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We can never outrun, outsmart or out strategize the Universe.

What God intends for us is our Highest blessing. This is my peace…

“Faith, Hope, Trust, Love…”

Surrender is peace. Not “giving up,” yet “giving over.” This is where we stand in unshakable faith.

I’ve just experienced an answer to my prayer, a miracle, after years of worry.

I’m certain that this extremely challenging part of my journey was to show me that if I continue to stand in unwavering faith and trust the Universe with all of its direct and gorgeous signs, if I remain awake to all of the gorgeous Glory of His will, and believe that I am always lovingly guided and supported, and if I keep my promise to Him to “follow whatever path he puts before me in serving others, I will be presented with everything I have desired and prayed for.

It is about serving others through the love and guidance of the Universe. Honoring our word to God.

I have now reached one of my destinations, and this journey has validated God’s ever loving presence. I continue along my path under His direction, to learn, to continue to evolve, and to teach those who often ask me, “Where do you find your strength?”

A miracle.

“Thy Will be done.”

Love and blessings,


SPIRITUAL NOTE: As I am writing this blog, a song I have never heard before began to play on Pandora. “My Heavenly Father loves me.”

Spirit is always connected to our Higher self. Listen and see beyond your physical limitations.

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“The beautiful part about standing in unwavering faith is that I never have to worry about any situation that comes up which may be of a challenging nature, or even a worrisome nature. I just stand by and listen, observe, and connect as Spirit offers guidance and solutions. Here, I stand in my power.

I am always certain that the outcome will be in alignment with my highest blessing.

As a Course In Miracles states, “Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait, and wait without anxiety.”

Love and blessings,


BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life


“When you are leading by example showcasing wellness, love, prosperity and peace, allow yourself to be transparent through all of the moments…those where you are thriving, as well as those where you are challenged.

Be an authentic example…

Not the questionable examples of never ending happiness and wellness that we observe on social media.

If life were that “perfect,” we would all be doing it.

Our children and grandchildren are watching.

Let’s teach them balance, strength, strategies, gratitude and resilience by providing opportunities to observe us as we navigate through “life.”

Let’s be “real.”

Love, Wendy

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“When we step into our power where our mindset is of abundance, joy, peace, and love, the Universe meets us there. As I have been keeping an open mind for new possibilities in love and in career, the Universe has placed the most beautiful choices on my immediate path.

When we align with our soul in gratitude, abundant peace and loving energy, and we align with Spirit in the same manner, we place ourselves in alignment to receive our most blessed and compelling culmination of miracles.”

Love and blessings,


BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life


Restorative practices are a creative way to safely communicate without judgement, to build a community, to understand the “why” of our own actions, and to empathize with all those with whom we engage.

Here is the safe space where we create a loving forum where we have the opportunity to express our own voice, and where we have the opportunity to form a partnership of 2, or 200.”

Love and blessings,


BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life


“My rock”

It always amazes me how Spirit/our Angels, finds a way to communicate about our estranged loved ones that we may be missing, or to bring a message from a departed loved one. The communication, I believe, is from Spirit validating eternal love and life.

On my birthday, three days ago, a cardinal flew up to my front window and just sat in the tree. I believe this gorgeous bird was bringing me a “Happy Birthday” message from my mom who passed away just one year ago. I had been crying all morning missing her, and this gorgeous red bird appeared, a cardinal. “The red cardinal is a spiritual messenger from God.” It represents a departed loved ones “attempting contact.” Afterwards, I posted the pic on my Instagram and my friend Brett wrote, “Wendy!! Remember the reading I gave you??!! I told you that I saw cardinals and blue jays??!!” I had forgotten about that. She was spot on. As I am typing this, the song, “Heaven” (En Espanol) by Los Lonely Boys began playing. Spiritual communication and validation.

At the very beginning of my recovery from Substance Use Disorder, now in my ninth year, I had a great deal of anxiety. My love at that time, Steve, gave me this rock to keep in my purse so that I could hold it in my hand whenever I felt anxious, and of course, it reminded me of my connection to Steve. I had been told early in my recovery that if I were to hold something tangible in my hand when I felt anxious, it would focus my attention on the item rather than my anxiety. I would hold this rock in my hand, and move it around constantly to mitigate my anxiety. I had it with me at all times, and it worked along with deep breathing, and visualization.

This morning, I was cleaning out an old purse, and there was my rock. I had not seen this rock in over a year. This rock also has great sentimental value to me. Although I am no longer in touch with the man who gifted this to me, he is always in my heart. I believe Spirit “showed” this to me today as a way of reminding me that we are always connected energetically.

Directing our brain to focus purposefully allows us to be in charge of our thoughts, and our behaviors, and of our wellness.

If we are open to Spiritual communication, we will be blessed to see and hear things beyond our physical limitations. And…

We are always connected.

Sat Nam.


BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life


Get still enough to sit alone with just you. Embrace your internal condition and slowly begin there. Be okay with the silence. Here is where we hear our truth very clearly.

Experience the “uncomfortability.” This is the space where we find deeper meaning and growth.

Listen. Connect.

Allow your spiritual energy to connect to the Universe in whatever form resonates with you.

Feel it. Allow it. Validate it. Take a break.

Stand up. Wash your face. Take a walk.


Tomorrow continue your inner work. Baby steps.

Evolving is an ongoing process. Take your time.”

Love and blessings,


BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life


“Utilize your experiences, both positive and challenging to start over. Here is where we can mindfully re-route our journey to travel new paths, and the roads which are less traveled…

This is where we continue to achieve wellness and enlightenment, and spiritual solutions that guide us to a new destination of the deepest, highest blessing.

The people whom we are guided towards and those who appear on our path, are Divinely placed, strategically and methodically, by our loving Universe.”

Love, Wendy

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“Our fundamental awareness and deep intuitive nature speaks gently to us when we seek the truth. Our integrity is showcased in our decision to meet that truth and to not compromise our love and respect of ourselves, and others. It is shown when we continue to hold ourselves to our highest standards in following our divine path.

I cannot change what happened yesterday, but today is a new day and I will do my best to remember my lessons learned. If I falter, please be patient and encourage me. I am a work in progress, learning and growing every day. If I do not do my best today, tomorrow I will try again. Please encourage me to continue to seek my highest potential, kindly and lovingly. I will respond lovingly, and I will remember your loving words. Otherwise, all I will remember are the failures of yesterday which may cause me to continue to fail. Encourage me. Focus on the good and the positive, and that will expand over time.

The best moments are the little, yet profound moments when we connect with the ​Universe​. Spiritual awareness is where all growth, connection, and healing begins, within ourselves and within our relationships. This is an organic and powerful alliance and a gift through the ​loving support​ and connection​ to the ​Universe​. We must dig deeply within to make that ​connection​, to be willing to face ourselves, and to be brave in seeing ourselves authentically and in making changes that will allow us to further evolve emotionally, and spiritually. 

This is where the work begins, and it is a lifelong education. We must remain open to becoming spiritual students. We open the channels​ of communication that lead and guide us each day to live a gorgeous life, one in which we discover the energy of our own unique spirit and of our own power. We can achieve an awareness of our highest self​ through conversations in meditation and prayer with the Universe, which are a deep and meaningful source of a series of little, yet monumental, moments. These moments have the power to elevate our awareness to a ​higher​ level, which creates a transformation of the human spirit.

I remind myself each day of my blessed journey of wellness recovery, and that I am doing my absolute best, that we all need validation now and again, and that it is all in God’s plan. This is where I release all that challenges me in knowing that whatever, and whomever is meant for me will show up at the perfect time. In the meantime, I continue to be an astute, eager, and loving Spiritual student.”

Love and blessings,


BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life


“As I continue to share my journey of wellness, body, mind and spirit, I want to share that it is imperative for one to have balance in their life, to HAVE A VOICE, as well as a very deeply rooted spiritual practice. When you are supported and aligned with Spirit, you are able to SAFELY stand in your power.

Today once again, I am shown that many people cannot face themselves and therefore misrepresent who they are. Today was frightening and mind blowing, yet , due to my strength, intelligence and spiritual alignment, I am safe.

I will continue along my spiritual journey and await the Universe’s next directive for me in love.

I am blessed with a sixth sense that “tuned into” these “imposters” initially. This has been an enlightening experience, and lesson in always “trust your gut.“

I stand in my power!

Love, Wendy

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The Universe Speaks:Are You Listening? – Love, Wendy

I have met so many potential partners this past month. Not one has a clue, even at middle-age, what “nourishment of love and relationship” entails. Mostly “serial daters,” and unfortunately serial “story tellers” who are not in it for love, but for conquest.

I know he’s out there! I’ve given up on dating sites as I’ve never met a “match” in the various times I’ve tried over the years.

I will await the Universe to send me a “match” in a more creative manner where I will be certain of one’s intentions, integrity and spiritual alignment with love.

The Universe Speaks…Are You Listening?

One more this morning. To be continued…

Love, Wendy

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“A miracle presented itself yesterday afternoon in an answer to a prayer. I have been preparing for the Universe to open this pathway for me for years…

I’ve always acknowledged that I was being groomed for this next step, and as if Spirit literally tapped me on the shoulder, whispered the answer, and lovingly pointed me in the right direction, all obstacles were dissolved in one conversation. This Divine guidance occurred instantaneously and so organically…there it was…the destination that I have imagined, and prayed for…

I’ve awaited this opportunity with patience and discipline in “knowing” that when the time was right, this next step would be revealed. A Course In Miracles says, “Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait, and wait without anxiety.“

This miraculous journey of my wellness approach to recovery has paved the way for a brand new beginning in a brand new place, albeit far from those I love.

As I prepare for this next step within the next 2 months, I will elaborate on the details.

In the meantime, my message today is a simple one…

When we stand in our faith aligned with spiritually aligned thoughts and actions, unencumbered by the cacophony of noise, and of the circumstances and people that may appear to be obstacles, we are “shown” the clear path beyond the detours on the long and winding road.

We arrive at our destination, with still so much to learn, to see, to experience, and to share with others who are eager to experience the blessings of a spiritual journey…

A miracle.”

Love, Wendy

BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life


“A lesson that comes to us as a Divine realization is a priceless life lesson.

One who is a “serial dater,” and remains there even when they are in a relationship with no remorse is one profound lesson that I have learned over the past few years from a former relationship that has encouraged me to be ever vigilant. It encouraged me to go within to do the inner work to understand why I was disrespecting, dishonoring, and disowning my own beliefs, needs and desires…To understand why I would allow another soul to say “yes,” or “no,” or to infuse continuous withholding of love and affection, purposefully, in order to selfishly “have the cake and eat it too.”

Now an evolved, thriving, self assured, self reliant, self fulfilled woman, I know what I bring into a relationship, and what I am looking for in a life partner.

…a man of integrity, a man of his word, a man who is eager to love, and to be loved, a man with an incredible sense of humor, and a man that lives with God in his heart…an evolved man. A grown man of a seasoned nature. A grown man with a nurturing spirit. A grown man who lives by the Divine love of Spirit.

A grown man with a soul.”



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“Experiencing love is a Divine gift. It is a rarity that Spirit blesses us with when we are ready to receive, and to offer to another. When we connect with another’s soul and we align in our desires, it flows with ease and grace, yet rumbles with volcanic explosion with the overflow of excitement in anticipation of deep connection.

Never forced, never self centered, never egoistic.

Fully transparent, fully prepared and eager to experience the deep passion of a “friendship set on fire.”

I stand deeply in my faith and await the receipt of this gift of love.”

Love, Wendy

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Indeed, I was a victim of circumstances.

Those same circumstances which leveled my spirit are also the same circumstances that allowed me to build a spiritual foundation which nourishes my entire being.

With each new brick of faith and wellness, my structure becomes even more resilient. I weather each storm. I embrace the lessons. I re-emerge even stronger and standing more deeply in my faith… and in my power.

“Like a rock, standing arrow straight, charging from the gate, carrying the weight…

I see myself again”

Like a rock.”

Love and blessings,


BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life


Please join me for my very first “Chapter Discussion” from my upcoming book,

“Write Pray Recover:A Journey to Wellness through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care!” on June 8, 2021 from 7-8pm via Zoom through the Orangeburg Library.

Registration will be open shortly at

The chapter that I have chosen for this discussion is entitled, “Awareness of Self, Others, and Spirit.” Here is an excerpt from that chapter:

“I can recall on the morning before I asked for help Spirit speaking to me through a moderator on the morning NBC newscast. I remember it so vividly and knew that the Universe/God/Spirit was speaking directly to me. I was completely awake, and aware of an intense spiritual awakening happening for me. The newscaster at that time, Matt L., began talking about prescription drug addiction and the seriousness of the way it had been on the rise, and the loss of life related to addiction. He went on further to say that there was help available and offered resources. I remember this newscaster looking directly into the camera and saying, “There is help available.” I got a visceral feeling in the pit of my stomach. I knew he was speaking to me on behalf of the Universe/God/Spirit. I immediately began sobbing and saying, “Thank you,” to God for this reassurance. Being so self-aware of my truth and of my deeply rooted spiritual connection allowed me to finally speak my truth to my primary care physician, Dr. Bruce Levitt. Dr. Levitt sent me to the emergency room at our local hospital, and after 24 hours post medical stabilization, I was transferred to the detox and recovery unit. After five days, I left for California to visit my 100-year-old grandmother who was my loving lifeline throughout my life, where I thought I would rest and recover on my own terms. However, after just 48 hours, I became aware of just how physically and mentally ill I was by the grace of God’s profound presence. I was going through a severe withdrawal from having no pills for about a week. I was experiencing flu-like symptoms that were crippling. I was experiencing severe cardiac symptoms, gastrointestinal symptoms, and irritability that I could not calm. I was experiencing delusions where I began seeing things and hearing things that nobody else heard or saw. I was painfully aware that I needed intensive treatment, inpatient care, and medical supervision.

As alone as I felt in my mental and physical pain, I was so cognizant of my Spiritual connection and felt loved and supported. I never felt judged. I had a distinct “knowing” that the moment I would be ready to ask for this next stage of care, the Universe would guide me to safety through Spirit. Once I spoke my truth, out loud, and asked God to “show me the way out of this hopelessness, helplessness, and disease,” I was led directly and immediately to the people who could provide me with the care that I needed and the tools to begin my recovery. I picked up the phone and called a facility in Costa Mesa, California. One of the substance abuse counselors that I met at the hospital during my five-day detox in New York had provided me with this contact information when I left the hospital in case I decided to ask for further intensive care in the future. This was Divine intervention lovingly guiding me, and I was so aware of God’s plan. All I had to do was ask, and I would be guided. I asked, and I received. 

I began my recovery, and sustain and thrive throughout each day by practicing a holistic lifestyle with natural and organic solutions, body, mind, and spirit. I am a lifelong spiritual student, open and willing to continue to learn, grow, and evolve through self-awareness, self-reflection, healthy practices, and a spiritual foundation and connection that is present in every moment. All we need is to be aware of the Universe/God/Spirit’s loving presence, and recognize the person or people who are placed upon our path as our Divine helpers. 

Although I have unhealthy thoughts from time to time, they make sense to me. These thoughts are the product of a memory that is so familiar, which has been buried deep within my cellular structure from my past, unhealed trauma. When a similar situation occurs, my cellular memory is triggered by a past experience. 

We use that information in our current situation as it is what is stored in our memory.”

Please join me to hear the rest, and to partake in our interactive discussion!

Love and blessings,


BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life


“My emotions and feelings connect me to my truth. I allow myself to feel each one, to give it a name as I identify what I know each one is connected to, and to allow for as much time as I need to heal.

I go within to ask myself what it is that I specifically need in this moment to comfort me, to bring me peace, and to help me to sift through it all in a constructive manner.

I ask Spirit for strength as I navigate. I practice self care to the fullest. I never limit my time. Inherently, I will know when I am ready to take another step forward.

I have everything that I will need to successfully work through my inner most emotions and feelings, and these healthy practices will promote my wellness on a cellular level.”

Please reach out to me if you need support or suggestions at

Love and blessings,


BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life


“I used to think that being in recovery was going to be a detriment to my finding the right life partner. I used to feel anxiety that my past disorder would limit me as to who would accept me…all of me… I used to believe that it was going to work against me when it came time to disclose that I am in recovery from substance use disorder.

I have since learned that is actually an asset to any relationship that I engage in as I am thriving in wellness and others are eager to learn how I have arrived here! I have met many potential life partners recently who are so supportive of my journey, and “proud” to be connected! I am completely blown away by the positivity and eagerness of others to align with me, and with my lifestyle!

The ones that choose not to remain in my circle, are not meant to be there, and quite possibly are experiencing their own fear, their own challenges and possibly their own disorders that may be triggered by my story which has absolutely nothing to do with my journey, but with something unhealed inside of themselves. I never take anyone else’s decision to engage, or not to engage personally. I focus on my side of the street and I welcome anyone onto my path who is like-minded, open minded and ready for a meaningful and fun adventure!

I am incredibly proud and humbled by all that I have accomplished in my wellness approach to recovery now in my 9th year, and so deeply grateful to be able to serve others in this capacity. I do feel very blessed.

My story is not a limitation to the right relationship. It is a blessing and an asset. I proudly, and with humility stand in my power, and everyone wants to be “powerful!”

God is so amazing. He has provided me with all that I need and desire, and calls upon me to serve Him.

Every morning in meditation and prayer I ask Him to “please show me where to go, who to see you, what to say and to whom today, to help another person.“ He always delivers.

I am living the life I have prayed for filled with wellness, love, peace, prosperity and the gift of the opportunity to serve others through Divine guidance.”

Love and blessings,


BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life


“As I meet new people for potential relationships and friendships, I am excited about the majority of people who are eager to learn, experience and practice wellness!

As I share my journey with more and more people, so many blessings arise from our conversations. We offer each other a safe space without judgement, empathy for each other’s journey, new perspectives, patience, and in the authenticity of speaking our truth, we sometimes find a spiritual connection.

I take deep pride in my wellness approach to recovery, and it is through my story of recovery, rebirth and releasing of old patterns and behaviors where I impart the lessons, and impact others searching for solutions.

My greatest gift, blessing and passion is in serving others through the guidance of Spirit.”

Love, Wendy

BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life


I’ve recently been contacted by one of the sweetest men I have ever met and briefly dated. Mark was thinking about me, and reached out for Easter.

He is one of the most grateful and kindest souls with such a strong spiritual foundation and connection that one cannot help but be infected with his enthusiasm and love of the universe, Spirit and his fellow human beings.

This man is so authentic and so inspiring as he offers himself and his experiences to selflessly serving others.

And, Mark reflects back to me the same sentiments where we mirror each other. We learn and teach from the same spiritual curriculum.

A deeply spiritual friendship.

It is always a blessing to be surrounded by like minded, loving souls who give of themselves freely in the name of loving and serving others, and whom connect to another through spirituality of the heart.”

Love, Wendy

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Today I reflect upon the past 8 years of my recovery from Substance Use Disorder, and begin this morning with deep gratitude and appreciation for this day as I begin my 9th year of recovery.

My life is forever changed. My life is about wellness. My life is about sharing all that I have learned so that you may find your own journey in mine, and know that recovery is earned through discipline and hunger for wellness, and perhaps even finding that you and I cross paths.

“There before the grace of God go I.”

Today, April 3, 2021, I am grateful for being able to say that the trajectory of my life is always pointed towards wellness through spiritual solutions and self care, and serving others. I am well.

My children and granddaughters will now find meaning in my legacy…they will have a healthy model of “Self” to emulate, and they will deeply connect to themselves and understand that any and all of the choices that they make offers them the opportunity and freedom to live their healthiest life…body, mind and spirit.

My life was saved on April 3, 2013…for me, for my children, and to serve others living with Substance Use Disorder as I am guided by the Universe.

Each morning I pray, “Dear Spirit, today please show me where to go, who to see, what to say and to whom to help another person.”

Let another blessed day of life begin.”

With love, blessings and gratitude.

Sat Nam,


BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life


When he claims to “love” deeply, and then in a triggered moment leaves without communication for months, and subsequently spews venom of one’s past where disease consumed her brain, her body and her spirit, “love” takes on the definition of ANGER.

Anger comes to the surface and explodes like a volcano when sadness is suppressed, yet overflowing, and longing for connection to one’s beloved is no longer certain.

It takes great maturity and insight of one’s own patterns to intentionally create new patterns that serve one’s healthiest life, and to provide wellness for himself and for that of his beloved, including admitting to one’s self that there has been deep sadness, disappointment and loss that have been at the crux of one’s ongoing patterns for decades.

Real love of oneself and of his beloved are not easily angered, and when one is self aware and has the skills to self regulate in building loving relationships, love is everlasting.

Love, Wendy

Love is Patient Postcard
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When others “advice“ is to “let it go,” or “let him/her go,” they are suggesting that we turn off, or suppress our feelings and emotions. That in the blink of an eye, we should move on, smile, be happy, “get over it.” This is unhealthy and unnatural. We must always acknowledge and validate our feelings and emotions. We must allow ourselves the time and space for our emotions to sit with us, to feel it all, to connect within, and when we are ready, to make a decision.

Releasing one from our heart and our soul is a painful process. And, many times, in time, we are blessed when we are able to find a solution in working out relationships. “As long as I have life, there is always hope.”

I prefer to let it play out organically. I prefer a friend to offer support when I am in transition or in pain over the loss of a loved one, a relationship, or a situation. I prefer to allow the Universe to guide me as to what is the best choice for me and that which will enhance my life. I trust Spirit’s loving guidance.

I used to think that “let it go,” was healthy advice. In my opinion, it’s another way of telling someone else to “forget what you’re feeling, don’t pay attention to your heart…your soul.” “This too shall pass??!!” No.

I have come to realize that we never can truly “let it go.” I feel that this has become a “buzz phrase” to say to someone else when we are uncomfortable in the presence of one who is mourning the loss of a relationship, a loved one through death, or a meaningful situation. One who becomes uncomfortable at our vulnerability has most likely “let it go” themselves sometime in their past, and our vulnerability is a trigger for their own suppressed feelings.

Rather than say, “let it go,“ why not offer a safe space where one in pain or in transition can share their feelings without judgement. Not to fix or solve, not to give false hope, but to listen with empathy. And to give reassurance that no matter what our decision is, we will always be loved, respected, and supported by those dearest to us, unconditionally.”

Love, Wendy

BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life


One year ago today, my mother passed away. As I am writing this in real time, the song, “I’m Your Angel” begins on Pandora…a sign, I believe, from my mother that she is here in spirit, in real time…

It still feels surreal. It’s been a year of revelations, of acknowledgements, and of pain. It’s been a year of self exploration and discovery after such a profound loss of a complicated and deeply unwell woman whom I have learned, through my own inner work, to feel deep empathy and great compassion for. Last night, at my mother’s Yahrzeit ceremony, I was asked to reflect on all that I have learned about myself and my mother this past year. And it was the deep empathy and great compassion that I talked about. My mother lived her own life in so much pain, and I completely empathize with her own personal hell that she lived in. I have learned forgiveness. I have learned that no matter our “title,” mom, dad, King, or Queen, we all endure pain, and trauma. And, we are all imperfect. We do our very best with the tools that we have acquired.

I feel my mother’s presence around me often. I see and hear signs as I have this morning through music. I miss hearing her voice saying, “Hello my dear child.” She tried so hard with me in her later years.

As in the ceremony prayer last night stated…Every life is a blessing. My mother gave me life, as my grandmother gave to her…and so on.

We are blessed.”

Love and blessings,


BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life


He is my ex-husband yet always family, and always my friend.

He called me yesterday to tell me that he lost his best friend of over 40 years to COVID. John had just received his first vaccine, and 2 days later was on a ventilator. They believe that he unknowingly had been infected just prior to his vaccine causing complications. Alan said he “doesn’t know how to react.” Many of us have this reaction when we lose a loved one, and it is compounded with disbelief when it is sudden and unexpected.

We all spent time together in the 24 years that we were married. It’s surreal. This man was strong, a man of God, hard working, kind, loving, a dad, a husband, and a wonderful and loyal friend.

Alan and I talked about how perspective changes as we age, as we become more aware of our own mortality, and the importance of letting those we love know how we feel. I believe that this profound loss in Alan’s life has deepened our own connection. HEREIN LIES THE SILVER LINING.

Tell those you love how you feel, and even more importantly, show them.

I’m deeply grateful that Alan felt close enough to me after all this time, and 7 years post our divorce, to call me for loving support. We’ve come a long way.

“That’s what friends are for…”

Rest in eternal peace, John.

My dearest readers and friends…Love often and openly. There is nothing to wait for. Speak to those with whom you love. Spend time with those whom you love. Our time to do so is fleeting.”

Love and blessings,


BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life


In doing some deep inner work connected to my own journey, I reflect and consider, “How do the men in ones life and the way they treat a woman reflect the way that ones father treated her mother? Who and what has one “looked up to?” What was the “normal temperature?”

We recreate over and over the pathology of our family. Until we have the awareness through speaking our truth, we continue to repeat the learned behaviors, and accept toxicity and unhealthy experiences as “normal.”

What are we denying in ourselves when we allow others to deny us, and to continue to allow another to tell us yes, and tell us no? To tell us if? To tell us when? Why do we give away our power? Why do we disrespect, dishonor, disown, and disgrace ourselves to this degree? Where have we learned to accept this type of abusive and neglectful treatment from another?

We know the answer.

Be courageous. Listen to your truth. Allow yourself to feel it all. Do the inner work. Take your time. Sit with it. Then…BREAK the cycle. Set healthy boundaries and set healthy practices in place for yourself and for the eyes “looking up to you.” Require more of, and for yourself. Lead by healthy example.

Take back your power.”

Love, Wendy