Finding a new love does not mean that we seek to replace or forget our old love. Both can exist simultaneously…and both can exist separately in what they represent, and offer, to a relationship in a healthy way.
A new love does not erase the meaning, history, or imprint of a previous love. Human hearts are expansive enough to hold grief, memory, affection, longing, gratitude, and new connection at the same time.
An old love may represent:
shared history
deep familiarity
spiritual lessons
family
deep passion
unfinished emotion
a chapter of who we once were
A new love may represent:
safety
growth
reciprocity
peace
emotional maturity
companionship
possibility
Those realities can coexist without diminishing one another. The important distinction is whether the past is being honored versus unconsciously recreated, clung to, or used to avoid intimacy in the present.
Loving again does not invalidate what came before. And remembering an old love does not make a new love second best…
In fact, depending upon one’s openness to new experiences with a new partner…
It can be as fulfilling…if not more fulfilling than what we once experienced.
It is all about perspective and willingness to “live again…”
“Still Rolling Stones…”
Love and blessings,
Wendy
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