Author: wendyblanchard044

When we ask for the truth to be revealed in order to experience closure, we must prepare ourselves to receive it. And, sometimes it will not deliver closure at all. Only more epiphanies.

Wow.

Yet, it may cause us to reach higher, and deeper in our next relationship. And, we may learn more about our own resilience, and more about the inner work we still need to do, including following God’s initial guidance.

Rebuilding is a process that creates an even stronger foundation of self, with God, and with another.

Love,

Wendy

Connect to the Universe and be certain that the signs that you believe you see, hear and feel are no “coincidence.”

Love,

Wendy

When we speak our truth, it releases what we have suppressed, thus offering us a release of stale feelings, emotions and unhealthy thoughts that may manifest physically in our bodies as “dis-order.” Truth offers us freedom.

And, although another person may be too selfish and self absorbed in order to hear us in our truth, and in fact, makes our truth about them without ever acknowledging our truth, the purpose of our own release is always about keeping ourselves authentic, at peace, and in good health.

I am reminded, once again, that decades of insensitive, narcissistic behavior, does not change in one who is unenlightened.

“I just can’t see past myself…
A little more like mercy, a little more like grace
A little more like kindness, goodness, love, and faith
A little more like patience, a little more like peace.” – Zach Williams

I pause, and always end the conversation with, “I wish you well.” I am certain that my devoted spiritual practice and connection guides me in this way, and certainly brings me peace.

I always do the right thing…for my own wellness.

Look up child.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

One who is living with a mental health disorder, most especially a substance use disorder and/or an alcohol use disorder tends to isolate, sometimes until it is too late. And it happens every single day.

One will isolate for a variety of reasons including the shame that they feel for the need to self medicate, the fear that they feel of being shamed, and judged, and possibly ostricized by family and friends, and many times when they have arrived at a stage of hopelessness that is the reason for their drug/alcohol abuse, they do not see a way out. One may also fear their own emotions and feelings that they are self medicating, or perhaps may not even be able to identify those emotions and feelings, making it nearly impossible for one to process. And as it goes, they suppress. And suppress. And suppress. And deny.

And numb, and numb. And numb. And smile through the pain.

And finally, we lose one who could not see a way out, yet there is always a way out of this disease.

This is the reason that I do the work that I do in empowering our global community on mental health disorders, most especially substance use/alcohol use disorder.

The first step is to understand that these disorders are brain disorders, and are diagnosable, treatable, and manageable. These disorders are not the fault of one living with the disorder. If we can offer support through education, this is the second step, and we can teach awareness and prevention of a lifelong dis-ease, and even, of a crisis.

Please help me in my global call to action to normalize these disorders through an ongoing dialogue and education in a safe, non-judmental virtual space.

These disorders are mental health disorders. We all have mental health. There is no shame in feeling unwell mentally, and we can move ourselves back to wellness with the right support, empathy, tools, and love.

Our “Fall Back Into Wellness” Symposium is November 5, 2022. We will be offering a full day of workshops based on my “Integrative Approach to Recovery,” inclusive of all pathways to recovery. Come to learn about these disorders, and the spiritual solutions, self care practices, including mindfulness, and writing, and traditional healing modalities, including the facts about substance use/alcohol use disorders, and mental health from professionals and peers in both the wellness and recovery communities.

From the beginning of my recovery, my goal was to bring these two communities together in a “marriage” that is interconnected in order to serve as many people as we can as we meet them where they are, and support everyone in any way in which they choose to recover.

Please email me at wendyblanchard044@gmail.com for more information.

Thank you so much.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

When your needs are neglected as a child, you may accept neglectful, dishonorble behavior, and instabilitiy, i.e., lies, cheating and deception in an adult relationship. This is your only compass, so far.

We accept “less than” because we “live what we learn.” We accept what we “see” as love, yet deep within our soul we feel the truth. We accept what looks like love because we may have never been shown what love really is causing us to feel unworthy.

As an adult, it is our responsiblity to do our inner work in order to discover who we are underneath the trauma and neglect…to learn, to grow, and to evolve…To provide ourselves with healthy, loving relationships. To assess our relationships through a wider lens. We must ask ourselves why we are accepting one who lies, cheats, and walks in the relationship with an incredible sense of entitlement to do so.

So in the quiet of your space, accept your truth, and then speak your truth. Accept the bigger picture of this connection.

When you accept this type of degrading behavior, you are telling the other person that you do not value yourself. Trust me, they know exactly what they are doing.

Walk away and go within to do your inner work. Once you do, and pray to God for guidance, your bounty of blessings will pour onto your path.

Through the inner work, you will develop self love and self respect, and then, and only then, will God bring you the partner that is perfectly aligned in love. A spiritual union with God/Spirit/Universe at the center of it all.

I spoke my truth. I found me. I found love.

Speak your truth.

You already know.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

Those who are aligned with you will encourage you and challenge you to continue to learn, to grow, and to evolve.

These are the like minded people who eagerly create a safe space for you when you are together in each others company. They provide a peaceful and loving environment. It is an energy match that ignites a friendship made in Heaven.

In their presence, you will feel energized rather than feeling depleted.

Together you take the time to learn of each other’s journey, and extend grace and compassion.

This is an organic union of any relationship.

It takes time and consistent effort. And it takes the ability to allow yourself to be vulnerable enough to love, and to be loved.

Those who are aligned with you will let you know that you are loved, without any words. And, that you are loved just the way you are.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

My faith reminds me that even in the most challenging of moments, and in the heartbreak, that I can breathe in peace knowing that Spirit is always present…within, and all around me. His presence provides me with ever present peace, and the knowing that I am safe, I am well, and I am loved.

Affirm: “I stand firmly in my faith.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

“Stand in your power. Do not give away your power.

Speak your truth. Here is where your freedom begins.
Own it. Make amends. Forgiveness is an apology away.

Show up and allow yourself to be seen. Wear your vulnerability. You will find love and forgiveness in your humility.

Maybe this is your opportunity to build grit and toughness and strength…
and re-connection.
Return to love.

We can either use fear and adversity as an opportunity to grow, to connect, and to learn a deeper love of self and another, or allow it to control our lives leaving us running on empty.

When we learn from our mistakes, time and energy is never wasted.

And love is always the antidote.”

Love always,

Wendy

“In a matter of one minute everything can change. And it does.

Your life can take a turn you did not expect. It may feel incredibly foreign. Unfamiliar. New information that is old is delivered.

Sobering.

You are forced to see new perspectives, and to practice acceptance of information that is unconscionable, yet undeniable.

And, you carry the disturbing burden of this new information, and a new perspective into the present day in order to remind yourself that nothing and no one is ever really one hundred percent of what, or whom they present to others. And there are some who are complete imposters, one hundred percent.

Sobering…

Just Breathe…

Lesson taught over and over again finally sinks in, and is learned. When the truth reveals itself the first time, accept it. Put down the rose colored glasses, stop listening to fairy tales, kick the garbage to the curb, and move on.

Take care of yourself. Depend only upon yourself. Love and nurture yourself. Forgive yourself for loving and trusting the wrong person.

And keep moving forward…

Sober.”

Love, Wendy

“Behind the seemingly stone cold heart there is a warm flush of emotions. I watch as they gently bubble up to the surface as your face softens and I see a hint of a faint smile to match the light that is slowly coming through your eyes.
Underneath the brick wall that was built for protection from the disappointment and the fear, I see a small crack in the foundation that offers a space for us to rebuild.

Brick by brick and breath by breath…

We heal together with experience on how to build it to be unbreakable.

Shakable, yet unbreakable.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy