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“Those who are unable to self regulate lack self awareness…” – Wendy Blanchard, MS, CHHC

During this unsettling time of the Corona Virus where our lives have taken on a new normal, I’ve observed so much love from so many loved ones, friends, colleagues and even one I was estranged from checking in to ask if I’m ok and if I need anything. I do live with an autoimmune disease and my age puts me at high risk.

I am celebrating 7 years of recovery next month from Substance Use Disorder and mental illness.  My life is so full and I am deeply grateful for the love and support. My spiritual practice provides all of my strength, daily.

Ive also learned that those who are so consumed with only themselves, their own health, their own corner of the universe can never give all the love that comes naturally to me, and those I choose to surround myself with. Spirit has provided me with a deep and profound lesson during this crisis as to why a former love relationship did not work out. The saying “you find out who your friends are during hard times” hit me between the eyes.

I have been living with a child who was recently hospitalized for a serious illness, and is still unwell, and a dying parent, and I continue to reach out to loved ones, friends, and neighbors regardless, to offer my support. It’s not all about me…it’s about WE. It’s about taking what we have and giving it away  “God feeds us so that we can feed others.”

THIS is the kind of partner I am looking for…one who practices self care, as well as offering love, compassion and time to myself, family and those around us. Selflessness.

It only takes one minute or less to offer a smile, or a text that says, “I’m thinking of you. I’m here.”

I love the woman I have transformed into during my recovery.

I thank God every day for loving me and guiding me to this place of personal awareness and spiritual strength and solutions.

Please take good care of yourselves, and each other. Reach out to others to offer loving support. Be well.

IT IS ALL ABOUT WE…ALWAYS.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

“God has a reason for everything…maybe the reason for this is for us to realize we truly are one, interconnected, and to practice love of ourselves and others divinely as we stay aligned with our spiritual practice.” – Wendy Blanchard, MS, CHHC

“To inspire others, we must be willing to share our vulnerability, our successes and our challenges. It’s inspiring NOT to be perfect, but to watch as one navigates authentically, learning and evolving, on their path…divinely guided.” – Wendy Blanchard, MS, CHHC

FOR MY GORGEOUS DAUGHTER, NICOLE 

“She is so fragile yet so strong. Her heart and soul are consumed with love that she aches to share. She calls her dearest friend, “Source,” and she feels this divine presence with her in every moment. She has shared her many “awakening’s” that have brought her to recognize her calling to be of service through her higher self.

Her deep hazel eyes have witnessed all too much for her young age, yet she speaks of its purpose. She is focused on her Divine purpose.

She says, “Mama” in a childlike sweetness, and her hugs are powerful that speak of her abundant love.

One who holds so much love within guided by Spirit is the catalyst for an infectious awakening…what this beautiful soul calls “the butterfly effect”…LOVE spreads…LOVE heals.” – Wendy Blanchard, MS, CHHC

“Seven years of recovery from Substance Use Disorder has been my greatest teacher, and has provided my greatest challenges.

I have learned that I am never alone on my journey, and I am humbled. I am never in an ego mindset and ask for support whenever I feel the need for another perspective or the need to talk things through…and, here is where I am reminded to listen in a quiet space for the Universe to lovingly guide me. Following my inner guidance and trusting my spiritual connection is the catalyst for my greatest change.

When people, places and things have been removed from my life, I am certain that this is in my highest benefit so that I may remain on an evolving path and thrive in wellness body, mind and spirit. I may feel sad that what I once held dear has been replaced, but I have observed the blessings in its place.

Seven years of recovery has been my greatest teacher led by Spirit.” – Wendy Blanchard, MS, CHHC

“Moving on is not about unloving someone…

It’s about offering oneself the experience of love with someone who is willing and eager to receive and offer love in every moment…and where each is a priority of the other. It’s about happily meeting and exceeding our needs, wants and desires…selflessly.

Love, peace, joy, and compassion create a loving and sustainable relationship…led by Spirit.” – Wendy Blanchard, MS, CHHC

“Avoiding your triggers is living in the rubble rather than cleaning it up and rebuilding.
You can hide under it all, but you’ll never see the light, or heal.” – Wendy Blanchard, MS, CHHC

“Embrace it as it unfolds. We cannot stop what is meant to take place. Worry will not slow the pace of its arrival. Trust that God is surrounding you throughout the process.

With faith, hope, love and trust…anything is possible.” – Wendy Blanchard, MS, CHHC

I always want to do the right thing. I search my soul and ask the Divine to show me the best solution for myself, and for others. I struggle sometimes when I realize that the answer is not one that I am comfortable with, but I respect the Universe’s guidance, and beyond any doubt, I know that the Universe gives me a solution that is based on Divine love…self love, self care, self preservation before I may serve others.

A major part of self care and self preservation is respecting your own limitations, and placing those considerations before you help someone else.

If you venture out into a space where beforehand you know that the actions you are about to take will compromise your own health…you are not practicing the true meaning of love, or of giving selflessly, as you participate in taking away all that is crucial to your own well being.

Consider the analogy of the oxygen mask when flying on an airplane. We place the mask on ourselves first, so that we may offer help to others once we are breathing. If you place the mask on your loved one first, you are not standing in your power…you have given away all of your power, and at what cost? How does this serve you, or anyone else?

The next time you are prepared to place someone else’s needs before your own, and most especially where another may expect it of you with a sense of entitlement, ask yourself these questions, “What is my purpose in choosing this behavior? Is it guilt induced? Is it to be given praise for my efforts so that I will be noticed for 15 minutes of fame? To be liked by others? To feel better about myself? To receive attention?”

Ask yourself how this is Divinely beneficial to your soul? Do not deal with your emotional reaction…deal directly with the situation in real time and seek Divine guidance. Relax and release it to the Universe, and listen for direction.

I always want to do the right thing…first…for myself through the Divine, and then I may offer myself, in health, body, mind and spirit…to others.”

Sat Nam,

Wendy