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LIVING WITH SORROW AND GRIEF – LOVE, WENDY

“Sorrow keeps us company when we lose something or someone that is dear to us. It is a natural course, a process which allows us to express our feelings of loss.

The grief weighs us down in a space where we are immobile, even numb, and as time passes, we slowly begin to smile, and even laugh now and again, and we feel ourselves becoming lighter.

We begin to move our fingers, then our toes, then our limbs and head, and we rise up above the grief…above the pain, or at least remain parallel to our emotions and feelings.

We begin to move forward with tentative ease, and we learn that we are strong, and that we are resilient because we have to be…because we are still blessed with life, and we must continue to live it with gratitude, joy, grace, and ease.

We create a space on the shelf for the sorrow and the grief as a reminder of eternal love, but we do not allow the emotions to steal our joy, or to end our lives.

We choose wellness through remaining present to our emotions, our feelings, and of the beauty of God that surrounds us, and we make peace. And, most days, we reconcile that peace over and over. And we breathe.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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The truth is always revealed – Love, Wendy

When we entrust our heart and soul to another, including having shared our journey in my new book, and subsequently find that we have been betrayed, and our trust was defamed as we believed beyond illusion that one was filled with integrity and truth, we reflect upon the love we offered, and the life we shared, only to find out, years later, that it had all been a lie.

As I pray and sit in meditation, especially over the past few months, I hear God/Spirit/Universe tell me the same thing over and over as I am spiritually guided, “How is anyone going to love you when they don’t love themselves?” And I further hear that this relationship had merely been a “distraction,” to catapult my awareness into a higher frequency. A Divine blessing.

I used the circumstances to my advantage as I continued to learn to step out of my comfort zone, to speak my truth, to set healthier and firmer boundaries, and never to allow anyone to “feed me crumbs” as a “relationship” offering, as opposed to a full meal.

I stand by my book and the stories I have shared as that is how I felt at that time, and what I believed to be “truth.”

A Divine lesson. A spiritual detour as I found my true road to love.

Love of oneself first is what God tells us is necessary before we can ever offer our love to another.

Indeed, the truth is always revealed.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Peace is as close as the silence within-Love, Wendy

Check in with yourself. Your Inner Wisdom knows the truth…listen carefully…follow directions.

Your peaceful solution lives within.

Your struggle is unnecessary…Trust your inner wisdom which speaks to us every moment. When we are struggling, it is because we are going against what our Soul KNOWS is best for us.

When we make a decision that is not meant for our highest blessing, it manifests in physical symptoms that cause us to feel unwell.

Use your courage to listen to your Intuition…your inner wisdom. It may feel uncomfortable at first as you become accustomed to what wellness feels like.

Be patient with yourself as you experience the new “normal.” This is wellness of your body, mind and soul aligning with your your inner wisdom, and that of Spirit.

You will quickly realize that the answer to peace is as close as the silence within.”

Love, Wendy

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SUD/AUD/MENTAL ILLNESS: THE HUMPTY DUMPTY SYNDROME – LOVE, WENDY

Families become broken, and many times destroyed…an irreperable family unit, when one or more family members lives with untreated Substance Use Disorder/Alcohol Use Disorder, and/or mental illness.

When the family member(s) living with these disorders gets well and makes amends, as well as sustainable lifestyle changes, and implements new healthy daily practices, the family can heal. Baby steps.

And, sometimes the deep wounds will never heal. Other family members are not willing to do the work. They are unwilling to forgive, unwilling to empathize, have been deeply traumatized, and/or they may be living with these disorders themselves and choose not to make changes that align with wellness.

The work that is necessary to achieve wellness requires that one take a very close look at their own actions, thoughts, and behaviors. They must want to create healthy change as their loved one(s) has done. They must work to unlearn unhealthy practices that contribute to the unhealthy family dynamic. If they decide that this work is too challenging and it is not work they are willing to put forth, this family is living in what I call the “Humpty Dumpty Syndrome.”

Either each family member does their own healing individually, and together with the family…ongoing and willingly, and if not, “All the  Kings horses and all the kings men cannot put Humpty together again.”

Substance Use Disorder/Alcohol Use Disorder, and mental illness are family diseases.

Love,

Wendy

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LOVE YOUR INNER CHILD – LOVE, WENDY

“Mental abuse where we are made to believe that we are not good enough, not thin enough, not pretty enough, not smart enough, and the like, becomes a part of our cellular memory. It can definitely be unlearned, and it is a lifelong process.

Recently, as I continue to try desparately to love myself the way that I am after gaining weight due to steroids, I recognize that is an uphill climb with old, uncaring voices of those who were tasked with my well being, and an unhealthy mindset that I am “not good enough.”

This morning I decided to remind myself that I am a beautiful soul that nobody in my life growing up, or in either of my marriages recognized. Same for subsequent relationships. However, I recognize the beauty within, and even with the extra pounds, the outer beauty.

And most of all, I know that I am doing the best that I can on my continuous journey of healing the bruises that were inflicted by others who just did not have the ability to love unconditionally, or to raise a little girl who would love herself in any situation, in every situation.

Every day I offer a special time to nurture that “little girl” within.

We all have an “inner child.”

Hear that child, see that child, protect that child, nurture that child, and offer unconditional love to that child.

Watch how that child grows with the proper love and care.

We can unlearn what does not empower us, and re-learn thoughts and behaviors that are empowering, and that enhance our well being.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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God knows everything – Love, Wendy

When we are sincere about willingly offering support to one who may be in need whether it is being in need of food, friendship, or finances, we need only keep it to ourselves. God knows everything. He is the only One we need to allow into this transaction. After all, He has led us to one in need.

If we take this private information and begin to share with others, “secretly,” and/or make it public, we must ask ourselves what is our deeper reason for being of service? Are we looking for our own validation? Approval? To be made out to be a hero? Our own need for attention? And, we must never have any expectations of being offered anything in return, other than gratitude.

Remember this, when a person is in need, and we recognize their lack and simply offer, without that precious being asking for any support whatsoever, we must thank the Universe for guiding us to one who is in need in order to carry out God’s work through service.

We cannot take this credit.

This is a Divine calling, or debt that we are paying forward.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Keeping it Simple-Love, Wendy

Happy Passover, Happy Easter, Happy Ramadan…

Today, in the midst of these sacred celebrations that many of us are observing, I reflect upon this, my 10th year of recovery from prescription drug addiction and co-occurring mental health disorders. I am reminded of what I had asked God to provide for me throughout my recovery into wellness…

It was simple…

My health and wellness body, mind and spirit…

Done.

To rebuild my relationships with my children…

Done.

To find the motivation through God to work hard in order to provide financially for myself. I talk about my former partner, Steve, in my book, Write Pray Recover, and I am reminded of something I used to tell Steve about what I prayed for. Again, so simple…

To be able to afford to buy my organic foods to cook at home, to be able to afford my supplements and vitamins, to go on a vacation once a year, to be able to make purchases once in awhile for my children and grandchildren, to have the ability to donate to charity, and to stay healthy and well enough to provide for myself the basic necessities of housing, a car, electricity, etc. And most importantly, to experience love. Love of family and friends, love of self, love with a life partner.

Done.

I have also prayed to God to allow me to build my business, Harmonious Health 4 Life, and to complete my now published book, Write Pray Recover:A Journey To Wellness Through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care, in order to serve globally, others living with the disorders that nearly took my life, and devastated my family and friends as they watched me near death for so many years. I asked God to allow me to be a conduit to a spiritual connection in order for others to find their own wellness, and to heal. I asked to be guided by Him, lifelong, to support me on my own wellness path in order to lead by example, and that He walk with me every step of the way.

And, this prayer, as well, has been answered.

I continue to live a deeply spiritual life, and find that my life is so different than it was prior to my recovery.

I had access to as much money as I needed and desired to make every purchase that I wanted to make for myself and my family, i.e., cars, jewelry, trips, clothes, etc., a gorgeous 4,000 square foot home, pool, hot tub, and never wanting for anything materialistically, and yet, I felt completely empty. There was no peace in my life. There was no connection in my life. Everything was a struggle between myself and some of my family members, and my then husband. No meeting of the minds with anyone, and I continued to use prescription opiates and benzodiazepines to numb the void, and the suppressed trauma of long ago. Even in the years leading up to my experience of Divine intervention where I asked God to save my life, I felt isolated, lost and alone. Until my D.I. (Divine Intervention). There was no amount of money or “things” that provided me with a feeling of connection, or could fill the void I felt throughout my life where love and peace were not present.

Today, I remind myself of how far I have come in so many ways, and helping so many others by the grace of God. I remind myself about the first few years of my recovery where I could not afford to buy garbage bags at the supermarket, but instead shopped at the dollar store (good bargains there always, of course!) A few times, I asked Steve if he could “loan me” a couple of garbage bags. I was living paycheck to paycheck, barely. And, not until Christmas of 2019, could I afford to buy myself a long desired purchase of a FitBit! I found one with the exact melon color band that I had been eyeing for YEARS, and was able to buy it and pay for it in one purchase. I have learned patience. I have learned the beauty and meaning of delayed gratification rather than the immediate gratification that was always present in my married life where resources were bountiful, (yet where I was all but dead inside). And, I have learned the meaning of earning my own living, and carefully budgeting what is realistic and necessary in my life.

I now live in a new, gorgeous apartment of merely 750 square feet with a beautiful view of nature that is so healing for me, where it is so peaceful, where I take excellent care of myself living a spiritual life connected to God/Spirit/Universe, and where I choose to experience peace and wellness in every moment. I detach permanently from anything or anyone toxic, and I am immersed in the love I share with my family and friends. This is my joy. My cup runneth over with wellness and blessings.

I take immense pride in the gorgeous life that I have co-created with the Universe.

I am deeply humbled.

I am deeply grateful to God.

I keep it simple.

I pay it forward.

Wellness, peace, joy and love. A gorgeous life.

Keeping it simple.

One moment at a time, one hour at a time, as I continue on my journey where I “Write Pray and Recover” in order to continue to heal, to serve, and to lead by example.

When we allow ourselves to be spiritually connected and open to whatever “source of a higher power” that resonates with us individually, we experience an awakening, often, over and over. We learn, we grow, we evolve, and we live “wide awake” rather than merely exist.

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Love and blessings,

Wendy

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A SPIRITUAL SUGGESTION FROM MY SPIRITUAL TEACHER – LOVE WENDY

I continued to seek spiritual guidance as to why I energetically feel one who is long estranged from me still present within my being, and in my space in every moment that I am awake.

I sought out my answer in a conversation with my spiritual coach and teacher. She suggests a simple spiritual solution as she shares that “this is what is coming to me” after I share my frustration…

“What if you just allowed him to be present with you energetically rather than resisting it?”

An “AHA” moment.

Amen…

This simple suggestion from a wise spiritual teacher immediately offered me comfort and ease.

Now, in every moment, I look up and know that I have grace through the simplest spiritual solutions, and in receiving guidance and answers, I accept what is.

Spirit is always communicating with me in a variety of ways, and now, I am able to welcome my estranged loved one into my experiences and into my space with ease and gratitude “as if” he is here.

No more resistance. I have a “knowing” that there is a spiritual reason for our energies to be entwined. I may never know what the reason is, but as I always say, “Thy Will Be Done.”

Love,

Wendy

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CONNECTION – LOVE, WENDY

“We all want to be seen and to be heard.

We want to be seen in our most beautiful vulnerability of imperfections where we are admired, and heard as though our voice shares wisdom not to be missed.

When we feel certain that our need to be seen and heard is validated, we once again feel connected, and we no longer feel isolated.

Acceptance of who we are wherever we are on our journey at any given moment can be life changing as validation and connection is the opposite of darkness.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy