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BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life

CHAPTER 8 – FEARLESS, FAITH AND FREEDOM:NEVER LET YOUR FEAR DECIDE YOUR FUTURE – LOVE, WENDY

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“When we are living with family circumstances beyond our control, and we have attempted, unsuccessfully, to help to resolve what we know is about to become an irreparable and irreversible situation, we must ”give it over.”

Thy will be done.

As I write about in my book, Write Pray Recover, in Chapter 8, “In the past, I would have been too afraid to walk away with the “what ifs” plaguing me…I refuse to place myself in any situation that is so toxic and unhealthy. I will never allow another human being, no matter who they are, to jeopardize my wellness or my recovery. I have done my work, and continue to do so, fearlessly. If someone else continues to infuse me with their toxicity, I have the tools to say, “No.” No matter what. No matter who it is. “No.”

My wellness is my responsibility and my priority. In the future, if she is able and willing to seriously seek the help that she needs, I will guide her. But nothing more. We must choose to be pro-active in our wellness, and in our evolution.

That’s it.

I pray for her and for her family. And I am at peace with it all.

Most of the time.

I pray for His strength daily. I pray for His loving arms to be wrapped around her, protecting her at all times.

I pray. I pray. I pray.

There before the grace of God go I.”

One of the questions that I pose at the end of this chapter is one you may want to contemplate:

“What are you afraid of? What are your top two greatest fears? What, or whom, are you afraid of losing if you simply say, “No?” Write about it.”

You can purchase my book on Amazon and Barnes and Noble online, as well as Kindle and Nook. Or click here: https://writeprayrecover.com

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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TOMORROW COMES VERY EARLY IN THE MORNING – LOVE, WENDY

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“We are spending our days living to work. Trying to figure out how to make ends meet. Penny pinching. Stressed. Anxious. Depressed. Feeling unwell. Caring for family. Caring for clients. Worrying about loved ones who are unwell. Cleaning. Shopping. Cooking. Driving distances. Meetings. And the beat goes on…

So, when I practice my self care time every day, it is for ME. Nothing gets in my way. With all that I do, and all of the energy I give to so many, and so much, I deserve a peaceful, joyous hour that I create to meet my own needs.

Tomorrow comes very early in the morning.”

Love,

Wendy

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TRUST THE UNIVERSE-LOVE, WENDY

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“It is up to each person to speak their truth as they become more and more aware of their unhealthy thinking patterns and behaviors.

We can only lead by example. We can be there to support them when they are ready. We can observe, guide, and when asked, we can offer solutions.

And, we must be prepared to accept that not everyone will be willing to step outside of what has become their safety zone to create healthy change.

Acceptance and surrender promotes our own peace. It speaks to our trust in the Universe.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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CHAPTER 13-SURRENDER- LOVE, WENDY

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“When you are well aware that your words and your actions will have no bearing on another’s words and actions, this is a sign from the Universe that God does not need your help.

Read about ”Surrender” in Chapter 13 of my new book WRITE PRAY RECOVER.

As stated on page 142 of my book, “Surrender is the ultimate freedom because it is a rejection of the illusion that we have control over our lives. Only the Universe/God/Spirit has that kind of control, and it is exhausting to try to take that onto your own human shoulders.“

Further, It states “All mechanisms of false control are only destined to fail, and to exhaust you in the process. What a relief it was to give up this illusion.”

If God needs our assistance, trust me, you will know.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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MEANING – LOVE, WENDY

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“This afternoon as I sit and observe from afar, without judgement, I am grateful that I escaped by the grace of God. Our perceptions are bookends that which are no longer facing each other. North versus South.

I continue on my path, my clean path of wellness, knowing that God/Spirit/Universe is always guiding me for my highest blessings.

I clearly understand the meaning.”

Love,

Wendy

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BRAIN DISORDER MYTHS BUSTED – LOVE, WENDY

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Today I read a post from a fellow recovery warrior, and a dear friend.

She had just disclosed that she had a “slip” in her 2 1/2 year recovery with 3 drinks at the end of last year.

I love her candor, and that she is using this as a spiritual lesson in order to teach and to empower others, rather than feeling guilty, or shame, or like she did something “wrong.”

In my eyes, this young woman is a gorgeous example of being human. I told her that her honesty and truth were going to be a part of her strength and help her to build resilience. That she, is in fact, a warrior.

If we tell anyone living with a brain disorder that they “cannot” or “should not” experience recurring symptoms because this demonstrates “poor behavior,” or that they did something “bad,” we will never normalize mental health. We will never fully recover.

Alcohol use/substance use disorder is a chronic and progressive brain disorder. Like any other disorder, it IS subject to recurring symptoms. It is diagnosable, treatable and manageable.

When a cancer patient experiences recurring symptoms, we never call them “bad,” or shame and stand in judgment of them.

We MUST treat and respect our mental health in the same way that we treat our physical health.

And we MUST normalize mental health. We must continue an ongoing dialogue to understand this disorder, to change the language about the disorder, to use language that is not fueling stigma and leaving those who need and want help too afraid to seek treatment, and to be appropriately educated about this disorder. We must work to eliminate stigma. We must work to raise awareness. We must come from a public health approach.

We all have mental health.

There is no shame in living with a disorder, or feeling unwell.

It is all about building resilience, self forgiveness, and using the experience to strengthen ones understanding and respect of the disorder with which they live.

It is about learning, growing, and evolving as we continue to live with a brain disorder.

One moment, one hour, one day at a time.

 “Before you judge me, make sure your hands are clean.” 

I have yet to meet that person.

Let us love and support each other no matter who we are, or what we have experienced.

When we come from a place of empathy and compassion, we can actually see ourselves in another gorgeous human, and we become a part of the healing process.

We are beautiful. We are imperfect. We are all on our separate journey.

Perhaps I will meet you at the crossroads.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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LIVING A DOUBLE LIFE – LOVE, WENDY

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“When one lives a “double life,” it has nothing to do with their loved ones. It truly is all about experiencing lack inside of themselves that they need to reconcile. They have not yet found the courage to do so. But, they know their truth.

I do not even believe it is about greed, or lack of love for their significant other and family.

There is a deficit within and they are searching high and low, left and right, up and down, in any relationship and/or situation for that missing piece of themselves. Wanting to be showered with outside validation due to their lack of self esteem and confidence of who they truly are.

When we are not loved and cared for properly as a child by the people who are tasked with our protection and care, we grow up believing that we are not worthy. We seek validation of ourselves from outside sources because we do not have the innate love of self.

I believe we all have the awareness of our truth. I believe that if one is willing to do the intense inner work to recognize the beautiful soul that they are, to unlearn the unhealthy thoughts and behaviors that have become lifelong habits, and to put in the work to actually discover who they are, they do eventually fall in love with themselves! And they begin to understand the effects of their old behaviors. A spiritual awakening.

Here is the space where they learn how to love and respect others.

I was in a long term relationship where I actually knew that this was going on right under my nose. As recently as 2021, I was still observing his pathological behaviors, although I had left that relationship 4 years ago.

I thought my love would save him.

We can only save ourselves when we have had enough of our own crap, and when we are fully ready.

I know because I saved myself when I had finally had enough of my own crap nine years ago.

I begin my 10th year of recovery on April 3, 2022. I love and respect the woman, mom, grandmother, friend, and colleague that I have transformed into from the shallow, lost, unhealthy, deceitful and scared “little girl” that I once was.

My spiritual journey has led me home.

Set small goals one step at a time, one hour at a time, one day at a time. At the end of the week, reflect upon your successes, and what you would still like to improve upon. We are always learning and growing. Take your time. There is no rush. Immerse yourself in every beautiful lesson that you experience as you get to know your authentic self.

Ask for spiritual support and guidance.

When we ask for Spirit to guide us into a healthy, honest and fulfilling life, we learn how to release the trauma, reframe the trauma in order to move forward, and to create healthy lifestyle change, body, mind and spirit.

Listen to your awareness. It is the way to freedom.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy