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A CONSCIOUS COUPLE – LOVE, WENDY

”It takes TWO complete souls to become ONE in a relationship. We do not look for someone to “fix” us. Completeness and willingness to love, and to be loved, are steered by the heart. When we feel the urge to “fix“ another this is the mindset steered by the ego.

A conscious couple arrives in two complete souls, ready to enhance the others life, makes them a priority, and practices complete acceptance of the other as a whole.

A conscious couple intuitively makes love in more than the physical sense. Their intimacy is spiritual, and is deeply experienced energetically through the heart that connects them to the deepest part of the self. This intimacy of a spiritual and emotional connection is Divinely guided.

The conscious couple always defends the honor and integrity of this union.”

Love, Wendy

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EXCERPT: WRITE PRAY RECOVER:A JOURNEY TO WELLNESS THROUGH SPIRITUAL SOLUTIONS AND SELF CARE – WENDY BLANCHARD, M.S., CHHC, CPS

“Jesus take the wheel, take it from my hand, I can’t do this on my own, I’m letting go…” The words to the song that was the first to play on my radio after I prayed for God to save my life on April 2, 2013 at the age of 54. Living with lifelong Substance Use Disorder and with personal trauma stacked in my past, I was positioned in life for relapses and overdosing. At one point, I was taking over 2000 prescription pills a month. In my darkest hour, a family member told me I was a burden to my children and talked me into killing myself. In the moment before I acted, I pictured my children standing around my coffin and I prayed for a different way out. Eight years later, I am a Certified Holistic Health Counselor, Recovery Specialist, Certified Mental Health Educator, advocate, and Keynote speaker on recovery, self-care, wellness, and awareness. 
Through self-care and spirituality, I found my daily journey leading me to wellness of mind, body, and spirit. Throughout my teaching and working with clients, I share these tools with others who are recovering from substance use disorders, mental health disorders, and trauma. I support and guide them through their own journey. Write Pray Recover: A Journey to Wellness through Spiritual Solutions and Self-Care is to bring that same audience to wellness. “Self care is the actions that we take to achieve wellness, and wellness is where we stand in our power.” The 36,000 word manuscript is part memoir and part recovery journal for the reader. I walk the reader through my experiences discovering and implementing tools of fearlessness, boundaries, self-care, meditation, prayer, awareness, surrender, and strength-building. Work pages with prompts allow readers to begin using my experiences to form their own path to wellness. Every recovery journey is different and Write Pray Recover is about identifying one’s own needs to make that journey as successful, sustainable, and fulfilling as it can be.
I delivered the Keynote speech on my Wellness Approach to Recovery program at the Chris Ashman Wellness and Recovery Conference in December, 2018, to 500 people, to rave reviews. In addition, I am one of the creators, along with 6 other professionals from the Mental Health Association of NYS of the Mental Health and Wellness 101 training which we created to support the newly passed (2018) Mental Health Education Law in NYS. Further, I am the sole creator of the newly developed and very popular Mental Health and Wellness Literacy Professional Development which I have been providing to educators, administrators and support staff in the surrounding school districts in Rockland and Orange County, NY.
In my first year of recovery, which began on April 3, 2013, my story as it stood then, was published in the book, “Living Passionately: 21 People Who Found Their Purpose – and How You Can Too!” My blog articles were purchased and published in an online recovery magazine called www.recoveryconnection.com.
I am eager and excited to share my journey since that time offering solutions and suggestions to a life where one can thrive post addiction and mental health disorders through spiritual solutions and self care!

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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HUGGING THE UNIVERSE – LOVE, WENDY

“Each day as more is revealed, I raise my hands and open my arms to hug the Universe in deep gratitude for saving me from a near certain demise in my years with a toxic partner.

God always steps in where he is invited. When we ask for clarity and guidance to align us with our most meaningful relationships that enrich our lives, God always gets involved.

God will never barge in…but He happily enters upon invitation.

Pray for your highest level of alignment with another soul. No conditions or attachments to outcomes.

Here is where unshakable faith prevails.”

Love, Wendy

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“ZOOMOLIDAYS”:THE NEW NORMAL – LOVE, WENDY

We are all experiencing such adversity and challenge and we worry constantly about how this is affecting our children no matter how old they are. There has been so much loss this year on so many different levels. Loss of life, loss of job, loss of home, the ability to buy food to eat, loss of security and feelings of safety, loss of contact in the way that the human condition thrives, and many of us wake up each day wondering “how does this end?“ And this year due to COVID, no Thanksgiving, no Hanukkah or Christmas in person. It’s a “ZOOMOLIDAY.”
I worry about my adult children in the different challenging situations that they are facing. I worry about my 12 year old granddaughter, Rosie, and wonder what emotional and physical challenges may manifest in the future related to the pandemic. I worry about my pregnant daughter, Olivia, who is a school counselor and COVID cases that are in her school, and her baby, my future granddaughter’s health, my daughter, Sarah, who is feeling deeply saddened by a broken relationship and the social distancing from our family and friends where hugs and connection are healing and that which she craves and longs for, especially now, and my beloved son, Matthew, who moved last week and placed us further away in proximity, and that is heartbreaking for both of us. I visited him and spent quality time with him every week. I am already crying as even more distance now prevails.

I worry. I cry. I pray. I meditate. I practice self care. And each day I get up, show up, stay connected to my loving family, friends, colleagues, and clients, and go to work. I live my life believing that God is in control and that these experiences are planned for us for reasons known only to Him. I trust Him. I have great faith that one day, in the coming years that we will all be reunited and truly appreciate all of what we have been blessed with…family.

Happy Thanksgiving however you are celebrating.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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I AM NEVER ALONE – LOVE, WENDY

“In the midst of chaos, I am faced with escalating adversity, and on days like yesterday, I feel that all of my strength and resolve are tapped out…

Therefore…I tap inwards…

I retreat… I go within where I connect to Spirit where I seek loving support and guidance.

I cry and allow myself to feel my emotions. I still grieve my losses of 2020. I ask for strength to meet myself where I am, and to know that it is the absolute perfect place for me to stand. I offer myself permission to feel.

I practice extra loving self care. I eat a healthy home cooked meal. I stay hydrated. I pray and I meditate. I take a brisk walk. I connect to nature and to my music. I connect to my two dearest friends for support, and they remind me that I am loved. I use my tools. I hear Spirit offer me the guidance that I seek. “Rest, realign, rest even more. You are never alone. You are supported, and you are well.”

I remain still, and I listen. I am calm in the presence of Spirit.

These are the components of my daily self care practices that are now my lifestyle. I practice, and I heal. I move forward.

Feeling promotes healing.

I remind myself that I have a very impressionable audience that I choose to be an example for. My children, my grandchildren, my loving friends, my colleagues, my clients, and my students.

Wellness is where I stand in my power for myself, and to create a ripple effect.

My purpose…my inspiration…my honor.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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SELF FORGIVENESS – LOVE, WENDY

“As the years go on and I reflect on the memories of my years in addiction and the ways that it affected my body, my mind and my spirit, and that of my family, I continue to work on self forgiveness.

With deep self care and loving compassion for myself as I had been living with a disease, Substance Use Disorder, that nearly took my life, I remind myself often that in this very moment I am doing the very best that I can for myself, and for my loved ones. Had I known better and had I been equipped with the tools as a child, young adult and grown adult, I would never have inflicted so much pain within, or to those whom I love so deeply.

Nearly eight years of wellness post Substance Use Disorder, I still live with the remnants of a life I do not recognize, yet hauntingly surreal.

Today, I pray for Spirit to support me as I practice self forgiveness.”

Love, Wendy

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TREASURES – LOVE, WENDY

“If you want for others to treat you with respect and loving care…offer it.

If you give your word to others…keep it. If it cannot be kept, alert them.

If you want to be included… embrace others.

You see, we teach people what is acceptable to us by what we offer to them, and that our time is as precious as anyone else’s. We command respect and consistency.

I offer my time unconditionally even with a packed schedule and challenges of my own. Time is a precious gift, and I thrive in giving to others. I also thrive on being the recipient of someone else’s precious time.

We all need each other, most especially now.

It’s never about feeling obligated or that we have to answer to someone else…it is always about integrity…keeping our word unless extenuating circumstances prevent it. Even then, we take the time to let another know that plans have changed…

And…

Offering to others that which we hope to receive…

Love, patience, empathy and time. Treasures.”

Love, Wendy

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LOVE IS NOT ALL THAT WE NEED – LOVE, WENDY

“The song says, “Love is all you need…”

I disagree…

In the presence of love, we need to feel heard, and have mutual respect and trust…

Love is a partner who is our friend and lives up to that honor…

We need to have a partner that is present, willingly, when it matters…when it’s important to us…

We need to establish healthy boundaries…

We need to understand our partner’s love language and to learn to speak it fluently…

We need to have room to grow and encouragement to do so…

Together, we create experiences of joy, and offer empathy and compassion, and to offer space for “me” time when needed…

We need a partner who is our spiritual twin and one who feels God’s presence in their soul…one who is willing to share that presence, and one who lives authentically in faith…our soulmate…

Love is an unbreakable bond…no matter what the circumstances…we work through it and emerge even stronger…

Love is many things…yet not all that we need.”

Love, Wendy

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SPIRITUAL INTERVENTION THROUGH THE POWER OF LOVE – LOVE, WENDY

“Have you ever noticed that when others you observe do not get their way, they have a temper tantrum like a child who doesn’t get that toy he/she is screaming for, and these same individuals look for excuses and for others to blame? They even go as far as to fabricate and/or embellish stories in their minds, run with it, and spread untruths on global platforms that exacerbate hate, and where they align with others of the same angry, entitled and bullying mindset. These are the same individuals who sit behind a computer and spew venom, and use degrading words and hurl hurtful insults at selected groups to gain followers, yet never coming out into the light where they can be seen, or to engage in constructive conversation that emulates emotional awareness and intelligence. I often say that when one isn’t equipped with the tools to eloquently express themselves, they resort to name calling and other unkind behavior that will get them the attention they have been seeking their entire lives…albeit in a negative way.

Yet, when these same individuals do get what they perceive as “justice,” and outcomes meet their own selfish demands (with an underlying agenda that is so transparent…when you have no control in your own life, align with a group of similar mindset who will offer you a false sense of control and power) the “system” is perfect, and just. They “told you so.”

I nearly aligned myself with such an individual. and then Spirit stepped right in front of me, and reminded me that I AM PURE LOVE, and suggested that I reconsider my decision to join forces with such a tainted soul.

I chose, in that moment, to realign myself with love, and to infuse love into every breath that I take… When you are on a spiritual and enlightened path, you are able to live and love in a state of peace, and offer an example of this gorgeous path to others who are like minded.

No matter what your preferences are, that being sexual, political, etc., you are my friend… until I witness an ongoing degradation, and unkind behavior of those who do not agree with your outlook and sentiments. I AM LOVE…

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.“ – 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

I live, breathe, work for a living, serve others and love with deep compassion for all humanity in real world U.S.A. And, I proudly lead by loving example.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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LOVING FRIENDSHIP – LOVE, WENDY

He lifts me up without any provocation when I need to be reminded that I am loved…he sings to me and I smile from the inside out…he stimulates my mind in deep and meaningful conversation…he makes me laugh, and he laughs with me, and he always reminds me that “you’ll never walk alone.“ And he follows through in loving support. We are always connected…

He is my bestie. And this is a friendship that has grown in mutual love and respect over the years both professionally and personally, even though he’s half a world away, yet perhaps his dream of relocating to NY will soon be realized.

A beautiful validation of an everlasting friendship. One that enhances both our lives, and one which brings joy…effortlessly.”

Love, Wendy

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LETTING GO – LOVE, WENDY

“Once we make peace with knowing that another has “lost that loving feeling,” even in friendship, it is the simple act of acceptance and letting go that offers us freedom.

As I evolve and learn more extensively about the human condition, mine, and theirs, “I think to myself, what a wonderful world,” and remind myself that I get to choose where I direct my energy, and with whom.

I recognize my inner beauty and the unconditional love that I offer, and I seek another who excitedly offers the same. As the Universe provides me with information, I step forward gingerly, and open my heart to a new possibility.

The Universe is always communicating and guiding us, IF we are listening, and humble enough to “hear.”

Love, Wendy

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PRINCESS – LOVE, WENDY

“He used to call me “princess” in a derogatory and condescending manner. He knew it was a trigger for me, and that it hurt me as I did not identify with this label, but this was his best self sabotage…

He wanted out, he wanted in, he knew not what he wanted, so he left the back door open…where his “princess” finally escaped. He abdicated his throne, and she straightened her crown.

She’s now the Queen…of her own life, awaiting her King.

The door to the castle is always open to the right suitor…one with integrity, humility, trustworthiness, and one who loves himself and who is excited to love his Queen.

WE will never be Royals.”

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MENTAL HEALTH AND WELLNESS CARE – LOVE, WENDY

Offering mental health and wellness support/care takes more than “one and done.”

When we see someone living with a mental health challenge who could use a smile, a kind word, or our time, as long as we are practicing our own self-care first, and setting boundaries for self preservation in place, we must offer more than just a one time check in. There are so many, especially in today’s climate, who are alone and isolated and need to be reminded of their worth.

This type of loving support can make all the difference in someone’s wellness. They are assured that they are cared about, thought about, and that they are significant.

And…

If you are meeting with a counselor/coach who closes their eyes for an extended period of time while you’re speaking, or one who is texting, or answers a call during your session, please do not accept this behavior. I urge you to advocate for yourself, let them know that this is unprofessional, that it makes you feel insignificant and unheard, and it is your right to fire them.

The person that we choose to share our journey with is a personal choice, and one that speaks to what we feel we deserve.

No matter who it is, we teach people what we will accept, and how to treat us.

Love and blessings,

Wendy


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THE UNIVERSE IS MY CLASSROOM – LOVE, WENDY

“With each day, I am tasked with learning new, much more challenging pedagogy. I ask the Universe to guide me, to offer me patience and insight, and I can’t help but wonder with excitement what the Universe is preparing me for…and I sometimes secretly wonder if I have got what it takes…

I rest and rejuvenate…

And I continue on.

I know that my full purpose will be revealed at the right time…

Until then, I am a student and a teacher…yet, always a student. The Universe is my classroom…Spirit is my teacher.”

Love, Wendy

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BEING REALISTIC AND OPTIMISTIC – LOVE, WENDY

“When we are encouraged by others to take risks, we must consider the agenda. Is it going to solely benefit them financially, and are they considering our best interest if we are to take a blind risk. As I told a former colleague, “you can remain in a positive mindset and believe in all you pray for, keeping in mind time is fluid, resources are limited in our current climate, and knowing that if we leave our current steady stream of income for that “money goes where energy flows” mindset, we better have a plan B.”

As my mother used to say, “Money doesn’t fall out of the trees just because we visualize it.”

Love, Wendy

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MY LAST RELATIONSHIP – LOVE, WENDY

“My last relationship was a Divine gift.

It taught me about listening to my gut the first time I see a red flag.


It taught me to pay attention to the patterns of continuous untruths and when someone becomes so defensive and begins “projecting,” where you experience a visceral reaction, to walk away permanently. Your body is offering you important information through the Divine…A blessing….

And finally, it taught me to only accept loving behaviors from one with integrity and honesty which will enhance my life, where I will be certain that I am loved and wanted.

My last relationship taught me what I do NOT want, hence teaching me what I do want, and what true love, twin flames, and soulmates are all about.”

Love, Wendy

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FREE TO BE ME – LOVE, WENDY

“When I finally cut the cord that had been strangling me for years, I exhaled, and I realized that I was finally free. The blessing of a spiritual awakening.

I will never play small for anyone else’s ego. I will never compromise my values or beliefs for anyone.

I WILL NEVER BE HELD HOSTAGE FOR LOVE, as real love, spiritual love, is given freely, and never demands anything in exchange, other than love freely given.

I am the most awesome version of me living a gorgeous spiritual life. I love the woman I’ve become over these last 8 years of my recovery from Substance Use Disorder. I am the woman, mom, friend, counselor and teacher I’ve always wanted to be, practicing love and compassion, am extremely disciplined, working hard to earn all that I have, and am blessed to be guided daily, lovingly, by Spirit.

I am free to be me. And I am.”

Love, Wendy

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FEELING TRIGGERED – LOVE, WENDY

“I remind myself that when I am triggered by another’s seemingly benign words aka “blank shots,” I need to go within to ask myself what is it about these words that creates a visceral reaction? Where in my past did I experience deep pain in response to these, or similar words and/or actions which I am now carrying into my present day living?
Only then in recognizing the source, and working through the pain in a healthy and productive manner in the present moment, will I heal.”

Love, Wendy

#truestory #workinprogress #donotreact #observeemotions #takeatimeout #decompress #revisittosolve

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OFFERINGS – LOVE, WENDY

“Every day I require 3 things of myself…

  1. Before anything else, to practice self-care and self-love so that I may be my best self where I am in harmony with the Universe, joyous, ready to be productive, and where I can offer love and compassion to others.
  2. To offer my time, my love for humanity, smiles and prayers for the collective without any expectations other than respect of my time, and my boundaries.

3. To offer my deepest gratitude for my blessings and for being given a second chance at life, and to be of service as a loving counselor and spiritual guide as directed by Spirit to those who may ask for guidance. Every morning in prayer I say, “Dear God, today please show me where to go, who to see, what to say, and to whom to help another person.“

Love, Wendy

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REDIRECTION – LOVE, WENDY

“I have paused at the fork in the road as I observe the opportunity to choose my next steps…

The path to my left seems too familiar and unfulfilling, while the path to my right appears to be the road less traveled.

I have packed my belongings as I head on a new journey that is “right” for me. This “re-direction” offers me new perspective, new opportunities and an adventure that promises deeper spiritual growth and connection.

I readily and humbly embrace the guidance of Spirit.”

Love, Wendy

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NOT “ANONYMOUS” – LOVE, WENDY

Substance Use Disorder is scientifically documented in the DSM-5 As a mental illness. All of my work in the field of mental health and substance use disorder is grounded in raising awareness, eliminating stigma and normalization of symptoms of this disease.

We must have an ongoing dialogue to normalize these disorders/diseases as we do with any other disease.

Substance Use Disorder aka Mental Illness is a chronic and progressive brain disease. The great news is that it is diagnosable, treatable, and manageable, and we live a gorgeous and blessed life on the other side of recovery if we so choose. And, we can offer our journey as a way to empower and serve others.

In my opinion as a recovery leader, and mental health and wellness professional/practitioner, advocate and Keynote speaker, if we choose to remain “anonymous,” it can be indicative of shame and guilt, and reinforces the stigma surrounding this disease.

If we were living with Cancer, most of us would not remain “anonymous,” and we would readily ask for help to manage our disease.

We are trying to change the language and the mindset so that we come from a place of a public health approach where we all understand the meaning of substance use disorder and mental illness, and where we normalize these disorders so that those of us living with these disorders feel safe in asking for help no matter how many times we have relapses, and so that those living in silence and suffering feel safe in coming forward to ask for help. We deserve the same treatment as anyone else with any other disease receives…No shame. No guilt. No stigma.

A “12 step” program is a great adjunct to treatment, but in and of itself is not what sustains our recovery where we can thrive lifelong. We must have treatment along side of support in a program whether it is “12 step” or a “holistic health approach” as I offer in my practice, and is the way that I have sustained my recovery for nearly 8 years where I am thriving and helping so many on their journey.

My upcoming book “WRITE PRAY RECOVER:A JOURNEY TO WELLNESS THROUGH SPIRITUAL SOLUTIONS AND SELF CARE” will be of great support to our recovery and wellness communities.

For information on my Holistic Health practice including coaching support for Substance Use Disorder and Mental Health, please visit my website at http://www.harmonioushealth4life.com.

WE ARE NOT DEFINED BY OUR DISEASE OR OUR EMOTIONS.

I ask that we speak our truth aloud and together to create much desired change and recognition, to be empowered, and to help empower others in a PUBLIC HEALTH APPROACH.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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CRY – LOVE, WENDY

“Allow yourself to cry…

It’s the soul’s way of releasing what one may have been holding onto for way too long. It’s the soul’s way of cleansing and surrendering. It’s the soul reminding us to release the burdens we choose to bear, and to trust that the Universe will take it from here.

Cry…It is a body, mind and spirit renewal of wellness on a cellular level.”

Love, Wendy

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WAITING FOR A SIGN – LOVE, WENDY

“Today someone asked me why I was still single. He said, “you are an amazing, inspirational and loving lady! Don’t you miss having a partner?”

My answer is simple …

I have yet to meet a man who is my spiritual equal, and one that is secure enough in himself to be truthful, have integrity, be responsible and dependable, and who will make us a priority. So, I know that I can always depend on me, and for now that is enough. I know what I am looking for, and I will recognize him when I see him.”

Love, Wendy