“Only when one becomes so fed up with their own story…the “woe is me” victim mindset, will there be any growth. This is where one asks for support in creating change as they have been awakened.
Start with the man in the mirror. Make that change.”
Wendy Blanchard, MS, CHHC
“When we react rather than communicate, we reveal our limited awareness of self, and to our own conscious relationship to our own suffering. This victim energy chooses to blame outside forces, blocking their spiritual evolution and sense of awareness.
A true spiritual awakening seeks to explore within, takes responsibility, willing to create healthy change, and is eager to align with their “truth,” as they experience an awakening guided by Spirit.”
“Once I went into recovery and began to heal, I realized that I am the only person I am responsible for, and I cannot control what others may think or approve of in my choices. Whatever they “thought” about me was about them, and in fact, issues they themselves needed to resolve. When others are judging us, it is the mirror that we hold up to them where they see themselves, and it reveals their own reflection. It is where one either sees their truth and makes a decision to create change, or they back away in fear, and live in a false sense of security in an unhealthy comfort zone.
I began to go to therapy, and to take the time to explore myself in-depth. I wanted to understand my addiction, release the trauma through self-discovery, and get well so that I could live my best life. I began to heal my trauma through talk therapy and my willingness to try a multitude of natural and organic solutions as I began a holistic health lifestyle. I felt “reborn” as I discovered and began to practice a completely new way of life. To be honest, I feel as if I experienced a spiritual awakening, and I no longer cared what anyone else thought. My spiritual awakening was getting off drugs, connecting to myself, connecting deeply to the Universe/God/Spirit, being willing to explore and work through all of my trauma, and to explore new and healthy lifestyle changes that would be sustainable, always with my faith as the foundation. I know that I am always doing the right thing for myself, and for those around me, and that brings me peace, and self-satisfaction, and humbling pride. I noticed that as I began to acquire coping skills and was willing to take risks, it was only the anticipation of the action that was the scariest, and once I faced the fear head on and completed a task, there was a wonderful sense of accomplishment. Even if I didn’t get it right, I used it as a learning tool. I knew I could possibly try it again in the future, or I could just let it go if I didn’t feel it would serve me.
My greatest fear was setting boundaries with anyone. I used to be a people pleaser, and would never say “No.” I would fear that others would get mad at me, that others would no longer like me or want to remain my friend or want to spend time with me. Even with family members who were clearly disrespecting my kindness and my willingness to help, I would continuously allow their behavior to control me where I found myself enveloped in their unhealthy and selfish web of dysfunction. I allowed it to continue because I felt that the more I did, the more I would be loved. On my wellness journey, I have been enlightened. The truth is, the more I did for others that went unappreciated and unnoticed, the more drained and exhausted and resentful I felt. And none of it enhanced my own life. There was never any reciprocity or gratitude. The more I did, the more I was asked to do, and with more frequent and irrational demands on my time and energy.
I began to set healthy and firm boundaries and I say, “No,” whenever I feel I would be overextending myself or whenever I feel whatever it is I am being asked will not serve me. I practice self-care first. If something that I am being asked to do is going to jeopardize my wellness, the answer is “no.” No regrets. No apologies. Those who are coming from a good and loving place support and respect my boundaries, and applaud my healthy new lifestyle.”
“When we take notice of where we are Divinely guided, we can offer others solutions and wellness approaches through our own experiences to achieve Harmonious Health 4 Life!
And…when we are Spiritually awake, we notice the people placed in front of us as blessings for a higher purpose.
Today, offer a smile, a kind word, a virtual hug, and your time to another, and perhaps to a project that will serve others where they will feel empowered.
SHARE YOUR GIFTS.”
Wendy Blanchard, MS, CHHC
“Dichotomous thinking, or “black and white thinking,” prevents us from seeing the vibrant colors which speaks to the meaning and beauty of diversity.”
Wendy Blanchard, MS, CHHC
“When you use a different lens it allows you to see things much differently with a new perspective. Maybe even some thing you never noticed before but that you are willing to see now that you’ve been given a second chance with a clearer view.
It is always Divine guidance that brings us the information at precisely the right time according to His plan, and according to the time when we are finally willing to see the truth. No sooner…no later. Right on time.”
Wendy Blanchard, MS, CHHC
“Sitting with our emotions and allowing ourselves to feel it all as it moves through us allows us to remain present, to acknowledge whatever we are feeling, to validate those feelings without judgement, and to constructively navigate through it all. Our goal is to allow, observe, acknowledge, seek to understand, and use the lesson to evolve and keep as a tool.
The total package for building resiliency.
Emotions are not “bad” or “good.” Emotions are information.” – Wendy Blanchard, MS, CHHC, CPS
When we give ourselves permission to step out of the darkness, we are met with a brilliant light through another whose soul is pure and filled with an abundance of love…who is excited to love, and to be loved.
When we allow ourselves to view another through a new lens, as if we are seeing them for the first time, and we choose again to align with love, love shows up.”
Wendy Blanchard, MS, CHHC
“It is not enough to acknowledge the inequities that exist. It will take a new kind of energy and fortitude to break down what exists, and construct a new normal, and new future for our youth. Our youth, most especially, need support right now. It is in this present moment where we need to create real change.”
Wendy Blanchard, MS, CHHC, CPS
“We must take hold of our emotions and constructively communicate our feelings and what it is that we need without inflammatory language and violence as this never offers us a resolution.
As we express our emotions with specific behaviors, we MUST be mindful of the example that we are setting for our impressionable youth.
Do we really want to send a message of validation of violence and hate, and one of condoning unhealthy behaviors to receive attention? We need to demonstrate constructive and mindful behaviors, and use of appropriate language to resolve conflict.
Please, use your self awareness skills as you feel your emotions escalate to regulate your voice and your behaviors where we can resolve our issues in a peaceful manner. Here is where love, empathy and compassion across all races, colors, and religions need to ask the question, “What action can we take right now together as a community to begin the healing process across all barriers creating connection through a wider lens?”
Wendy Blanchard, MS, CHHC, CPS
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