Month: April 2022

“Mental abuse where we are made to believe that we are not good enough, not thin enough, not pretty enough, not smart enough, and the like, becomes a part of our cellular memory. It can definitely be unlearned, and it is a lifelong process.

Recently, as I continue to try desparately to love myself the way that I am after gaining weight due to steroids, I recognize that is an uphill climb with old, uncaring voices of those who were tasked with my well being, and an unhealthy mindset that I am “not good enough.”

This morning I decided to remind myself that I am a beautiful soul that nobody in my life growing up, or in either of my marriages recognized. Same for subsequent relationships. However, I recognize the beauty within, and even with the extra pounds, the outer beauty.

And most of all, I know that I am doing the best that I can on my continuous journey of healing the bruises that were inflicted by others who just did not have the ability to love unconditionally, or to raise a little girl who would love herself in any situation, in every situation.

Every day I offer a special time to nurture that “little girl” within.

We all have an “inner child.”

Hear that child, see that child, protect that child, nurture that child, and offer unconditional love to that child.

Watch how that child grows with the proper love and care.

We can unlearn what does not empower us, and re-learn thoughts and behaviors that are empowering, and that enhance our well being.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

When we are sincere about willingly offering support to one who may be in need whether it is being in need of food, friendship, or finances, we need only keep it to ourselves. God knows everything. He is the only One we need to allow into this transaction. After all, He has led us to one in need.

If we take this private information and begin to share with others, “secretly,” and/or make it public, we must ask ourselves what is our deeper reason for being of service? Are we looking for our own validation? Approval? To be made out to be a hero? Our own need for attention? And, we must never have any expectations of being offered anything in return, other than gratitude.

Remember this, when a person is in need, and we recognize their lack and simply offer, without that precious being asking for any support whatsoever, we must thank the Universe for guiding us to one who is in need in order to carry out God’s work through service.

We cannot take this credit.

This is a Divine calling, or debt that we are paying forward.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

Have you ever stopped to consider how your words and behavior will impact another precious being?

Stop and pause before you speak another word or take another step.

Remember that before you act, you have the choice as to how you interact.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

Happy Passover, Happy Easter, Happy Ramadan…

Today, in the midst of these sacred celebrations that many of us are observing, I reflect upon this, my 10th year of recovery from prescription drug addiction and co-occurring mental health disorders. I am reminded of what I had asked God to provide for me throughout my recovery into wellness…

It was simple…

My health and wellness body, mind and spirit…

Done.

To rebuild my relationships with my children…

Done.

To find the motivation through God to work hard in order to provide financially for myself. I talk about my former partner, Steve, in my book, Write Pray Recover, and I am reminded of something I used to tell Steve about what I prayed for. Again, so simple…

To be able to afford to buy my organic foods to cook at home, to be able to afford my supplements and vitamins, to go on a vacation once a year, to be able to make purchases once in awhile for my children and grandchildren, to have the ability to donate to charity, and to stay healthy and well enough to provide for myself the basic necessities of housing, a car, electricity, etc. And most importantly, to experience love. Love of family and friends, love of self, love with a life partner.

Done.

I have also prayed to God to allow me to build my business, Harmonious Health 4 Life, and to complete my now published book, Write Pray Recover:A Journey To Wellness Through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care, in order to serve globally, others living with the disorders that nearly took my life, and devastated my family and friends as they watched me near death for so many years. I asked God to allow me to be a conduit to a spiritual connection in order for others to find their own wellness, and to heal. I asked to be guided by Him, lifelong, to support me on my own wellness path in order to lead by example, and that He walk with me every step of the way.

And, this prayer, as well, has been answered.

I continue to live a deeply spiritual life, and find that my life is so different than it was prior to my recovery.

I had access to as much money as I needed and desired to make every purchase that I wanted to make for myself and my family, i.e., cars, jewelry, trips, clothes, etc., a gorgeous 4,000 square foot home, pool, hot tub, and never wanting for anything materialistically, and yet, I felt completely empty. There was no peace in my life. There was no connection in my life. Everything was a struggle between myself and some of my family members, and my then husband. No meeting of the minds with anyone, and I continued to use prescription opiates and benzodiazepines to numb the void, and the suppressed trauma of long ago. Even in the years leading up to my experience of Divine intervention where I asked God to save my life, I felt isolated, lost and alone. Until my D.I. (Divine Intervention). There was no amount of money or “things” that provided me with a feeling of connection, or could fill the void I felt throughout my life where love and peace were not present.

Today, I remind myself of how far I have come in so many ways, and helping so many others by the grace of God. I remind myself about the first few years of my recovery where I could not afford to buy garbage bags at the supermarket, but instead shopped at the dollar store (good bargains there always, of course!) A few times, I asked Steve if he could “loan me” a couple of garbage bags. I was living paycheck to paycheck, barely. And, not until Christmas of 2019, could I afford to buy myself a long desired purchase of a FitBit! I found one with the exact melon color band that I had been eyeing for YEARS, and was able to buy it and pay for it in one purchase. I have learned patience. I have learned the beauty and meaning of delayed gratification rather than the immediate gratification that was always present in my married life where resources were bountiful, (yet where I was all but dead inside). And, I have learned the meaning of earning my own living, and carefully budgeting what is realistic and necessary in my life.

I now live in a new, gorgeous apartment of merely 750 square feet with a beautiful view of nature that is so healing for me, where it is so peaceful, where I take excellent care of myself living a spiritual life connected to God/Spirit/Universe, and where I choose to experience peace and wellness in every moment. I detach permanently from anything or anyone toxic, and I am immersed in the love I share with my family and friends. This is my joy. My cup runneth over with wellness and blessings.

I take immense pride in the gorgeous life that I have co-created with the Universe.

I am deeply humbled.

I am deeply grateful to God.

I keep it simple.

I pay it forward.

Wellness, peace, joy and love. A gorgeous life.

Keeping it simple.

One moment at a time, one hour at a time, as I continue on my journey where I “Write Pray and Recover” in order to continue to heal, to serve, and to lead by example.

When we allow ourselves to be spiritually connected and open to whatever “source of a higher power” that resonates with us individually, we experience an awakening, often, over and over. We learn, we grow, we evolve, and we live “wide awake” rather than merely exist.

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Love and blessings,

Wendy

I continued to seek spiritual guidance as to why I energetically feel one who is long estranged from me still present within my being, and in my space in every moment that I am awake.

I sought out my answer in a conversation with my spiritual coach and teacher. She suggests a simple spiritual solution as she shares that “this is what is coming to me” after I share my frustration…

“What if you just allowed him to be present with you energetically rather than resisting it?”

An “AHA” moment.

Amen…

This simple suggestion from a wise spiritual teacher immediately offered me comfort and ease.

Now, in every moment, I look up and know that I have grace through the simplest spiritual solutions, and in receiving guidance and answers, I accept what is.

Spirit is always communicating with me in a variety of ways, and now, I am able to welcome my estranged loved one into my experiences and into my space with ease and gratitude “as if” he is here.

No more resistance. I have a “knowing” that there is a spiritual reason for our energies to be entwined. I may never know what the reason is, but as I always say, “Thy Will Be Done.”

Love,

Wendy

“We all want to be seen and to be heard.

We want to be seen in our most beautiful vulnerability of imperfections where we are admired, and heard as though our voice shares wisdom not to be missed.

When we feel certain that our need to be seen and heard is validated, we once again feel connected, and we no longer feel isolated.

Acceptance of who we are wherever we are on our journey at any given moment can be life changing as validation and connection is the opposite of darkness.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

Question your assumptions and limiting beliefs. Look at possibilities through a wider lens.

Is it possible that everyone in the world has mental health?
Is it possible to experience depression and anxiety and live a productive, fulfilling and joyful life?
Is it possible to feel our symptoms of our own mental health in a specific way to us?
Is it possible that many people are uneducated or misinformed about what mental health truly is?
Is it possible for educated people to think and behave in uneducated or unhealthy ways occasionally?
Is it possible that people who had unhealthy or toxic childhood‘s find healthy ways to live as an adult?
Is it possible that the best way to help someone is not to help them, but to guide them, to plant a seed to allow them to grow organically?

Labels of mental illness, depressive thinking, or any other type of mood disorder lead us to only see the possibilities that fit into a narrow spectrum of the prevailing emotional bias, and propaganda backs it up fueling stigma.

Do not pathologize or globalize specific instances. Feeling emotional about something has nothing to do with reality. We are then thinking with our emotional mind versus our logical mind. The interpretive lens of depression is narrowly filtered.

Having stated the above, it is imperative to also state that WE ARE ALLOWED TO FEEL HOWEVER WE FEEL. WE MUST OFFER OURSELVES THAT VALIDATION.

Consider these questions:

Is it always someone’s fault to be experiencing mental health challenges or disorders?
Is it linked to genetic predisposition? To our environment? To our lack of self-care?
Can people find their own awareness and prevention strategies to make change on their own?
Could they possibly realize that they need professional help and ask for support?
Can we offer them resources to guide them if they ask for support and guidance?

People make illogical and uninformed jumps all the time. They go from specific to global:
“I am depressed/anxious. I must be crazy/mentally ill/bi-polar.”
“I fail to regulate my emotions so I must be completely unhealthy and untreatable.”
“I’m a total embarrassment. I don’t deserve to be loved. Nobody would ever want to be with me.” “I am not good enough.”
“If I need a mental health day/days/month, and/or support, I must be a failure/weak.”

These are powerful and classic mental health bias. Socratic questioning can correct this type of bias and reasoning which generally lies unexamined beneath feelings of fear, hopelessness, and misinformation.

WE ALL HAVE MENTAL HEALTH.

Our mental health lies on a continuum. Depending upon what is going on within us and around us, and how well we are practicing our daily self care, we move along the continuum from feeling well to unwell, and anywhere in between.

Join me in my global call to action: Normalizing Mental Health. #normalizementalhealth

For information on how to join my global group of dedicated professionals and peer specialists, and to be a part of my “Falling Back Into Wellness” Symposium on November 5, 2022 where we are providing informational workshops and trainings on mental health and wellness, and to learn more about my “Integrative Approach to Wellness,” including my use of Socratic questioning in order for my clients to go within to find their answers, email me at wendyblanchard044@gmail.com.

We journey together.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

My greatest teacher was one who triggered my core to shake, rattle and roll. A trauma response where anger and resentment led the dance.

I went within and connected to my truth.

I spoke my truth, and asked for help to heal the trauma that was begging for attention. To be validated. To be nurtured.

To be healed.

I have learned how to lovingly soothe that little girl who sometimes needs a reminder that she is safe, and loved.

And, I am now able to respond to a trigger and trauma response where I say, “I hope you dance. Follow my steps. I will lead the way.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

“Those of us who have had our hearts broken, guard ourselves with a shield of armor to ensure the safety of our hearts future. If anyone gets too close, we put forth the shield to protect ourselves from possible repeated heartbreak. Then at some point, when we feel ready, we lower it a bit to allow ourselves to feel again…we begin to heal…we practice embracing new love and compassion into our heart…slowly, when the Universe brings it forth. The Universe will bring us this gift only when we are ready…when we have learned the lessons to make ourselves strong, to keep ourselves healthy, when we have learned to set boundaries, and at the same time, to love with passion, and to trust that God has chosen the perfect soulmate to accompany us on our path.

As we grow to trust again, and continue to allow love to penetrate the shield, we no longer resist love, and we begin to feel more at peace with accepting the gift of love as we continue to heal…continue to trust…continue to believe that love is all that is missing from any situation.”

Love,

Wendy