breath, and visualizing the in-and-out, or up-and-down move- ment of that cavity. A “box breathing” is a four-second deep breath, in through your nose (four, three, two, one) hold for four seconds, and a four-second count out through your mouth.

Lastly, at the same time, in alignment with your breathing, insert a positive thought or a positive visual into your space that makes you smile or feel peaceful. It can be a simple thought, such as “I know that I am safe.” Or “My loved ones are my joy.” In addition, or alternately, you may choose to visualize a place, person, or situation that brings you joy. Focus on this visual through- out your box breathing.

Positive affirmations and imagery, and mindful breathing, combined with relaxation music/mind- fulness strategy, set in a quiet space where we feel safe, resets the brain from fearful, stressful, and worrisome thoughts to calming, uplifting, and happy thoughts!

When you’re in the mood for a change of scenery, reset and refresh with these spiritual solutions and self-care practices that are so easily accessible.”

My book is set to be released for Christmas!

Love and blessings,

Wendy

BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life

CLOSURE – LOVE, WENDY

“I was given the gift of closure yesterday after years of uncertainty. Closure is a reset for the future blessings Spirit holds for me.

Today I am certain that love is once again in His plan for me. Spirit offered the blessing of closure, I engaged fully in this experience, and I am at peace once again.

Today I begin again with a heart wide open to one who “matches” my young mindset energy and is excited about connection, exploration and discovery together.

Today, for the first time in years, I am filled with renewed hope and faith in that which we all desire…LOVE…Letting Our Vulnerability Emerge…Here is the space of total surrender and acceptance…

Surrender and acceptance are freedom.

I am free to love, to live, to laugh and to learn in a new experience.”

Love, Wendy

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20 YEARS:WE WILL NEVER FORGET – LOVE, WENDY

“As we reflect on the precious souls lost on 9/11/01, of those whose lives were forever impacted and changed, and of those who gave so much of their service and unconditional love as they steadied themselves to be the anchor when the waves came crashing down…may God bless you for holding our heads above the water and refusing to allow us to sink to the bottom.

To the heroes that sacrificed themselves to ensure that we would see the sun shine after the storm…we thank you for your selfless and tireless acts of courage …you are the wind beneath our wings.

To those who lost their lives, we remember you with heartfelt love, and we honor you each and every day…YOU ARE NEVER FORGOTTEN

and to those who survived and to the loved ones of those lost, we acknowledge your courage on a difficult journey, we applaud your resilience, and offer prayers of peace and strength. May God continue to bless all of us with an unbreakable spirit as we continue to offer each other love, empathy, and kindness today, and every day, as a Global Community as we follow IN HIS FOOTSTEPS TO A HEALING PATH.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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TRAUMA RESPONSE – LOVE, WENDY

“Where there is dishonesty, there is disrespect.

Where there is lack of integrity, there lacks intimacy.

Where there is an insatiable appetite for attention from the opposite sex, there is loneliness. Hollow. Emptiness. One continues to go back to an empty well. Their thirst is never quenched.

It’s an unsafe “safety net.”

Trauma isolates us if we aren’t willing to embrace our truth. And for some, this allows them to avoid deep intimacy. A trauma response.

The empty well is an internal reflection…the epitome of one’s truth.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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SAME “RELATIONSHIP” DIFFERENT PERSON – LOVE, WENDY

“When we are able to release ourselves from an unhealthy relationship, it is time for reflection and introspection.

We must ask ourselves what void within us was being filled in that relationship, albeit in an unhealthy manner. Do I believe that I deserve love that is healthy and monogamous? Do I believe that I am worthy of this type of love? What kept me going back again and again to a toxic environment?

What is your truth? Say it aloud. Start here.

When we understand the catalyst of our underlying thought process of accepting abusive, neglectful behaviors where we disown and dishonor our own needs and desires, and where we allow another to disrespect and degrade our beautiful spirit, we will be ready to create change. Otherwise, we will continue in this unhealthy cycle of entering into subsequent relationships of the same unhealthy, toxic nature.

Same “relationship,” different person.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life

EXCERPT FROM MY UPCOMING BOOK:WRITE PRAY RECOVER:A JOURNEY TO WELLNESS THROUGH SPIRITUAL SOLUTIONS AND SELF CARE – CHAPTER 3 “DREAMS DO COME TRUE”

A PRAYER FOR LOVING GUIDANCE

My recovery, as I’ve mentioned, is grounded in my spiritual practices of daily prayer and medita- tion. I began this practice while in active substance use disorder, and it was the one small, yet profound, daily practice that helped to keep me connected to Spirit. When I would begin to feel the urge to take a handful of pills, or to engage in self-harming behavior, I would pray for loving guidance and strength. Even if I was only able to take fewer pills after my prayer time, or wait an extra thirty minutes before I engaged in self-harming behavior, I felt I was being Divinely sup- ported. After I had taken a lethal number of pills and feel my heart begin to race, and feel faint, nauseous, and knew there was a chance I could have a heart attack and/or die, I would pray to God to save my life. I did not really want to die; I was just so ill and drug dependent, and I did not know how to stop, or where to go to ask for help. I would say The Serenity Prayer over and over, aloud, down on my knees. I would also repeat it sometimes as I sat on my bedroom floor, looking up at the sky, crying tears of sorrow for the life I was abusing (and quickly losing)— mine and those of my loved ones who were watching helplessly from the sidelines as I was slowly dying.

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

Once I began my recovery, I discovered Kundalini meditation, which is known as the “yoga of awareness” through which one may awaken to one’s higher self. The higher self is the enlight- ened part of ourselves that is connected to the Universe/God/Spirit. I continue this practice daily to remain connected throughout each moment of my day.

Please use any or all of these prayers/meditations as they resonate with you.

I would suggest implementing a prayer/meditation practice daily. This is the way I came to know God/Spirit/the Universe intimately, and ultimately, how I came to “know” my higher self. I believe that God/Spirit/the Universe hears us in prayer, and answers us in the quiet of our meditation.

I end my prayer/meditation every day with the mantra, “Sat Nam,” which is a Kundalini phrase that means “truth identified” or “truth is my name.”

In addition, in the midst of my active substance use disorder, I had a Pilates instructor come to my home at least twice a week, as I was bedridden and housebound most of the time. The num- ber of pills I was taking were causing a variety of serious health issues that disabled me physical- ly, as well as seriously contaminating my organs. Pilates is a practice that allowed me to move my body a little bit during the day, and it felt stimulating to my mind in a natural way. Eventual- ly, I became trained as a Pilates instructor. Pilates improves flexibility, muscle strength and tone, and is gentle in movement, which I needed at that time. It also guides one in connecting to the movement of your body. I highly suggest Pilates (with medical approval, of course) as a gentle tool that supports body, mind, and spirit.

The following is a prayer I created in my early recovery:

“Dearest enlightening and loving spirits and angels of the highest blessings,

I see beyond my physical sight when I am present. I hear beyond my physical hearing when I am open. When I allow myself to receive in a loving space, I am limitless. I listen for your words as I ask for guidance each day, and I follow your wisdom. I feel your presence inside of me and all around me that is all encompassing love. I am so grateful to have your loving guidance. Thank you for my divine gift of connection, and for all of my blessings. Please continue to keep me deeply grounded in faith, and show me where to go, who to see, and what to say and to whom, to help another soul.

Amen . . . Sat Nam”

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PICK UP A COMPASS…OR NOT – LOVE, WENDY

“When one has never experienced unconditional love in their lifetime, most especially from their caregivers, one has no compass. They are lost, wandering aimlessly in un-chartered territory searching for anything to fill the void. It is always a temporary, unfulfilling experience.

If one has grown up with abandonment of a parent, an absent, albeit physically present caregiver, and/or an abusive and neglectful caregiver, a caregiver with multiple partners that are introduced to the children, that trauma experience becomes ones “love” compass. Abandonment. Trauma. Drama. Uncertainty. Feeling unsafe and insignificant. Craving attention. Mistrust.

“Remain detached so I will never have to be abandoned again.” Sometimes the pain is irreversible.

They search aimlessly for a partner. And when God offers them a loving partner, they become confused as they cannot identify with love. They self sabotage, as well as sabotage the relationship. It is a mindset of “ I am going to abandon you before you abandon me to avoid the pain.“ They are unable to trust or to love from an authentic place of experience.

One does not need a compass when they are alone in a familiar place.

Only those who put God/Spirit/Universe at the center of their daily lives, and those who choose to be brave enough to unpack, and explore the past trauma will one day be able to engage in a loving, healthy relationship.

This work is a freeing experience. It offers one awareness and enlightenment. It takes hard work, patience, acceptance and commitment to ones growth. Here is the space where we find self-love, and eventually can engage in a loving relationship.

It is not for the faint of heart.”

Love,

Wendy

P.S…most of us have experienced some type of trauma. We are all finding our way. Our caregivers did the best that they could with the tools that they had at that time, as are we.

Take your time, stay away from self criticism and/or judgment, and be willing to explore and to heal.

Only you can create a healthy lifestyle change…Only you can choose love…

Pick up a compass and create your own path…

Or not.”

Blessings always,

Wendy

BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life

“MISMATCH!” LOVE, WENDY

“When one has an insatiable desire for attention and tells me that they “feel like a kid in a candy store” as they practically live on multiple dating sites, for years, I say, “check please! Next!…” Their words (profile) is a “mismatch” of their actions. You know the one! He says, “trust me, you can trust me!”

It is hard to find a partner that encompasses integrity, honesty and vulnerability, let alone being monogamous in my experience.

One is responding to an unfillable void that has been draining them for a lifetime, and they continue to go back to the “candy store” seeking external validation. It is a temporary fix for a craving that is an addiction, to replace a truth that is too painful to unwrap, to swallow, to digest, and to heal.

Check please!”

Love, Wendy

BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life

EXCERPT/UPDATED AND FINAL CHANGES! WRITE PRAY RECOVER NOW IN LAYOUT/DESIGN STAGE! – LOVE, WENDY

Final changes have been made and Write Pray Recover:A Journey to Wellness through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care has now gone into the layout and design phase!

Here is an excerpt from my upcoming book!

CHAPTER 11VISION: I SEE, HEAR, AND FEEL BEYOND MY PHYSICAL LIMITATIONS

Recently, a very wise healer/intuitive man told me not to doubt my intuition. I​ knew exactly what he meant.

I have known for most of my life that I am blessed with a gift of spiritual “knowing” and intuition. It’s divine direction and guidance, as the universe interacts with me through many paths of higher communication. In the years of recovery from my prescription drug addiction, and co-occurring mental-health disorders, my spiritual connection has become stronger than ever. My senses are in a heightened state of awareness and receiving. I am blessed to be fully awake to experience all of the beautiful and meaningful moments of life, as well as those I am made aware of beyond my physical limitations. 

A recent spiritual encounter happened in January of 2020, where I was shown very specific information. I had been missing Steve, my ex, who had been my love for a very long time—and at this time, although we kept in touch intermittently, we had been apart for two years since our breakup in January, 2018, after being together for three years. Steve and I had been madly in love, living together most of the time and about to move in permanently, and we were engaged (what we considered the equivalent of marriage), but we both brought unhealed trauma into our current relationship, which made it painful and difficult to navigate. Many times, we would inadvertently be triggered by each other, and each time, it became more difficult to recover. We sought short-term therapy to no avail. We separated on January 13, 2018. We were both seriously heartbroken. Neither of us had the tools at that time that we truly needed to navigate our differences selflessly, practicing self-care, while also caring for our beloved at the same time. 

Neither of us had healed enough yet from previous stress and trauma, and each time we differed, it drained us both of our energy. Spirit had been reassuring me all along that Steve and I would for certain find our way back to each other. Steve would intermittently keep in touch, and we would profess our love for each other. I would send him love energetically multiple times a day, and I could feel him intuitively receiving my love. However, we must always live by divine timing. I could feel the deep, loving, spiritual energy between my love and I every day. Not once did I doubt that, at the perfect time, as the universe coordinated this reunion, Steve and I would find each other again, and that led by Spirit, we would know at that time if we were meant to be together for a season or a lifetime. I knew we would forever be connected energetically, steeped in love, guided by the divinity within us, and always blessed by Spirit to have shared love, time, and space, even if it were to be temporary.  Just two days ago, as of this writing, in January 2020, the synchronicities and messages from Spirit became so clear that Steve and I would be brought together on January 17, 2020. These clear signs were exactly what I had envisioned and believed with certainty. 

I share this often in my book, because it has deep meaning to me: A Course In Miracles says, “Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait and wait without anxiety.” This has become my mantra over the years. 

Steve had come into my life in December of 2014, not quite two years into my recovery. He was there to guide me, and to cheer me on during so many life lessons and divine-learning experiences. I always said he was the smartest man I know, and I know that he loved me deeply, and I him. I valued his insight and life wisdom. He used to call me a “butterfly.” I broke out of the darkness of my chrysalis, and wings in tow, was free . . . as a butterfly. 

When we would awaken in the morning, he would smile that beautiful smile with that gorgeous dimple and say, “Good morning, sunshine!” And, as he kissed me goodbye at the door as I left for work as a recovery specialist at the Mental Health Association, he would always say, “Go save lives.” He was so proud of me and the work that I was doing. When I returned home, he’d say, “How was your day? And don’t leave out any details!” Steve was my best friend, and the love of my life. He could make me laugh like no other. We had a special prayer that we prayed every morning, and even when we were in different physical locations, we would pray together over the phone. I have never loved so deeply before, and certainly not since. I am at peace, knowing that I had a true love experience, and I enjoy my life, solo, for now, with my family and friends, and my career, serving as many as God entrusts to me in my community.

On January 17, 2020, as the day went on, the signs, through the Universe/God/Spirit, became deafening in a beautiful and reassuring way, through music, through other people’s words, and through my intuition. I had been invited by my friends Jason and Ann to attend a music event. I “knew” that Steve would be there. I could feel it in my gut. Our song, “At Last,” had been playing throughout the last week, more than usual, followed by a theme of “reunion” music offering information through it, and a week prior, a car had passed me on my way home from work with the license plate “Atlast2.” Steve’s name, first and last, also continued to reveal itself to me, and our number “555” as well. Steve is of Latin descent (we used to lovingly call each other “Lucy and Ricky,”) and on my Pandora radio, between songs, commercials were aired in Spanish, Steve’s heritage. For a few days, it was constant. Daily signs, messages, and synchronicity from Spirit showed up. I was beyond excited as I longed to see Steve once more, no matter the outcome.

As I pulled into the venue to meet Jason and Ann, I heard our song play on Pandora. I also asked the universe, on my drive there, to show me our number, 555, if in fact my intuition was correct (Steve’s birth month and birth year) for further validation, and as I pulled up to the light before the venue, a truck pulled alongside of me with a license plate with the last three numbers 555! Then as I said thank you to Spirit and started to get very emotional, loud sirens began to blow right where I was driving. In the past, Spirit has made loud declarations in this way! It has been my sign of validation of Spirit’s communication. I was getting so excited! I could not wait to see Steve. I was experiencing that “certainty and knowing!” It was thrilling! We hadn’t seen each other in so long! As I was about to get out of my car at the venue, through my rearview mirror, I could see a car begin to back up into the space next to me. It was dark, but I could see the license plate and make of the car, and my heart began to race with excitement. I got out of my car, and there was Steve behind the wheel! He saw me, looked shocked, and motioned for me to approach. I actually felt lightheaded and began to feel faint as I approached my beloved. In fact, I think I lost my balance for a moment! I was nervous and excited at the same time. Everything that I “knew” to be true and that I was certain of through spiritual communication had come to fruition. I had dreamed about and prayed for this day. 

That night was a reminder and validation that everything that I feel and believe, energetically and spiritually, is a manifestation of my positivity, my beliefs, and my gorgeous spiritual practice that keeps me connected to the truth through the loving guidance of the Universe/God/Spirit. Steve and I danced, we flirted, and we hugged. With us, our deep soul love, we don’t need words to feel the love. We are love, and in love with each other, and it is palpable to us and to anyone in our company. Steve and I both have said that we had never truly been in love before we met. A first for both of us. 

Although Spirit eventually revealed to me, in May, 2020, that Steve and I were only fated for a season, I trust that there is a divine blessing in this separation. I may never know what that is, but my faith is so strong that I “know” it is in both Steve and my highest blessings. We have been so blessed to have found each other and to share the time and experiences that we had enjoyed as a couple, and with our beautiful children and grandchildren. Even when people leave our lives physically, love always keeps them close in memory, and in matters of the heart. Steve Roman, you will have a piece of my heart, always and forever. May God always bless you and your beautiful family. God always has the last word, so I take comfort in that. 

Is there a spiritually orchestrated relationship or situation that you have recently experienced? What did you learn through this experience? What is your takeaway?

You may want to start your own “Spiritual Log” to document your experiences to be shared in order to inspire others to Write Pray Recover!

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Love and blessings,

Wendy

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LOOK UP CHILD – LOVE, WENDY

Always believe that love will show up. The Universe will present exciting options when you are so busy living your life that your attention is focused elsewhere.

When you have created a fulfilling life on your own, living joyously, in gratitude and service, with God/Spirit/Universe at the center, your blessing of potential love will be placed on your path…at your feet…exactly what you had prayed for…

Look up child…

Look up…”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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SUBSTANCE USE/ALCOHOL USE DISORDER/MENTAL HEALTH DISORDERS – LOVE, WENDY

“If we are living with the challenge of a chronic disease or disorder, such as SUD/AUD/MENTAL ILLNESS, we are not defined by it’s characteristics, or it’s symptoms.

It is not a sin to be unwell. We are not “less than” for feeling unwell or experiencing a relapse or a period of dis-ease, dis-order, or dys-regulation.

The fact that we are aware of our symptoms or of a relapse only means that we now have more information about how our disease will present itself. This actually provides us with the opportunity to “go deeper,” into our trauma work where we stand in our power of enlightenment. Here is where we have the ability to learn about this cunning disease, to become more in tune with our triggers, and to begin to become aware of what we need in the future as a preventative approach to harm reduction. Here is the space where we face our deepest truth…if we dare. “What was underlying this particular relapse?”

We can stay ahead of the disease using tools that resonate with us, individually, to reduce relapse, and to experience wellness on a cellular level. It is a lifelong process, and not for the faint of heart.

When we are empowered through our experiences, and are willing to do the work, not just repeat slogans of trendsetters, but to get on our hands and knees right into the dirt, and to clean it up at our own pace, we recover…we experience freedom, we heal, we thrive, we stand in our power…

and yes…

Sometimes we experience a relapse. Any disease is subject to relapse.

It is whatever we make it…

Make it count. Use it as a learning tool. Forgive yourself.

Begin again.

I stay ahead of my symptoms through practicing spiritual solutions and self care, daily. I have not experienced a relapse, but my anxiety is always present.

I AM IN CHARGE OF MY EMOTIONS. MY ANXIETY DOES NOT DEFINE ME, NOR DO I ALLOW MY ANXIETY TO STEER MY HEALTH.

I may go down for a moment, but I am never “out.”

I am resilient. I understand the components of the disease. I stay ahead of my stress through my “Wellness Approach to Recovery.”

YOU have the same opportunity for wellness.

“Self care is the actions that we take to achieve wellness and wellness is where we stand in our power.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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PODCAST:RECOVERY NOW RADIO AUGUST 20, 2021 – LOVE, WENDY


I love the way our podcast came out! I hope that some of what I share will serve you.

FYI, the Sober Curious Yoga presentation of my Whole Person Wellness Workshop is Sept. 4th not 8-28! Visit my IG for details or email me at wendyblanchard044@gmail.com Instagram wendyblanchardconsulting. Please SHARE!

Thanks to Greg, Jo and Nick at Recovery Now Radio for providing me this opportunity to have an ongoing dialogue about addiction and mental health in the spirit of serving others living with these disorders.
Love and blessings,
Wendy

BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life

WE ARE ALLOWED TO FEEL OUR EMOTIONS – LOVE, WENDY

“When we are experiencing fear related to a real life trauma, we must practice self care as only we know what we need to feel better including speaking to a professional.

If another person, no matter who that is, says something that diminishes one’s feelings, we must reconsider if allowing one into our sacred space is a mindful part of our self care. Ask yourself, “Is this helpful for me?” “What do I need in this moment to feel better?”

We must surround ourselves with those who embrace our emotions without trying to squash our feelings. Perhaps one who will listen without judgement or attempting to talk us out of our feelings. Perhaps one who is not uncomfortable within themselves when we express our deepest feelings.

Eventually, we will find our balance again, only by working through our emotions at our own pace so that we understand the fear, re-route the fear and replace it with self love, patience, acceptance and compassion, where we can re-direct our perception, and create a new healthy lifestyle.”

Love,

Wendy

BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life

EXCERPT FROM MY UPCOMING BOOK – WRITE PRAY RECOVER:A JOURNEY TO WELLNESS THROUGH SPIRITUAL SOLUTIONS AND SELF CARE – LOVE, WENDY

PRAYERS, MEDITATIONS, AND PRACTITIONERS WHO SERVE AND/OR TEACH AND INSPIRE AT A GLANCE

A PRAYER FOR LOVING GUIDANCE 

“My recovery, as I’ve mentioned, is grounded in my spiritual practices of daily prayer and meditation. I began this practice while in active substance use disorder, and it was the one small, yet profound, daily practice that helped to keep me connected to Spirit. When I would begin to feel the urge to take a handful of pills, or to engage in self-harming behavior, I would pray for loving guidance and strength. Even if I was only able to take fewer pills after my prayer time, or wait an extra thirty minutes before I engaged in self-harming behavior, I felt I was being Divinely supported. After I had taken a lethal number of pills and feel my heart begin to race, and feel faint, nauseous, and knew there was a chance I could have a heart attack and/or die, I would pray to God to save my life. I did not really want to die; I was just so ill and drug dependent, and I did not know how to stop, or where to go to ask for help. I would say The Serenity Prayer over and over, aloud, down on my knees. I would also repeat it sometimes as I sat on my bedroom floor, looking up at the sky, crying tears of sorrow for the life I was abusing (and quickly losing)—mine and those of my loved ones who were watching helplessly from the sidelines as I was slowly dying. 

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.”

Once I began my recovery, I discovered Kundalini meditation, which is known as the “yoga of awareness” through which one may awaken to one’s higher self. The higher self is the enlightened part of ourselves that is connected to the Universe/God/Spirit. I continue this practice daily to remain connected throughout each moment of my day.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life

IT IS A CHOICE TO CHOOSE OUR EXPERIENCES – LOVE, WENDY

“One who has only experienced dysfunction and toxicity has learned unhealthy behaviors and in turn, only has these experiences as a compass. They use these experiences as their guide in their adult relationships until they recognize the patterns and dys-regulation in their relationships and they are willing to accept accountability.

Here is the space that we make a choice to make a choice.

We can mindfully create change within ourselves where we will begin to experience healthy, loving relationships, or not. We only need to meet ourselves where we are. Slowly, mindfully, and taking baby steps, in our own time, and at our own pace, we walk through it to meet ourselves on a new path which leads us to anywhere we choose to go.

It is always our choice to choose our experiences.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life

IT’S NEVER TOO LATE – LOVE, WENDY

“We may, out of frustration and hurt feelings, use words that deeply hurt someone we love. This is never irreparable. We only need to go within to pull out our humility and vulnerability, and use our sincerest, loving words to apologize, and use the experience moving forward in having the self regulation in order to pause, and to be mindful of the words that we choose moving forward.

We all have days where we wish we had been kinder. And, we all deserve a second chance.

It’s never too late.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

#lovealways

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PRESENCE – LOVE, WENDY

“Each day is precious.

Each hour is precious.

Each moment is precious.

Each second is precious.

Experience each one in its presence…in real time. Direct your energy into each fleeting moment.

Direct and re-direct.

Experience every experience in wonder, in awe, in gratitude. Savor. Contemplate. Experience.

Seconds turn into minutes…into hours…into days…into weeks…into years…

In an “untimely manner.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy