Category: Harmonious Health 4 Life

I observe so many people using their words like weapons, and their tongues as a machete on social media platforms.

Where does all of this anger stir from? It’s deeply toxic, and diffused daily can be as toxic as the air we are now breathing. Ongoing toxic thoughts and words promotes inflammation on a cellular level and affects our wellness.

How is this productive? The demeaning of another’s character, the use of name-calling, and a “tit for tat“ mindset that goes on, and on, as I scroll down the page in disbelief, where adults are decimating each other in this way is disheartening.

And our children and grandchildren are watching and listening. Trust me, you may not think they are, but they hear and see everything that we do. Is this the example we want to set?

I ask that you think about your words before you post. Breathe and speak as you want to be spoken to.

So many are now posting anonymously hiding behind their computer. I’m actually observing a bully mindset and bullying tactics.

There are conspiracy theories now about the air quality due to the Canadian fires. I do not agree with these theories, but I am certainly not going to demean and degrade people whose belief system is different than mine.

You have a choice to scroll right on by. You have a choice to implement self regulation and self control. You have a choice to tell yourself in your own space in the privacy of your home whatever you want to about the posts that you are reading by other people. Not everything has to be an invitation for combat. How is it productive to get into a back-and-forth mud slinging with people in our own community? We are all suffering. Isn’t this the time to support each other? To BE a community?!

Love is the absence of judgment. If we are standing in judgment of other people and publicly ridiculing them because of their beliefs, we are lacking empathy and respect.

I want to live in a world where others accept me for my beliefs and values, even if they do not agree with me. My beliefs and my values doesn’t make me right or wrong. It is however my choice to be honest and humble in my delivery.

Can’t we just agree to disagree and move forward?

Let’s remember all of our blessings and speak with eloquence and gratitude. Our global community has endured so much over the past few years, and now we are faced with another major challenge. I pray that we all take a deep breath, and realize that we are all on the same team. 

Yes, there is work to be done, and from where I’m standing, Its A Wonderful Life. It’s about mindset, perspective and empathy.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

Last night I prayed for God’s wisdom and Divine Intervention. This morning, I received a phone call with said Intervention. I recognized His response to my request for “an answer” in the words being spoken by my caller.

The most effective way to describe God’s response is that He stood with me “eye to eye” and I heard him simply say, “No, do not choose a new, “old” path. I am guiding you, and offering you my strength to work through this challenge. Together, step by step, we will continue on. Lean into my strength to take another step, purposefully and mindfully towards “Our” desired destination. Use this experience to offer hope to others.”

“When God says, “No,” stand in your faith. Pray. Listen. Surrender. He is creating space to move in ways that you cannot yet understand or see. “Romans 8:28 is a great reminder that in all things, God works for the good of those who love Him, and who have been called according to His purpose.”

I heard His message clearly. I exhaled in a sigh of relief as I “knew” that this would be His answer. We have an intimate relationship and daily dialogue where I am aware of what the outcome will be. Sometimes, I just need Him to validate my confidence in the “process.” As it states in A Course In Miracles, “Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait, and wait without anxiety.”

And so, I took one more baby step on the exclusive path that He has “called me” to “shepherd.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

It has come to this…

Working just to pay expenses to “exist,” never having the opportunity to live, to breathe and to experience a moment of peace…

MONEY. Or lack thereof.

No extra money for travel, home furnishings, pretty sweaters, an occasional out to dinner treat…

A new normal.

For some. You know that saying, “The rich are gettting richer…” and “Borrow from Peter to pay Paul.” Black and white. Simply no grey. No color.

Our bodies and minds are exhausted from the sheer daily chore of trying to make ends meet, unsuccessfully. Working two jobs, nights, weekends…no rest for the weary.

Our physical health and mental health are dwindling. Sleep deprived. A chronic mental and physical state of anxiety alternating with depression. Thinking of the way one “used to live” while they attempt to unpack and process the information of their “new normal.”

Others have suggestions on continuing to “exist,” but there is no long term solution to actually live in peace of mind and joy in the way that others do.

Family that has wronged a family member financially, purposefully, for their own selfish agenda, and the other family members who turn their heads and pretend not to see. Unconsciounable.

We live to pay ridiculous amounts of taxes, insurance, bills, and cost of living continues to go up, yet our salaries remain the same.

What does one do?

I do not have an informed response. I too, am at a loss, on many levels.

So, offer grace and empathy to others.

You have no clue as to what others are dealing with behind their hard work at their “job,” and behind their “smile.” They go home, close the front door, and feel despondent with yet another grueling, back breaking day behind them, and the next one soon to show up in the morning.

Financial strife? Welcome to life!

Love,

Wendy

I chose to no longer make justifications for one’s toxic behavior. I chose to conserve my energy…to not deplete it due to another’s unwell, skewed and jarring thoughts and behaviors that were not in alignment with mine.

I finally chose to see the “truth,” which is that we live with completely different perspectives that will never meet head on, rather only to continue to collide.

Once I chose ME, and my wellness, joy and peace, God brought me the perfect relationship in love.

And that is how I knew I was ready.

This was a life lesson that I did not expect. With gratitude, I continue to seek God’s guidance. It has been an ongoing practice of spiritual connection, and cultivating meaningful connection with myself. I am now ready and eager to make a connection with another.

It began with “the greatest love of all.”

Thy will be done, always.

This year my only resolution is to set daily achievable goals, and to celebrate my daily accomplishments. This is how I remain in the present moment.

I do not make plans for an entire year.

Things change, situations arise, and when I am present, I am aware of my immediate circumstances. I have the ability to navigate adversity and challenges with self awareness, self regulation and wellness practices that best serves me.

And most importantly, I follow Spirit’s guidance.

Thy will be done.

Stand in your faith!

Stay in the present moment!

Celebrate your daily achievements, and try again tomorrow when you fall short of your goal.

One day at a time.

Wishing you a blessed 2023!

Love,

Wendy

Allow yourself to feel, to experience your emotions, and if you feel called to do so, share your feelings.

Journal, talk to someone you trust, or have a conversation with God.

I find that using the following template to express my feelings, keeps the focus on how I am feeling and allows me to take accountability for my perception rather than pointing my finger at someone or something else.

“I feel ________ when _________ because __________.”

“I feel disappointed when my loved one doesn’t stay connected because it makes me feel insignificant.” I am allowed to feel how I feel.

I do journal daily, I stay proactive in my relationships by communicating how I am feeling, and my greatest healing comes from my daily dialogue with God. I am always able to see other perspectives through His guidance and love.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

I believe that God guides us in order to serve others who He observes in need of loving support and guidance.

And, when there is resistance to our Divinely led support from others for an extended period of time, God re-directs our service to those who are willing to embrace change, and those who are willing to work towards becoming a spiritual student, and teacher.

Recently, my re-direction has taken me on a new path of serving, one that I did not think I would return to, but as a spiritual student, and teacher, I want to deepen my Divine connection and to continue to learn, and to evolve, so I surrender to the Universe/God/Spirit.

I am always grateful for “continuing education” in order to grow, and to lead others on their own spiritual journey.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

People treat others with behaviors and words that have been modeled for them.

This is their normal.

If other’s behaviors are unkind and reactive, remind yourself that this is their limited way of expressing themselves through a narrow lens, and in no way is reflective of you.

Seek communication and collaboration through a wider lens.

In relationships, when we collaborate and step outside the box to resolve our challenges, we recognize collaboration as a flow…a win win rather than engaging in adversarial behaviors.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

When one cannot identify with their own feelings and emotions, or they are too fearful to do so, they sync to the feelings and even the thoughts and behaviors of others.

They may have not been “seen and heard” as a youngster, and even as a young adult/adult. They do not have the words to identify their feelings, or may be too afraid to speak their truth, and so they look for others who are excessively loud and expressive in their vernacular as they are trying to state the inner emotions that may be simmering. Often, these are people who are actually feeling deeply insecure, and who are also looking for attention (in the most unhealthy ways.)

As I observe, I notice that the louder and angrier someone is in their expression whether it is verbal, or in their actions, I ask myself, “What happened to them?”

This is known as a “Trauma Informed Approach.”

When people feel the need to be crass, excessively boisterous, and engage in unhealthy, limiting beliefs and behaviors, I choose to employ empathy.

Sometimes, it is a challenge, but empathy is a place where I understand what another may have experienced to cause them to exhibit such desperate behaviors in order to be noticed, and even loved.

Do you need guidance for nutrition body, mind and spirit?

Fill out the contact page on my website www.harmonioushealth4life.com to chat. Let’s do a virtual coffee!

Love and blessings,

Wendy

Last night, my Oxytocin breathing put me into a deep meditative state and helped to disconnect my thoughts from debilitating pain and spasm, one week post surgical procedure. Instead, I was able to focus on my breath and the purposeful verbal “Aaaaahhhhhhh” sound that I created to stimulate my vagus nerve for a repeated surge of oxytocin.

As I mindfully focused on my breath and the self motivated stimulation of my vagus nerve which releases oxytoxin, a hormone which has the power to regulate our emotional responses and promote a “warm and fuzzy feeling,” I finally felt relief from the chronic pain post surgical procedure of 7 days ago, and I was able to fall asleep at around 2am. Prior to this, for hours, I was experiencing severe, ongoing spasms and constant anxiety, where I could not find any relief.

I spoke to my friend/Chiropractor, Paul, in the middle of the day who explained that what I was feeling were the muscles in my back trying to pump blood to the nerves. He suggested some yoga poses,

Just by observing one’s breath, the body is able to reset itself. Then we can use the information from that observation to manage our pain, and emotional regulation.

Our breath is our most accessible tool in intervening with our physiology in real time.

For more information on how I can support you in my wellness coaching program, email me at WendyBlanchard044@gmail.com and write WELLNESS in the subject line.

For more information on this mindful breathing and healing strategy, Oxytocin Breathing, click here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5gDfmBAh3ww

I chose NOT to go to the emergency room because I am unwilling to receive (the probability of) narcotic drugs due to my successful long term recovery from prescription drug addiction. Instead, I used my holistic tools to mindfully and purposefully manage my symptoms. I will always continue to choose wellness, as I continue to heal.

Wellness and the way in which we heal is always a personal choice.

Love and blessings,

Wendy