Month: August 2021

“Please…

Look beyond the outer shell to see the beauty, grace and intellect within.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

“One who has only experienced dysfunction and toxicity has learned unhealthy behaviors and in turn, only has these experiences as a compass. They use these experiences as their guide in their adult relationships until they recognize the patterns and dys-regulation in their relationships and they are willing to accept accountability.

Here is the space that we make a choice to make a choice.

We can mindfully create change within ourselves where we will begin to experience healthy, loving relationships, or not. We only need to meet ourselves where we are. Slowly, mindfully, and taking baby steps, in our own time, and at our own pace, we walk through it to meet ourselves on a new path which leads us to anywhere we choose to go.

It is always our choice to choose our experiences.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

“We may, out of frustration and hurt feelings, use words that deeply hurt someone we love. This is never irreparable. We only need to go within to pull out our humility and vulnerability, and use our sincerest, loving words to apologize, and use the experience moving forward in having the self regulation in order to pause, and to be mindful of the words that we choose moving forward.

We all have days where we wish we had been kinder. And, we all deserve a second chance.

It’s never too late.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

#lovealways

“Each day is precious.

Each hour is precious.

Each moment is precious.

Each second is precious.

Experience each one in its presence…in real time. Direct your energy into each fleeting moment.

Direct and re-direct.

Experience every experience in wonder, in awe, in gratitude. Savor. Contemplate. Experience.

Seconds turn into minutes…into hours…into days…into weeks…into years…

In an “untimely manner.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

“I seek individuality and a healthy partnership not that of an unhealthy bond cemented in similar past trauma, aka as a trauma bond.

Let us seek a partner who is willing to invest in individual and couple’s wellness filled with peace, joy, and abundance of healthy living through the lens of love.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

“Those who are immersed in a victim mindset may be longing for validation of their experiences with an unhealthy need for attention.

Instead, we must practice self acceptance and self compassion, and begin to create a new healthy mindset. This is where we stand in our power rather than disempowering ourselves by seeking outside validation that which reinforces negative, unhealthy experiences and connections “for pity’s sake.”

By mindfully steering our own trajectory through self awareness with a healthy mindset, we create experiences which empower us, and organically attract positive connections and healthy relationships.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

Practice daily self care. Think of it as a deposit into your wellness account so that when external forces are making withdrawals, whether family, friends, colleagues, daily obligations, job, stressors, etc., your wellness account does not become depleted. Bank on it…

“Self care is the actions that we take to achieve wellness and wellness is where we stand in our power.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

“Posting incessantly on social media about ways to be mindful and “conscious,” and how to live joyously, is possibly ones way of suppressing the emotional pain that one may have experienced. It’s ones way of possibly trying to convince oneself that they are healthy, body, mind and spirit.

I once walked in those shoes.

It’s the shortcut to a dead end.

Repetition of positive thoughts (a form of DBT- Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) whether mindful thinking, verbal or in writing, can physiologically reset our brain, yet, must cooccur with ongoing trauma therapy, or therapy that is supportive of one’s specific experiences. Otherwise there can never be a holistic type of healing.

We must experience our experiences, at our own pace, in order to heal fully, and to serve and authentically support others.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

“Only profound enlightenment that levels one’s limiting beliefs creates a shift in perspective and causes one to create change.

It is a spiritual calling.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy