“A heart to heart conversation can only be successful between two evolved souls who are willing to extinguish the ego, listen without judgement, keep an open mind and heart, to be flexible, to get excited about mutually beneficial solutions, and whose end goal is to find a sustainable, fair and loving resolution.
A conversation such as this is always welcome.”
Love, Wendy
“One who stands in judgement and uses unkind words to communicate is merely reflecting how they feel about themselves. Their own inner unhealed wounds takes on a meaning of its own. One is in pain and doesn’t have the tools to find a constructive resolution within, or with another…yet.
It’s nothing personal.
Send him love and peace energetically. Pray for his healing.
Take a spiritually aligned approach. ”
Love, Wendy
“Falling in love with one who comes into your life as if out of nowhere…is a gift from the Universe…a Divine counterpart.
One who celebrates all of who you are…and understands everything you have lived through to become the beautiful soul you are today. He appreciates how you have turned your broken past into an imperfect masterpiece. He celebrates every imperfection. He loves and protects you in every way. You never wonder if you are loved. It is clear in every loving word, and in every tender action.
“Where did you come from?” I ask. He points upwards towards the sky and answers, “The Universe.”
Love, Wendy
I have been praying and visualizing a business situation that I’ve desired for almost 8 years. My hard work and determination, and positive visualization and prayer have brought my dream to fruition.
Approximately two hours ago, I received the most amazing offer. I will be consulting for a large consulting firm in the field of mental health and prevention education in drug addiction for youth.
I already had signed with this firm for the first position as a consultant and the grant just came through in December. When this second grant comes through, I will be serving an entire county including youth ages 12-17, law enforcement, primary care physicians, teachers, families, etc…anyone interacting with youth ages 12-17.
My children and besties are incredibly proud of my accomplishments, and this one, in particular. Soon beginning my 9th year in recovery from prescription drug addiction and mental health disorders, now being asked to be a part of the wellness based solutions, and told they are “so excited” to partner with me, is an honor and blessing offered only by our One loving God/Universe/Spirit.
The more aware of His presence in my life and the more grateful that I am, the more present and active He becomes in bringing forth my dreams into reality.
I am so overwhelmed with gratitude that I could not stop crying for an hour. LOL
I am beyond blessed.
As I just shared with my children and besties, prayer, meditation, a positive mindset and the willingness to be disciplined in one’s passion and work, are all a part of manifesting our desires, also known as the Law of Attraction…
Spirit is ever present. Whether you call your spiritual connection God, Spirit, Source, the Universe, or any other synonym, believe that you are heard… Never, ever give up, be humble, be of service, work hard every day, pray, stay positive, be ever grateful for every experience and relationship that is your teacher, and know how to take loving direction from our Highest Source. He knows what is best for us. In His own time, he will deliver.
Get ready!”
Love, Wendy
I don’t think I have ever known personal freedom and joy as I do today body, mind and spirit as I approach the beginning my 9th year in recovery from prescription drug addiction and co-occurring mental health disorders. (I include here the full 8 months of 2013 as I began my recovery on April 3, 2013, and so I begin my 9th year without any mind altering substances on April 3, 2021!)
I have created my amazing life guided lovingly by His Divine Grace where I have learned and practice hundreds of natural and organic solutions through a holistic lifestyle in managing any symptoms of dis-ease of physical and mental health. I am free. I am joyous. I am love… I am beyond grateful for it all! And, I have earned it all!
I confer daily with just One Source…He who knows best, and with whom I have co-created my wellness, my loving relationships, my career, my gorgeous life!
As I got outside this morning at 7:30 AM to take a 2 mile walk before the snow storm that is impending in my area, I am exuding my joyous spirit, beaming from within involuntarily because…”I AM!” I feel so grateful for His love and guidance, and for the ease in walking all on my own post Lupus flare, not to mention it is freezing outside, yet my abounding joy offers me such a warm inner glow, singing to a song that just began playing on Sirius XM “I Will Survive!,” and knowing that Spirit is sending me this song as a reminder that I am a survivor! Actually, as my bestie David reminds me, “A thriver!” During one of our long conversations not too long ago, David said to me, “I don’t want you to use the word survivor anymore. You are more than that, you are a thriver!” Bless David’s heart…a ride or die friend, and always my cheerleader.
Recovery has offered me the space, time, holistic lifestyle, and spiritual practice that has helped me to explore my soul, and to transform and emerge into the awesome woman, mom, friend, counselor, teacher, author, and spiritual student that I see and feel before me.
Out of it all, I am humbled and I am grateful for His love and guidance.
It is due to my Divine relationship that…
I AM…
EVERYTHING that I AM, and that which I am eager to share.”
Love, Wendy
“Love is present in the hearts of those who love God, and those who freely give their love away, as He teaches us.
The feeling of giving love, and receiving love, simultaneously, and freely, is only learned through knowing God deeply and intimately.
If we think we can navigate and thrive in love without the loving guidance of Spirit, we will never experience true and eternal love.
God is love, therefore I am love…”
Love, Wendy
“A victim mindset saturated in negativity and a “woe is me,” mindset, coupled with aligning oneself with a whole virtual community who are also playing the victim, will never provide one with any solutions. When you choose a positive mindset, and live aligned with like minded people, you discover solutions that you had never even thought of on your own!
In these unprecedented times, we need each other, and I find so much encouragement, and solutions that I had never thought of, as well as offering solutions to others in my chosen community of go getters, positivity providers, wellness junkies of body, mind and spirit, and people offering to be of service to those less fortunate, myself included.
If you know me personally, you know I will do everything I can for those I love, and I have been helping people I don’t know…because when I was near destitution, others helped me, and I want to pay it forward in deep gratitude. It makes me feel angry when I hear someone say and convince themselves that they are not going to survive…most especially when from a distance, I already see small solutions.
It’s not a matter of luck, it’s a matter of being resourceful, of taking action, of one’s mindset and being humble, as well as getting up to work at finding solutions as if it were your full time job. You’ll never find the answers in a virtual group setting with those whom are doing nothing but complaining and talking about their woes, all the live long day.
I have seen men and women over 60 working in our local markets as cashiers, or gathering shopping carts. I have seen them working in a variety of positions in our community and there are “Hiring” signs in many of our local establishments. People are working for minimum-wage because they need that pocket money, and something is better than nothing. In addition, they need to be out of the house where they can be with other people, social distancing, to stay in good mental health which is directly correlated to our physical health. Connection is how the human condition thrives!
We have to take precautions to protect our health, and do whatever it takes, including asking for help from those who may be able to do so.
Humility…
In these most challenging times, we have to humble ourselves. We must re-evaluate our circumstances, and we must begin by taking baby steps toward creating change for ourselves. “Nothing changes if nothing changes…”
Remember “God helps those who help themselves.“
Faith, diligence, resilience, mindset, actions, humility.
Baby steps…
I’m not saying it’s easy, of course it’s extremely challenging! Align yourself with doers and those who are willing and able to brainstorm with you. You may just find a solution. And never, ever give up!
When we choose a wellness mindset, we completely stand in our power! Here is where we find the answers…
We truly are all in this together.”
Love, Wendy
2020…What a year…
As I reflect on this year as it comes to an end, I observe the losses and the blessings of 2020. It has felt like a drive by…
I lost my mother in March right on the heels of a global pandemic…isolated and having a memorial via Zoom…two traumatic experiences. I am still processing my mother’s death and the deeply sad circumstances of her death. I allow myself small increments of time to process, and to adjust through healthy practices that are necessary for me to heal.
I found closure in a relationship that I had prayed would work out, but did not, and as is the Universe’s style, it worked out exactly as it was supposed to offering me that final sense of closure that I needed. I have learned so much about myself from this experience, and have grown exponentially. I wouldn’t change a thing. Today would have been our 6 year anniversary. I wish him well always.
My son, Matthew and I, have grown even closer through this Pandemic experience initially spending quality time once a week outdoors, and most recently after his move, daily texts and FaceTime once a week for an hour. We share our love of books and music, food and writing, politics and COVID concerns, and everything in between. This is my greatest blessing of 2020.
My ex husband, Alan and I, have grown our friendship, and we will become grandparents in May, 2021 as our daughter, Olivia, is expecting a baby girl. We are excited and so grateful to be able to enjoy this experience together.
Alan and I have worked through some deep wounds, and we cherish this friendship. We have done the work as adults do when there is a common goal and where both people are willing to do the work. No excuses, and no hiding from the difficult or challenging conversations. We learned to listen non-judgementally and to offer empathy and compassion as we worked through each conversation. We are always family.
My health has been challenging this year, but with my deep faith, self care and so much support from my children and friends, and doctors, I am doing well. I am proud of myself for staying the course in my treatment plan as I choose to heal. And my son, Matthew and one of my closest friends, David, have been my biggest supporters, along with my closest friend of 30 years, Miriam, and Bill and Vicky, best friends of 41 years. David said to me yesterday, “I’m proud of you.” He knows the ordeal I have been through with my health, yet always remaining positive and connected to my faith. We speak on the phone once a week, and text all throughout the week staying connected.
It is the loving connections that keep me grounded, feeling loved, and gives me the encouragement and strength to never give up. It is the consistency of these relationships that remind me that I am loved and cared about and that which adds to my wellness. Yes…consistency.
I have also been blessed with a career that I love in mental health and wellness as a coach and educator. I work with school districts and organizations as a consultant, and work privately with clients in my practice. It’s a slow but steady process of growing my business.
My greatest lesson this year is the realization of my inner strength and resolve, and how independent and healthy I have become after a lifetime of dependency on stimulants to numb out the trauma, and in unhealthy, co- dependent relationships. I have been forced out of my comfort zone, compliments of the Universe, and then left to find healthy solutions on my own to situations that just eight years ago would have had me reaching for pills to self medicate and numb out. And at times, engaging in suicidal behavior.
Of course, I am never truly alone as Spirit is always present and guiding me.
As I continue to evolve, I am grateful to have a platform to share my experiences in recovery and in wellness in the hopes of offering someone else tools for achieving wellness through spiritual solutions and self care.
Life is always reminding me of challenging times, and of blessings, and that it is all about how we choose to respond to each situation that builds our resilience and humility.
I am grateful for it all. I would not change anything. I have learned so much. I am richer for each experience.
May 2021 bless us with wellness, peace, joy, abundance and lots and lots of love.
Happy New Year.
Love and blessings,
Wendy
“Whatever you give to a “relationship/friendship” is exactly what you will earn in return.
Time spent together, is in my opinion, the most loving and meaningful gift one can bestow upon us.
Time is priceless.
Time is precious.
Time is timeless.
Those who are in my closest circle never forget that time is all that I ask in our connection, and they always deliver…
And, they’ve earned my time in return.
We invest in each other through spending time, which is part of our respective self care and that which nourishes our soul…albeit mostly through virtual and social distancing. Time together says, “I love you…You matter to me. Our connection is always a priority.”
Gifts that are purchased are a beautiful token, but time is eternal and lives on in the heart, and breathes life into the soul.”
Love, Wendy
“The first 50 plus years of my life was spent praying for safety, love and validation. As a young child, as a young adult, and through my middle aged years…I prayed.
I experienced a spiritual awakening years ago in my 50s, and I continue to shed the toxic, heavy layers of a tumultuous childhood and young adulthood, and even into my mid 50s, that had become deeply ingrained in every muscle, joint, and bone in my body, promoting inflammation on a cellular level. I continue to transform and reawaken often on my journey where I provide for myself all that I had never received from others. My heightened level of self awareness and deep soul work is ongoing, and I continue to evolve as I let go of each unhealthy belief and behavior to create a new healthy lifestyle.
I experience an ongoing cell rebirth through spiritual solutions and self care. My journey is Divinely structured and guided where all of the love, safety and validation I seek is found within where I am lovingly connected to Spirit.
The Divine lesson is that when God is at the center of our lives, we need look no further. We are filled with blessings of abundance in all that we need, desire and deserve.”
Love, Wendy
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