“One of the most important lessons that I have learned in recovery, and continue to be challenged with, is to speak my truth, and to ask specifically for what I need, no matter how many times I need to ask. When I “know” that what I am asking for is one hundred percent achievable, and doable on the other person’s part, I realize that I am being pushed out of my comfort zone to speak up. Spirit is always guiding me for my highest blessings.
In my years of living with substance use disorder and mental health disorders, I “knew” almost daily that I was settling for “less than” what I desired and deserved, yet I would never dream of speaking up. This is early life conditioning and old thought/behavior patterns embedded into my cellular structure. And, why I continued to numb out. I myself felt “less than” and undeserving.
Until I no longer did.
In the recent past, I have made requests both professionally and personally, yet my requests were met only halfway. I continue to kindly and respectfully remind those with whom I am engaged of my desires, and expected outcomes. Otherwise, we are not aligned.
As I give my word and one hundred percent of the time act upon and honor whatever I promise, I do expect the same in return.
Thus far, I have never met with any resistance of my follow up requests, and in fact, have been applauded for my perseverance.
When others realize that we are dedicated to a cause, a relationship, or situation, they applaud diligence and tenacity in speaking our truth, and never settling for “less than.” And in some cases, it is a test to what it is that we will accept, or demonstrate that we are willing to strive for.
We teach people how to treat us, and we show them through our actions what we will, and will not accept.”
Love and blessings,
Wendy