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Financial strife? Welcome to life!- Love, Wendy

It has come to this…

Working just to pay expenses to “exist,” never having the opportunity to live, to breathe and to experience a moment of peace…

MONEY. Or lack thereof.

No extra money for travel, home furnishings, pretty sweaters, an occasional out to dinner treat…

A new normal.

For some. You know that saying, “The rich are gettting richer…” and “Borrow from Peter to pay Paul.” Black and white. Simply no grey. No color.

Our bodies and minds are exhausted from the sheer daily chore of trying to make ends meet, unsuccessfully. Working two jobs, nights, weekends…no rest for the weary.

Our physical health and mental health are dwindling. Sleep deprived. A chronic mental and physical state of anxiety alternating with depression. Thinking of the way one “used to live” while they attempt to unpack and process the information of their “new normal.”

Others have suggestions on continuing to “exist,” but there is no long term solution to actually live in peace of mind and joy in the way that others do.

Family that has wronged a family member financially, purposefully, for their own selfish agenda, and the other family members who turn their heads and pretend not to see. Unconsciounable.

We live to pay ridiculous amounts of taxes, insurance, bills, and cost of living continues to go up, yet our salaries remain the same.

What does one do?

I do not have an informed response. I too, am at a loss, on many levels.

So, offer grace and empathy to others.

You have no clue as to what others are dealing with behind their hard work at their “job,” and behind their “smile.” They go home, close the front door, and feel despondent with yet another grueling, back breaking day behind them, and the next one soon to show up in the morning.

Financial strife? Welcome to life!

Love,

Wendy

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The Greatest Love of All – Love, Wendy

I chose to no longer make justifications for one’s toxic behavior. I chose to conserve my energy…to not deplete it due to another’s unwell, skewed and jarring thoughts and behaviors that were not in alignment with mine.

I finally chose to see the “truth,” which is that we live with completely different perspectives that will never meet head on, rather only to continue to collide.

Once I chose ME, and my wellness, joy and peace, God brought me the perfect relationship in love.

And that is how I knew I was ready.

This was a life lesson that I did not expect. With gratitude, I continue to seek God’s guidance. It has been an ongoing practice of spiritual connection, and cultivating meaningful connection with myself. I am now ready and eager to make a connection with another.

It began with “the greatest love of all.”

Thy will be done, always.

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2023 DAILY GOALS – LOVE, WENDY

This year my only resolution is to set daily achievable goals, and to celebrate my daily accomplishments. This is how I remain in the present moment.

I do not make plans for an entire year.

Things change, situations arise, and when I am present, I am aware of my immediate circumstances. I have the ability to navigate adversity and challenges with self awareness, self regulation and wellness practices that best serves me.

And most importantly, I follow Spirit’s guidance.

Thy will be done.

Stand in your faith!

Stay in the present moment!

Celebrate your daily achievements, and try again tomorrow when you fall short of your goal.

One day at a time.

Wishing you a blessed 2023!

Love,

Wendy

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Daily Dialogue with God – Love, Wendy

Allow yourself to feel, to experience your emotions, and if you feel called to do so, share your feelings.

Journal, talk to someone you trust, or have a conversation with God.

I find that using the following template to express my feelings, keeps the focus on how I am feeling and allows me to take accountability for my perception rather than pointing my finger at someone or something else.

“I feel ________ when _________ because __________.”

“I feel disappointed when my loved one doesn’t stay connected because it makes me feel insignificant.” I am allowed to feel how I feel.

I do journal daily, I stay proactive in my relationships by communicating how I am feeling, and my greatest healing comes from my daily dialogue with God. I am always able to see other perspectives through His guidance and love.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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A Spiritual Redirection – Love, Wendy

I believe that God guides us in order to serve others who He observes in need of loving support and guidance.

And, when there is resistance to our Divinely led support from others for an extended period of time, God re-directs our service to those who are willing to embrace change, and those who are willing to work towards becoming a spiritual student, and teacher.

Recently, my re-direction has taken me on a new path of serving, one that I did not think I would return to, but as a spiritual student, and teacher, I want to deepen my Divine connection and to continue to learn, and to evolve, so I surrender to the Universe/God/Spirit.

I am always grateful for “continuing education” in order to grow, and to lead others on their own spiritual journey.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Seek communication and collaboration – Love, Wendy

People treat others with behaviors and words that have been modeled for them.

This is their normal.

If other’s behaviors are unkind and reactive, remind yourself that this is their limited way of expressing themselves through a narrow lens, and in no way is reflective of you.

Seek communication and collaboration through a wider lens.

In relationships, when we collaborate and step outside the box to resolve our challenges, we recognize collaboration as a flow…a win win rather than engaging in adversarial behaviors.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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What happened to you? – Love, Wendy

When one cannot identify with their own feelings and emotions, or they are too fearful to do so, they sync to the feelings and even the thoughts and behaviors of others.

They may have not been “seen and heard” as a youngster, and even as a young adult/adult. They do not have the words to identify their feelings, or may be too afraid to speak their truth, and so they look for others who are excessively loud and expressive in their vernacular as they are trying to state the inner emotions that may be simmering. Often, these are people who are actually feeling deeply insecure, and who are also looking for attention (in the most unhealthy ways.)

As I observe, I notice that the louder and angrier someone is in their expression whether it is verbal, or in their actions, I ask myself, “What happened to them?”

This is known as a “Trauma Informed Approach.”

When people feel the need to be crass, excessively boisterous, and engage in unhealthy, limiting beliefs and behaviors, I choose to employ empathy.

Sometimes, it is a challenge, but empathy is a place where I understand what another may have experienced to cause them to exhibit such desperate behaviors in order to be noticed, and even loved.

Do you need guidance for nutrition body, mind and spirit?

Fill out the contact page on my website www.harmonioushealth4life.com to chat. Let’s do a virtual coffee!

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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ABOUT LAST NIGHT:OXYTOCIN BREATHING FOR PAIN RELIEF AND EMOTIONAL REGULATION – LOVE, WENDY

Last night, my Oxytocin breathing put me into a deep meditative state and helped to disconnect my thoughts from debilitating pain and spasm, one week post surgical procedure. Instead, I was able to focus on my breath and the purposeful verbal “Aaaaahhhhhhh” sound that I created to stimulate my vagus nerve for a repeated surge of oxytocin.

As I mindfully focused on my breath and the self motivated stimulation of my vagus nerve which releases oxytoxin, a hormone which has the power to regulate our emotional responses and promote a “warm and fuzzy feeling,” I finally felt relief from the chronic pain post surgical procedure of 7 days ago, and I was able to fall asleep at around 2am. Prior to this, for hours, I was experiencing severe, ongoing spasms and constant anxiety, where I could not find any relief.

I spoke to my friend/Chiropractor, Paul, in the middle of the day who explained that what I was feeling were the muscles in my back trying to pump blood to the nerves. He suggested some yoga poses,

Just by observing one’s breath, the body is able to reset itself. Then we can use the information from that observation to manage our pain, and emotional regulation.

Our breath is our most accessible tool in intervening with our physiology in real time.

For more information on how I can support you in my wellness coaching program, email me at WendyBlanchard044@gmail.com and write WELLNESS in the subject line.

For more information on this mindful breathing and healing strategy, Oxytocin Breathing, click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5gDfmBAh3ww

I chose NOT to go to the emergency room because I am unwilling to receive (the probability of) narcotic drugs due to my successful long term recovery from prescription drug addiction. Instead, I used my holistic tools to mindfully and purposefully manage my symptoms. I will always continue to choose wellness, as I continue to heal.

Wellness and the way in which we heal is always a personal choice.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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S.P.E.A.R. AND S.W.I.M. INTO WELLNESS – LOVE, WENDY

Even the strong ones walk to the edge sometimes. They hop on one foot, unsteady, and flirt with unhealthy throughts as they gaze at the ground 50 feet below. but then, they stop, and pause.

They step back down onto solid ground as they choose to stand firmly in their faith, and to ask for needed support.

THEY SPEAK THEIR TRUTH, AND FINALLY FEEL FREE, AND AT PEACE.

They allow themselves to emote, accept, and then rest, realign, and reframe. And they create a S.W.I.M. INTO WELLNESS plan. This is the beauty of adapting the tools from my Integrative Approach To Wellness program.

S.P.E.A.R. AND S.W.I.M. INTO WELLNESS.

And…”look up child.”

For information on my programs and workshops, visit www.harmonioushealth4life.com, and purchase my book Write Pray Recover:A Journey To Wellness Through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Nook, Kindle, Goodreads online worldwide.

If you would like a free initial consultation to work with me one on one, email me at wendyblanchard044@gmail.com.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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SUD/AUD/MENTAL ILLNESS: THE HUMPTY DUMPTY SYNDROME – LOVE, WENDY

Families become broken, and many times destroyed…an irreperable family unit, when one or more family members lives with untreated Substance Use Disorder/Alcohol Use Disorder, and/or mental illness.

When the family member(s) living with these disorders gets well and makes amends, as well as sustainable lifestyle changes, and implements new healthy daily practices, the family can heal. Baby steps.

And, sometimes the deep wounds will never heal. Other family members are not willing to do the work. They are unwilling to forgive, unwilling to empathize, have been deeply traumatized, and/or they may be living with these disorders themselves and choose not to make changes that align with wellness.

The work that is necessary to achieve wellness requires that one take a very close look at their own actions, thoughts, and behaviors. They must want to create healthy change as their loved one(s) has done. They must work to unlearn unhealthy practices that contribute to the unhealthy family dynamic. If they decide that this work is too challenging and it is not work they are willing to put forth, this family is living in what I call the “Humpty Dumpty Syndrome.”

Either each family member does their own healing individually, and together with the family…ongoing and willingly, and if not, “All the  Kings horses and all the kings men cannot put Humpty together again.”

Substance Use Disorder/Alcohol Use Disorder, and mental illness are family diseases.

Love,

Wendy