I have been trying to understand why an ex would continue to follow me on social media after years of deceit and ghosting.

It makes no sense. Yet, it makes perfect sense…

Patterns of an egotist.

When one who thrives on control feels a sense of loss of control, they infuse themselves as a “reminder” that they are still present. Yet, it makes me sad for them. One who knows who they are, loves who they are, and respects who they are need not come from a place of ego.

After learning that he never loved me, I was certain he would be on his way never to hear from him again.

I cannot feel respect for anyone who intentionally inflicts pain to self soothe their ego, and, I have great empathy for someone so ill equipped to navigate life with an arm too short to box with God.

I wish you well.

Love,

Wendy

As we seek and continue recovery, we need ongoing support I. E., either a support group, coach, counselor as an adjunct to initial medical treatment and ongoing, lifelong support with our healthcare provider.

I have 10 years of sustained wellness in recovery, and am grateful to my coaches and medical doctors for their compassion and ongoing guidance and support as I lead the way in what I know I need for wellness. I have assembled an empathetic and supportive team to guide me.

Whether we are in recovery, or just living our lives, the best advice I can give as I write about in my book Write Pray Recover:A Journey To Wellness Through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care is

SPEAK YOUR TRUTH and ask yourself WHAT DO I NEED IN THIS MOMENT TO PROVIDE MYSELF WITH PEACE AND WELLNESS?, and WHO CAN I TRUST TO HELP ME TO ACHIEVE THIS?, IMPLEMENT AN INTEGRATIVE APPROACH TO WELLNESS, and MAKE A DAILY COMMITMENT TO YOUR WELLNESS RECOVERY. (SWIM INTO RECOVERY).

There are so many choices to master recovery and wellness. I never substitute someone else’s practices for my own.

Inherently, we know what we need for wellness.

Love,

Wendy

Some see a post on social media, hear a song, or see a spiritual “number,” and tell themselves this is their “sign.”

This is their comforting validation from Spirit.

Whether we choose to believe, or not, is what our mind creates, and subsequently how we change the trajectory of our reality.

Whether you believe or not, that’s right.

Love,

Wendy

“Life is short.”
“Rest in peace.”

We hear these sentiments often when someone dies.

We remind ourselves that in fact life IS short, and to savor every delicious moment that we experience, to love with passion and purpose, and to be present to experience our experiences…

BEFORE WE DIE.

And then when one passes we say, “Rest in Peace (R.I.P.)

I often wonder when I observe so much hate and dissension between others, or one who has experienced trauma who turns on themselves, taking on blame that is NOT theirs to carry who lives a life of toxicity and unhealthy mindset and behaviors, “how can we recapture PEACE, and how I could support others who have lost their peace, and their wellness, to learn to “Live in Peace.” (L.I.P.)

Because Life IS short, and death comes soon enough where we will have eternity to rest.

I suggest that we sign a “Peace Treaty” with the ones we are at odds with for a compromise that we can all be excited about. “Respectful resolution.”

Speak your truth…with kindness.

I suggest that if we are living with the past tormenting our present moments that we ask for support as we unpack the trauma, embrace it, understand it, and make PEACE with it in a reframe that allows us to use it to build our resilience and self compassion that we so well deserve.

Who knows when we will be “called” to rest.

LIVE YOUR LIFE. EXPERIENCE YOUR EXPERIENCES. TAKE BABY STEPS IN HEALING YOUR TRAUMA. REACH OUT TO SOMEONE YOU LOVE IF YOU FEEL THERE IS AN OPPORTUNITY FOR A “PEACE TREATY.” If not, find a re-frame for that relationship, and allow yourself to “Live in Peace,” and Wellness.

LIFE IS SHORT.

Thinking of Lisa Marie Presley. Was she able to “Live in Peace” with all that she had endured in her life?

Rest in Peace Lisa Marie 1968-2023

“You are such a beautiful soul inside and out! Why are you single?” I was again recently asked.

After learning that my last relationship was a complete tale of falsehood and deceit, and that I was lied to/ghosted for years, I choose to be on my own,” I responded. I had been duped and bought it all at face value. Love was most certainly blind at that time.

Further, I explained that I always know what to expect from myself, I trust myself implicitly, and have unfortunately, thus far, find it very difficult to trust another man still five years later.

I now have a clean slate for my life, and if and when God sends me my spiritual soulmate, I will know.

Love,

Wendy