Romanticizing the few fleeting moments of seemingly loving attention given by a toxic partner is trauma bonding.
Living with the hopes of rekindling that toxic relationship is a trauma response.
When we finally do the work to release and reframe trauma, we know better and we do MUCH better.
Remember that we live what we learn. When we know better, we do better. And finally, we teach people how to treat us.”
Love and blessings,
Wendy
“When I recently learned that he moved on with another after visiting me to profess only of his love for me, I was not at all surprised.
Always listen to your intuition.”
Love,
Wendy
“The way in which we identify, i. e., straight, gay, LGBTQ, a belief and practice of an organized religion, a personal spiritual practice that is alternative, our heritage, the color of our skin, our financial status, our career path, how we manage the day to day mental health challenges we may experience including substance use disorder, etc., in my humble opinion, does not define who we are.
I believe that which defines each of us is the Universal practice of unconditional love, unconditional empathy and compassion, unconditional kindness and acceptance, wholehearted integrity and that of total and complete loving support of each beautiful soul that we connect with.”
Love and blessings,
Wendy
I will begin my 10th year of wellness recovery from mental health/substance use disorder on 4-3-22. The exacerbation of my severe brain disorder caused by decades of trauma that went untreated was due to my isolation and never speaking my truth. When I would sit in the quiet of my own space, I knew my truth. I knew that I needed mental health treatment. I KNEW…
But as my mother used to say, “The silence was deafening.” I would sit in prayer/meditation as I did each day and was offered spiritual guidance that which encouraged me to ask for help, but sitting quietly and knowing my own truth was too frightening, and I continued to numb the truth with prescription drugs.
Finally, after decades of living with these dis-orders, and upon awakening from a near fatal overdose, I sat quietly, asked once more for spiritual direction, and Spirit encouraged me to ask for help. I followed those directions, and have been listening to this guidance every day since.It is in the quiet of my space each day that I am reminded that I live with a former brain disorder, yet that which is always dormant, but that I am in control of the choices that I make to manage my symptoms in order to live in WELLNESS.
My favorite part of my day is in meditation and prayer, in the quiet of my space where I converse with Spirit.I know that each challenge that I face can be safely resolved when I “sit quietly alone in a room” with Spirit offering me solutions. My spiritual solutions and self care practices help me to achieve my health and wellness goals where I thrive each day.
Learn more from my upcoming book WRITE PRAY RECOVER:A JOURNEY TO WELLNESS THROUGH SPIRITUAL SOLUTIONS AND SELF CARE, and through my upcoming training WHOLE PERSON WELLNESS:AN INTEGRATIVE APPROACH TO RECOVERY on JAN. 8TH.
https://www.harmonioushealth4life.com/whole-person-wellness/
Find a quiet space. Listen. Take a small action step towards wellness. Commit to daily self care. Create a healthy lifestyle change. Baby steps.”Self care is the actions that we take to achieve wellness and wellness is where we stand in our power.”
Join my new PRIVATE FACEBOOK “WELLNESS RECOVERY COMMUNITY CIRCLE”
https://www.facebook.com/groups/908970266491776
Love and blessings,
Wendy
“One of the things that I use in my own life, and teach to my clients as well is using “I statements.“ When we use an ”I statement,” we take accountability for our own perception.
“I feel…, I am concerned because…I have observed and it makes me feel because…”
“I statements” provide us with an opportunity to have a successful outcome in any conversation. It keeps the dialogue open when we are not using the accusatory ”You” statements.”
Love and blessings,
Wendy
I am, by nature, filled with love. My heart, my body, my mind, and my soul fall deeply in love.
When I fall out of love, when I have been dis-respected, and dishonored as an ongoing pattern of someone else’s behaviors…
Know that I fall out of love deeply with my heart, my body, my mind and my soul.
I seek love where love has found me.”
Love,
Wendy
When you no longer are connected to what used to be meaningful to you because you have been shown the “truth…”
Where there has been a breach of commitment but God pulls you out and saves you from that toxic person…(and you re-edit and update your upcoming book to reflect the ”truth.”)
Celebrate your freedom.”
Love,
Wendy
For those who came before me, at the same time as me, and who followed me…May God Bless you too.
“I understand why many people are very sensitive to the subject of God. Beliefs and understanding of what God means and represents are so personal. It is my choice to accept and respect each person’s personal understanding and practices, and to continue to practice my faith in the way that resonates with me. We are all looking for the same thing:
Love, connection, and peace.
For me, I believe that God is the catalyst, through unwavering faith, that provides me with love, connection, and peace.
We all travel a different path along our journey. Detours, re-routing, roadblocks and continuous travel subsequently guide us all to our corresponding destination.”
Love and blessings,
Wendy
“When we are blessed with love and close friends in our lives who allow us to talk about our grief, it allows us to release the trauma. In fact, the body and mind connection is so strong that by allowing ourselves to release the trauma through processing, talking, and practicing self care, we can avoid dis-ease.
Through these mindful, healthy practices, we can begin to heal on a cellular level.
Learn more about the body/mind connection through my upcoming workshop Whole Person Wellness:The Gut/Brain Connection on Thursday, February 17, 2022 at 7pm.
Register here beginning Jan. 1, 2022
To your health and wellness!
Love and blessings,
Wendy
“In my opinion, lack of empathy screams fear of connection. Fear of connecting to one’s own truth, and fear of allowing oneself to connect to another.”
Love,
Wendy
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