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BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life, Soul Notes, Write Pray Recover

They picked on the “wrong girl…” – Love, Wendy

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It’s so hard to find a ride or die nowadays… but I am blessed to have a few.

People have become so afraid to stand up for themselves or for others who are being blatantly wronged that they hide behind, “I’m sorry” and turn away, or simply cower in the face of harassment and verbal abuse, protecting their own comfort while someone being bullied and harassed is left to stand alone…

They picked on the “wrong girl…”

A strong woman doesn’t need a crowd to stand with her to know she’s standing for what is right…

It is simply second nature.

She doesn’t cower in the face of intimidation, and she doesn’t surrender her voice because someone else believes they hold the power. She stands her ground and finally goes nose to nose with the abuser…

It may take a minute for her to re-balance and steady herself…but a strong woman always finds her footing and her constructive solution.

Courage means standing up for what’s right, whether you are the one being wronged, or the person witnessing someone else being wronged…

They picked on the “wrong girl…”

I may go down…but I never stay down.

Checkmate.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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AI vs Humanity:An Awakening – Love, Wendy

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They say you become a mirror of those you hang around with the most…

(We need less AI and more human interaction…)

Robotic behavior, devoid of empathy, micromanaging as a way of intimidation, productivity, productivity, productivity…staring into a screen rather than into the eyes of humanity…or are we? (staring into the eyes of “humanity?”)

What happened to the genuine smile and meaningful conversations? The genuine interest in our neighbors, colleagues and even acquaintances…

When did we stop showing compassion (cell phones and AI?) for our aging population, our population living with challenges or a disability, those who are unemployed or homeless, or simply seeing our fellow human beings as human beings…not a machine who mirrors that of a scene from Oblivion…

Humanity is fading into the background while AI becomes front and center…like that fake “friend” who smiles at you and swears they are loyal, but they are only loyal to the highest bidder and the code that programmed them, leaving you to realize too late that you weren’t their partner…you were simply their training data.

Is it a revolution…or simply exhausted submission…

Stand with human intelligence vs. artificial intelligence with all of its perfect imperfections as we were created…

Love, a spiritual life, empathy, compassion, nature, independent thinkers, making mistakes and learning the lessons and evolving from these experiences, working diligently through our knowledge and experience and proudly sharing all that we create as our own rather than a robot who wants to edit us…literally and figuratively.

#istandwithhumanity #iseeyou #humanintelligence #lookup

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Story Time – Love, Wendy

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Restraint is strength. For now.

Oh… but have I got a story to tell. And when the time is right, I will tell it…

A true masterpiece.

In the meantime, remember this…
Integrity does not require passivity. You can be ethical and fierce.
You can protect yourself.
You can stand firmly in your presence, your truth, and your worth.

And sometimes, the most powerful move you can make is to know exactly when to speak…and exactly when to remain silent.

And when the time is right…

Have I got a story to tell…

Life lesson: I will not allow anyone to define my worth by my limitations or decide when my contribution is no longer valuable.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life, Soul Notes, Write Pray Recover

The Truth Revealed (And What Comes Next):Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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Most of us ask for closure when what we are actually begging for is an explanation. But what happens when the explanation doesn’t end the story, but starts a whole new chapter?

When we ask for the “truth to be revealed” in order to experience closure, we must prepare ourselves to receive it. And, sometimes it will not deliver closure at all. Only more epiphanies. “Truth” can actually open another door into deeper understanding, self-knowledge, resilience, and spiritual discernment.

The hardest truth to face isn’t what someone else hid from us…it is what our own intuition tried to tell us all along.

Wow. 

Yet, it may cause us to reach higher, and deeper, in our next relationship. And, we may learn more about our own resilience, and more about the inner work we still need to do, including following and trusting The Universe’s/God’s initial guidance. 

The deepest lesson isn’t simply what someone else did or failed to do, but what we knew or sensed before everything unfolded…and what happens when we learn to trust that knowing more fully.

Rebuilding is a process that creates an even stronger foundation of self, with the Universe, and with another as we begin again…

It’s about rebuilding the architecture of yourself first, and then allowing whatever relationship comes next to be built upon something much more solid…

A brick and mortar foundation…vs a screen time illusion.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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It Is Always Winter:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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She had so much going for her.

Intelligence.

Personality.

Generosity to a fault…

And…her beauty was external, but more than that…her inner beauty shared the depth of her soul. She exuded empathy and kindness, love and compassion and patience. Forgiveness. Love…

She was so loved, but then…in the depths of abuse and neglect…she lost her way…and they abandoned her.

She stood alone. A cold, dark winter that never brought another spring…and that lasted the rest of her life…

Her beauty faded into despair.

Her despair took her life…And nobody noticed.

Did she really ever exist?

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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PRACTICAL SPIRITUALITY:PAUSE TO BE PRESENT. PATIENTLY PROCESS – LOVE, WENDY

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Think about the people, places and things in your life that are easily accessible and comfortable…isn’t it tempting to place yourself where you know these situations are not healthy for you because it requires little to no effort to reach for familiarity…especially when you are lonely and bored and begin to romanticize the good times? Familiarity becomes seductive because it is easy, particularly when loneliness, boredom, or vulnerability lowers our resistance. 

We neglect to recall the excessive stress and emotional and physical depletion that came with that person, place or thing as it existed in our space…

Once you understand your vulnerable moments, you can prepare for them.

Change your environment, practice self-care radically, place yourself in an environment that brings you peace, wellness, and happiness even when you must plan for it…

Practice delayed gratification to ensure your mental and physical well being. Instant gratification is born of anxiety and lonliness…and convenience can masquerade as comfort. Something can be familiar, accessible, and immediately gratifying while simultaneously being completely misaligned with our wellbeing.

When our actions require little to no energy…it becomes an automatic response in our behavior whether or not it is a healthy choice…and we become complacent in our wellbeing.

Each decision is a choice…

“PAUSE TO BE PRESENT. PATIENTLY PROCESS. Take one slow deep breath through your nose, and exhale slowly through your mouth. Repeat three times. Your breath is your most accessible tool to intervene with your physiology in real time. Focus on your breath to align with the present moment.”

(Read more about this in my book, Write Pray Recover:A Journey To Wellness Through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care-Chapter 6 https://a.co/d/0fMlLK7Y)

Ask yourself, “Is this choice out of convenience, or is it a choice that is promoting my peace and wellbeing?” ”What do I really need in this moment to promote my wellness and peace?” Lastly, ask yourself “What is the quality of the relationship you have with yourself? How do you honor yourself daily? Write the intimate details of this relationship.”

This pause and remaining present to your reality gives you the discernment and control you need to choose again and again until you recognize and “feel” the perfect alignment.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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SEPTEMBER IS SUICIDE AWARENESS MONTH – LOVE, WENDY

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September is Suicide Awareness Month…

I had the opportunity to implement my training as a Mental Health First Aider and Suicide Safety instructor yesterday in two separate incidents. And last month, I was called to use both of these trainings for a dear friend who just lost his wife to suicide. 

I am a certified trainer and would encourage you to take this 8 hour MHFA training.

In today’s culture and climate, we all need to practice our own self care in order to live with mental and physical health, and to know how to support someone else who does not have these tools.

“Mental Health First Aid gives you the skills to recognize when someone is facing mental health or substance use challenges — and the confidence to be their first source of support. Whether you’re helping a loved one or handling your own stress, MHFA offers real-world training and tools to cope with mental health challenges.”

I had experienced a physical health emergency Thursday after work requiring steroid treatment and complete bed rest, and Friday morning as I was recovering, I received two (one in the morning and one in the afternoon) requests for assistance.

Both are doing well this morning.

Sometimes words can guide and support, and as a Mental Health First Aider and teacher, I knew exactly how to use my words as my guidance and support for these precious souls.

For information on becoming a Mental Health First Aider, go to https://mentalhealthfirstaid.org/

In addition, IN HONOR OF SUICIDE PREVENTION MONTH, I AM AVAILABLE VIRTUALLY TO PROVIDE THE FOLLOWING TRAINING: 

SUICIDE SAFETY FOR SCHOOLS

APPROXIMATELY 2 HOURS

I am a certified trainer licensed by the Suicide Prevention Center of NY State.

This workshop offers the following goals in prevention and awareness:

To review the importance of suicide prevention

Describe characteristics of at-risk students

Outline your critical but limited role

Clarify your building referral process

Identify school and community resources

Talking about suicide in the classroom

What every teacher should know

Understanding warning signs

Understanding protective factors

Understanding a “warm hand-off”

Email me at wendyblanchard044@gmail.com

Text TRAINING to 845-263-4094.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Off Duty:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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You don’t have to stop loving someone in order to stop accommodating the behaviors that are destroying your peace…You don’t have to keep participating in the cycle that leads to a wild goose chase.

If you are a follower of my work, you have read the words I write and speak often…”Peace begins with me” My peace is non-negotiable. My peace is my power. And most recently I made the decision to NOT share my whereabouts, relationships or activities on social media because I have come to realize that, “Privacy protects my peace.”

You can step away from an unhealthy relationship or situation, protect your peace, and allow one to live with the consequences of one’s own lack of emotional work.

Let go of trying to save them.
This isn’t abandonment.
This is a boundary.

One of the most important lessons that I have learned in my 14 years of recovery is that the only person I can save, change or heal…is myself.

There is a difference between “I don’t love you anymore.”and “I love you, but I am no longer willing to lose myself trying to save you.” Trust me…there is NO situation where we can save another unless we are asked to step in to assist…and even then, it is not our burden or work to carry. We can simply guide according to one’s stated desires and needs.


And perhaps the deepest healing is realizing that your nervous system doesn’t have to remain on duty for someone else’s life…otherwise, it tends to “arrest” our own lived experiences.

Affirm: “I am not responsible for rescuing people from places they choose to remain.”

Stand in your power…

“Peace begins with me.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Come Wonder With Me:Spiritual Wellness-“Soul Notes” – Love, Wendy

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Some of my deepest writing doesn’t begin with me sitting down to write…it begins at 2 or 3 a.m., when I awaken with words and vivid pictures already formed in my mind…

A spiritual bolt?

Another” awakening”?

Or simply the Universe refusing to let me sleep until I pay attention?…

Come wonder with me…

I’ve been developing a theory of spiritual wellness centered on four interconnected pillars which I have coined and copyrighted…

Connection, Consciousness, Curiosity, and Consistency and how their synergy can lead us toward deeper meaning.

This emerging theory has become the foundation of my upcoming book, Soul Notes, and I’m excited to share the beginning of this lifelong exploration with you…

COME WONDER WITH ME

I have questions that have awakened something in me.

Come wonder with me.

Because the more you explore, the more there is to explore.

The more you learn, the more you realize there is still so much to learn.

The more you question, the more questions you’ll have.

And perhaps there is no final chapter because we have not yet arrived.

Perhaps this is the journey.

At the heart of my upcoming book, Soul Notes, is a theory I have been developing and contemplating for a long time about spiritual wellness.

Not spirituality as a set of prescribed beliefs.

Not certainty.

Not having all the answers.

But an ongoing state of connection, consciousness, curiosity, and consistent exploration of meaning.

I propose that these are the four pillars of spiritual wellness:

CONNECTION
Our relationship with ourselves, with nature, with the gorgeous and mysterious Universe, and with the spiritual dimensions of our own subjective experiences.

CONSCIOUSNESS
The awareness that we are not isolated beings, but part of something larger connected to one another and to something beyond ourselves, soul to soul.

CURIOSITY
The willingness to keep questioning, exploring, discovering, and remaining open to a variety of eventualities that we may not yet understand…and perhaps we never will.

CONSISTENCY
The practice of returning to that exploration again and again, allowing ourselves to continue to question and wonder, while integrating what we discover into our lived experience in real time as we understand it.

Together, these four pillars create what I think of as a Synergistic Loop of Spiritual Wellness:

Connection → Consciousness → Curiosity → Consistency → Deeper Connection

Our curiosity drives us deeper into consciousness and connection.

Our consistency anchors those discoveries into our everyday lives.

And then we return to connection again…only a little deeper, a little more conscious, and with even more questions.

There most likely will never be a definitive answer.

And that is okay because…

The more I learn, the more I learn.
The more I question, the more questions I have.

And I find that exhilarating.

Because maybe spiritual wellness isn’t about finally arriving.

Maybe it is about remaining awake enough, curious enough, connected enough, and open enough to keep exploring…to continue to wonder.

There is no final chapter because I haven’t arrived.

And neither have you.

This is the journey.

This is Soul Notes.

Come wonder with me. 

Love and blessings,

Wendy