It only takes one small cloud to block the sun.
It takes only one unkind word to break a spirit.
One smile can heal a heavy heart…
“One is the loneliest number that you’ve ever known.” (Three Dog Night)
“It Takes Two” Marvin Gaye & Kim Weston
Bring the sunshine. Speak with kindness. Share your smile.
Sing a different tune…
Be that one.
Love and blessings,
Wendy
Think about the people, places and things in your life that are easily accessible and comfortable…isn’t it tempting to place yourself where you know these situations are not healthy for you because it requires little to no effort to reach for familiarity…especially when you are lonely and bored and begin to romanticize the good times? Familiarity becomes seductive because it is easy, particularly when loneliness, boredom, or vulnerability lowers our resistance.Â
We neglect to recall the excessive stress and emotional and physical depletion that came with that person, place or thing as it existed in our space…
Once you understand your vulnerable moments, you can prepare for them.
Change your environment, practice self-care radically, place yourself in an environment that brings you peace, wellness, and happiness even when you must plan for it…
Practice delayed gratification to ensure your mental and physical well being. Instant gratification is born of anxiety and lonliness…and convenience can masquerade as comfort. Something can be familiar, accessible, and immediately gratifying while simultaneously being completely misaligned with our wellbeing.
When our actions require little to no energy…it becomes an automatic response in our behavior whether or not it is a healthy choice…and we become complacent in our wellbeing.
Each decision is a choice…
“PAUSE TO BE PRESENT. PATIENTLY PROCESS. Take one slow deep breath through your nose, and exhale slowly through your mouth. Repeat three times. Your breath is your most accessible tool to intervene with your physiology in real time. Focus on your breath to align with the present moment.”
(Read more about this in my book, Write Pray Recover:A Journey To Wellness Through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care-Chapter 6 https://a.co/d/0fMlLK7Y)
Ask yourself, “Is this choice out of convenience, or is it a choice that is promoting my peace and wellbeing?” ”What do I really need in this moment to promote my wellness and peace?” Lastly, ask yourself “What is the quality of the relationship you have with yourself? How do you honor yourself daily? Write the intimate details of this relationship.”
This pause and remaining present to your reality gives you the discernment and control you need to choose again and again until you recognize and “feel” the perfect alignment.
Love and blessings,
Wendy
Although I am a writer and an author with a following of wonderful souls…I’ve learned that not every move needs to be announced, explained, witnessed, or understood.
There is a stunning freedom in stepping out of the need to let others know where you are, what you’re doing, who you are with…or what comes next.
Peace comes from reclaiming that privacy.
Those who are walking beside me in real time will share the view. I no longer desire anyone observing my life from the sidelines.
I can simply live it.
Soft. Confident. Intentional. And just a little mysterious. 🤫✨
Love and blessings,
Wendy
Some of my deepest writing doesn’t begin with me sitting down to write…it begins at 2 or 3 a.m., when I awaken with words and vivid pictures already formed in my mind…
A spiritual bolt?
Another” awakening”?
Or simply the Universe refusing to let me sleep until I pay attention?…
Come wonder with me…
I’ve been developing a theory of spiritual wellness centered on four interconnected pillars which I have coined and copyrighted…
Connection, Consciousness, Curiosity, and Consistency and how their synergy can lead us toward deeper meaning.
This emerging theory has become the foundation of my upcoming book, Soul Notes, and I’m excited to share the beginning of this lifelong exploration with you…
I have questions that have awakened something in me.
Come wonder with me.
Because the more you explore, the more there is to explore.
The more you learn, the more you realize there is still so much to learn.
The more you question, the more questions you’ll have.
And perhaps there is no final chapter because we have not yet arrived.
Perhaps this is the journey.
At the heart of my upcoming book, Soul Notes, is a theory I have been developing and contemplating for a long time about spiritual wellness.
Not spirituality as a set of prescribed beliefs.
Not certainty.
Not having all the answers.
But an ongoing state of connection, consciousness, curiosity, and consistent exploration of meaning.
I propose that these are the four pillars of spiritual wellness:
CONNECTION
Our relationship with ourselves, with nature, with the gorgeous and mysterious Universe, and with the spiritual dimensions of our own subjective experiences.
CONSCIOUSNESS
The awareness that we are not isolated beings, but part of something larger connected to one another and to something beyond ourselves, soul to soul.
CURIOSITY
The willingness to keep questioning, exploring, discovering, and remaining open to a variety of eventualities that we may not yet understand…and perhaps we never will.
CONSISTENCY
The practice of returning to that exploration again and again, allowing ourselves to continue to question and wonder, while integrating what we discover into our lived experience in real time as we understand it.
Together, these four pillars create what I think of as a Synergistic Loop of Spiritual Wellness:
Connection → Consciousness → Curiosity → Consistency → Deeper Connection
Our curiosity drives us deeper into consciousness and connection.
Our consistency anchors those discoveries into our everyday lives.
And then we return to connection again…only a little deeper, a little more conscious, and with even more questions.
There most likely will never be a definitive answer.
And that is okay because…
The more I learn, the more I learn.
The more I question, the more questions I have.
And I find that exhilarating.
Because maybe spiritual wellness isn’t about finally arriving.
Maybe it is about remaining awake enough, curious enough, connected enough, and open enough to keep exploring…to continue to wonder.
There is no final chapter because I haven’t arrived.
And neither have you.
This is the journey.
This is Soul Notes.
Come wonder with me.Â
Love and blessings,
Wendy
I didn’t fall out of love…I began to deeply dislike the person he had become…and perhaps always was…
Selfish, deceitful, untrustworthy and arrogant-devoid of integrity…
And now…”at last”… he is simply a gentle rain in my soul rather than the wind beneath my wings.
The shift from love turning into profound disappointment, and finally settling into quiet indifference—is one of the most profound and quiet victories of the human spirit…and for me…long overedue.
The “wind beneath your wings” implies dependence…it’s a force you rely on to keep you “high”, but one that can easily turn into a destructive storm where you do not land on your feet…but face down in the gutter…He no longer has the power of the wind. He isn’t carrying me, knocking me over, or determining my direction.
A “gentle rain,” however, doesn’t demand anything from you. It simply falls, washes over the landscape of your memory, and nourishes the ground so that you stand rooted in your beauty and in your truth…and is primed for whatever you choose to plant next.
It recognizes that he was a season in my life, and no longer part of my landscape.
To watch someone transform into a person you can no longer respect…and to honor your own growth enough to walk away from that dynamic…is a deep act of self-love, spiritual maturity and emotional intelligence.
I did not compromise my heart…I allowed the storm to pass until only the soft, peaceful rain remained…marking the quiet beginning of my inner peace…my wellness…MY way…
Walking in the rain…on my own two feet.
The mission…
Accomplished.
Love and blessings,
Wendy
Spiritual well-being is not necessarily about religion, in fact…it is not the only pathway to spiritual wellness…
It is about exploring what it is in our bodies that connects to nature where we honor our own human understanding of connection, consciousness and curiosity with intention, passion and commitment.
I hold a certification in Spiritual Wellness…AND… I experience daily a profound sense of connection to what I am certain is a loving, guiding “force” that is “supernatural” in nature.
There is a difference between believing something because you have been taught, and experiencing something and making meaning from that experience where you strengthen your spiritual roots.
My certification gives me a professional framework for understanding spiritual wellness, while my personal spiritual experiences give that framework a very intimate dimension.
Love and blessings,
Wendy
If you can meet me at my spiritual frequency…I will meet you on the dance floor.
Love and blessings,
Wendy
I observe three languages in today’s culture: love, hate, and indifference.
Indifference is often overlooked. Most people think the opposite of love is hate, but in many relationships, indifference can feel even more painful.
Hate still implies emotional investment…indifference communicates, “You no longer matter to me.”
Love often seems conditional. It is freely offered when there is agreement, admiration, or usefulness…yet quickly withdrawn when conflict, disappointment, or differing opinions arise.
Love seeks to understand.
Hate seeks to conquer.
Indifference simply walks away.
Our challenge is not merely to speak the language of love when it is easy, but to remain fluent in it when relationships become complicated, opinions differ, and disappointment enters the room. That is where the deepest measure of our humanity is found.
Increasingly, I notice how difficult it has become for many people to tolerate discomfort. A differing opinion often triggers a knee-jerk reaction rather than thoughtful reflection. One’s “version” of the “truth” can hold them hostage, leaving little room for integrity, transparency, or love. Instead, they “perform” indifference, living alone in fear with their “truth” rather than choosing honesty, vulnerability, and connection.
Love requires emotional maturity. It asks us to self-regulate, remain curious, and stay present even when we disagree.
Hate reacts.
Indifference withdraws.
Love chooses connection.
Too often, I see people unable—or perhaps unwilling—to pause long enough to choose love over reaction.
I invite you to develop the emotional capacity to disagree without dehumanizing one another. In a world increasingly divided by reaction, choosing love is one of the most courageous acts of our humanity.
We hold peace in our hands…
It is spelled L-O-V-E.
Love and blessings,
Wendy
The rarest kind of closeness is feeling safe in someone’s presence… a touch, a look, or a quiet moment speaks louder than words…
The kind of connection where silence itself becomes unspoken communication that is soul-deep and intuitive.
It is someone walking beside you, or perhaps the memory of someone whose presence you still recognize. It is the quiet rhythm of two lives moving in harmony… trust built over time, one step at a time, and the footprints people leave on our hearts long after they’re gone…
For me, a once in a lifetime experience.
Love and blessings,
Wendy
Listening has become a lost art. Nothing reveals character faster than a conversation.
People often mistake talking for connecting. They aren’t the same. Real connection is built in the pauses…in the questions…in the genuine curiosity to understand another person’s inner world without rushing to tell your own story…to exercise empathy, and to cultivate true meaning between two people who are exploring each other…
The fastest way to make someone feel invisible is to interrupt the story they’re trying to tell…Be mindful that being heard is one of the purest forms of connecting…and eventually…being loved…
The questions we ask reveal far more about our character than the stories we tell…
As in the “eye of the tiger,” I am observing it all…
I’ve learned to observe less what a man says about himself and more how genuinely curious he is about my inner world.
Your intuition often speaks loudest while someone else is talking.
Curiosity is one of love’s earliest expressions.
Shhhhh…Ask. Listen. Respond.
Love and blessings,
Wendy
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