“TEN TOES DOWN” – LOVE, WENDY
“Ten toes down…” Not standing there fighting everybody… Just standing firmly in your own humanity while other people are busy revealing theirs. BOOM. Love and blessings, Wendy
Keep readingIt Is Always Winter:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
She had so much going for her. Intelligence. Personality. Generosity to a fault… And…her beauty was external, but more than that…her inner beauty shared the depth of her soul. She exuded empathy and kindness, love and compassion and patience. Forgiveness. Love… She was so loved, but then…in the depths of abuse and neglect…she lost her way…and they abandoned her. She stood alone. A cold, dark…
Keep readingBetrayal:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
People reveal their character not only by how they treat the people they need, but by how they treat the people they no longer “need”…with an insatiable desire to be liked. It’s realizing that the person you thought you knew is not the person you believed they were after someone steps forward saying, “I feel you should know…” That can hurt more than the actual…
Keep readingPatterns:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
I observe behavior and think to myself, “I won’t take this personally. What else can be true about the situation?”… But then, after watching their consistent patterns, I realize…they know exactly what they are doing. This is another opportunity to build grit and resilience… Thick skin…ten toes down…forge ahead with empty hands… This is not yours to carry. Love and blessings, Wendy
Keep readingOne:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
It only takes one small cloud to block the sun. It takes only one unkind word to break a spirit. One smile can heal a heavy heart… “One is the loneliest number that you’ve ever known.” (Three Dog Night) “It Takes Two” Marvin Gaye & Kim Weston Bring the sunshine. Speak with kindness. Share your smile. Sing a different tune… Be that one. Love and…
Keep readingPRACTICAL SPIRITUALITY:PAUSE TO BE PRESENT. PATIENTLY PROCESS – LOVE, WENDY
Think about the people, places and things in your life that are easily accessible and comfortable…isn’t it tempting to place yourself where you know these situations are not healthy for you because it requires little to no effort to reach for familiarity…especially when you are lonely and bored and begin to romanticize the good times? Familiarity becomes seductive because it is easy, particularly when loneliness, boredom,…
Keep readingWrite It Down:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Writing is my form of meditation and prayer. It is how I process what is happening inside of me…not by forcing an answer, but by placing the thoughts somewhere outside of myself so that I may see them, feel them, process them…and sometimes…let them go. Love and blessings, Wendy
Keep readingNEVER LET THE TRUTH INTERFERE WITH A GOOD STORY:SOUL NOTES – LOVE, WENDY
Through both my lived experiences and my field experiences, I have learned that those who lack emotional intelligence are often emotionally immature people, lack self-esteem, and experience accountability as an attack. Accountability threatens the narrative when someone’s self-image depends on being the innocent, misunderstood, or “always right” person. Taking responsibility for their words and behaviors is unlikely because it threatens the story they need to…
Keep readingSEPTEMBER IS SUICIDE AWARENESS MONTH – LOVE, WENDY
September is Suicide Awareness Month… I had the opportunity to implement my training as a Mental Health First Aider and Suicide Safety instructor yesterday in two separate incidents. And last month, I was called to use both of these trainings for a dear friend who just lost his wife to suicide.  I am a certified trainer and would encourage you to take this 8…
Keep readingPeace Begins With Me:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Remind yourself daily and often “I do not need anyone’s permission to experience peace. It is my choice and my right…and I mindfully cultivate peace in every decision that I make and every person that I engage with… ”Peace begins with me.” Do not cower, do not apologize, do not deny yourself your birthright to live in peace and wellness. If they don’t understand your…
Keep readingOn Character:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Character is revealed in how you treat people whose choices are not aligned with our own beliefs and values. One’s beliefs are simply a small piece of their tapestry… We must always appreciate the entire intricacies and richness of the whole cloth. Love and blessings, Wendy
Keep readingSobriety and Reality:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Having so much free time is exhausting. Free time is wonderful when we’re using it to live. But…when there’s an enormous amount of unstructured time during a difficult emotional season, it can reopen a wound for every memory, every what if, every comparison, every loss to bleed once again into the present moment…and feel like death. And this summer break has given me a lot of time…
Keep readingOff Duty:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
You don’t have to stop loving someone in order to stop accommodating the behaviors that are destroying your peace…You don’t have to keep participating in the cycle that leads to a wild goose chase. If you are a follower of my work, you have read the words I write and speak often…”Peace begins with me” My peace is non-negotiable. My peace is my power. And…
Keep reading“Shhhh” Culture:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Move Quietly. Although I am a writer and an author with a following of wonderful souls…I’ve learned that not every move needs to be announced, explained, witnessed, or understood. There is a stunning freedom in stepping out of the need to let others know where you are, what you’re doing, who you are with…or what comes next. Peace comes from reclaiming that privacy. Those who…
Keep readingFreedom Without Fanfare:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Privacy protects my peace. No sharing. No fanfare. No request for validation… Just… Peace. Love and blessings, Wendy
Keep readingCome Wonder With Me:Spiritual Wellness-“Soul Notes” – Love, Wendy
Some of my deepest writing doesn’t begin with me sitting down to write…it begins at 2 or 3 a.m., when I awaken with words and vivid pictures already formed in my mind… A spiritual bolt? Another” awakening”? Or simply the Universe refusing to let me sleep until I pay attention?… Come wonder with me… I’ve been developing a theory of spiritual wellness centered on four…
Keep readingThe Mission-Accomplished:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
I didn’t fall out of love…I began to deeply dislike the person he had become…and perhaps always was… Selfish, deceitful, untrustworthy and arrogant-devoid of integrity… And now…”at last”… he is simply a gentle rain in my soul rather than the wind beneath my wings. The shift from love turning into profound disappointment, and finally settling into quiet indifference—is one of the most profound and quiet…
Keep readingPolitics and Emotional Regulation…Or Lack Thereof – Love, Wendy
It is physically painful and emotionally jarring to observe so many in society devoid of empathy, lacking the emotional intelligence and grace to hear and respect others’ perspectives, and choosing instead to purposefully berate and judge others by becoming combative without provocation. I also read the most evil and hateful comments on social media,…And for this person in particular, I am reminded of what a…
Keep readingSpiritual Wellness:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Spiritual well-being is not necessarily about religion, in fact…it is not the only pathway to spiritual wellness… It is about exploring what it is in our bodies that connects to nature where we honor our own human understanding of connection, consciousness and curiosity with intention, passion and commitment. I hold a certification in Spiritual Wellness…AND… I experience daily a profound sense of connection to what…
Keep readingThe Final Curtain:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
I am that black or white kind of gal…not interested whatsoever in superficial pleasantries or awkward small talk… I have so much to offer…I seek the same energy in return… Others who are genuine, who are not indifferent to my life story and who actually want to “go deeper” in order to strengthen our bond.And of course…vice versa… And I am definitely not called to…
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