Author: wendyblanchard044

He is my ex-husband yet always family, and always my friend.

He called me yesterday to tell me that he lost his best friend of over 40 years to COVID. John had just received his first vaccine, and 2 days later was on a ventilator. They believe that he unknowingly had been infected just prior to his vaccine causing complications. Alan said he “doesn’t know how to react.” Many of us have this reaction when we lose a loved one, and it is compounded with disbelief when it is sudden and unexpected.

We all spent time together in the 24 years that we were married. It’s surreal. This man was strong, a man of God, hard working, kind, loving, a dad, a husband, and a wonderful and loyal friend.

Alan and I talked about how perspective changes as we age, as we become more aware of our own mortality, and the importance of letting those we love know how we feel. I believe that this profound loss in Alan’s life has deepened our own connection. HEREIN LIES THE SILVER LINING.

Tell those you love how you feel, and even more importantly, show them.

I’m deeply grateful that Alan felt close enough to me after all this time, and 7 years post our divorce, to call me for loving support. We’ve come a long way.

“That’s what friends are for…”

Rest in eternal peace, John.

My dearest readers and friends…Love often and openly. There is nothing to wait for. Speak to those with whom you love. Spend time with those whom you love. Our time to do so is fleeting.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

In doing some deep inner work connected to my own journey, I reflect and consider, “How do the men in ones life and the way they treat a woman reflect the way that ones father treated her mother? Who and what has one “looked up to?” What was the “normal temperature?”

We recreate over and over the pathology of our family. Until we have the awareness through speaking our truth, we continue to repeat the learned behaviors, and accept toxicity and unhealthy experiences as “normal.”

What are we denying in ourselves when we allow others to deny us, and to continue to allow another to tell us yes, and tell us no? To tell us if? To tell us when? Why do we give away our power? Why do we disrespect, dishonor, disown, and disgrace ourselves to this degree? Where have we learned to accept this type of abusive and neglectful treatment from another?

We know the answer.

Be courageous. Listen to your truth. Allow yourself to feel it all. Do the inner work. Take your time. Sit with it. Then…BREAK the cycle. Set healthy boundaries and set healthy practices in place for yourself and for the eyes “looking up to you.” Require more of, and for yourself. Lead by healthy example.

Take back your power.”

Love, Wendy

“If they’ll do it to anyone…they’ll do it to everyone… If they’ll do it anytime, they’ll do it every time. If they’ll do it anywhere, they’ll do it everywhere.“

“Where there is deep love and compassion, is the space where anger is extinguished.
LOVE OVER VOLATILE ENERGY. (LOVE)”

Love, Wendy

“In the absence of connection, we are devoured by the cacophony of sounds that become our solitary confinement.” Love, Wendy

“Inner strength may be non linear according to the severity of the circumstances and the mastery of one’s skills. It may also fluctuate depending upon how we are feeling physically, mentally, and spiritually. It lies on a continuum.

It is one’s resilience that drives one’s strength, and we only build resiliency when we are afforded the opportunity to practice through challenge and adversity. Therein lies our gift.” – Love, Wendy

“If you want to be in my life, speak to me directly. The window is open.” Love, Wendy

“Where there is discouragement, where hope has been exhausted, where one views the end as their only means…I ask…

How may I serve?”

Love, Wendy

“A man without humility sees fault in the world…a humbled man asks what he can do to make it better.”

Love, Wendy

Today a sweet friend and colleague helped me to recognize what my Higher self needed to re-acknowledge in order to realign. This sweet soul asked some powerful and thought provoking questions that triggered memories and real time emotions in me, which allowed me to make the healthiest decision for myself…in love, and in peace.

It was synchronicity that brought her onto my path this morning…aka Spirit, guiding me through this “earth angel.” She was incredibly patient, loving, compassionate, and so ready and willing to help. I was attempting to make an important decision over these past few weeks, and struggling with “hearing” the answer that would enhance my life as I sometimes “hear” the “emotional mind” vs. the “wise mind.” Brett offered me a safe space, options, and possible solutions. As I sat in my meditation space after our chat, I heard Spirit very clearly offer me the answer, and the answer was unmistakable. I felt completely safe and realigned.

When we believe, when we ask for guidance, when we listen in the silence of our space, and when we are offered Spiritual support, and we accept that support, the Universe will always provide the answers that will bring us peace through a variety of modalities…

If we are awake, willing to listen, and are spiritually aligned…”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

Thank you to my sweet, and insightful friend, Brett. xo