“Although I knew the “truth” for years, I chose to focus on what I perceived to be love and his goodness, so that eventually he would internalize it, emulate it, and begin to live it as his “truth.”
Love,
Wendy
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“Look Up Child” – Love, Wendy
“When I am in doubt, and when I am feeling uncertainty about my next steps for myself, and those that I am connected to, I ask, in prayer, for God‘s voice to speak above mine, above all the noise.
After all, it is His Voice that is the most evolved, He who knows all, and He who always guides me to my most loving and highest blessings.
As I listen beyond my physical limitations in prayer and meditation, I hear the answers clearly.
And, I remind myself that I am free to make a choice.
I always choose to be aligned with God/Spirit/Universe.
“I hear you say, Look Up Child.”
Love, Wendy
WRITE PRAY RECOVER:CHAPTER 8 – FEARLESS, FAITH & FREEDOM: “NEVER LET YOUR FEAR DECIDE YOUR FUTURE” – LOVE, WENDY
People do change, and things can change, once we correct the negative
thinking that keeps us stuck in a fearful mindset. Once we believe that
change is a possibility, and we come from a mindset of love for ourselves
and empathy for all that we have endured, we immediately make a shift
from feelings of fear to an abundance of love.
When I am faced with a harsh reality that brings fear, I feel like I want
to run as far and as fast as my legs will take me to avoid the pain of a
situation I do not want to face. Instead, I breathe into it slowly, deeply,
and steadily. I observe the feeling, and I do not give in. I acknowledge the
feeling, and then I choose, mindfully, in that moment, a response that is the
opposite of fear. I keep myself engaged calmly, confidently, and constructively,
one moment at a time. I allow myself the space to grow and find
resolve, rather than hiding from the truth, however painful.
The truth is always calm. Untruths are a cacophony of noises trying to
mask the calm for fear of the truth. That is when we must face ourselves, if
we are brave. Here is where our awakening begins.
Feeling a strong emotion that suddenly triggers a response, such as
fear, is our invitation to feel it all the way through, sit with it, process
it for as long as it takes, and release it when we feel we are ready (and
not a moment before). Use it for enlightenment, healing, and moving
forward. Reframe. This is how we uncover the fear that we don’t realize
is deep within. It is a spiritual call for change. Recognize the feeling in
the moment and identify it. This is an opportunity to deepen our faith, to
experience freedom, and to be fearless in experiencing our experiences.
Fear is an unhealthy habit. The secret to breaking this habit is a fourletter
word: L.O.V.E.
Letting Our Vulnerability Emerge!
Here is where we become completely naked with absolutely no apologies
for how we present.
Vulnerability is born on a spiritual path where you are certain you are
supported, guided, and loved by the Universe. This heightens your faith
in feeling free to divorce from the ego, which fuels fear. Extinguish the
ego with L.O.V.E. for Ego is not connected to Spirit. Show ego the way
to love.
Journaling:
Ask yourself these questions:
“What is the worst that could happen if I do not try to control the
outcome of this situation?”
“What action would serve me best in this moment?”
“What could I say “No” to that would alleviate my anxiety and
offer me peace? “What could I say “Yes” to that would enhance
my wellness?”
“What do I need in this moment, or in this situation, to provide
me with peace/wellness? How can I move towards that goal? Go
back to the S.W.I.M. method in Chapter 6 to re-read, edit, add, or
begin again to implement the steps of this program through your
own awareness.
Begin writing it all down here:
____________________________________________________________
Remember, you have the right to experience peace and wellness in
every moment, and you are the only person who can provide that
for yourself.”
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Love and blessings,
Wendy
CHAPTER 8 – FEARLESS, FAITH AND FREEDOM:NEVER LET YOUR FEAR DECIDE YOUR FUTURE – LOVE, WENDY
“When we are living with family circumstances beyond our control, and we have attempted, unsuccessfully, to help to resolve what we know is about to become an irreparable and irreversible situation, we must ”give it over.”
Thy will be done.
As I write about in my book, Write Pray Recover, in Chapter 8, “In the past, I would have been too afraid to walk away with the “what ifs” plaguing me…I refuse to place myself in any situation that is so toxic and unhealthy. I will never allow another human being, no matter who they are, to jeopardize my wellness or my recovery. I have done my work, and continue to do so, fearlessly. If someone else continues to infuse me with their toxicity, I have the tools to say, “No.” No matter what. No matter who it is. “No.”
My wellness is my responsibility and my priority. In the future, if she is able and willing to seriously seek the help that she needs, I will guide her. But nothing more. We must choose to be pro-active in our wellness, and in our evolution.
That’s it.
I pray for her and for her family. And I am at peace with it all.
Most of the time.
I pray for His strength daily. I pray for His loving arms to be wrapped around her, protecting her at all times.
I pray. I pray. I pray.
There before the grace of God go I.”
One of the questions that I pose at the end of this chapter is one you may want to contemplate:
“What are you afraid of? What are your top two greatest fears? What, or whom, are you afraid of losing if you simply say, “No?” Write about it.”
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Love and blessings,
Wendy
TOMORROW COMES VERY EARLY IN THE MORNING – LOVE, WENDY
“We are spending our days living to work. Trying to figure out how to make ends meet. Penny pinching. Stressed. Anxious. Depressed. Feeling unwell. Caring for family. Caring for clients. Worrying about loved ones who are unwell. Cleaning. Shopping. Cooking. Driving distances. Meetings. And the beat goes on…
So, when I practice my self care time every day, it is for ME. Nothing gets in my way. With all that I do, and all of the energy I give to so many, and so much, I deserve a peaceful, joyous hour that I create to meet my own needs.
Tomorrow comes very early in the morning.”
Love,
Wendy
TRUST THE UNIVERSE-LOVE, WENDY
“It is up to each person to speak their truth as they become more and more aware of their unhealthy thinking patterns and behaviors.
We can only lead by example. We can be there to support them when they are ready. We can observe, guide, and when asked, we can offer solutions.
And, we must be prepared to accept that not everyone will be willing to step outside of what has become their safety zone to create healthy change.
Acceptance and surrender promotes our own peace. It speaks to our trust in the Universe.”
Love and blessings,
Wendy
CHAPTER 13-SURRENDER- LOVE, WENDY
“When you are well aware that your words and your actions will have no bearing on another’s words and actions, this is a sign from the Universe that God does not need your help.
Read about ”Surrender” in Chapter 13 of my new book WRITE PRAY RECOVER.
As stated on page 142 of my book, “Surrender is the ultimate freedom because it is a rejection of the illusion that we have control over our lives. Only the Universe/God/Spirit has that kind of control, and it is exhausting to try to take that onto your own human shoulders.“
Further, It states “All mechanisms of false control are only destined to fail, and to exhaust you in the process. What a relief it was to give up this illusion.”
If God needs our assistance, trust me, you will know.”
Love and blessings,
Wendy
SPEAK YOUR TRUTH – LOVE, WENDY
“Blocking is hiding.
Hiding speaks of lies and fear.
And that which validates what I know.
Speak your truth.”
Love,
Wendy
MEANING – LOVE, WENDY
“This afternoon as I sit and observe from afar, without judgement, I am grateful that I escaped by the grace of God. Our perceptions are bookends that which are no longer facing each other. North versus South.
I continue on my path, my clean path of wellness, knowing that God/Spirit/Universe is always guiding me for my highest blessings.
I clearly understand the meaning.”
Love,
Wendy
BRAIN DISORDER MYTHS BUSTED – LOVE, WENDY
Today I read a post from a fellow recovery warrior, and a dear friend.
She had just disclosed that she had a “slip” in her 2 1/2 year recovery with 3 drinks at the end of last year.
I love her candor, and that she is using this as a spiritual lesson in order to teach and to empower others, rather than feeling guilty, or shame, or like she did something “wrong.”
In my eyes, this young woman is a gorgeous example of being human. I told her that her honesty and truth were going to be a part of her strength and help her to build resilience. That she, is in fact, a warrior.
If we tell anyone living with a brain disorder that they “cannot” or “should not” experience recurring symptoms because this demonstrates “poor behavior,” or that they did something “bad,” we will never normalize mental health. We will never fully recover.
Alcohol use/substance use disorder is a chronic and progressive brain disorder. Like any other disorder, it IS subject to recurring symptoms. It is diagnosable, treatable and manageable.
When a cancer patient experiences recurring symptoms, we never call them “bad,” or shame and stand in judgment of them.
We MUST treat and respect our mental health in the same way that we treat our physical health.
And we MUST normalize mental health. We must continue an ongoing dialogue to understand this disorder, to change the language about the disorder, to use language that is not fueling stigma and leaving those who need and want help too afraid to seek treatment, and to be appropriately educated about this disorder. We must work to eliminate stigma. We must work to raise awareness. We must come from a public health approach.
We all have mental health.
There is no shame in living with a disorder, or feeling unwell.
It is all about building resilience, self forgiveness, and using the experience to strengthen ones understanding and respect of the disorder with which they live.
It is about learning, growing, and evolving as we continue to live with a brain disorder.
One moment, one hour, one day at a time.
“Before you judge me, make sure your hands are clean.”
I have yet to meet that person.
Let us love and support each other no matter who we are, or what we have experienced.
When we come from a place of empathy and compassion, we can actually see ourselves in another gorgeous human, and we become a part of the healing process.
We are beautiful. We are imperfect. We are all on our separate journey.
Perhaps I will meet you at the crossroads.
Love and blessings,
Wendy
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