BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life

MINDSET AND HUMILITY – LOVE, WENDY

“A victim mindset saturated in negativity and a “woe is me,” mindset, coupled with aligning oneself with a whole virtual community who are also playing the victim, will never provide one with any solutions. When you choose a positive mindset, and live aligned with like minded people, you discover solutions that you had never even thought of on your own!

In these unprecedented times, we need each other, and I find so much encouragement, and solutions that I had never thought of, as well as offering solutions to others in my chosen community of go getters, positivity providers, wellness junkies of body, mind and spirit, and people offering to be of service to those less fortunate, myself included.

If you know me personally, you know I will do everything I can for those I love, and I have been helping people I don’t know…because when I was near destitution, others helped me, and I want to pay it forward in deep gratitude. It makes me feel angry when I hear someone say and convince themselves that they are not going to survive…most especially when from a distance, I already see small solutions.

It’s not a matter of luck, it’s a matter of being resourceful, of taking action, of one’s mindset and being humble, as well as getting up to work at finding solutions as if it were your full time job. You’ll never find the answers in a virtual group setting with those whom are doing nothing but complaining and talking about their woes, all the live long day.

I have seen men and women over 60 working in our local markets as cashiers, or gathering shopping carts. I have seen them working in a variety of positions in our community and there are “Hiring” signs in many of our local establishments. People are working for minimum-wage because they need that pocket money, and something is better than nothing. In addition, they need to be out of the house where they can be with other people, social distancing, to stay in good mental health which is directly correlated to our physical health. Connection is how the human condition thrives!

We have to take precautions to protect our health, and do whatever it takes, including asking for help from those who may be able to do so.

Humility…

In these most challenging times, we have to humble ourselves. We must re-evaluate our circumstances, and we must begin by taking baby steps toward creating change for ourselves. “Nothing changes if nothing changes…”

Remember “God helps those who help themselves.“

Faith, diligence, resilience, mindset, actions, humility.

Baby steps…

I’m not saying it’s easy, of course it’s extremely challenging! Align yourself with doers and those who are willing and able to brainstorm with you. You may just find a solution. And never, ever give up!

When we choose a wellness mindset, we completely stand in our power! Here is where we find the answers…

We truly are all in this together.”

Love, Wendy

BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life

2020…WHAT A YEAR – LOVE, WENDY

2020…What a year…

As I reflect on this year as it comes to an end, I observe the losses and the blessings of 2020. It has felt like a drive by…

I lost my mother in March right on the heels of a global pandemic…isolated and having a memorial via Zoom…two traumatic experiences. I am still processing my mother’s death and the deeply sad circumstances of her death. I allow myself small increments of time to process, and to adjust through healthy practices that are necessary for me to heal.

I found closure in a relationship that I had prayed would work out, but did not, and as is the Universe’s style, it worked out exactly as it was supposed to offering me that final sense of closure that I needed. I have learned so much about myself from this experience, and have grown exponentially. I wouldn’t change a thing. Today would have been our 6 year anniversary. I wish him well always.

My son, Matthew and I, have grown even closer through this Pandemic experience initially spending quality time once a week outdoors, and most recently after his move, daily texts and FaceTime once a week for an hour. We share our love of books and music, food and writing, politics and COVID concerns, and everything in between. This is my greatest blessing of 2020.

My ex husband, Alan and I, have grown our friendship, and we will become grandparents in May, 2021 as our daughter, Olivia, is expecting a baby girl. We are excited and so grateful to be able to enjoy this experience together.

Alan and I have worked through some deep wounds, and we cherish this friendship. We have done the work as adults do when there is a common goal and where both people are willing to do the work. No excuses, and no hiding from the difficult or challenging conversations. We learned to listen non-judgementally and to offer empathy and compassion as we worked through each conversation. We are always family.

My health has been challenging this year, but with my deep faith, self care and so much support from my children and friends, and doctors, I am doing well. I am proud of myself for staying the course in my treatment plan as I choose to heal. And my son, Matthew and one of my closest friends, David, have been my biggest supporters, along with my closest friend of 30 years, Miriam, and Bill and Vicky, best friends of 41 years. David said to me yesterday, “I’m proud of you.” He knows the ordeal I have been through with my health, yet always remaining positive and connected to my faith. We speak on the phone once a week, and text all throughout the week staying connected.

It is the loving connections that keep me grounded, feeling loved, and gives me the encouragement and strength to never give up. It is the consistency of these relationships that remind me that I am loved and cared about and that which adds to my wellness. Yes…consistency.

I have also been blessed with a career that I love in mental health and wellness as a coach and educator. I work with school districts and organizations as a consultant, and work privately with clients in my practice. It’s a slow but steady process of growing my business.

My greatest lesson this year is the realization of my inner strength and resolve, and how independent and healthy I have become after a lifetime of dependency on stimulants to numb out the trauma, and in unhealthy, co- dependent relationships. I have been forced out of my comfort zone, compliments of the Universe, and then left to find healthy solutions on my own to situations that just eight years ago would have had me reaching for pills to self medicate and numb out. And at times, engaging in suicidal behavior.

Of course, I am never truly alone as Spirit is always present and guiding me.

As I continue to evolve, I am grateful to have a platform to share my experiences in recovery and in wellness in the hopes of offering someone else tools for achieving wellness through spiritual solutions and self care.

Life is always reminding me of challenging times, and of blessings, and that it is all about how we choose to respond to each situation that builds our resilience and humility.

I am grateful for it all. I would not change anything. I have learned so much. I am richer for each experience.

May 2021 bless us with wellness, peace, joy, abundance and lots and lots of love.

Happy New Year.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life

TIME IS TIMELESS – LOVE, WENDY

“Whatever you give to a “relationship/friendship” is exactly what you will earn in return.

Time spent together, is in my opinion, the most loving and meaningful gift one can bestow upon us.

Time is priceless.

Time is precious.

Time is timeless.

Those who are in my closest circle never forget that time is all that I ask in our connection, and they always deliver…

And, they’ve earned my time in return.

We invest in each other through spending time, which is part of our respective self care and that which nourishes our soul…albeit mostly through virtual and social distancing. Time together says, “I love you…You matter to me. Our connection is always a priority.”

Gifts that are purchased are a beautiful token, but time is eternal and lives on in the heart, and breathes life into the soul.”

Love, Wendy

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SEEK SPIRITUAL SOLUTIONS – LOVE, WENDY

“The first 50 plus years of my life was spent praying for safety, love and validation. As a young child, as a young adult, and through my middle aged years…I prayed.

I experienced a spiritual awakening years ago in my 50s, and I continue to shed the toxic, heavy layers of a tumultuous childhood and young adulthood, and even into my mid 50s, that had become deeply ingrained in every muscle, joint, and bone in my body, promoting inflammation on a cellular level. I continue to transform and reawaken often on my journey where I provide for myself all that I had never received from others. My heightened level of self awareness and deep soul work is ongoing, and I continue to evolve as I let go of each unhealthy belief and behavior to create a new healthy lifestyle.
I experience an ongoing cell rebirth through spiritual solutions and self care. My journey is Divinely structured and guided where all of the love, safety and validation I seek is found within where I am lovingly connected to Spirit.

The Divine lesson is that when God is at the center of our lives, we need look no further. We are filled with blessings of abundance in all that we need, desire and deserve.”

Love, Wendy

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DIVINE GIFT – LOVE, WENDY

The most meaningful Christmas gift this year, Divinely created, is after months, weeks and days in deep prayer and meditation as I sought clarity, is awakening on Christmas morning in the most peaceful place I have been in quite sometime. What a year…

I have realized that I am happy and joyous on my own this Christmas Day, and I no longer desire what I once thought I wanted.

The pain of a past life is all but a distant memory. Closure…

I begin this new year with renewed hope and wellness.

Freedom…

The best gifts in life are free.”

Merry Christmas!

Love and blessings,

Wendy

BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life

I TAKE BACK MY POWER – LOVE, WENDY

The greatest challenge I face is standing in my faith as I experience the torture of chronic pain invading my body.

And at the moment I begin to cry, I remind myself that my thoughts create my reality. I cannot allow myself to think negatively where I may further fuel this autoimmune disease.

I stop. I breathe. I rest. I will not allow fear to take over my mindset. I am stronger than the Lupus traveling within my body. Immediately, I begin to utilize my smorgasbord of healthy practices that completely nourishes my body, mind and spirit. I use visualization to see my desired outcome of wellness. I will arrive there my way…using natural and organic solutions. I remind myself again that given the chance, the body will heal itself. All I need do is listen for what it needs…and breathe…Mindful breathing as I visualize this foreign invader exiting my body. And my pain exits along with this disease.

As my body speaks to me, I understand what it needs to heal…Love, rest, water, healthy foods, connection to loved ones, positive thoughts and visualizations, and my deep connection to Spirit.

I pray. I meditate. I am certain of my outcome.

Wellness.

You see, I choose to be well. And as the late Wayne Dyer, psychologist and author of over 20 books states, “ it’s been proven that the thoughts we choose have everything to do with our emotions. I can tell you that a commitment to feeling good can take away a stomach ache, fear, depression, sadness, anxiety…you name it. Any stress signal is a way of alerting you to say the five magic words: I want to feel good. This is your intention to be tranquil (well) and stress-free and it’s a way of connecting to spirit.”

It feels so good to feel good. And it’s up to me to lead myself out of fear, out of pain, and into wellness…body, mind and spirit. I take back my power. And sometimes I need to take back my power often during the day, as I experience fear. And, I am always ahead of this visitor, and I show it the door.

Pain is a mindset. Wellness is a choice.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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HAPPY HOLIDAYS, DEAR READERS! – LOVE, WENDY

Dear Readers,

Thank you for your interest in my work, thoughts and ideas. I am truly grateful to you for following me, for your likes and comments, and loving support.

Sharing my journey of WELLNESS RECOVERY THROUGH SPIRITUAL SOLUTIONS AND SELF CARE is my honor and passion, with the intention of serving others, and I look forward to connecting with you throughout the new year!

Wishing you and your family a safe, healthy and blessed holiday season and 2021!

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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LOVE IS THE ANTIDOTE – LOVE, WENDY

As I observe hate and unkind words, I send a blessing of love as I recognize that this is a response of one who feels unloved, unworthy and insignificant. We can only give away what we ourselves have.

As for me, I am filled with love, and always give it away, especially in the face of fear, judgement, and hate. Love is the antidote.

As in the prayer of Saint Francis of Assisi, “Where there is hatred, let me sow love.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life

DRIVING WITH SPIRIT – LOVE, WENDY

If you are running into a brick wall on a dead end street at each and every corner, you are out of alignment with Spirit.

This is Spirit’s guidance lovingly re-directing you to an open highway filled with endless possibilities that will align with your passion, your purpose and an abundance of blessings.

Listen…Reset…Realign…Stand deeply in your faith…

The road is wide open where we allow Spirit to drive this thing.”

Love, Wendy

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PAIN IS A MINDSET – LOVE, WENDY

I continue to believe that my fight against active Lupus will make me even stronger.

I continue to believe that part of my unbearable pain is my purpose.

I continue to believe that my immobility is my body’s message to let go, slow down, and to rest.

I continue to believe that this will come to pass as it has before, and my strength, determination, faith and self care will provide me with wellness once again, and that I will be given a Divine opportunity to help someone else to fight with grace against an autoimmune disease that is as stubborn as I.

Pain, indescribable pain, can be the purpose in, and of itself, where we use our mindset over the matter of disease.

Prayers are also welcome.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

#strongerthanlupus