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A Love Letter to our Wellness in Recovey Community – Love, Wendy

Thank you for trusting me with your personal stories yesterday and last night.

Wow.

There is so much truth to the fact that we ALL have a story, and that when we share our stories, it allows us to feel supported, and to support others who are experiencing challenges, adversity and heartbreak.

Please know that suffering does not discriminate. However, as we come together and we share our experiences, and we pray for each other, we build a loving community, a spiritual community, where we also build resilience. And the more we practice resilience through healthy practices, daily, the stronger we become…the more resilient we become.

We adapt and navigate with mindful determination through the stress, we continue to be productive, go to work, enjoy our family and friends, love, laugh, cry, all together, knowing we are not alone. One day at a time. One hour at a time. One moment at a time.

I shared my personal story of my own 13 year recovery from substance use disorder as well as my daughter’s ongoing battle with this life threatening disease. You reached out privately to share your similar story and experience. And so many of you told me you had not shared before. To unpack that build up of burden is a relief to our physical and mental health.

What I have learned over the years in working in this field, and having the lived experience is that we NEED each other, and we experience comfort when we feel a part of a loving community. And we all deserve to live in peace and wellness, no matter our circumstances.

WE are not alone when we speak our truth and ask for what we need. And inherently, we know what we need to feel better. It will look different for everyone, and will change over time with our circumstances.

Love, kindness, support, prayer. COMMUNITY.

KEEP SHARING.
KEEP PRAYING.

Find whatever healthy practice provides you with wellness and peace, and take time for your self care every day.

You have the right to live your life in peace, joy, and wellness.

You can read my entire story in my book Write Pray Recover:A Journey To Wellness Through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care on Amazon and online bookstores worldwide. https://a.co/d/iUCD8NW

Thank you.

Love and blessings,

Wendy ❤️

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Empowering Wellness – Love, Wendy

Using healthy self care practices are the tools that empower my wellness.

Two of my favorite tools are breathwork and music which are grounding, no matter what’s happening around me. It’s like building my own little sanctuary in my body and my mind which ripples into my external space…a space where I can breathe, reset and feel safe.

I always say that breathing is an access point for improving our self-awareness and self-regulation. It is our most accessible tool for intervening with our physiology in real time. Music reminds me of simpler times, and elicits a deep sense of connection.

Empower yourself through healthy practices and do not allow external turmoil and disorder to dictate your inner peace.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Caring for your mental and physical health during these unprecedented times – Love, Wendy

The brain has its limits when it comes to processing information, especially when it’s complex or emotionally charged.

Psychologically, we tend to get overwhelmed when we are bombarded with too much uncertainty, bad news, or major shifts in their environment. This type of overload (allostatic load–a physiological stress response when repeatedly exposed to stress which is affecting our wellness. DAILY self care is needed for balance and wellness) is where stress hormones like cortisol ramp up, and it becomes harder to focus or make decisions.

When we are observing our fundamental rights and our democracy under attack constantly throughout the day and in a very short amount of time, we feel our safety net blowing in the wind and our once solid foundation crack.

We are watching the erosion of our rights and freedoms.

Practicing extra self care, especially during times of external chaos is the one thing we have control over. We must preserve our personal power. It’s like putting on your own oxygen mask first before you can help others. Our family, friends, our adult children, our grandchildren, our students may be looking to us for comfort and guidance.

By preserving our personal power, we are more inclined to stay grounded and resilient when everything feels overwhelming, and in this space we are able to support others.

I literally felt breathless last night as I tried to fall asleep. I had to do mindful breathing for awhile before I was able to feel more at peace. Deliberately implementing a relaxed breathing pattern calms a dysregulated nervous system.

Our breath is our most accessible tool to intervene with our physiology in real time.

I made the following changes and I am suggesting these to you, my dear readers, as a possible source of alleviating the chronic stress and taking back your personal power.

  1. Turn off all news notifications on your cell phone. I only left on the “emergency notification.”
  2. I only watch the weather on the television, never the news broadcast as they tend to bombard us with the same information over and over.
  3. Engage in self care practices that bring you peace and wellness. There is a wonderful mantra that I practice from “A Course In Miracles” that says, “I can choose peace rather than this.” Whenever I begin to feel my body tightening and my heart racing, I remind myself of this simple yet powerful mantra.
  4. I am a writer, so writing is so cathartic for me as I release my thoughts and emotions onto the paper. Perhaps journaling your thoughts and emotions would be helpful. Writing stimulates the RAS Reticular Activation System in the brain and this part of the brain filters and processes information. SO EFFECTIVE.
  5. Getting outdoors to breathe the fresh air and to release the overwhelming negative energy through a walk in nature is so comforting. I always come home feeling calmer, more peaceful and hopeful.
  6. I listen to “Calm Radio” on Pandora.
  7. I practice mediation and mindful breathing and stretching.
  8. Give yourself whatever you need…i.e., your favorite cup of tea, coffee, light candles, essential oils, etc. A healthy practice supports a healthy mind and body.
  9. Talk to a trusted friend or loved one. DON’T get stuck on the negative. Going around and around about the negative creates a downward spiral of our mental health.
  10. IN ANY MOMENT WHERE WE FEEL STRESSED OR TRIGGERED, WE CAN CHOOSE TO USE OUR “RATIONAL AND WISE MIND” VS OUR “EMOTIONAL MIND,” IF WE ARE PRACTICING ONGOING SELF CARE. IN THIS MOMENT, WE CAN STOP AND ASK OURSELVES, “WHAT ACTION/PRACTICE WILL SERVE ME BEST IN THIS MOMENT? WHAT WILL PROMOTE MY WELLNESS?”

Allow your brain space and time to receive information, and use the information as it pertains to your individual situation.

Most of what we are experiencing is out of our control. Focus on yourself and your loved ones.

Do whatever you can to preserve your physical and mental health by practicing daily self care, and do it often throughout the day.

Release any thoughts of worry. Be prepared for unexpected events in whatever way brings you peace. And remind yourself often…

“I can choose peace rather than this…”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Pause – Love, Wendy

Today, before you make a choice to numb your stress with an unhealthy substance or behavior, please ask yourself, “How is this going to be productive in navigating this situation?” “What other action could I take to bring me peace in this situation?” “Who can I talk to about my feelings?”

One hour at a time. Baby steps.

It’s easy to fall into the trap of quick fixes when stress hits, but they rarely offer lasting relief.

These questions give you time to “Pause” which is a practical approach to making the healthiest decision for yourself.

Taking it step by step keeps things from feeling too overwhelming.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Spiritual Immunization – Love, Wendy

Spiritual immunization means putting oneself first, daily, using spiritual solutions and self care practices. This includes any healthy practices that create an environment of peace, joy and wellness with a foundation in faith and gratitude.

When we are “spiritually immunized,” we set limits, and implement healthy boundaries to protect our own energy. We are deeply connected to Spirit, and we are of service to others seeking a spiritual immunization and spiritual lifestyle.

When we are “spiritually immunized,” we are unshakeable in our faith regardless of the cacophony of intended distractions that surround us by those who have not yet found their Divine light within.

When we are “spiritually immunized,” we continue to lead by example, radiate positive energy as we lead the way, and we stand ready to guide those who step onto their spiritual path when they are ready.

When we are “spiritually immunized,” we know that we are lovingly guided, and we live with peace in our soul…

Life is not meant to be stressful and chaotic.

A “spiritual immunization” reminds us that our wellness comes first, to stand in faith, and to allow ourselves the freedom to live, laugh, love and learn.

Spiritual immunization promotes wellness.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life

From Stress to Serenity- Love, Wendy


Our emotional health is such an overlooked factor in influencing the length and quality of an individual’s life.

Shaping lifespan refers to the ways in which both genetic and environmental factors influence the length and quality of an individual’s life. The concept encompasses a range of biological, social, and lifestyle determinants that interact to affect longevity. 

Poorly managed, or unmanaged chronic stress, an allostatic load, fuels unhealthy coping habits like overeating and substance use that promotes dis-ease, eroding health and wellness, and shortening one’s lifespan, especially when we are not taking time to practice self care to balance our emotional and physical states. When we are experiencing chronic stress, the body remains in a constant state of ‘fight or flight,’ which leads to persistent inflammation, hormonal imbalances, and a weakened immune system.

This ongoing wear and tear, known as allostatic load, accelerates the aging process, increases susceptibility to chronic illnesses like heart disease, diabetes, and autoimmune disorders, and can severely impact mental health.

Moreover, in severe cases, poor emotional health impacts one’s longevity when individuals who are feeling unwell, emotionally, or living with a mental health disorder that goes untreated, tragically end their own lives prematurely…which is occurring at unprecedented rates.

At this time of year between holiday stress, financial stress, living with a chronic illness, grieving those we’ve lost, or reflecting on a year filled with challenges, it’s imperative to remember the importance of self-compassion and balance. 

When we actively practice self-care—whether through mindfulness, exercise, healthy eating, or seeking professional support—we can counteract the effects of stress, restore balance to our bodies and minds, and cultivate a more sustainable, healthier lifestyle.

When we invest in our well-being, we promote long-term health, vitality, and even longevity. The choices we make for ourselves on a daily basis either creates inflammation, or wellness.

Please remember to take a break when you need to during this season, and throughout the year as a lifestyle practice.

This can look like unplugging from social media, daily intentional self care, or reaching out to a trusted friend or mental health professional when you need support.

TAKE A BREAK.

For more self care and spiritual solution ideas to manage your chronic stress, read my book, Write Pray Recover:A Journey To Wellness Through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care.

This is an interactive journal that guides one from stress to serenity.

https://a.co/d/3ZSZsHv

Wishing you and yours a healthy, joyous and blessed holiday season.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life

Your Spiritual Compass – Love, Wendy

That intense, warm intuitive feeling in the depths of your gut is angel communication. Pay close attention to these details from the Divine.

The language of the Divine is unmistakable and speaks not through loud demands, but through a gentle tap on the shoulder, feelings, or synchronicities that resonate deeply within…

Follow your spiritual compass.

Love,

Wendy

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Managing Daily Stress For Lasting Wellness – Love, Wendy

Find your inner strength and resolve to allow your mind to steer you towards wellness, recognizing that true resilience comes from within with every opportunity that affords you to practice navigating with a clear mind and healthy body, not from the fleeting relief of external substances. External situations, no matter how challenging, should never dictate your choices or push you towards unhealthy coping mechanisms.

By recognizing and nurturing your inner clarity, you have the opportunity to make healthy practices a lifestyle. Try grounding yourself in healthier ways to manage stress—such as mindfulness, exercise, organic foods, loving connections, and self-reflection where you empower yourself to face life’s challenges and adversity, disappointments and hardships with awareness, grace and stability.

In choosing wellness over temporary escapes, you honor your body and mind, building lasting strength, and a sense of agency that no external circumstance can take away. Remember, the power to heal and grow always resides within you when you practice daily self care, self respect and self preservation.

As it states in my book, Write Pray Recover:A Journey To Wellness Through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care, “Self care is the actions that we take to achieve wellness, and wellness is where we stand in our power.”

Take care of yourself for yourself, and to demonstrate to others how you expect to be treated. By honoring your own needs and setting clear boundaries, you show others that you value yourself and deserve to be treated with kindness and consideration. 

And perhaps, you will encourage those observing your agency and practices to set their own standards a little higher.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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A GLOBAL TRAUMA RESPONSE- WENDY BLANCHARD, MS, CHHC, CPS

Each of us, in our own individual way, is experiencing a response to our current global Pandemic.

And, we all have a right to our response. We are experiencing an impending mental health crisis. Lives, jobs, homes lost. Others paralyzed in fear that disables them from leaving their homes…even for food. Shortages of food and supplies. Loved ones, friends and neighbors succumbing to COVID19…maybe even oneself.
Our children feeling ongoing uncertainty, fear, and many a loss of experiences such as prom, sports and even a graduation ceremony, distance learning which for many is extremely challenging for a variety of reasons, especially if one has learning challenges…all of which occurred in the form of a sucker punch…never saw it coming.

As a mental health educator, holistic health practitioner, and teacher, I am receiving many requests for wellness support and mental health support.

This is always a positive and proactive approach to recovery. As professionals, we don’t have all of the answers, but as for me, I share all that I have in wellness strategies, and practice my training in mental health first aid both for youth, and for adults, as well as suicide safety. And, when I cannot serve the potential clients, and/or family and friends, I refer out to a select few mental health/holistic professionals with whom I collaborate and for whom I have the utmost highest regard.

A trauma response may look like debilitating anxiety, depression, suicidal thoughts and behaviors, extreme sadness and excessive worry, and an inability to function in daily living activities… The inability to live, laugh, love, and learn.

if you or a loved one is experiencing any of the above symptoms or anything that mimics these symptoms for two weeks or more, and it is impacting your daily living activities with severe impact so that you may not be eating, eating too much, not sleeping, or sleeping too much, unable to find the joy in anything, excessive fear that causes physical symptoms such as headaches, gastrointestinal symptoms, lethargy, not interacting with loved ones, or self-medicating with drugs or alcohol, I urge you to reach out for support. You can reach out to your primary care physician, and through telemedicine, your local mental health providers, social workers, psychologist, and even peer specialists. There are also some wonderful APPS for anxiety.

in New York State, there is a wonderful online resources and training center that provides an abundance of resources and support for educators, families, students, and community partners.

For this information, visit http://www.mentalhealthednys.org. Also, feel free to email me for information on resources in the Hudson Valley region at WendyBlanchard044@gmail.com. Please put the word RESOURCES in the subject line.

If you are feeling unwell, you are not alone. Please reach out immediately for support. Everyone who has a trauma response to our current situation will experience different symptoms and these symptoms may change as time goes on. Early intervention is key!

With love, blessings and prayers,

Wendy

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Welcome to Write Pray Recover! A journey to wellness through self care and spiritual solutions – Wendy Blanchard, M.S., CHHC

Today we launched our new site, Write Pray Recover: A Journey to Wellness through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care!

This website will provide you with inspiration, guidance, ideas, and hope in recovery from Substance Use Disorder and Mental Illness through my own experience and transformations over the past 6 1/2 years of my own recovery from prescription drug addition and mental health challenges. I have recovered, and continue to sustain my recovery through healthy wellness practices, and a dedicated spiritual practice that is at the root of my ongoing successful and sustainable recovery. I am thriving in recovery!

I am a mental health professional, trained in a variety of areas, and I am a certified holistic health counselor where I support and guide others in their recovery according to what they feel they need to be successful, healthy, joyous, and productive…with passion! I assist them in achieving their health and wellness goals!

It is always miraculous when someone recovers from an illness, and continues to heal through working toward ongoing self discovery. It reveals the pride one has in themselves, and that they are willing to learn, to grow, to work hard, and to evolve…for themselves, their loved ones, and their community.  Some may “speak” the right lingo, but we all know that it is not authentic until you connect your words to synchronized action. “Walk the talk.” This…is true recovery.

In the disease of Substance Use Disorder (SUD) and Co-Occurring Disorders, i.e., Mental Illness (MI), Eating Disorders, (EDs) etc., it is always miraculous when one in recovery has done the work to mindfully make changes where they experience self love, to practice self care, and to find a true spiritual path that allows one to purposefully and successfully sustain their recovery. One that offers an individual choice in a pathway to recovery. I chose a holistic pathway through natural and organic solutions. This is my greatest accomplishment in recovery…and, miracle. I am whole, and I am so blessed to be able to pay it forward with the love and support of so many, many people in our community, and of course, my loved ones and friends.

I, too, seek ongoing support as I am cognizant of my weaknesses that creep up from time to time, and I am eager to work to improve upon them so that I can be the best me, the best mom, girlfriend, friend, and offer my best self as an advocate, peer, Ambassador, and community educator to all of the patients, clients and community members that I work with each day. I have the opportunity to offer them the insight and encouragement they need to create change through my own journey of a sustainable and successful recovery.

In my own recovery from Substance Use Disorder, and Mental Illness, through my years of diligent work, determination, resilience, strength that I didn’t know I had, my willingness to change, and the greatest piece of all…love and care of self, I remain grateful for all of the experiences and people that have helped me to become the woman I am today…with the Universe/Spirit/God’s grace and blessing. I will continue my journey and my dedication to being a voice for those suffering with the disease of SUD, and Mental Illness, and their loved ones. I will continue to advocate for much needed change, to educate and empower our community on this disease, its risk factors, its protective factors, how to recognize signs and symptoms, how to safely and empathetically engage, and how to offer reassurance and offer appropriate resources to those asking for help. I will continue to work on eliminating the stigma of Substance Use Disorder and Mental Illness…a progressive brain disease, sometimes occurring simultaneously, or “co-occurring.”

It is imperative that we, ourselves, be educated, trained, and perhaps have life experience in the field so that we may truly empathize with others, as well having an ongoing opportunity in the community to work with those suffering with the disease, and their families. We must be on the front lines. We must become educated on the facts. We must sit and hold a hand. We must listen to a story with great empathy and compassion with no regard for our own views, and we must have the time to devote to someone in need if we decide to work the front lines. We must decide a beneficial course of action to suggest to those asking for help based on what they feel they need that will allow one to feel safe, empowered, and respected…making them proactive in their recovery.

It only takes one person to make effective changes, especially with Substance Use Disorder and Mental Illness, although we must work as a team. Having one person believe in me throughout my recovery, and I’ve had more than one, has been the sustaining force in me believing in myself. We all want to know that we are not alone, and that we are loved, and to have validation that we are on the right path. I think whether we are in recovery, or not, we all need and want these things. We cannot isolate ourselves. We cannot hide from the pain. We must try our best to find the courage to ask for guidance and support…ongoing. We may not want to say it aloud, but when we are alone, or blaming others for our pain, in the silence, we know the truth…and we can either step up to ourselves and begin the work, with lifelong support, if needed, or allow the thoughts and the emotions run us into a ditch. We can still make our way up and out, but we need a loving hand of guidance.

Sometimes a loved one is not yet ready to take that first step. If their behavior is affecting our own health, it has been suggested to me by the professionals highly respected in this field to “detach with love, and be there when they’re ready.” We must put the oxygen mask on ourselves first…you know the drill.

It is such a vulnerable and frightening time when the darkness is prevalent…and in my opinion, the only way out…is connection. Connection is the path to the light. My light comes from those loving souls that I surround myself with each day, most especially my loving children, and loving friends and colleagues, and we all receive our “power” and our “Connection” from this loving Universe. For me, my strong Faith comes from my Connection to the Universe/Spirit/God. And I always know that the One who knows all…knows all. There is never any doubt of my loving Intentions…

I am so blessed with a wonderful family, so many wonderful friends, and my amazing work family, as well as so much love and respect from the community that I love so much. Every day that I hear someone say, “Thank you,” or tell me that they have been helped, or a family member has been helped by my work in the community, it validates for me the path that has been chosen for me by the Universe, and one where I am making a difference…by the grace of God, and the amazing people I surround myself with.

It is an honor and a privilege to serve the people of my community on so many levels, and to continuously be asked to go out and speak to more and more people, to educate, to empower, and to just have a conversation as a peer, a teacher to students, families and educators, as an advocate, as a survivor, is worth its weight in gold…For me, this is what I live for, and it is truly priceless.

We MUST change our language when we talk about Mental Illness and SUD. It will change the way we think, as well as our understanding of M.I. and S.U.D., eliminate stigma, and empower our communities through education of this chronic brain disease which is diagnosable, treatable and manageable.

Most importantly, we must implement daily self care and wellness practices that resonate with us individually. What makes us feel better when we are feeling unwell? What and who has helped us in the past? What do I need right this moment to help me to feel better, balanced, and well? Speak up! Ask for what you need! So many are willing, in a loving and caring capacity, to assist us. All we have to do is ask.

Knowing our triggers, avoiding them whenever possible, and having the awareness of our emotions, and the ability to manage emotions, are all an important piece of recovery. When our wellness practices are not bringing us back to wellness, we must know when it is necessary to reach out and ask for help from a professional. Think of your physical health. If you are feeling so unwell, you inherently know you need to see the doctor so that he can treat you accordingly and you can begin to heal. Please think of your mental health in the same capacity. When your wellness practices are not helping you to feel better, seek out help from your primary care physician, therapist, social worker, or a trusted friend or loved one. TELL SOMEONE WHAT YOU FEEL YOU NEED. There are ALWAYS options.

If you would like more information on my holistic health practice, and/or you would like to be connected to a variety of holistic practitioners, please contact me at wendyblanchard044@gmail.com.

Mindfulness strategies, inspirational quotes/stories, healthy nutritional suggestions, exercise, meditations, and thought provoking questions are just some of the exciting topics that I will address here on my website! You can also follow me on Facebook at WRITE PRAY RECOVER and Harmonious Health 4 Life.

Please watch for my upcoming book WRITE PRAY RECOVER : A Journey to Wellness through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care to be released in late 2020! This is an interactive journal for you to reflect and to write, in addition to my story of lifelong substance use disorder, and my miraculous recovery.

In the meantime, just for this moment, think about one thing that made you smile, or made you happy today! Write it down! Start a daily Joy Journal! No matter how many challenges we experience, there is always at least one thing in our day to jump for joy over! Waking up! Eating a delicious meal! Seeing/speaking to our children/family! Hearing a song! Taking a nature walk! Volunteering! Kissing our sweetheart! Writing! Dancing! Singing! Whatever wellness practice resonates with you and makes you feel well…do it!

And last by NEVER least, I want to acknowledge my loving son, Matthew, who created this forum for me to have the ongoing dialogue that I feel is necessary to eliminate stigma and to raise awareness on Substance Use Disorder and Mental Illness. Matthew started me on my very first blog on August 4, 2013, (now part of my upcoming book), and here we are again collaborating and creating a forum for one of the most important issues going on in our world today…Substance abuse and mental health.

Thank you Matthew for being my biggest support and for believing in my work. Love you always, Mom.

Feel free to leave comments and questions!

Sat Nam…(“Truth is my Name”)

Love and blessings,

Wendy