Category: Harmonious Health 4 Life

We are all experiencing challenges, loss, illness, and other situations that we may not be aware of in others lives.

I observed a man screaming at the deli counter employee the other day. Both men were so angry and using words that were so offensive and demeaning to the other. Neither “paused” to remind themselves that “not cutting the turkey thin enough” was not the real issue. I observed so much anger. The consumer went to the manager to complain.

As I listened to him tell his story, I wondered to myself what this man has experienced that has made him so angry. 

Here is where I pause. Here is where I empathize with another precious soul. Here is where I recognize that we are all one in this global experience of a pandemic, of loss, of disease. 

And I choose to take a spiritually aligned action. Empathy, patience, and grace.

We are always one. We all have the same experiences, emotions, and thoughts that connect us. It is the human condition. 

It is how we choose to respond rather than react that changes the trajectory of the outcome.

In another incident, I entered the market where I live, and a man came out of nowhere with an “angry, deliberate, and aggressive walk.” I stopped as I noticed him barreling towards me. He stopped. He gave me a chilling look and shouted, “Well, go ahead!!!” I smiled and said, “Thank you.” He answered, “You’re welcome.” In truth, for a few minutes my heart was racing and my own anxiety was escalating because I too felt angry that a stranger would have such an inflammatory attitude with me.

But, I paused. And chose a spiritually aligned mindset and action…It changed my own attitude. And I believe that of this man who clearly was experiencing something that put him into a “fight or flight” frame of mind. And I reminded myself that whatever he was experiencing had absolutely NOTHING to do with me.

PLEASE USE EMPATHY, PATIENCE, AND GRACE…

We are all living with frustration, anger, sadness, and anxiety. And maybe even worse.

I believe that we are all doing the best that we can.

I have seen first hand how one’s whole attitude and outlook changes when we offer grace, empathy and patience.

And, let us be an example for our youth.

When we are the person of influence in a room, or in someone’s space, or life, they will sync their emotions to ours.

HERE IS WHERE WE HAVE THE OPPORTUNITY TO CREATE POSITIVE CHANGE.

And in the most challenging of circumstances.

What a beautiful gift we can offer to others in a space of empathy, patience and grace.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

Romanticizing the few fleeting moments of seemingly loving attention given by a toxic partner is trauma bonding.

Living with the hopes of rekindling that toxic relationship is a trauma response.

When we finally do the work to release and reframe trauma, we know better and we do MUCH better.

Remember that we live what we learn. When we know better, we do better. And finally, we teach people how to treat us.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

“The way in which we identify, i. e., straight, gay, LGBTQ, a belief and practice of an organized religion, a personal spiritual practice that is alternative, our heritage, the color of our skin, our financial status, our career path, how we manage the day to day mental health challenges we may experience including substance use disorder, etc., in my humble opinion, does not define who we are.

I believe that which defines each of us is the Universal practice of unconditional love, unconditional empathy and compassion, unconditional kindness and acceptance, wholehearted integrity and that of total and complete loving support of each beautiful soul that we connect with.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

I will begin my 10th year of wellness recovery from mental health/substance use disorder on 4-3-22. The exacerbation of my severe brain disorder caused by decades of trauma that went untreated was due to my isolation and never speaking my truth. When I would sit in the quiet of my own space, I knew my truth. I knew that I needed mental health treatment. I KNEW…

But as my mother used to say, “The silence was deafening.” I would sit in prayer/meditation as I did each day and was offered spiritual guidance that which encouraged me to ask for help, but sitting quietly and knowing my own truth was too frightening, and I continued to numb the truth with prescription drugs.

Finally, after decades of living with these dis-orders, and upon awakening from a near fatal overdose, I sat quietly, asked once more for spiritual direction, and Spirit encouraged me to ask for help. I followed those directions, and have been listening to this guidance every day since.It is in the quiet of my space each day that I am reminded that I live with a former brain disorder, yet that which is always dormant, but that I am in control of the choices that I make to manage my symptoms in order to live in WELLNESS.

My favorite part of my day is in meditation and prayer, in the quiet of my space where I converse with Spirit.I know that each challenge that I face can be safely resolved when I “sit quietly alone in a room” with Spirit offering me solutions. My spiritual solutions and self care practices help me to achieve my health and wellness goals where I thrive each day.

Learn more from my upcoming book WRITE PRAY RECOVER:A JOURNEY TO WELLNESS THROUGH SPIRITUAL SOLUTIONS AND SELF CARE, and through my upcoming training WHOLE PERSON WELLNESS:AN INTEGRATIVE APPROACH TO RECOVERY on JAN. 8TH.

https://www.harmonioushealth4life.com/whole-person-wellness/

Find a quiet space. Listen. Take a small action step towards wellness. Commit to daily self care. Create a healthy lifestyle change. Baby steps.”Self care is the actions that we take to achieve wellness and wellness is where we stand in our power.”

Join my new PRIVATE FACEBOOK “WELLNESS RECOVERY COMMUNITY CIRCLE”

https://www.facebook.com/groups/908970266491776

Love and blessings,

Wendy

“One of the things that I use in my own life, and teach to my clients as well is using “I statements.“ When we use an ”I statement,” we take accountability for our own perception.

“I feel…, I am concerned because…I have observed and it makes me feel because…”

“I statements” provide us with an opportunity to have a successful outcome in any conversation. It keeps the dialogue open when we are not using the accusatory ”You” statements.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

“I understand why many people are very sensitive to the subject of God. Beliefs and understanding of what God means and represents are so personal. It is my choice to accept and respect each person’s personal understanding and practices, and to continue to practice my faith in the way that resonates with me. We are all looking for the same thing:

Love, connection, and peace.

For me, I believe that God is the catalyst, through unwavering faith, that provides me with love, connection, and peace.

We all travel a different path along our journey. Detours, re-routing, roadblocks and continuous travel subsequently guide us all to our corresponding destination.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

“When we are blessed with love and close friends in our lives who allow us to talk about our grief, it allows us to release the trauma. In fact, the body and mind connection is so strong that by allowing ourselves to release the trauma through processing, talking, and practicing self care, we can avoid dis-ease.

Through these mindful, healthy practices, we can begin to heal on a cellular level.

Learn more about the body/mind connection through my upcoming workshop Whole Person Wellness:The Gut/Brain Connection on Thursday, February 17, 2022 at 7pm.

Register here beginning Jan. 1, 2022

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/nutrition-for-the-body-mind-and-spiritthe-gutbrain-connection-tickets-229376008817

To your health and wellness!

Love and blessings,

Wendy

“In my opinion, lack of empathy screams fear of connection. Fear of connecting to one’s own truth, and fear of allowing oneself to connect to another.”

Love,

Wendy

“Remind yourself “I can choose peace rather than this,” and “I choose my wellness” when you feel the urge to react to someone or something that does not deserve your energy.

Re-direct your energy into the flow of love.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

In reflecting over the past few days where I experienced an opportunity to implement my spiritually aligned actions with one who has attempted to trigger me in my sobriety using the bullying strategies that triggered me to use drugs for decades, I realize that the Universe provided me with this experience to reinforce for myself, and for those whom I serve, my dedication to my wellness and sobriety.

When we stand in our power and in our truth, and we align with our spiritual practices, we are unshakable on our foundation.

I never take things like this personally. I used a positive response, wished him well, and went about my own day.

The behavior and words that were tossed at me are the owners responsibility.

Love and blessings,

Wendy