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The Truth Is Deafening – Love, Wendy

There is something that has been unfolding for me for a long time. It began years ago following the whispers of the Universe imploring me to sit in reflection and see the truth of one who I thought was the smartest and most “truthful” one in my life, and one with all integrity.

It began as the tiniest seed laid at my feet from the very first day. Eventually, it was all encompassing, and the whispers became a howling shriek.

The truth is deafening. Love is neither blind, nor deaf.

Love, Wendy

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No words, except that… – Love, Wendy

I learned of one’s “emotional hijack” which “refers to a situaion where the amygdala part of the brain which is the emotional processor, that hijacks or bypasses your normal reasoning process” where their only reality has become diseased by those involved in global delusional and hysterical beliefs and behaviors, I understand God’s intervention to remove me from the toxicity and insanity, permanently.

It is heartbreaking to watch one who I once believed to be the smartest, most wisdomous man in my life allow his mind to be hijacked with rhetoric, lapses in presence of mind, grandiosity, “spreading the word of God,” to “awaken the masses” to align with a group who are deeply disturbed, dangerous, and lacking emotional intelligence and self regulation.

I believe when one questions their own identity due to a loss of sense of self and offers their independence to a ruinous group, they become a “willing victim” of the fanfare of pestilent propaganda in order to feel a part of something…anything that makes them feel a part of “community.” One eventually becomes pernicious in their attempt to deliberately injure and mislead with bullying, untruths, and cancerous words and beliefs that have spread like wildfire within that community.

God only knows…

Dear God/Spirit/Universe,

I am so grateful and humbled that you pulled me from the wreckage.

Thank you for Your Grace. I continue upon my spiritual path and…

I will continue to pray for this unwell, displaced soul in the hopes that You will save him from the wreckage of his own mind. Be his Rock. Bless his mind and soul with healing. Offer him strength and courage in Your love. “Awaken” his senses to the “truth” that is Your word, not “theirs.”

Love,

Wendy

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ABOUT LAST NIGHT:OXYTOCIN BREATHING FOR PAIN RELIEF AND EMOTIONAL REGULATION – LOVE, WENDY

Last night, my Oxytocin breathing put me into a deep meditative state and helped to disconnect my thoughts from debilitating pain and spasm, one week post surgical procedure. Instead, I was able to focus on my breath and the purposeful verbal “Aaaaahhhhhhh” sound that I created to stimulate my vagus nerve for a repeated surge of oxytocin.

As I mindfully focused on my breath and the self motivated stimulation of my vagus nerve which releases oxytoxin, a hormone which has the power to regulate our emotional responses and promote a “warm and fuzzy feeling,” I finally felt relief from the chronic pain post surgical procedure of 7 days ago, and I was able to fall asleep at around 2am. Prior to this, for hours, I was experiencing severe, ongoing spasms and constant anxiety, where I could not find any relief.

I spoke to my friend/Chiropractor, Paul, in the middle of the day who explained that what I was feeling were the muscles in my back trying to pump blood to the nerves. He suggested some yoga poses,

Just by observing one’s breath, the body is able to reset itself. Then we can use the information from that observation to manage our pain, and emotional regulation.

Our breath is our most accessible tool in intervening with our physiology in real time.

For more information on how I can support you in my wellness coaching program, email me at WendyBlanchard044@gmail.com and write WELLNESS in the subject line.

For more information on this mindful breathing and healing strategy, Oxytocin Breathing, click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5gDfmBAh3ww

I chose NOT to go to the emergency room because I am unwilling to receive (the probability of) narcotic drugs due to my successful long term recovery from prescription drug addiction. Instead, I used my holistic tools to mindfully and purposefully manage my symptoms. I will always continue to choose wellness, as I continue to heal.

Wellness and the way in which we heal is always a personal choice.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Don’t say, “I love you.” Show the love – LOVE, WENDY

I am a loving and empathetic wellness and spiritual teacher, and devoted friend.

I give diligent, ongoing, and loving attention to all those who are in my inner circle, as well as my clients, friends, and family members.

On my own journey of healing, especially of late, I have finally learned who is willing to selflessly reciprocate the care and love that I offer to others…

and who is not.

It costs nothing to make time for one who is experiencing challenging times, illness, and/or loss. And those few minutes of one’s time that is offered freely and lovingly can be the catalyst for a “warm and fuzzy” day, and where one is reminded that they are loved.

Call someone. FaceTime one in need of connection. Visit them. Bring a meal or snack, and a smile and hug.

Put texts aside at this time. Offer someone face to face or ear to ear connection. And further, do not make this a “one and done.”

Get invested in your relationships. There are so many in my life who have become so selfless, and there are others who have become terribly selfish and disconnected focusing only on their lives in their corner of the world.

I have learned never to have any expectations of anyone because so often it breeds disappointment and resentment.

However, I am allowed to feel whatever I feel today… disappointed and a little perplexed at those who use the word “love” in their dialogue with me. Don’t say, “I love you.” Show me the love.

We all have a few minutes in our day to offer connection.

Remember, we all need connection and support, and one day, you may be the one on the receiving end.

Put your own issues and unrest aside.

Be a friend. Offer connection. Give some love today.

What we give away, always finds its way back to us.

Be a part of the global healing and wellness that everyone thirsts for now.

Love,

Wendy

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“I feel triggered when” – Love, Wendy

I do not feel heard.

I am made to feel unimportant and insignificant.

I don’t feel safe to speak my truth.

When I am “dismissed.”

I feel that I have puposefully been left out.

I feel unsafe.

I feel unloved.

It doesn’t mean that my perception is accurate, but I am allowed to feel however I feel. It is up to me to ask questions, and to feel courageous enough to speak my truth no matter how scary it may be. This lets others know how I am feeling, and sets my own boundaries at the same time.

I remind myself that I can take good care of me, and that no matter what happens, and no matter what the truth of the circumstances turn out to be, I will always keep myself safe.

I will never disrespect or dishonor my own needs or desires.

I teach others how I expect to be treated by the way that I take care of myself.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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A CHANGE IS GONNA COME – LOVE, WENDY

All of the inevitable change that has occurred in my life over the years of my recovery, some of which has been incredibly difficult and challenging, has helped me to evolve, and to realize that everything is temporary.

It has helped me to live fully in every moment, to love deeply in every moment, and to be grateful for all of the oppotunities that the Universe has provided for me to experience, to learn, to grow, and to evolve on a physical, emotional and spiritual level.

And, as I am typing this blog, the song, “A Change Is Gonna Come” by Sam Cooke began to play on the radio. The Universe is always listening, and communicating. We can hear it, see it, and feel it, when we are open to Divine communication, and spiritually connected.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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In the Living Years:A Learning Journey – Love, Wendy

After we are born and begin our lives, as we are growing and learning, our healthy development is directly dependent upon having a secure and consistent attachment to our caregivers. It is consistency that sits at the core of our healthy mental and physical health.

“This sense of safety and feeling loved allows our nervous system to develop as it’s meant to, and creates the inner template we follow in all of our future relationships.

But when that attachment process is disrupted, it interrupts the healthy development of the nervous system, creating imbalances that have long-lasting psychological and biological effects inside us.”

During a recent therapy session with a trauma specialist, one who uses a trauma informed approach (the six principles of trauma-informed care: safety; trustworthiness and transparency; peer support; collaboration and mutuality; empowerment, voice and choice; and cultural issues) I was led to a heightened state of awareness where I had an epiphany as she encouraged me to “use your own words.” Right between the eyes. I kept repeating the words, “Oh my God, Wow,” over and over and over.

I am still being triggered by trauma. By specific people who aren’t even in my life anymore, and/or who have passed on. And I was feeling mentally drained, and physically unwell.

And although I practice daily self care, a person or situation does trigger emotions that I have not yet fully processed, and healed. And during that therapy session, it felt like the greatest re-awakening of my emotions as I talked about people, places and things that still trigger my deep sadness, anger, and my nervous system…severe and sometimes debilitating anxiety.

And she connected the dots with me…I recognized that I was choosing the same “people” that mirrored the adults tasked with my caregiving from the day I was born. Unhealthy, unstable, irresponsible, inconsistent adults.

All of my past adult relationships, even as recent as 2018, where I left a relationship because I was observing these “inconsistent, and unhealthy behaviors,” consistently, were mirroring the unstable and unhealthy adults in their own relationships that I observed throughout my entire life…consistently. This was the ONLY consistency that I had as a compass…dysfunction and trauma. On that I could always depend. It was my normal.

We live what we learn. And, we can unlearn unhealthy patterns of thoughts and behaviors, and create whatever trajectory we desire through mindful thoughts, behaviors, adapting and learning spiritual solutions and self care, and doing the intense trauma work necessary to heal.

Baby steps.

I chose to begin my wellness journey nearly ten years ago, and today, I am still unlearning, and learning for the first time, new healthy practices to support my wellness. These practices provide me with a feeling of deep connection to myself, and to others. I have done so much of the work over this past decade, and I continue to work, and to heal through self awareness, and self exploration and discovery.

I have the awareness as I begin to escalate in my symptoms, and have the tools to be able to self regulate using healthy practices. And I am connected to God/Spirit/Universe at all times which is where I “receive” the information that I need in order to move forward in a healthy and fruitful manner. One that enhances my life, and enhances my relationships. One where I am Divinely guided to make the healthiest choices in every situation as I listen and look beyond my physical limitations.

I have been empowered.

This is a lifelong unlearning and learning journey.

I am now able to discern what it is that will be a healthy choice for me, especially in the relationships that I choose to engage in short term, and in the long term.

Even after nearly a decade, I continue to learn, and more importantly, I continue to have the willingness to learn, in order to promote peace, love and wellness in my life. This includes removing anyone who exhibits even the slightest display of toxic behavior. Whether or not I love the person, is no longer a factor of connection if that person is toxifying my life. I have endured more than my share of toxicity throughout my entire life.

I choose to de-toxify every aspect of my life “in the living years”, and for the living years that are ahead of me. I am excited to live my life…my way, with God/Spirit/Universe at the center of my life.

I am no longer a hostage to all who came before me who lived in a mind prison of fear and accepting abusive, dysfunction, unhealthy and neglectful behaviors from one who “loved” them.

I have unlearned that type of “love.” I now understand the Divine, healthy meaning of LOVE.

My life was saved in order that I find my path upon a lifelong learning journey. Love, compassion, wellness, peace, joy, and service, by the grace of God.

“Say it loud, say it clear, You can listen as well as you hear.

It’s too late, when we die

To admit we don’t see eye to eye.

It may have a new perspective on a different day

And if you don’t give up, and don’t give in you may just be OK” – The Living Years, Mike and the Mechanics

Speak your truth. Listen to your gut. Follow your heart. Embrace a spiritual practice. Do the work.

Live your life “in the living years.”

It’s too late when we die.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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IN SEARCH OF A DEEPER MEANING:WE HAVE NO CONTROL OVER ANYTHING – LOVE, WENDY

In my 10th year of recovery, I am still reminded of other’s lingering trauma from when I was in active disease. And they have the right to feel what they feel. Let’s face it…
Although addiction/substance use disorder is a brain disease, it caused me to behave in unhealthy ways that deeply affected my own life, and that of my family and friends.
I will say that I still feel hurt and somewhat isolated from some of my family and friends. It is a “different” relationship. It is always respectful, and fun, and loving, yet, with a defiinite sense of an implied “keep your distance.”

At the same time, I have worked so hard and succeeded to reinvent myself, and to lead by example, and to love unconditionally.
I cannot force anyone to feel something that may be gone due to whatever they have experienced, and/or perhaps their unwillingness to truly forgive. And perhaps they are fearful of a deeper connection because they fear I will go back to unhealthy choices/behaviors.

If we are unwilling to have an honest dialogue, nothing ever gets resolved.
Certainly, when one says, “I’m fine. I’m not angry anymore,” with their arms folded across their chest with deep sadness in their eyes, I recognize the underlying sadness and pain.
And, “although the reality is deeply painful, I take comfort in knowing that I am never alone.”

I focus on the relationships that have healed, and the ones that I am engaged in where we are still working together to get to a more connected place.

It stings.
It sucks.
Both the disease and the destruction of the lives in its path, including my own.
But…I know that I have done, and continue to do my best…as a mother, a grandmother, a friend, a teacher/coach.

As painful as this is and heartbreaking for me, and for so many others who have survived this disease, all we can do is accept what is happening in the moment, and continue to pray.
We have no control over how someone else feels, or responds to us, or if that will ever change.

I continue to search for a deeper meaning. I believe I understand what that is… that we have no control…over anything…

I continue to practice my S.P.E.A.R. and S.W.I.M. into Wellness program to guide me, daily, through this process.

You can read about my program in my book Write Pray Recover:A Journey To Wellness Through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care is available on Amazon, and other stores online worldwide.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

P.S. LIVE YOUR LIFE…FOR YOU. WHOEVER IS MEANT TO BE ON YOUR JOURNEY WITH YOU, WILL BE.

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S.P.E.A.R. AND S.W.I.M. INTO WELLNESS – LOVE, WENDY

Even the strong ones walk to the edge sometimes. They hop on one foot, unsteady, and flirt with unhealthy throughts as they gaze at the ground 50 feet below. but then, they stop, and pause.

They step back down onto solid ground as they choose to stand firmly in their faith, and to ask for needed support.

THEY SPEAK THEIR TRUTH, AND FINALLY FEEL FREE, AND AT PEACE.

They allow themselves to emote, accept, and then rest, realign, and reframe. And they create a S.W.I.M. INTO WELLNESS plan. This is the beauty of adapting the tools from my Integrative Approach To Wellness program.

S.P.E.A.R. AND S.W.I.M. INTO WELLNESS.

And…”look up child.”

For information on my programs and workshops, visit www.harmonioushealth4life.com, and purchase my book Write Pray Recover:A Journey To Wellness Through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Nook, Kindle, Goodreads online worldwide.

If you would like a free initial consultation to work with me one on one, email me at wendyblanchard044@gmail.com.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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TITANIUM – LOVE, WENDY

Being “titanium “ is nothing to brag about. If you are impenetrable you are therefore devoid of feelings, and do not possess a spiritual compass. Here is where one lives through ego which is completely transparent.

However, when the heat is turned up, even titanium begins to lose its strength…and, it doesn’t stand a chance against “bullets” fired from high-powered “truth” where Spirit steps in with a light that illuminates and melts the life of lies. Lies become the magnet to an eventual bending of the metal and where “truth” finally bursts out for all to see. One is left naked and vulnerable. Their greatest fear becomes their reality. And they have a choice to ask for spiritual support with a humble heart, or not.

As I always say, “Truth is where your freedom begins, and where restored peace becomes our daily experience.”

One way or another, the “truth” IS ALWAYS revealed.

Love,

Wendy

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Serendipity – Love, Wendy

Serendipity story…

I have not thought about The Wizard of Oz since my kids were little other than maybe now and again through the years.

My dear friend, Steve, who I had not seen in a year and a half visited me and used this movie title in an analogy for something that he was explaining to me.

Then my friend Tara, who I gifted this beautiful piece of artwork to about 4 years ago, made by my late stepfather, Harold, of The Wizard of Oz, returned this to me today as she said she was downsizing and thought to herself that this piece of my stepfather‘s legacy should stay in my family. It was my late mom, Judy’s favorite piece that he made. He was so talented and made dozens of beautiful pieces.

And today, watching “Serendipity,” there is a specific reference to The Wizard of Oz that jumped out at me as another “sign.”

I believe these signs reveal to me what I have been shown is about to show up “behind the curtain…”

Spirit communicates in the most curious ways, and this is a “normal” part of my every day life. “Our” communication is constant and clear, and I always understand the guidance I am being given, and shown the specific answers to my questions and prayers.

When we are open to Divine communication, we see, hear and feel beyond our physical limitations.

To be continued!…

Love,

Wendy

The Wizard of Oz, created by my stepfather, Harold Rosen.
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Don’t say, “Get over it” – Love, Wendy

When we engage with a trauma survivor, we want to use trauma informed words and behaviors steering clear of phrases like, “Put on your big girl/boy pants,” or “You’re all grown up now, and that was a lifetime ago,” or “Get over it.”

Trauma, when left untreated and unprocessed becomes embedded on a cellular level. We must be empathetic and realize that insensitive phrases and words such as these, and the like, are unkind, and one cannot just “skip over” details of the experienced trauma to “get over it.” This is how it remains stuck, and one remains unwell on a cellular level. Body, mind and spirit.

We must encourage one to slowly unpack, at their own pace, their own experiences, and provide a safe, non-judgemental space for one to do so.

My objective is always to nourish ones soul.

A trauma informed approach uses empathy, patience and compassion, and holds the space for one who has experienced trauma to heal in their own time, and in their own way. We ask them what they need to unpack the details of the trauma.

And, we meet them there.

Love,

Wendy

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Rebuilding is a process – Love, Wendy

When we ask for the truth to be revealed in order to experience closure, we must prepare ourselves to receive it. And, sometimes it will not deliver closure at all. Only more epiphanies.

Wow.

Yet, it may cause us to reach higher, and deeper in our next relationship. And, we may learn more about our own resilience, and more about the inner work we still need to do, including following God’s initial guidance.

Rebuilding is a process that creates an even stronger foundation of self, with God, and with another.

Love,

Wendy

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“Look Up Child” – Love, Wendy

When we speak our truth, it releases what we have suppressed, thus offering us a release of stale feelings, emotions and unhealthy thoughts that may manifest physically in our bodies as “dis-order.” Truth offers us freedom.

And, although another person may be too selfish and self absorbed in order to hear us in our truth, and in fact, makes our truth about them without ever acknowledging our truth, the purpose of our own release is always about keeping ourselves authentic, at peace, and in good health.

I am reminded, once again, that decades of insensitive, narcissistic behavior, does not change in one who is unenlightened.

“I just can’t see past myself…
A little more like mercy, a little more like grace
A little more like kindness, goodness, love, and faith
A little more like patience, a little more like peace.” – Zach Williams

I pause, and always end the conversation with, “I wish you well.” I am certain that my devoted spiritual practice and connection guides me in this way, and certainly brings me peace.

I always do the right thing…for my own wellness.

Look up child.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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FALL BACK INTO WELLNESS – LOVE, WENDY

One who is living with a mental health disorder, most especially a substance use disorder and/or an alcohol use disorder tends to isolate, sometimes until it is too late. And it happens every single day.

One will isolate for a variety of reasons including the shame that they feel for the need to self medicate, the fear that they feel of being shamed, and judged, and possibly ostricized by family and friends, and many times when they have arrived at a stage of hopelessness that is the reason for their drug/alcohol abuse, they do not see a way out. One may also fear their own emotions and feelings that they are self medicating, or perhaps may not even be able to identify those emotions and feelings, making it nearly impossible for one to process. And as it goes, they suppress. And suppress. And suppress. And deny.

And numb, and numb. And numb. And smile through the pain.

And finally, we lose one who could not see a way out, yet there is always a way out of this disease.

This is the reason that I do the work that I do in empowering our global community on mental health disorders, most especially substance use/alcohol use disorder.

The first step is to understand that these disorders are brain disorders, and are diagnosable, treatable, and manageable. These disorders are not the fault of one living with the disorder. If we can offer support through education, this is the second step, and we can teach awareness and prevention of a lifelong dis-ease, and even, of a crisis.

Please help me in my global call to action to normalize these disorders through an ongoing dialogue and education in a safe, non-judmental virtual space.

These disorders are mental health disorders. We all have mental health. There is no shame in feeling unwell mentally, and we can move ourselves back to wellness with the right support, empathy, tools, and love.

Our “Fall Back Into Wellness” Symposium is November 5, 2022. We will be offering a full day of workshops based on my “Integrative Approach to Recovery,” inclusive of all pathways to recovery. Come to learn about these disorders, and the spiritual solutions, self care practices, including mindfulness, and writing, and traditional healing modalities, including the facts about substance use/alcohol use disorders, and mental health from professionals and peers in both the wellness and recovery communities.

From the beginning of my recovery, my goal was to bring these two communities together in a “marriage” that is interconnected in order to serve as many people as we can as we meet them where they are, and support everyone in any way in which they choose to recover.

Please email me at wendyblanchard044@gmail.com for more information.

Thank you so much.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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You already know – Love, Wendy

When your needs are neglected as a child, you may accept neglectful, dishonorble behavior, and instabilitiy, i.e., lies, cheating and deception in an adult relationship. This is your only compass, so far.

We accept “less than” because we “live what we learn.” We accept what we “see” as love, yet deep within our soul we feel the truth. We accept what looks like love because we may have never been shown what love really is causing us to feel unworthy.

As an adult, it is our responsiblity to do our inner work in order to discover who we are underneath the trauma and neglect…to learn, to grow, and to evolve…To provide ourselves with healthy, loving relationships. To assess our relationships through a wider lens. We must ask ourselves why we are accepting one who lies, cheats, and walks in the relationship with an incredible sense of entitlement to do so.

So in the quiet of your space, accept your truth, and then speak your truth. Accept the bigger picture of this connection.

When you accept this type of degrading behavior, you are telling the other person that you do not value yourself. Trust me, they know exactly what they are doing.

Walk away and go within to do your inner work. Once you do, and pray to God for guidance, your bounty of blessings will pour onto your path.

Through the inner work, you will develop self love and self respect, and then, and only then, will God bring you the partner that is perfectly aligned in love. A spiritual union with God/Spirit/Universe at the center of it all.

I spoke my truth. I found me. I found love.

Speak your truth.

You already know.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Just the way you are – Love, Wendy

Those who are aligned with you will encourage you and challenge you to continue to learn, to grow, and to evolve.

These are the like minded people who eagerly create a safe space for you when you are together in each others company. They provide a peaceful and loving environment. It is an energy match that ignites a friendship made in Heaven.

In their presence, you will feel energized rather than feeling depleted.

Together you take the time to learn of each other’s journey, and extend grace and compassion.

This is an organic union of any relationship.

It takes time and consistent effort. And it takes the ability to allow yourself to be vulnerable enough to love, and to be loved.

Those who are aligned with you will let you know that you are loved, without any words. And, that you are loved just the way you are.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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I stand firmly in my Faith – Love, Wendy

My faith reminds me that even in the most challenging of moments, and in the heartbreak, that I can breathe in peace knowing that Spirit is always present…within, and all around me. His presence provides me with ever present peace, and the knowing that I am safe, I am well, and I am loved.

Affirm: “I stand firmly in my faith.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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LOVE IS ALWAYS THE ANTIDOTE – LOVE ALWAYS, WENDY

“Stand in your power. Do not give away your power.

Speak your truth. Here is where your freedom begins.
Own it. Make amends. Forgiveness is an apology away.

Show up and allow yourself to be seen. Wear your vulnerability. You will find love and forgiveness in your humility.

Maybe this is your opportunity to build grit and toughness and strength…
and re-connection.
Return to love.

We can either use fear and adversity as an opportunity to grow, to connect, and to learn a deeper love of self and another, or allow it to control our lives leaving us running on empty.

When we learn from our mistakes, time and energy is never wasted.

And love is always the antidote.”

Love always,

Wendy

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NOTHING JEOPARDIZES MY WELLNESS – LOVE, WENDY

“In a matter of one minute everything can change. And it does.

Your life can take a turn you did not expect. It may feel incredibly foreign. Unfamiliar. New information that is old is delivered.

Sobering.

You are forced to see new perspectives, and to practice acceptance of information that is unconscionable, yet undeniable.

And, you carry the disturbing burden of this new information, and a new perspective into the present day in order to remind yourself that nothing and no one is ever really one hundred percent of what, or whom they present to others. And there are some who are complete imposters, one hundred percent.

Sobering…

Just Breathe…

Lesson taught over and over again finally sinks in, and is learned. When the truth reveals itself the first time, accept it. Put down the rose colored glasses, stop listening to fairy tales, kick the garbage to the curb, and move on.

Take care of yourself. Depend only upon yourself. Love and nurture yourself. Forgive yourself for loving and trusting the wrong person.

And keep moving forward…

Sober.”

Love, Wendy

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SHAKEABLE YET UNBREAKABLE – LOVE, WENDY

“Behind the seemingly stone cold heart there is a warm flush of emotions. I watch as they gently bubble up to the surface as your face softens and I see a hint of a faint smile to match the light that is slowly coming through your eyes.
Underneath the brick wall that was built for protection from the disappointment and the fear, I see a small crack in the foundation that offers a space for us to rebuild.

Brick by brick and breath by breath…

We heal together with experience on how to build it to be unbreakable.

Shakable, yet unbreakable.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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FOR MY DAUGHTERS, AND FOR MY GRANDDAUGHTERS – LOVE, WENDY

“Be a loving example for your daughters and granddaughters of strength, determination, and love of self, especially in today’s world.

Living with passion, living with purpose, practicing daily self care in order to achieve wellness, combined with love, perseverance, patience, consistency, faith, and courage can help foster self-esteem, independence, and a strong foundation of understanding ones inner self. Especially in times of adversity and challenge, we need to exhibit our own strong sense of self allowing vulnerability and humility to shine through.

The little ones and young women are always watching and mimicking the behavior of the adults in their lives. Be cognizant of the young women in your lives who look to us for leadership. There is so much chaos in today’s society, and I feel that it is up to those of us who have a pretty solid sense of self and foresight to be a glistening reflection of light and hope so when they look in the mirror, they will be able to see the beautiful soul that God created.”

Love,

Wendy

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LIVING WITH SORROW AND GRIEF – LOVE, WENDY

“Sorrow keeps us company when we lose something or someone that is dear to us. It is a natural course, a process which allows us to express our feelings of loss.

The grief weighs us down in a space where we are immobile, even numb, and as time passes, we slowly begin to smile, and even laugh now and again, and we feel ourselves becoming lighter.

We begin to move our fingers, then our toes, then our limbs and head, and we rise up above the grief…above the pain, or at least remain parallel to our emotions and feelings.

We begin to move forward with tentative ease, and we learn that we are strong, and that we are resilient because we have to be…because we are still blessed with life, and we must continue to live it with gratitude, joy, grace, and ease.

We create a space on the shelf for the sorrow and the grief as a reminder of eternal love, but we do not allow the emotions to steal our joy, or to end our lives.

We choose wellness through remaining present to our emotions, our feelings, and of the beauty of God that surrounds us, and we make peace. And, most days, we reconcile that peace over and over. And we breathe.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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The truth is always revealed – Love, Wendy

When we entrust our heart and soul to another, including having shared our journey in my new book, and subsequently find that we have been betrayed, and our trust was defamed as we believed beyond illusion that one was filled with integrity and truth, we reflect upon the love we offered, and the life we shared, only to find out, years later, that it had all been a lie.

As I pray and sit in meditation, especially over the past few months, I hear God/Spirit/Universe tell me the same thing over and over as I am spiritually guided, “How is anyone going to love you when they don’t love themselves?” And I further hear that this relationship had merely been a “distraction,” to catapult my awareness into a higher frequency. A Divine blessing.

I used the circumstances to my advantage as I continued to learn to step out of my comfort zone, to speak my truth, to set healthier and firmer boundaries, and never to allow anyone to “feed me crumbs” as a “relationship” offering, as opposed to a full meal.

I stand by my book and the stories I have shared as that is how I felt at that time, and what I believed to be “truth.”

A Divine lesson. A spiritual detour as I found my true road to love.

Love of oneself first is what God tells us is necessary before we can ever offer our love to another.

Indeed, the truth is always revealed.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Peace is as close as the silence within-Love, Wendy

Check in with yourself. Your Inner Wisdom knows the truth…listen carefully…follow directions.

Your peaceful solution lives within.

Your struggle is unnecessary…Trust your inner wisdom which speaks to us every moment. When we are struggling, it is because we are going against what our Soul KNOWS is best for us.

When we make a decision that is not meant for our highest blessing, it manifests in physical symptoms that cause us to feel unwell.

Use your courage to listen to your Intuition…your inner wisdom. It may feel uncomfortable at first as you become accustomed to what wellness feels like.

Be patient with yourself as you experience the new “normal.” This is wellness of your body, mind and soul aligning with your your inner wisdom, and that of Spirit.

You will quickly realize that the answer to peace is as close as the silence within.”

Love, Wendy

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SUD/AUD/MENTAL ILLNESS: THE HUMPTY DUMPTY SYNDROME – LOVE, WENDY

Families become broken, and many times destroyed…an irreperable family unit, when one or more family members lives with untreated Substance Use Disorder/Alcohol Use Disorder, and/or mental illness.

When the family member(s) living with these disorders gets well and makes amends, as well as sustainable lifestyle changes, and implements new healthy daily practices, the family can heal. Baby steps.

And, sometimes the deep wounds will never heal. Other family members are not willing to do the work. They are unwilling to forgive, unwilling to empathize, have been deeply traumatized, and/or they may be living with these disorders themselves and choose not to make changes that align with wellness.

The work that is necessary to achieve wellness requires that one take a very close look at their own actions, thoughts, and behaviors. They must want to create healthy change as their loved one(s) has done. They must work to unlearn unhealthy practices that contribute to the unhealthy family dynamic. If they decide that this work is too challenging and it is not work they are willing to put forth, this family is living in what I call the “Humpty Dumpty Syndrome.”

Either each family member does their own healing individually, and together with the family…ongoing and willingly, and if not, “All the  Kings horses and all the kings men cannot put Humpty together again.”

Substance Use Disorder/Alcohol Use Disorder, and mental illness are family diseases.

Love,

Wendy

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LOVE YOUR INNER CHILD – LOVE, WENDY

“Mental abuse where we are made to believe that we are not good enough, not thin enough, not pretty enough, not smart enough, and the like, becomes a part of our cellular memory. It can definitely be unlearned, and it is a lifelong process.

Recently, as I continue to try desparately to love myself the way that I am after gaining weight due to steroids, I recognize that is an uphill climb with old, uncaring voices of those who were tasked with my well being, and an unhealthy mindset that I am “not good enough.”

This morning I decided to remind myself that I am a beautiful soul that nobody in my life growing up, or in either of my marriages recognized. Same for subsequent relationships. However, I recognize the beauty within, and even with the extra pounds, the outer beauty.

And most of all, I know that I am doing the best that I can on my continuous journey of healing the bruises that were inflicted by others who just did not have the ability to love unconditionally, or to raise a little girl who would love herself in any situation, in every situation.

Every day I offer a special time to nurture that “little girl” within.

We all have an “inner child.”

Hear that child, see that child, protect that child, nurture that child, and offer unconditional love to that child.

Watch how that child grows with the proper love and care.

We can unlearn what does not empower us, and re-learn thoughts and behaviors that are empowering, and that enhance our well being.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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God knows everything – Love, Wendy

When we are sincere about willingly offering support to one who may be in need whether it is being in need of food, friendship, or finances, we need only keep it to ourselves. God knows everything. He is the only One we need to allow into this transaction. After all, He has led us to one in need.

If we take this private information and begin to share with others, “secretly,” and/or make it public, we must ask ourselves what is our deeper reason for being of service? Are we looking for our own validation? Approval? To be made out to be a hero? Our own need for attention? And, we must never have any expectations of being offered anything in return, other than gratitude.

Remember this, when a person is in need, and we recognize their lack and simply offer, without that precious being asking for any support whatsoever, we must thank the Universe for guiding us to one who is in need in order to carry out God’s work through service.

We cannot take this credit.

This is a Divine calling, or debt that we are paying forward.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Keeping it Simple-Love, Wendy

Happy Passover, Happy Easter, Happy Ramadan…

Today, in the midst of these sacred celebrations that many of us are observing, I reflect upon this, my 10th year of recovery from prescription drug addiction and co-occurring mental health disorders. I am reminded of what I had asked God to provide for me throughout my recovery into wellness…

It was simple…

My health and wellness body, mind and spirit…

Done.

To rebuild my relationships with my children…

Done.

To find the motivation through God to work hard in order to provide financially for myself. I talk about my former partner, Steve, in my book, Write Pray Recover, and I am reminded of something I used to tell Steve about what I prayed for. Again, so simple…

To be able to afford to buy my organic foods to cook at home, to be able to afford my supplements and vitamins, to go on a vacation once a year, to be able to make purchases once in awhile for my children and grandchildren, to have the ability to donate to charity, and to stay healthy and well enough to provide for myself the basic necessities of housing, a car, electricity, etc. And most importantly, to experience love. Love of family and friends, love of self, love with a life partner.

Done.

I have also prayed to God to allow me to build my business, Harmonious Health 4 Life, and to complete my now published book, Write Pray Recover:A Journey To Wellness Through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care, in order to serve globally, others living with the disorders that nearly took my life, and devastated my family and friends as they watched me near death for so many years. I asked God to allow me to be a conduit to a spiritual connection in order for others to find their own wellness, and to heal. I asked to be guided by Him, lifelong, to support me on my own wellness path in order to lead by example, and that He walk with me every step of the way.

And, this prayer, as well, has been answered.

I continue to live a deeply spiritual life, and find that my life is so different than it was prior to my recovery.

I had access to as much money as I needed and desired to make every purchase that I wanted to make for myself and my family, i.e., cars, jewelry, trips, clothes, etc., a gorgeous 4,000 square foot home, pool, hot tub, and never wanting for anything materialistically, and yet, I felt completely empty. There was no peace in my life. There was no connection in my life. Everything was a struggle between myself and some of my family members, and my then husband. No meeting of the minds with anyone, and I continued to use prescription opiates and benzodiazepines to numb the void, and the suppressed trauma of long ago. Even in the years leading up to my experience of Divine intervention where I asked God to save my life, I felt isolated, lost and alone. Until my D.I. (Divine Intervention). There was no amount of money or “things” that provided me with a feeling of connection, or could fill the void I felt throughout my life where love and peace were not present.

Today, I remind myself of how far I have come in so many ways, and helping so many others by the grace of God. I remind myself about the first few years of my recovery where I could not afford to buy garbage bags at the supermarket, but instead shopped at the dollar store (good bargains there always, of course!) A few times, I asked Steve if he could “loan me” a couple of garbage bags. I was living paycheck to paycheck, barely. And, not until Christmas of 2019, could I afford to buy myself a long desired purchase of a FitBit! I found one with the exact melon color band that I had been eyeing for YEARS, and was able to buy it and pay for it in one purchase. I have learned patience. I have learned the beauty and meaning of delayed gratification rather than the immediate gratification that was always present in my married life where resources were bountiful, (yet where I was all but dead inside). And, I have learned the meaning of earning my own living, and carefully budgeting what is realistic and necessary in my life.

I now live in a new, gorgeous apartment of merely 750 square feet with a beautiful view of nature that is so healing for me, where it is so peaceful, where I take excellent care of myself living a spiritual life connected to God/Spirit/Universe, and where I choose to experience peace and wellness in every moment. I detach permanently from anything or anyone toxic, and I am immersed in the love I share with my family and friends. This is my joy. My cup runneth over with wellness and blessings.

I take immense pride in the gorgeous life that I have co-created with the Universe.

I am deeply humbled.

I am deeply grateful to God.

I keep it simple.

I pay it forward.

Wellness, peace, joy and love. A gorgeous life.

Keeping it simple.

One moment at a time, one hour at a time, as I continue on my journey where I “Write Pray and Recover” in order to continue to heal, to serve, and to lead by example.

When we allow ourselves to be spiritually connected and open to whatever “source of a higher power” that resonates with us individually, we experience an awakening, often, over and over. We learn, we grow, we evolve, and we live “wide awake” rather than merely exist.

To view all of my programs, and holistic health and wellness information, please visit, www.harmonioushealth4life.com

To read all of my inspirational writing, and to order my book, please visit www.writeprayrecover.com

You can also order my book on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Kindle, Nook, Goodreads, and other online stores worldwide.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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A SPIRITUAL SUGGESTION FROM MY SPIRITUAL TEACHER – LOVE WENDY

I continued to seek spiritual guidance as to why I energetically feel one who is long estranged from me still present within my being, and in my space in every moment that I am awake.

I sought out my answer in a conversation with my spiritual coach and teacher. She suggests a simple spiritual solution as she shares that “this is what is coming to me” after I share my frustration…

“What if you just allowed him to be present with you energetically rather than resisting it?”

An “AHA” moment.

Amen…

This simple suggestion from a wise spiritual teacher immediately offered me comfort and ease.

Now, in every moment, I look up and know that I have grace through the simplest spiritual solutions, and in receiving guidance and answers, I accept what is.

Spirit is always communicating with me in a variety of ways, and now, I am able to welcome my estranged loved one into my experiences and into my space with ease and gratitude “as if” he is here.

No more resistance. I have a “knowing” that there is a spiritual reason for our energies to be entwined. I may never know what the reason is, but as I always say, “Thy Will Be Done.”

Love,

Wendy

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CONNECTION – LOVE, WENDY

“We all want to be seen and to be heard.

We want to be seen in our most beautiful vulnerability of imperfections where we are admired, and heard as though our voice shares wisdom not to be missed.

When we feel certain that our need to be seen and heard is validated, we once again feel connected, and we no longer feel isolated.

Acceptance of who we are wherever we are on our journey at any given moment can be life changing as validation and connection is the opposite of darkness.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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FOOD FOR THOUGHT:Socratic Questioning to assist in going within to find our own answers, and to widen the lens of perspective-Love, Wendy

Question your assumptions and limiting beliefs. Look at possibilities through a wider lens.

Is it possible that everyone in the world has mental health?
Is it possible to experience depression and anxiety and live a productive, fulfilling and joyful life?
Is it possible to feel our symptoms of our own mental health in a specific way to us?
Is it possible that many people are uneducated or misinformed about what mental health truly is?
Is it possible for educated people to think and behave in uneducated or unhealthy ways occasionally?
Is it possible that people who had unhealthy or toxic childhood‘s find healthy ways to live as an adult?
Is it possible that the best way to help someone is not to help them, but to guide them, to plant a seed to allow them to grow organically?

Labels of mental illness, depressive thinking, or any other type of mood disorder lead us to only see the possibilities that fit into a narrow spectrum of the prevailing emotional bias, and propaganda backs it up fueling stigma.

Do not pathologize or globalize specific instances. Feeling emotional about something has nothing to do with reality. We are then thinking with our emotional mind versus our logical mind. The interpretive lens of depression is narrowly filtered.

Having stated the above, it is imperative to also state that WE ARE ALLOWED TO FEEL HOWEVER WE FEEL. WE MUST OFFER OURSELVES THAT VALIDATION.

Consider these questions:

Is it always someone’s fault to be experiencing mental health challenges or disorders?
Is it linked to genetic predisposition? To our environment? To our lack of self-care?
Can people find their own awareness and prevention strategies to make change on their own?
Could they possibly realize that they need professional help and ask for support?
Can we offer them resources to guide them if they ask for support and guidance?

People make illogical and uninformed jumps all the time. They go from specific to global:
“I am depressed/anxious. I must be crazy/mentally ill/bi-polar.”
“I fail to regulate my emotions so I must be completely unhealthy and untreatable.”
“I’m a total embarrassment. I don’t deserve to be loved. Nobody would ever want to be with me.” “I am not good enough.”
“If I need a mental health day/days/month, and/or support, I must be a failure/weak.”

These are powerful and classic mental health bias. Socratic questioning can correct this type of bias and reasoning which generally lies unexamined beneath feelings of fear, hopelessness, and misinformation.

WE ALL HAVE MENTAL HEALTH.

Our mental health lies on a continuum. Depending upon what is going on within us and around us, and how well we are practicing our daily self care, we move along the continuum from feeling well to unwell, and anywhere in between.

Join me in my global call to action: Normalizing Mental Health. #normalizementalhealth

For information on how to join my global group of dedicated professionals and peer specialists, and to be a part of my “Falling Back Into Wellness” Symposium on November 5, 2022 where we are providing informational workshops and trainings on mental health and wellness, and to learn more about my “Integrative Approach to Wellness,” including my use of Socratic questioning in order for my clients to go within to find their answers, email me at wendyblanchard044@gmail.com.

We journey together.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Dance With Me – Love, Wendy

My greatest teacher was one who triggered my core to shake, rattle and roll. A trauma response where anger and resentment led the dance.

I went within and connected to my truth.

I spoke my truth, and asked for help to heal the trauma that was begging for attention. To be validated. To be nurtured.

To be healed.

I have learned how to lovingly soothe that little girl who sometimes needs a reminder that she is safe, and loved.

And, I am now able to respond to a trigger and trauma response where I say, “I hope you dance. Follow my steps. I will lead the way.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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A Shield of Armor – Love, Wendy

“Those of us who have had our hearts broken, guard ourselves with a shield of armor to ensure the safety of our hearts future. If anyone gets too close, we put forth the shield to protect ourselves from possible repeated heartbreak. Then at some point, when we feel ready, we lower it a bit to allow ourselves to feel again…we begin to heal…we practice embracing new love and compassion into our heart…slowly, when the Universe brings it forth. The Universe will bring us this gift only when we are ready…when we have learned the lessons to make ourselves strong, to keep ourselves healthy, when we have learned to set boundaries, and at the same time, to love with passion, and to trust that God has chosen the perfect soulmate to accompany us on our path.

As we grow to trust again, and continue to allow love to penetrate the shield, we no longer resist love, and we begin to feel more at peace with accepting the gift of love as we continue to heal…continue to trust…continue to believe that love is all that is missing from any situation.”

Love,

Wendy

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BE A SPIRITUAL TEACHER – LOVE, WENDY

Being blessed with spiritual awareness affords us the opportunity to offer spiritual solutions in what may appear to be an irreparable problem/challenge.

When we strive for spiritual wellness, and we are blessed with a task of being a spiritual first responder/teacher, we use each opportunity for personal and spiritual growth.

This is so rare. Too many people in conflict take an attitude of “I am right.“ They don’t look for the deeper meaning of the conflict, and choose to walk away rather than do their own inner work, and to find the spiritual solution to bring all concerned closer to each other, and to God.

I choose to be a spiritual teacher.

And, I am always His student.

Find your humility. Ask for spiritual guidance. Be a part of the solution.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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WHEN WE ARE READY – LOVE, WENDY

I would never think to tell someone else, a loved one, a friend, or a client that they have to let go of someone or something because I feel it is not good for them. I don’t know how another person feels or what their emotions are, and if I am to give such insensitive advice, one may begin to feel guilty for how they feel and suppress their emotions.

We are all allowed to feel how we feel for as long as we feel it. When we are ready, we will let go of what no longer serves us, and not a minute before. It is not for me to have such audacity as to tell someone when they are ready to let go.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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LOVE AROUND THE BEND – LOVE, WENDY

“When I finally allowed myself to accept the truth of one’s lack of emotional intelligence and empathy for others, as well as their continuous deceitful behavior, I was able to freely and gratefully move on.

Love always comes around the bend when we are not waiting for it. God brings us precisely what, and whom aligns with our soul and spiritual journey.“

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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AN EXPERIENCE OF SUDDEN TRAUMA ON MARCH 16, 2022: S.P.E.A.R. AND S.W.I.M. INTO WELLNESS IN REAL TIME WITH ME:A TRUE STORY – LOVE, WENDY

I am coming from a place of wellness today, although I am on a never ending journey of wellness. And, you can choose to follow my self created wellness program, S.P.E.A.R. AND S.W.I.M INTO WELLNESS, if it resonates. This is my “Integrative Approach to Recovery.” Recovery from anything.

Yesterday, the Universe said to me, “I need you to walk the talk today.” I do not believe that this was a test of my trust, or my devotion to God or to myself, as this is part of my daily wellness regimen, but as a reminder of my own inner strength, and that of my unbreakable bond with God, and my implicit trust in my own knowledge and choices. And to remind myself of the wide variety of holistic tools that I have in my possession, at a moment’s notice, even as I found myself in a sudden traumatic experience.

In two weeks, I will begin my 10th year of “wellness recovery” from substance use disorder and mental illness. I could not be more proud of how I took over the trajectory of a sudden traumatic experience and turned it into a spiritual lesson.

What a day yesterday turned out to be, March 16, 2022…

It had become increasingly more difficult and painful to walk, to move my wrists, and extremities in these past few months, and most especially the past couple of weeks. I decided to hire a new group of specialists as I was guided by Spirit. The signs kept showing me, specifically, where to seek help, and it was shown to be of imminent importance. I always say that when we are open, and have a spiritual relationship with the Universe, we see and hear beyond our physical limitations.

I saw the first orthopedic specialist early in the morning. She took the time to actually show me and to explain my MRI results. Heartbreaking. I am diagnosed, in addition to Lupus and Osteoporosis, severe degenerative disc disease. And stenosis. At the base of my spine, there is a disc bulging backwards onto the spine and compressing the nerve. This is the reason for the complete numbness, pain, and weakness, widespread. My face, neck, arms, back, legs, feet. Debilitating.

She injected me in my backside, (yup), with a very high dose of steroids as she explained that the “nerve was very angry” and this would “calm it down.” She sent me home to rest until I would see the second specialist, a pain management specialist, late in the afternoon. The burning from the injection was unbearable, on top of the excruciating pain, and I rested until I had to leave for pain management.

This is where I stand in my power. As debilitating as the pain was, barely able to drive, sit, stand, or walk, the first thing that I shared with these new doctor’s was my history with substance use disorder. “I do not take any narcotics” I explained. And gave some important information to help them to understand my decision. Believe me, I don’t think anyone would have worried about me yesterday if I had asked for pain meds. That was the level of “off the chart” pain I was experiencing, and had been for weeks affecting my entire quality of life. However, the doctor’s were so supportive, and assured me that there were many options, one being an epidural. And, of course continuing my walking and PT as I can, with an emphasis on my mindful breathing and visualization for calming, healthy eating, hydration, and my regular daily wellness routine.

The epidural will be at a later date, as yesterday I was given a total of 11 more injections at the pain management doctor’s office, right into my back, and yes, again, into my backside. These injections were filled with a very strong additional anti-inflammatory, and other drugs to numb the nerve that was “so angry.” It was so traumatic. The painful injections, one after another, were relentless. Immediately, I reminded myself of my visualization and breathing strategy that is my first “go-to” for calming and focus. I did not want to tense up knowing this would only exacerbate the pain. I went within, into my mind to visualize a color that I assign to hope, and then “breathed in hope.” And then breathed out a color that I had assigned to pain. “Breathe out the pain.” Slowly, and purposefully, breathe, focus on my vision, listen to my breath, and guide my thoughts to healing.

Although this is not something I will “heal” from, they tell me they can absolutely manage the pain, numbness, and mobility. I cried afterwards. Sobbed. Hysterically. Partially from the fear that I had felt, and mostly for the gratitude of pain relief and almost immediate movement of my wrists. My greatest worry was that I would lose the ability to walk, or be in a wheelchair. I said to the doctor, “Just tell me the truth. As long as I have my brain, I can make peace with anything. I just want to continue to serve and to do the work that I love.” As he smiled at me with great empathy, His answer was, Aww, not a chance that this will happen.”

He did prescribe a medication, long term, for skeletal, muscle and joint pain (non narcotic) that has proved effective, and when I wasn’t sure, he said, “You have no quality of life, its all hands on deck now.” Yes, I had just said that to a close friend the other day. “I have no quality of life.”

I will be honest and say that my greatest inspiration for the healthy choices that I made yesterday, including how I “reframed” the sudden traumatic experience was to be a shining example for my children in the face of acute adversity. Throughout the entire day yesterday, my children were texting and calling, along with my closest friends. I wanted to lead by example so that my children, would witness my strength and my decision to stay in control of my mind, and in the face of great adversity, to choose wellness through healthy practices and self care. I made an immediate decision to practice all that I teach in my book and in my trainings. S.PE.A.R. first. Then S.W.I.M. (Chapter 6 of Write Pray Recover) I listened to God’s request to “walk the talk.” I had prayed in the morning, and countless mornings prior, to be led to the doctors who could provide empathy, relief and healing, and God ALWAYS has the last word.

Thy will be done.

And so it is.

My son was extremely worried and was being challenged to remain calm by what he was observing. I knew that this experience was a spiritual opportunity to be the “spiritual first responder” that I am in showing him (and my daughters) that I took the time to self regulate, and to S.P.E.A.R. AND S.W.IM. To stop, pause, allow myself to emote as I needed to release, and that my reframe was all about allowing myself to feel how I felt in those hours, then practicing acceptance during the time of the injections and in accepting my new “normal” for my health, and choosing to stay in control, and then re-aligning with myself and God, and reframing this experience as an opportunity to enhance my wellness, and my spiritual connection, and most importantly, to provide for my children a perspective of responding to adversity and challenge through a wider lens. A lens of mindful wellness, self regulation, and self care. And, being proactive in my health and wellness decisions and goals.

It is a choice.

Although I did not sleep much last night, the numbness is 90% gone, and my mobility has increased about 50%. I am moving slowly, and the doctor tells me that by Sunday, I should be feeling much better.

As my son said to me early in my recovery, and that I talk about in my new book, Write Pray Recover:A Journey To Wellness Through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care, “slow and steady wins the race.” Great advice in every situation.

This is my newest testimony of prayer, a spiritual relationship, and taking control of my mind in every situation using my S.P.E.A.R. AND S.W.I.M. INTO WELLNESS program where I use an integrative approach to wellness.

It ALL begins with the awareness of what I want for myself, how I want to feel, how I want to serve others through my experiences, and enhancing that of my own wellness.

I hope you will find the time to read my book, and adapt the practices that resonate with you.

We really do make the choice in what part of our mind that we “feed.” Illness, or wellness.

Email me at wendyblanchard044@gmail.com if you would like to learn more, and work with me in reaching your own health and wellness goals through an integrative approach.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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WHAT I CAN CONTROL IN MY LIFE-LOVE, WENDY

As I watch daily news reports of the recent and ongoing world events and feel helpless, or as I experience adversity and challenges beyond my control, I remind myself, based on my spiritual experiences, as well as the S.P.E.A.R. AND S.W.I.M. INTO WELLNESS program that I have created, and share in my new book, Write Pray Recover:A Journey To Wellness Through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care, that I can only be in control of how I respond to external circumstances, and how well I practice daily self care.

That’s it.

This is where I stand in my power.

Each morning, I practice prayer and meditation. This is where I feel my calmest and most peaceful. In my connection to God, I turn it all over. Some call it surrender. Either way, He’s got this. My spiritual practice brings me into alignment with who I want to be each day, and how I want to show up for others, Divinely led in every moment, and every decision that I choose to make. Thy will be done.

The most satisfying feeling in the world is to be connected to oneself, to God, and to others as my finest self, aligned in peace and love, leading by example, and ready, willing and able to be a spiritual first responder. This is the space where I can guide one on a spiritual path of their own choice, and where they will learn to “turn it over;to surrender.” This is the space where we experience freedom and peace.

I love the woman who stands before you today. It has been a long journey of self exploration, discovery, and staying true to all that I believe, feel, and practice, never allowing anyone or anything to distract me from what I know is the right thing to do.

Self respect. Self care. Self love. All wrapped in a spiritual being. And using these instruments to serve as a spiritual first responder.

“Lord, make me an instrument of thy peace.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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SUGGESTIONS FOR CENTEREDNESS DURING THESE CHALLENGING DAYS- LOVE, WENDY

  1. Ask yourself what “self soothing”/resiliency tool you need in this moment to feel at peace, and for wellness.
  2. Limit intake of news sources. Turn off phone notifications. 
  3. Honor your feelings through a healthy practice including talking/writing about your feelings/emotions. Share with a trusted loved one or professional.
  4. Use a mindfulness strategy that feels centering for you to realign with yourself and with God/Spirit/Universe. (Body scan, Pranayama, Kundalini, etc.) I love to use my breath and visualization for joy/peace to re-align. Our breath is our most accessible tool that we have in real time to intervene with our physiology. We can also use movement and visualization to assist us in de-escalation.
  5. Check in with your body often throughout the day. It will always tell you what you need. (Rest, deep breaths, food, water, connection, etc.) Allow yourself to take frequent “brain/body/Spirit breaks”.
  6. And remember, connection is key to our mental wellness which is directly related to our physical wellness.

Lastly, stay connected to God/Universe/Spirit, or whatever “ Enlightening/Guiding Source” resonates with you. 

For information on how I can support you during these challenging times, body, mind and spirit, email me at wendyblanchard044

Love and blessings always,

Wendy

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Discrimination is born of ignorance, misinformation, and fear. – Love, Wendy

Being in recovery should never be an impediment.

We owe it to our global community to learn to start with a positive assumption that all people can recover, and are entitled to wellness. 

We must create change from our old thinking patterns to include updated data and information, and we must educate those who are not educated on substance use disorder and mental illness. 

Discrimination is born of ignorance, misinformation, and fear.

We must first speak our own truth in order to stand in our power to execute much needed change. 

In order to achieve a global shift to awareness of all mental health disorders, including Substance Use Disorder, we must share our story, update our thinking, be open to learning the facts, and to new perspectives, and employ empathy and compassion within all of our connections.

There is a single thread that weaves us all together…

It is a mindset of  “I am you, and you are me.”

Love,

Wendy