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Driving Myself Home:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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There’s something about driving myself home after a meaningful weekend that creates space for truth to rise to the surface. The road is moving forward, and somehow our hearts begin moving forward too.

Acceptance isn’t giving up. It’s standing on solid ground instead of fighting reality. From there, every decision becomes clearer because I am no longer trying to be the woman I was ten years ago or the woman someone else expects me to be.

I’ve spent so much of my life taking care of others, pushing through pain, hoping relationships would become what my heart longed for, and expecting myself to keep doing everything as if my body hadn’t changed.

Acceptance doesn’t erase my dreams. It simply says, “This is where I am today, and I can build a beautiful life from here.”And I have.

This weekend showed me something important.

I experienced the joy of being surrounded by my family—the warmth, the connection, the feeling of belonging. At the same time, I experienced the physical realities of my body. After driving two hours to see my family, spending seven joyful hours with my grandchildren and loved ones, then rushing back to my hotel to get ready for a date, my lupus flared. My body swelled, I was in significant pain, and I became increasingly uncomfortable from pushing through hours of activity. Every moment with my family was worth it, but my body reminded me that it has limits I can no longer ignore.

Both things are true. Neither cancels out the other.

Sometimes the most meaningful insights don’t come when life is easy. They arrive on a quiet drive home—as they did for me this morning after leaving at 5:30 a.m.—with miles of road ahead and enough silence for both my heart and my logical mind to finally speak.

I realized that I’ve already built a life that fits who I am today.

I have people who meet me where I am, who understand my physical challenges and enjoy my company for all that I am. They offer a loving hand, a kind word, and genuine acceptance. I enjoy day trips, simple pleasures, nourishing meals, music that makes me smile—and even dance a little. I choose movement that strengthens my body instead of punishing it by expecting it to do what it could ten years ago. I have a career I truly love. And my family… they are my anchors.

I am blessed to have a full life.

If someone comes into my life who fits gently into it—someone who meets me where I am and loves me with all that I am—that would simply be the cherry on top.

And if not, I am still profoundly grateful.

Grateful to be alive.
Grateful to be mobile.
Grateful for my adorable little home.
Grateful for meaningful work.
Grateful to love and be loved.

It all begins with me accepting who I am and where I am in my life.

And from that place of acceptance, everything else becomes a gift.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Empath Intuition:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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Empaths are authenticity machines. We intuitively feel when something isn’t genuine…

We don’t need a story to unravel—we recognize when words, energy, and behavior do not align.

When a story doesn’t feel authentic, we often know it almost instantly…it performs…

And when it is authentic…it is graceful, effortless and it resonates deep in the soul.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Earned Access:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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A wall keeps danger out, but it also keeps love out.

A boundary is different. A boundary has a gate.
You decide who enters, how quickly, and under what conditions. You control the gate.

A boundary says, “I am open to connection, and I am observing. I will move at a pace that feels safe for me. I will always honor my needs before all else. I will not abandon myself to keep someone else.”
This is one of the greatest acts of self-care.

And once my spiritual intuition turns from yellow to green…our road is wide open. I embrace one fully and unconditionally.

I can let someone come closer, and I can still stay connected to myself.

The beautiful thing about a gate is that I still hold the key…and if the alignment feels right, the key can be duplicated—two keys, one home…where “me” becomes “we,” and both hearts choose to keep the gate open as we choose one another every day.

Reflection: Trust is not maintained by one person alone…it is something both people actively nurture, one moment at a time. Healthy love is both intentional and mutual…

Both people participate, nurture, and protect what they are building…

Earned access.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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The Story of Ordinary Moments:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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People reveal themselves in dozens of ordinary moments through patterns of micro-behaviors. Character isn’t usually exposed in dramatic events…it is revealed in the quiet, ordinary and purposeful choices people make every day.

Being consistent in showing up in a relationship. Following through without excuses. Remembering what matters to you. Making you feel emotionally safe instead of emotionally uncertain. Taking accountability rather than deflecting. Accountability is a form of intimacy. Offering kindness without it needing to be earned. A text just because…just to say, “I’m thinking about you.”

Just as importantly, people reveal themselves through what they consistently don’t do.

The lack of effort. The lack of curiosity about your life, while focusing most conversations on themselves. The lack of empathy when you’re hurting. The lack of reciprocity. The lack of honesty and integrity. The lack of consistency. The lack of emotional presence. The pattern of making excuses to shield their truth.

Over time, those absences become just as revealing as any action.

Patterns quietly tell the story that words often try to hide.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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An Invisible Touch:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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From “me” to “we.”

A shift so profound, it feels like Christmas in July. 🎄

Life can change in a heartbeat… and sometimes, the most beautiful gifts arrive unexpectedly…

Smiles. Laughter. Warmth. Presence…Alignment of morals and values…

The gift of being seen, cherished, and met with an eagerness to love…

An “invisible touch.”

The most meaningful things in life are not things we can hold in our hands, but things we can feel in our hearts.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Divine Redesign:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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It may look like an obstacle…it may feel like it weighs a ton…and you may not understand it in the moment…

but in my lived experience…it is a divine re-design through a spiritual re-direction to true love, joy, peace and extraordinary experiences that you were looking for in all the wrong places…

Trust the detour. Take the road less traveled with an eager mind and open heart…

It may be the only road that leads you home to yourself.

And please hear me and believe me when I say that one day you’ll stop asking, ‘Why did this happen?’ and you will smile to yourself and quietly whisper , ‘Thank God it did.”

#truestory

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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“Radical Acceptance: That I Would Be Good” – Love, Wendy

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Tara Brach tells the story of Marilyn sitting with her dying mother night after night, holding her hand, meditating with her, and telling her she loved her. Most of the time her mother was unconscious. Then, shortly before her death, she opened her eyes and looked directly at her daughter and said:

“All my life I thought something was wrong with me.”

Tara writes that the mother then gently shook her head, as if to say, “What a waste,” closed her eyes, and drifted back into a coma. She died shortly afterward. 

That story appears near the beginning of Radical Acceptance as an illustration of what Brach calls the “trance of unworthiness”—the heartbreaking belief that we are fundamentally flawed, deficient, or not enough. Brach uses the story to show how many people carry that burden for an entire lifetime, only realizing near the end that the belief itself was never true. 

Reading that passage can hit especially hard when you’re grieving. What moved me isn’t just the sadness of the mother’s realization…it’s the daughter’s presence. Marilyn couldn’t change her mother’s past, but she gave her something precious at the end: love, companionship, and acceptance…

Sometimes that’s the most important gift we can offer another human being. ❤️

This passage went straight to my heart…I spent much of my life believing something was wrong with me but the truth is that I was shaped by circumstances beyond my control as a young child, and the effects followed me well into adulthood. In these past 14 years of my recovery from prescription drug addiction, I have realized that this woman has discovered there was never anything “wrong” with me.

The tragedy in this passage from the book, Radical Acceptance, wasn’t that she was flawed…

The tragedy was that she believed she was.

Unlike the woman in the story, I am not realizing it in the final hours of my life.

I AM realizing it now.

I still have time to challenge that old belief every single time it appears…

I suffered. I made mistakes. I lost things I wish I hadn’t lost. And I spent many years believing those experiences meant I was defective…

I don’t see waste.

I see myself as someone who has fought incredibly hard to stay alive, stay sober, stay loving, and stay open-hearted despite carrying more pain than most people know.

I am a human being who suffered, coped in destructive ways for a time, paid a heavy price, and then spent the past 14 years doing the difficult work of recovery and healing…”becoming.”

The grief I intermittently experience is real because there are losses that can never be fully undone.

But grief is not proof of defectiveness.

Regret is not proof of defectiveness.

Even addiction is not proof of defectiveness.

And today…I do not “waste” another present moment in the past.

I live with purpose, with love, and with great anticipation of experiencing what comes next.

Yes, there is grief behind me…and possibility ahead of me.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

Afterthought:

You are never required to become flawless in order to be worthy of love. – Love, Wendy

“That I would be loved even when I numb myself
That I would be good even when I am overwhelmed
That I would be loved even when I was fuming
That I would be good even if I was clingy

That I would be good even if I lost sanity
That I would be good
Whether with or without you…” – Alanis Morrisette

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Always and Forever:Unwritten and Unfolding – Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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When a relationship has history, a deep-rooted spiritual connection, emotional intimacy, and a bond that neither time nor distance has been able to erase—a love that continues to find its way back to itself—I believe that even where we differ, including in our political views, love can still find its way home.

And when the time comes, we will know what to do.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Dating – Love, Wendy

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Dating is optional for me.

My bills are paid. My home is clean and peaceful. My bed is big. Peace already exists in my life. It is non negotiable…I cherish my autonomy…

If you enter my life, bring honesty, integrity, kindness, laughter, and ease.

Anything less does not add value to the life I’ve worked hard to create.

Love,

Wendy