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WE ALL NEED LOVE – LOVE, WENDY

“They say to check on the “strong ones.” I’ve posted that suggestion so often.

Even those of us who are the counselor, the rock, the friend, the mom, need a soft place to fall now and again. We need to feel heard, to feel validated, and to feel loved. We too become tired, and we feel our emotions, sometimes when we least expect them to show up.

Today is that day.”

Love, Wendy

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AWAKENED PEOPLE AWAKEN PEOPLE – LOVE, WENDY

“Yes…

Hurt people hurt people,

And, awakened people awaken those who are eager to experience an awakening.

As we seek spiritual solutions, Spirit provides us with the tools which allow us to stand in our power. We learn to set boundaries. We choose not to allow another’s unhealthy and hurtful behaviors to affect our wellness. We learn not to take anything personally. We become aware that another’s actions and hurtful words are actually how they feel about themselves.
We pray for their awakening as we lead by example living our lives authentically in an awakened state of spirit. We practice self awareness, self regulation, social awareness and healthy boundaries. We are raising awareness about wellness through practicing spiritual solutions and self care.

Awakened people awaken those who are eager to experience an awakening.”

Love, Wendy

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PRAY…SEEK SPIRIT – LOVE, WENDY

“Words that are written with a venomous heart solely with the intention of poisoning another’s spirit can never penetrate one who stands in the power of love, and who stands in her own gorgeous power saturated in the beauty of Spirit.

I pray for your peace. I pray for your awakening.

What you see…what you say…what you feel…

Is your projection of you.

Seek your spirit within…

Pray for Spirit to fill your heart with peace, with awareness, with love, with forgiveness.

Forgiveness is always given when we come from a place of humility. Stand in your power.

Pray…

Love,

Wendy

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SOULMATES, TWINFLAMES, AND PERSONAL GROWTH – LOVE, WENDY

“Soulmates are our greatest teacher where we learn how we do NOT want to be loved, and yet we share a true and sweet love that offers us profound lessons if we are open to learning. It is where we recognize that our true selves are not fulfilled and we yearn with desire to grow. Our soulmate flourishes in his comfort zone…we yearn new experiences, excitement, adventure and personal growth. Love between soulmates is everlasting.

It is the Twinflame relationship that brings the deep and profound spiritual love connection. It is born into our own rebirth where we have released all that no longer enriches our lives, where we have experienced adventure on our own, and achieved a high level of personal and spiritual growth. I’m told that I will recognize my Twinflame the moment he steps onto my path…that it will sweep in gently and draw me in unexpectedly with abounding love.

Spiritual awareness awakens us to ourselves and guides us to the most fulfilling experiences. Personal growth is born of a spiritual curriculum, and a spiritual curriculum teaches us how to stand in our own power with grace, and with God at the center of our lives. It is in this gorgeous space of alignment, ease and self awareness that our Twinflame comes to join us on our journey.”

Love, Wendy


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PAUSE TO GO RIGHT – LOVE, WENDY

“When I consider all that we have endured collectively, and I myself personally, over the past year, I am in awe of the resilience that I have witnessed, and I myself have experienced.

I am encouraged by my own inner strength and discipline in allowing myself to experience all of the emotions that I am feeling, and have felt over the past year, including the loss of my mother, with the resilience to remain in my long-term recovery from a lifetime of substance use disorder and mental health disorders. I have used my holistic tools that I have built over the last 8 years to navigate, and have learned many new natural and organic tools to continue to help me to thrive not only in my recovery, but in recovery living through a global pandemic, deeply missing in person contact with my children, and feeling the profound loss of my dear mother.

I have been able to share these experiences and tools with my children, my clients, and have implemented these experiences and tools into the mental health and wellness trainings that I provide as a holistic health and wellness coach, and mental health educator and consultant.

As we build toughness and grit during challenging times through healthy choices, we build our resilience which becomes our best friend and “go to” both in challenging times and during the times that seem to flow naturally. We can make healthier decisions for ourselves, our loved ones, and for those whom we surround ourselves with daily, and wish to inspire.

It is all about the pause we take before we make an unhealthy decision where we are self aware and we have the necessary self management skills to pause, to contemplate, and to ask ourselves…

“What will be the healthiest decision for me at this time?”

“Which choice will enhance my life and offer growth, and what decision will bring me peace today, or in this moment?”

“What is my goal, and what would I like the outcome to be for myself and all concerned?”

And in my own pause, I continue to stand in my power through the grace of Spirit where my lifestyle reflects all that I choose, and all that I teach to others in living authentically guided in every moment by my loving connection to God.

I practice self care and self love, I place my spiritual practice at the core of my life, and I practice love of others as I see myself in others…the thread of connection.

When we pause and reflect, and can freely practice forgiveness of self and others as we continue to make the next healthy decision, and where we reinforce the thread…never pulling at the thread in haste…

We have indeed mastered the pause.”

Love, Wendy

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MY VALENTINE – LOVE, WENDY

“As I embrace my spiritual journey on a deeper and more intimate level, I discover self love on a higher and more profound level. Valentine’s Day no longer felt empty without a partner as I provided for myself all that I desired for my day. Loving connection to my children and closest girlfriends, and a deep meditation and prayer hour where I connected to Spirit and received answers and loving guidance, exercise outdoors and my favorite music, an Eckhart Tolle audiobook, an amazing and nourishing home cooked organic meal, essential oils diffusing throughout the day, my beautiful and warm fireplace, and a surprise phone conversation which led to a wonderful new consulting job for an organization near and dear to my heart.

A full day with a full and grateful heart. All about self love…”The Greatest Love of All.”

I believe that “when” a loving partner comes into my life, he will be the bonus to all that I have already created. This is the perfect place to be to receive love. I am ready, and I am excited and eager to experience love once again.

Spirit tells me that “love is on the way.”

To be continued!

Love and blessings,

Wendy


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TRIGGER PRACTICE – LOVE, WENDY

“When we feel triggered, we can CHOOSE the following steps to create a constructive resolution. As we practice these steps, daily, they will become a healthy new lifestyle change…

  1. Do not react.
  2. Become aware of your breath. Breathe in slowly and deeply through your nose, and exhale slowly through your mouth to the count of four for each inhale/exhale. Stay focused on the rise and fall of your chest and tummy as you inhale/exhale. Our breath is our most accessible way of intervening with our physiology in real time. We are always in control. When things are “speeding up,” we have the innate power to slow it down using our breath.
  3. Just observe your feelings and emotions WITHOUT JUDGMENT. You are allowed to feel whatever you feel.
  4. Take a self care break. Engage in whatever activity makes you feel well. (Exercise, nap, music, writing, call someone to talk, etc.) This will be different for everyone and will change over one’s lifetime depending upon what is going on within us, and around us. Do not place a time limit on your break.
  5. When you have de-escalated and feel realigned, come back to the conversation or situation. Come with your healthy boundaries in place. Remind yourself that you are safe. Remind yourself to breathe. Remind yourself that as you want your feelings to be validated, we must validate others feelings. Listen without judgement. We don’t have to agree, but we must remain respectful and empathetic.
  6. Respond respectfully.

When we are self aware and have skills to self regulate, and when we are open minded, we will always find resolution. My greatest tools are my breath, and my spiritual practice. It is in this sacred space that I am guided to the highest understanding and execution of my words and behaviors.

I always want to come from a place of love, empathy and willingness to learn, evolve and to find resolution. Here I stand in peace, and in my power.”

NOTE: If at any time you feel that your symptoms have escalated to an unwell or unhealthy level of anxiety, depression, rage, etc., ask for support immediately. Tell someone that you trust, and/or seek out professional support.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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WORDS – LOVE, WENDY

“Be mindful of those “colorful” words you memorialize in black and white. You may wish to erase them after they’ve been written, but they are imprinted permanently into memory.

I am well aware that we speak and act from our present level of consciousness, or lack thereof. We need to humble ourselves and ask for forgiveness in God’s grace. This level of consciousness is the higher self…that which is Divinely connected and has moved higher than the egoic mindset.

God/Spirit is love and forgiveness. Allow Spirit in to guide your next step. Turn the page and write to inspire rather than to speak words of angered emotions that cannot be unwritten.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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An Hawaiian Prayer of Forgiveness and Reconciliation – Love, Wendy


Recently, I was reminded of this powerful Hawaiian prayer that offers forgiveness and reconciliation.

Even if we are estranged from a loved one, this gorgeous and powerful prayer is felt and received energetically through our deep and profound spiritual connection.

We ask for forgiveness of our loved one, as we forgive ourselves.

I use Ho’ Oponopono in my daily prayer and meditation practice where I can feel the unbreakable bond and connection to my loved one through Spirit…

“I’m sorry

Please forgive me

Thank you

I love you.”

“Always and forever…”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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BEAUTY OF STILLNESS – LOVE, WENDY

“As I sit in silence in the hours before sunrise, I observe the stillness of the tall, bare trees of winter blanketed in the glistening whiteness of the freshly fallen snow. I sit in contemplation of just how deeply rooted each tree is within it’s own space, and marvel at the collective stillness and beauty. It is a moving and powerful stillness…

I am still…

I am deeply rooted in my own spiritual space…

I am part of the collective beauty…

I am an instrument of love and peace…

I stand in my power…”

Love, Wendy

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CONNECTION – LOVE, WENDY

When we connect with another emotionally, spiritually and physically (physically can be as simple, yet as profound as holding one’s hand), it deepens our relationship. It awakens our empathic system. It promotes the release of oxytocin, also known as the “love hormone,” which is known to have a positive impact on mood and emotions.

Connection allows us to feel safe, to manage stress and fear, to feel comforted, to feel loved. As we connect to another, we have the opportunity to increase our listening skills, without judgement. We become more intentional in our exchanges. It draws us closer to another’s body, mind and spirit. In providing this space for another, we too reap these same benefits of connection.

We all need loving connection. We all need to feel comforted. We all need to be heard…validated.

It is the human condition.”

Love, Wendy

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A DIVINE PATH – LOVE, WENDY

Being aware of my internal dialogue allows me to connect lovingly with my Soul…

I speak only from love, compassion and wellness as this is the only language which my soul understands and responds to…

And…it is in this most sacred space, that I deepen my connection to Spirit…my most loving Guide…where I am assured that every decision that I make, every word that I speak, and every action that I take, is Divinely guided…enriching my life, as well as all those with whom I engage.

I choose love. I choose peace. I choose a Divine path.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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DIVINE WAKE UP CALL TO ACTION – LOVE, WENDY

“I let go of an ex bestie abroad eagerly and immediately once I realized that his intentions were so much less than honorable…Yes, I could see it across the waters in the reflection of his “soul.”

My integrity and self respect are the way in which I honor myself.

If one is of a dishonorable self fulfilling agenda, I do not consider him a friend.

I wish him well and keep moving forward. This was a Divine “wake up call” to action.

Mission accomplished.”

Love, Wendy

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“SONG OF THE HEART” – LOVE, WENDY

“Even after cross words have been spoken, we know that the love is deeper than the pain. And, if one shows up humble and kind in spite of the pain, in spite of the words that ended it all, and presents a solution with a willingness and eagerness to begin again, with a mindset of new tools that assures a new outcome immersed only in love…and with an unconditional dedication to that love…led by a spiritually aligned heart, lifestyle and mindset…

I am in…

Spirit is guiding my steps, and I always trust a spiritually aligned response to my question in prayer.

Always and forever,

Wendy

#songoftheheart #unblocked

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I AM ALIGNED WITH SPIRIT – LOVE, WENDY

“If you cheer me on and encourage me as I continue on my journey, I will stand beside you and be your most loving and devoted partner.

If you feel the need to remind me of my past failures in spite of all that I have accomplished, as well as the self forgiveness I have painfully worked for, and the gracious forgiveness of my loved ones…there is something within yourself that needs healing, and forgiving. It’s not about me.

I always take a spiritually aligned mindset, and so I send you love and wishes for healing.

Your energy does not affect my energy. I am guided by a loving Spirit.”

Love, Wendy

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FRIENDSHIP, INTERRUPTED – LOVE, WENDY

“When we make a decision to discontinue a friendship with a bestie, for me, it was a no brainer…

I stand in integrity and honor of myself, and all those I choose to engage in any relationship with…If one hides or manages information for his own benefit with an unwelcome personal agenda, I move on. My integrity is my guide.

I live my life as an open book. My integrity speaks to my character, as do my choices. My word is my truth 100% of the time…Sat Nam (Truth is my name).

My character is my resume.

I live my life guided by Spirit, by my integrity, and by my heart. When I feel violated, I honor my body, mind and spirit. I cut the cord. I know my worth.

I honor myself, every time. And I treat all those in my inner circle, and with all those whom I engage with this same honor. Therefore, honor me.

My circle is getting smaller, and I continue to grow.

Sat Nam…”

Love, Wendy

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GOD ALWAYS HAS THE LAST WORD – LOVE, WENDY

“”Release the one that doesn’t value you…the one that consistently disappoints and hurts you because you fear being alone.

Require more for, and of yourself. Take as much time as you need to explore yourself within. Recognize the unhealthy patterns of connection to one who is emotionally, physically and spiritually unavailable.

What you accept will be exactly what you receive.

I promise you that once you allow yourself the time to connect within… and you require nothing less than a mature, committed, fun loving, deep, unconditional love, one that is spiritually, emotionally and physically aligned with all that you desire and deserve, love will appear.

You will recognize them immediately…your Divine counterpart.

God always has the last word.”

Love, Wendy

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“UNHEALED TRAUMA” – LOVE, WENDY

“One’s behavior and consistent unhealthy patterns are indicative of one’s experience of trauma and of one’s inability and unwillingness to acknowledge, to validate and to heal. It is easier to live in a victim mentality than it is to find one’s courage to change one’s mindset in order to heal. “Woe is me,” vs “It feels good to feel good!”

Through daily, healthy self care practices, we do heal, if we are willing to slowly and patiently do the work…with support.

“Self care is the actions that we take to achieve wellness and wellness is where we stand in our power.”

Love, Wendy

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IN THIS MOMENT – LOVE, WENDY

“Yesterday as I looked back over my shoulder just for a moment, I saw my past in the far off distance…and I smiled at how far I have walked since then.

No regrets…no sense of “I wish,” or “I miss…” Just a sense of peace and gratitude for all that I have experienced.

As I turned back around to face my present and my future, my heart is filled with excitement for the experience in every moment where I am mindfully present. I now know the true meaning of love, of joy, of wellness, and of meaningful abundance as I experience these emotions in real time, cemented in a Spiritual foundation.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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YOU’RE FIRED! – LOVE, WENDY

What else can you expect from a bully who is a pathological liar, with a severely unwell mind other than cowardice encouraging of others to be bullies, and then as in true cowardly form…once he has his posse of the exact same unwell minds to mimic his words and reckless actions, to stand in the background, egging on the crowd all while laughing as he watches from the sidelines…

A leader empowers others, and teaches them where they may be able to thrive… a leader radiates loving kindness wherever possible to reassure others in unprecedented, volatile times…he doesn’t use them for personal and professional gain. This poor excuse for a “leader” has no loyalty, empathy or love for another living soul.

It is an unwell, weak mind who cannot think for themselves, and who may have lacked nurturing attention throughout their lives, that attaches to one making the most noise for the attention they themselves crave. “See me! Hear me! I’m not invisible!”

However, one so empty can never be “full filled.” It is a dry well…a bottomless pit…

And now the beautiful irony…

We get to point our finger and say, “You’re fired!”

Love, Wendy

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A WELCOME DIALOGUE WHICH SPEAKS TO THE HEART – LOVE, WENDY

“A heart to heart conversation can only be successful between two evolved souls who are willing to extinguish the ego, listen without judgement, keep an open mind and heart, to be flexible, to get excited about mutually beneficial solutions, and whose end goal is to find a sustainable, fair and loving resolution.

A conversation such as this is always welcome.”

Love, Wendy

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PRAY FOR THEM – LOVE, WENDY

“One who stands in judgement and uses unkind words to communicate is merely reflecting how they feel about themselves. Their own inner unhealed wounds takes on a meaning of its own. One is in pain and doesn’t have the tools to find a constructive resolution within, or with another…yet.

It’s nothing personal.

Send him love and peace energetically. Pray for his healing.

Take a spiritually aligned approach. ”

Love, Wendy

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THE UNIVERSE – LOVE, WENDY

“Falling in love with one who comes into your life as if out of nowhere…is a gift from the Universe…a Divine counterpart.

One who celebrates all of who you are…and understands everything you have lived through to become the beautiful soul you are today. He appreciates how you have turned your broken past into an imperfect masterpiece. He celebrates every imperfection. He loves and protects you in every way. You never wonder if you are loved. It is clear in every loving word, and in every tender action.

“Where did you come from?” I ask. He points upwards towards the sky and answers, “The Universe.”

Love, Wendy

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GET READY! – LOVE, WENDY

I have been praying and visualizing a business situation that I’ve desired for almost 8 years. My hard work and determination, and positive visualization and prayer have brought my dream to fruition.

Approximately two hours ago, I received the most amazing offer. I will be consulting for a large consulting firm in the field of mental health and prevention education in drug addiction for youth.

I already had signed with this firm for the first position as a consultant and the grant just came through in December. When this second grant comes through, I will be serving an entire county including youth ages 12-17, law enforcement, primary care physicians, teachers, families, etc…anyone interacting with youth ages 12-17.

My children and besties are incredibly proud of my accomplishments, and this one, in particular. Soon beginning my 9th year in recovery from prescription drug addiction and mental health disorders, now being asked to be a part of the wellness based solutions, and told they are “so excited” to partner with me, is an honor and blessing offered only by our One loving God/Universe/Spirit.

The more aware of His presence in my life and the more grateful that I am, the more present and active He becomes in bringing forth my dreams into reality.

I am so overwhelmed with gratitude that I could not stop crying for an hour. LOL

I am beyond blessed.

As I just shared with my children and besties, prayer, meditation, a positive mindset and the willingness to be disciplined in one’s passion and work, are all a part of manifesting our desires, also known as the Law of Attraction…

Spirit is ever present. Whether you call your spiritual connection God, Spirit, Source, the Universe, or any other synonym, believe that you are heard… Never, ever give up, be humble, be of service, work hard every day, pray, stay positive, be ever grateful for every experience and relationship that is your teacher, and know how to take loving direction from our Highest Source. He knows what is best for us. In His own time, he will deliver.

Get ready!”

Love, Wendy

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I AM… – LOVE, WENDY

I don’t think I have ever known personal freedom and joy as I do today body, mind and spirit as I approach the beginning my 9th year in recovery from prescription drug addiction and co-occurring mental health disorders. (I include here the full 8 months of 2013 as I began my recovery on April 3, 2013, and so I begin my 9th year without any mind altering substances on April 3, 2021!)

I have created my amazing life guided lovingly by His Divine Grace where I have learned and practice hundreds of natural and organic solutions through a holistic lifestyle in managing any symptoms of dis-ease of physical and mental health. I am free. I am joyous. I am love… I am beyond grateful for it all! And, I have earned it all!

I confer daily with just One Source…He who knows best, and with whom I have co-created my wellness, my loving relationships, my career, my gorgeous life!

As I got outside this morning at 7:30 AM to take a 2 mile walk before the snow storm that is impending in my area, I am exuding my joyous spirit, beaming from within involuntarily because…”I AM!” I feel so grateful for His love and guidance, and for the ease in walking all on my own post Lupus flare, not to mention it is freezing outside, yet my abounding joy offers me such a warm inner glow, singing to a song that just began playing on Sirius XM “I Will Survive!,” and knowing that Spirit is sending me this song as a reminder that I am a survivor! Actually, as my bestie David reminds me, “A thriver!” During one of our long conversations not too long ago, David said to me, “I don’t want you to use the word survivor anymore. You are more than that, you are a thriver!” Bless David’s heart…a ride or die friend, and always my cheerleader.

Recovery has offered me the space, time, holistic lifestyle, and spiritual practice that has helped me to explore my soul, and to transform and emerge into the awesome woman, mom, friend, counselor, teacher, author, and spiritual student that I see and feel before me.

Out of it all, I am humbled and I am grateful for His love and guidance.

It is due to my Divine relationship that…

I AM…

EVERYTHING that I AM, and that which I am eager to share.”

Love, Wendy

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GOD IS LOVE; I AM LOVE – LOVE, WENDY

“Love is present in the hearts of those who love God, and those who freely give their love away, as He teaches us.

The feeling of giving love, and receiving love, simultaneously, and freely, is only learned through knowing God deeply and intimately.

If we think we can navigate and thrive in love without the loving guidance of Spirit, we will never experience true and eternal love.

God is love, therefore I am love…”

Love, Wendy

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MINDSET AND HUMILITY – LOVE, WENDY

“A victim mindset saturated in negativity and a “woe is me,” mindset, coupled with aligning oneself with a whole virtual community who are also playing the victim, will never provide one with any solutions. When you choose a positive mindset, and live aligned with like minded people, you discover solutions that you had never even thought of on your own!

In these unprecedented times, we need each other, and I find so much encouragement, and solutions that I had never thought of, as well as offering solutions to others in my chosen community of go getters, positivity providers, wellness junkies of body, mind and spirit, and people offering to be of service to those less fortunate, myself included.

If you know me personally, you know I will do everything I can for those I love, and I have been helping people I don’t know…because when I was near destitution, others helped me, and I want to pay it forward in deep gratitude. It makes me feel angry when I hear someone say and convince themselves that they are not going to survive…most especially when from a distance, I already see small solutions.

It’s not a matter of luck, it’s a matter of being resourceful, of taking action, of one’s mindset and being humble, as well as getting up to work at finding solutions as if it were your full time job. You’ll never find the answers in a virtual group setting with those whom are doing nothing but complaining and talking about their woes, all the live long day.

I have seen men and women over 60 working in our local markets as cashiers, or gathering shopping carts. I have seen them working in a variety of positions in our community and there are “Hiring” signs in many of our local establishments. People are working for minimum-wage because they need that pocket money, and something is better than nothing. In addition, they need to be out of the house where they can be with other people, social distancing, to stay in good mental health which is directly correlated to our physical health. Connection is how the human condition thrives!

We have to take precautions to protect our health, and do whatever it takes, including asking for help from those who may be able to do so.

Humility…

In these most challenging times, we have to humble ourselves. We must re-evaluate our circumstances, and we must begin by taking baby steps toward creating change for ourselves. “Nothing changes if nothing changes…”

Remember “God helps those who help themselves.“

Faith, diligence, resilience, mindset, actions, humility.

Baby steps…

I’m not saying it’s easy, of course it’s extremely challenging! Align yourself with doers and those who are willing and able to brainstorm with you. You may just find a solution. And never, ever give up!

When we choose a wellness mindset, we completely stand in our power! Here is where we find the answers…

We truly are all in this together.”

Love, Wendy

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2020…WHAT A YEAR – LOVE, WENDY

2020…What a year…

As I reflect on this year as it comes to an end, I observe the losses and the blessings of 2020. It has felt like a drive by…

I lost my mother in March right on the heels of a global pandemic…isolated and having a memorial via Zoom…two traumatic experiences. I am still processing my mother’s death and the deeply sad circumstances of her death. I allow myself small increments of time to process, and to adjust through healthy practices that are necessary for me to heal.

I found closure in a relationship that I had prayed would work out, but did not, and as is the Universe’s style, it worked out exactly as it was supposed to offering me that final sense of closure that I needed. I have learned so much about myself from this experience, and have grown exponentially. I wouldn’t change a thing. Today would have been our 6 year anniversary. I wish him well always.

My son, Matthew and I, have grown even closer through this Pandemic experience initially spending quality time once a week outdoors, and most recently after his move, daily texts and FaceTime once a week for an hour. We share our love of books and music, food and writing, politics and COVID concerns, and everything in between. This is my greatest blessing of 2020.

My ex husband, Alan and I, have grown our friendship, and we will become grandparents in May, 2021 as our daughter, Olivia, is expecting a baby girl. We are excited and so grateful to be able to enjoy this experience together.

Alan and I have worked through some deep wounds, and we cherish this friendship. We have done the work as adults do when there is a common goal and where both people are willing to do the work. No excuses, and no hiding from the difficult or challenging conversations. We learned to listen non-judgementally and to offer empathy and compassion as we worked through each conversation. We are always family.

My health has been challenging this year, but with my deep faith, self care and so much support from my children and friends, and doctors, I am doing well. I am proud of myself for staying the course in my treatment plan as I choose to heal. And my son, Matthew and one of my closest friends, David, have been my biggest supporters, along with my closest friend of 30 years, Miriam, and Bill and Vicky, best friends of 41 years. David said to me yesterday, “I’m proud of you.” He knows the ordeal I have been through with my health, yet always remaining positive and connected to my faith. We speak on the phone once a week, and text all throughout the week staying connected.

It is the loving connections that keep me grounded, feeling loved, and gives me the encouragement and strength to never give up. It is the consistency of these relationships that remind me that I am loved and cared about and that which adds to my wellness. Yes…consistency.

I have also been blessed with a career that I love in mental health and wellness as a coach and educator. I work with school districts and organizations as a consultant, and work privately with clients in my practice. It’s a slow but steady process of growing my business.

My greatest lesson this year is the realization of my inner strength and resolve, and how independent and healthy I have become after a lifetime of dependency on stimulants to numb out the trauma, and in unhealthy, co- dependent relationships. I have been forced out of my comfort zone, compliments of the Universe, and then left to find healthy solutions on my own to situations that just eight years ago would have had me reaching for pills to self medicate and numb out. And at times, engaging in suicidal behavior.

Of course, I am never truly alone as Spirit is always present and guiding me.

As I continue to evolve, I am grateful to have a platform to share my experiences in recovery and in wellness in the hopes of offering someone else tools for achieving wellness through spiritual solutions and self care.

Life is always reminding me of challenging times, and of blessings, and that it is all about how we choose to respond to each situation that builds our resilience and humility.

I am grateful for it all. I would not change anything. I have learned so much. I am richer for each experience.

May 2021 bless us with wellness, peace, joy, abundance and lots and lots of love.

Happy New Year.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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TIME IS TIMELESS – LOVE, WENDY

“Whatever you give to a “relationship/friendship” is exactly what you will earn in return.

Time spent together, is in my opinion, the most loving and meaningful gift one can bestow upon us.

Time is priceless.

Time is precious.

Time is timeless.

Those who are in my closest circle never forget that time is all that I ask in our connection, and they always deliver…

And, they’ve earned my time in return.

We invest in each other through spending time, which is part of our respective self care and that which nourishes our soul…albeit mostly through virtual and social distancing. Time together says, “I love you…You matter to me. Our connection is always a priority.”

Gifts that are purchased are a beautiful token, but time is eternal and lives on in the heart, and breathes life into the soul.”

Love, Wendy

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SEEK SPIRITUAL SOLUTIONS – LOVE, WENDY

“The first 50 plus years of my life was spent praying for safety, love and validation. As a young child, as a young adult, and through my middle aged years…I prayed.

I experienced a spiritual awakening years ago in my 50s, and I continue to shed the toxic, heavy layers of a tumultuous childhood and young adulthood, and even into my mid 50s, that had become deeply ingrained in every muscle, joint, and bone in my body, promoting inflammation on a cellular level. I continue to transform and reawaken often on my journey where I provide for myself all that I had never received from others. My heightened level of self awareness and deep soul work is ongoing, and I continue to evolve as I let go of each unhealthy belief and behavior to create a new healthy lifestyle.
I experience an ongoing cell rebirth through spiritual solutions and self care. My journey is Divinely structured and guided where all of the love, safety and validation I seek is found within where I am lovingly connected to Spirit.

The Divine lesson is that when God is at the center of our lives, we need look no further. We are filled with blessings of abundance in all that we need, desire and deserve.”

Love, Wendy

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DIVINE GIFT – LOVE, WENDY

The most meaningful Christmas gift this year, Divinely created, is after months, weeks and days in deep prayer and meditation as I sought clarity, is awakening on Christmas morning in the most peaceful place I have been in quite sometime. What a year…

I have realized that I am happy and joyous on my own this Christmas Day, and I no longer desire what I once thought I wanted.

The pain of a past life is all but a distant memory. Closure…

I begin this new year with renewed hope and wellness.

Freedom…

The best gifts in life are free.”

Merry Christmas!

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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I TAKE BACK MY POWER – LOVE, WENDY

The greatest challenge I face is standing in my faith as I experience the torture of chronic pain invading my body.

And at the moment I begin to cry, I remind myself that my thoughts create my reality. I cannot allow myself to think negatively where I may further fuel this autoimmune disease.

I stop. I breathe. I rest. I will not allow fear to take over my mindset. I am stronger than the Lupus traveling within my body. Immediately, I begin to utilize my smorgasbord of healthy practices that completely nourishes my body, mind and spirit. I use visualization to see my desired outcome of wellness. I will arrive there my way…using natural and organic solutions. I remind myself again that given the chance, the body will heal itself. All I need do is listen for what it needs…and breathe…Mindful breathing as I visualize this foreign invader exiting my body. And my pain exits along with this disease.

As my body speaks to me, I understand what it needs to heal…Love, rest, water, healthy foods, connection to loved ones, positive thoughts and visualizations, and my deep connection to Spirit.

I pray. I meditate. I am certain of my outcome.

Wellness.

You see, I choose to be well. And as the late Wayne Dyer, psychologist and author of over 20 books states, “ it’s been proven that the thoughts we choose have everything to do with our emotions. I can tell you that a commitment to feeling good can take away a stomach ache, fear, depression, sadness, anxiety…you name it. Any stress signal is a way of alerting you to say the five magic words: I want to feel good. This is your intention to be tranquil (well) and stress-free and it’s a way of connecting to spirit.”

It feels so good to feel good. And it’s up to me to lead myself out of fear, out of pain, and into wellness…body, mind and spirit. I take back my power. And sometimes I need to take back my power often during the day, as I experience fear. And, I am always ahead of this visitor, and I show it the door.

Pain is a mindset. Wellness is a choice.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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HAPPY HOLIDAYS, DEAR READERS! – LOVE, WENDY

Dear Readers,

Thank you for your interest in my work, thoughts and ideas. I am truly grateful to you for following me, for your likes and comments, and loving support.

Sharing my journey of WELLNESS RECOVERY THROUGH SPIRITUAL SOLUTIONS AND SELF CARE is my honor and passion, with the intention of serving others, and I look forward to connecting with you throughout the new year!

Wishing you and your family a safe, healthy and blessed holiday season and 2021!

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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LOVE IS THE ANTIDOTE – LOVE, WENDY

As I observe hate and unkind words, I send a blessing of love as I recognize that this is a response of one who feels unloved, unworthy and insignificant. We can only give away what we ourselves have.

As for me, I am filled with love, and always give it away, especially in the face of fear, judgement, and hate. Love is the antidote.

As in the prayer of Saint Francis of Assisi, “Where there is hatred, let me sow love.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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DRIVING WITH SPIRIT – LOVE, WENDY

If you are running into a brick wall on a dead end street at each and every corner, you are out of alignment with Spirit.

This is Spirit’s guidance lovingly re-directing you to an open highway filled with endless possibilities that will align with your passion, your purpose and an abundance of blessings.

Listen…Reset…Realign…Stand deeply in your faith…

The road is wide open where we allow Spirit to drive this thing.”

Love, Wendy

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PAIN IS A MINDSET – LOVE, WENDY

I continue to believe that my fight against active Lupus will make me even stronger.

I continue to believe that part of my unbearable pain is my purpose.

I continue to believe that my immobility is my body’s message to let go, slow down, and to rest.

I continue to believe that this will come to pass as it has before, and my strength, determination, faith and self care will provide me with wellness once again, and that I will be given a Divine opportunity to help someone else to fight with grace against an autoimmune disease that is as stubborn as I.

Pain, indescribable pain, can be the purpose in, and of itself, where we use our mindset over the matter of disease.

Prayers are also welcome.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

#strongerthanlupus

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MY WELLNESS APPROACH TO RECOVERY! – LOVE, WENDY

“When I share my journey of my wellness approach to recovery lifestyle program, I connect with others, who see themselves in me. This is where empathy, hope and inspiration are born. This is an untapped power to recovery that which I created, and thrive upon in my own recovery from prescription drug addiction. I am in my 8th year of recovery! This is where others come to learn new tools and strategies that offer new and healthy lifestyle changes, body, mind and spirit. Here is where we, you and I, work to realign our mindset with wellness through spiritual solutions and self care.

The more I share my story, tools, and strategies, the more I create a ripple effect of a wellness approach to recovery through spiritual solutions and self care.

“Self care is the actions that we take to achieve wellness and wellness is where we stand in our power!”

I am excited about the release of my upcoming book, WRITE PRAY RECOVER:A JOURNEY TO WELLNESS THROUGH SPIRITUAL SOLUTIONS AND SELF CARE in 2021!

For information on my wellness coaching program and how I can support you in your own recovery in achieving your wellness goals, through natural and organic solutions, and/or working as part of your treatment team as I do with many clients, please email me at wendyblanchard044@gmail.com, or fill out the contact page on my website www.Harmonioushealth4life.com. I am currently offering a FREE 20 minute consultation!

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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AWAKENING – LOVE, WENDY

“The most precious gift we can give another is to show up for them, to listen nonjudgmentally, to be unconditionally present, and to let them know that they have been heard and seen as they are…to validate another through a loving connection that tells them, through our actions, that we see their beauty, and that we hold them dear to our heart.

To be present in every moment reflects our connection to our own spirit, and also reflects the connection between ourselves and another’s spirit…recognizing the divinity within…

We call this an awakening.”

Love, Wendy

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SPIRITUAL SOLUTIONS – LOVE, WENDY

Ghosted and blocked as an ongoing pattern for years is all about the unwell mindset of one who lacks emotional intelligence. It is their only weapon in response to their own trigger where they feel a loss of control.

Very predictable and transparent…

It brings sadness to my heart to know one is still living with demons which encourage one to use such a juvenile response, and that which has absolutely nothing to do with an adult, constructive, spiritually aligned, emotionally intelligent response…

and…

further reinforces the years of lies and deceptions of this unwell soul.

I offer empathy, and then gratitude for Spirit’s redirection of my near ill fated path.

When God is ever present in our life, we offer spiritual solutions and never retaliate as we come from a place of love and peace.

Love, Wendy

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A CONSCIOUS COUPLE – LOVE, WENDY

”It takes TWO complete souls to become ONE in a relationship. We do not look for someone to “fix” us. Completeness and willingness to love, and to be loved, are steered by the heart. When we feel the urge to “fix“ another this is the mindset steered by the ego.

A conscious couple arrives in two complete souls, ready to enhance the others life, makes them a priority, and practices complete acceptance of the other as a whole.

A conscious couple intuitively makes love in more than the physical sense. Their intimacy is spiritual, and is deeply experienced energetically through the heart that connects them to the deepest part of the self. This intimacy of a spiritual and emotional connection is Divinely guided.

The conscious couple always defends the honor and integrity of this union.”

Love, Wendy