Author: wendyblanchard044

Author, Mental Health and Wellness Educator, Board Certified Peer Specialist in mental health and substance use disorder, Integrative Nutrition Health Coach
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Infinite Love:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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If God wants something to be your destiny,
He will make it effortless and safe.
Not chaotic and traumatizing.

He will not give you a partner who destabilizes you.
He will not give you a relationship where you lose yourself.
He will not give you a man whose emotional foundation is sand.

What God allowed was clarity so that I could have my closure.
What God removed was confusion and instability.
What God protected was my future.

And the very next day…God showed me why.

Upon my surrender…I felt an immediate shift. In the space I created by letting go, life brought in an unexpected new connection…one that reminded me that goodness, presence, and kindness still exist right where I am. The moment I released what was hurting me, the Universe aligned and stepped in to steady me. God has a way of filling the space we free up, almost before we even realize we’ve made it.

Amen…

I’m learning that when we stop clinging to what breaks us, we make room for what supports us. And sometimes the peace we’ve been praying for arrives in the most surprising, gentle ways…softly…gingerly…and with steady devotion…
in real time.

God constantly sets boundaries, redirects people, closes doors, and removes people from situations that harm them.

Infinite love does not mean infinite access.

Love,

Wendy

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Soulmate Around My Neck:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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A person can feel love profoundly…

and yet be incapable of the work required to sustain it.

This is not about the depth of the emotion.
It is about the fragility of the person experiencing it…

A PATTERN…

He loves in bursts.
Powerfully.
Passionately.
Convincingly.

But love that comes in surges also disappears in surges.

He feels devotion on Monday, collapse on Wednesday, regret on Friday, and righteousness on Sunday.
That isn’t love’s fault…that’s emotional dysregulation.

I am looking at his patterns…

Patterns don’t lie…

He can “talk the work.”
He cannot “live the work.”

When he said, “You are the love of my life”… he meant it in that moment.

But when the discomfort came —
when compromise was needed —
when real healing was required —
his system collapsed.

Because letting go relieved him of responsibility.
It relieved him of consistency.
It relieved him of accountability.
It relieved him of the work he promised but cannot sustain.

And because giving up is less terrifying to him
than facing himself.

And I respect that…

And there isn’t one piece of my soul that feels surprised. I jumped into this with great caution and uncertainty expecting the best and prepared for the worst.

I am trained to recognize the behavior…it is knowledge married to intuition…

His emotions operate like fireworks:
brilliant… explosive… and gone in seconds.

My emotions operate like a lighthouse:
steady… grounded… consistent… guiding.

I fell in love with him because his fire is intoxicating.
I had to leave him because his fire burns the house down.

This is God’s validation of my intuition…yet I wear my “Soulmate” around my neck and “know” that his love was as deep as his actions.

And so on, and so forth…

Love,

Wendy

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The Window Is Open:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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You know the saying, “When God closes a door, he opens a window?”…

Well…Amen.

This past week has been so chaotic and confusing and stressful, and I was shown why certain people just come into our lives to teach us lessons…sometimes over and over until God sees that we have learned, and that we are ready to make space for something we NEVER, EVER expected…

And then…God opens the window…

a breath of fresh air…

ready, willing and able.

I am appreciated, seen, and met with the same sincerity I offer.

It’s amazing how, when we finally release what was hurting us, God wastes no time reminding us of our worth.

A new light comes in…quietly and gently showing us that peace, respect, and mutual effort were always part of the plan.

When God opens the window, He doesn’t just let in air…
He lets in clarity, healing, and the grace of being valued in ways we once only prayed for.

To be continued!

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Calling:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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Rise above the old narrative.

Meet this connection from a new consciousness.

New consciousness means self-honoring first...not reenacting old patterns…choosing from center, clarity, and truth.

Always see another soul as if you are seeing them for the first time…with renewed curiosity…and without any previous conceptions…open, curious, grounded, and unattached.

A calling is always about evolution…

Some people return to witness your evolution.
Some return so you can complete a cycle.
Some return because you’re finally meeting at the level you always needed.

A calling of this magnitude demands radical self-awareness and unwavering self-preservation, for only from that grounded place can the soul truly rise.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Faith is your Truth:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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Cognitive dissonance is the uncomfortable feeling you get when your heart and your mind know different things to be true at the same time.

The inner conflict means you’re outgrowing old patterns and becoming aligned with your values and your truth…which have now become non-negotiable.

Those truths don’t cancel each other out. They coexist…The difference now is that you finally stand in a place of peace with what is real.

And your faith…your spiritual knowing is its own kind of truth.

When God plants something in your spirit, it doesn’t go away. It anchors you, even when the physical world appears different.

Be still in a hurry…

Divine communication arrives tenderly…It is calm. It is peaceful.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Firewall:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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Sometimes the person who flees the fire is blamed for the fire’s destruction.

But that does not make them the arsonist….

They were simply the one who pulled the alarm to save themselves from burning to the ground, while those around them had spent decades fanning the flames and ultimately chose their own slow, figurative death.

In the future, I stand protected by a firewall of discernment…one built from truth, boundaries, and self-worth.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Holiday Grief and Gratitude:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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I know that I speak to many of you when I say that the holidays may bring up sadness and even grief that we have surpressed…

we miss a loved one…
we find ourselves longing for the life we once lived…
we may be spending the holidays alone for the first time…

Holidays amplify every tender place, especially when family fractures, losses, warm memories, and old joys coexist with the life you have today.

It is normal and even healthy to express grief and gratitude simultaneously. These are authentic emotions that can be felt, processed, and experienced together.

The grief reminds us of all of the love we were blessed to experience as we convey gratitude for the memories, and even for the new experiences and traditions that we have built around those memories in our new normal possibly on our own, and possibly with new additions to our inner circle.

All of us are doing our best to navigate the holidays with open hearts, remembering that love…is never lost.

Wishing you a heartfelt, peaceful and joyous holiday season.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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The Love of Your Life:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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The love of your life does not make you feel unsafe.

The love of your life does not abandon accountability.
The love of your life does not force you to shrink, ache, or “recover from them.”

The love of your life supports your wellness.
He nourishes your nervous system.
He protects the tenderness of your spirit.
He elevates your health, not harms it.
He makes you feel chosen, secure, steady…

He shows up.

Love,

Wendy

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Anchored:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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We can’t stop others from their own interpretation, but we never internalize their experience of who we are.

Their inaccuracies and limited understanding and beliefs of themselves project onto what they believe and what they think they observe.

Most importantly, it is their own lack of self worth and lived experiences, combined with fear of uncertainty that confines them to live with an illusion of “control and certainty.” 

They cling to narratives that offer them comfort, even if those narratives are distorted born from their own insecurities and fears.

These are merely reflections of their own inner world, not the heart and soul of who we are.

Love and blessings,

Wendy