Author: wendyblanchard044

Author, Mental Health and Wellness Educator, Board Certified Peer Specialist in mental health and substance use disorder, Integrative Nutrition Health Coach
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Healing from Lupus:Acceptance Promotes Peace – Love, Wendy

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As I continue to head towards remission from Lupus, there is something so sacred about 3:23 am when the world hasn’t started asking anything of you yet. Coffee warming your hands, Calm Radio on Pandora holding the nervous system steady, heat softening your back, and your words flowing freely…that’s medicine too. Deep, “lived and learned” medicine…WISDOM.

I know movement and stress will invite the swelling back with compromised movement and pain, and I am not denying that reality. But I believe that the arc is bending toward calm. Toward healing. Toward remission. Toward my body remembering safety again as I power WITH my body, not battling it in a “power over” mindset. 

Living with an autoimmune disorder, we learn to harvest the gentleness in it’s presence.

For me, I allow my writing do what it does best…transmute pain into meaning…to remind me that I am always in control of my peace and wellness in the ways that I mindfully care for myself. I recall what has worked, and I repeat my self care to promote remission using an integrative approach.

This is wisdom born of mindful practice and acceptance of where I need to meet myself…exactly where I stand…or just sit…or even lie down…

Acceptance promotes peace.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Recovery Coaching – Love, Wendy

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When you regulate your body…when you speak to yourself with kindness and empathy…and when you choose to live in peace and truth regardless of external circumstances, you intentionally interrupt the signal of dysregulation in both body and mind.

Within this mindset lies the possibility of healing alongside the ongoing processing and inner work that anxiety often reveals. Rather than resisting the trigger, we validate it, embrace it, and seek to understand its origin through intentional inner work—whether trauma-informed therapy, somatic awareness, or anxiety-conscious practices that help rewire our response to fear rather than react from it.

When practiced daily, this becomes a lifestyle shift. We begin to discern when we are truly in danger and when our past is bleeding into our present. And in that awareness, we reclaim what matters most: the recognition that, in this moment, we are safe in presence.

Inherently—though sometimes repressed—we all know the answer. It is lying beneath our emotions, waiting to be acknowledged… and released.

To work with me in healing and recovery in my capacity as a Recovery Coach and training in Mental Health First Aid, Suicide Safety, De-escalation, Motivational Interviewing, Conflict Resolution, Trauma Informed Approach and Spiritual Wellness, email me at wendyblanchard044@gmail.com.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Showing Up and Growing Up – Love, Wendy

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I have a son. I am not available to raise another adult who has not finished growing up.

Many men are deeply uncomfortable when they are not desired or made the center of a woman’s universe.

Instead of curiosity or self-reflection, they resort to self righteousness…dismissal, minimization, or narrative control. I have witnessed this pattern repeatedly, across dozens of interactions.

Emotional immaturity.

I would rather live alone, never lonely or offering “child care” to a “grown man” than participate in a dynamic where emotional underdevelopment is normalized and accountability is optional.

This is not an isolated experience—it is cultural.

Research and lived experience consistently show that many men are not socialized to develop emotional intelligence. Vulnerability is discouraged. Emotional fluency is replaced with defensiveness. Discomfort is avoided rather than examined. When a woman names a boundary or expresses a lack of connection, the response is too often dismissal designed to protect fragile self-worth rather than mutual respect.

Emotionally mature women are increasingly choosing solitude not because we fear intimacy, but because we understand it. We have done the inner work. We know what emotional presence feels like. We recognize when connection requires us to shrink, explain, or absorb someone else’s unexamined ego.

HELL NO…

When companionship comes at the cost of self-abandonment, solitude becomes the healthier, more desired choice.

Being alone through discernment is the ultimate self care.
It is self-respect.
It is a refusal to mother a man who is unwilling to become an adult.

Many of us lived through literal brokenness, abuse, neglect, financial shortfall, emotional bankruptcy and physical depletion due to a connection to one who drained our energy…body, mind and spirit…

And today, we live in presence, self-preservation, and the joy we cultivate as emotionally savvy souls, with a full plate of delights to share…

if and when aligned.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Be A Champion – Love, Wendy

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I observe others who are living in their riches and skewed perception where they have never faced adversity or serious challenges that have affected their peace and wellbeing.

If you’re not in the “ring” getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested in your “don’t worry about a thing, everything‘s going to be all right” ignorant response…

Many times things do not turn out all right…

TKO…

People suffer.

People grieve.

People spend their entire lives striving for peace and wellness and praying for relief that never comes.

And when you’ve never faced the kind of challenges that alter your nervous system, your body, or your sense of safety, your optimism can become a form of “dismissal.” Pretending it isn’t there and slapping platitudes over wounds that are still open is your own inability to process the reality of the depth of human suffering.

So…do not minimize the experiences of those of us in the “ring” fighting for justice and peace while you’re sitting in the cheap seats and passing judgment.

As Brené Brown said “If you’re not in the arena also getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested in your feedback.“

Be a champion.

Stand in the corner as one recovers their resilience.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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A Human Cushion – Love, Wendy

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We cross paths with people every day who are quietly surviving unimaginable loss.
Often, they don’t need to be fixed—they just need to be heard.

A little empathy, kindness, and presence can matter more than we’ll ever know.

When we create a safety net for others and we carry that frequency…one of “I see you,” others sense it and unburden themselves there. That’s not accidental. It’s presence.

The human condition thrives on connection, caring and compassion.

In a world that feels increasingly inflammatory and fractured, let us be a soft place to fall…

And when one falls, they feel the cushion versus the stone cold pavement.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Roll the Credits – Love, Wendy

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You can love someone and still despise what they stand for—and sometimes, quietly, painfully, that contradiction kills the love altogether. Beliefs are no longer abstract; they are mirrors of character. What once inspired admiration—intellect, confidence, brilliance—can be stripped bare by alignment with cruelty, intimidation, and moral cowardice.

Respect erodes when someone chooses bullies over courage and kindness, power over humanity, and noise over conscience. There comes a moment when you see clearly: they are no longer part of the solution. They are the problem.

The person you grieved was never real—a projection, a mask filled with what you thought you saw. And then the mask fell.

Brainwashing works best on those without a grounded sense of self, who cling to movements because they lack the courage to live authentically. They hide behind identities they “see” as powerful, mistaking volume for virtue and allegiance for integrity, so far entrenched in extremism they cannot see balance, nuance, or “truth” from any angle but what feeds their shallow ego.

Love does die—not suddenly, but slowly, like rot beneath the floorboards. When it is finally buried, what remains is not bitterness, but deep, unshakable gratitude for the divine hand that pulled me free before the collapse became my own.

The most awakening truth came when I realized he became a clone—a male version of a Stepford wife: obedient, empty, and programmable.

“I’ve been to the movies, and I’ve seen how it ends…and the joke’s on them.

Roll the credits.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Trust the Universe – Love, Wendy

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As in a phrase popularized by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. , “Trust the moral arc of the universe…”

Choose integrity, and turning it over knowing that alignment brings peace, and misalignment brings its own consequences.

Make peace with circumstances that will not make peace with you…and have faith.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Rock On! – Love, Wendy

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When you are blessed with brilliance but crippled with insecurity, your intended message does not arrive with its full power, because doubt distorts the delivery.

Arrive with assertiveness…

Rock that confidence!

Inspire innate talents and abilities to emerge.

Brilliance reaches its full expression when confidence leads the way—vibrant, undiluted, and unapologetic.

Rock on!

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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A Non-Fiction Narrative:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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In order to create new healthy patterns, you have to unlearn unhealthy patterns and behaviors…

Those patterns that you observed and that which caused the dismantling of the relationship are all still there…they are still toxic…they are masking them behind the apologies and tears…

completely fictitious…

but trust me…

nothing changes if nothing changes…

Patterns are strong predictors of true presence…or lack thereof…

I may not say a word…but believe me…

I see everything…

on the cover, and inside between the lines.

It is the same old story.

I have read it before…

the plot twists, the illusion of change…

I know how this ends.

I have closed the book on this familiar fairy tale, and have chosen a beautiful piece of a non fiction narrative…realistic, riveting, ready to meet us where we are, and rooted in truth…

where love is the happily ever after I have prayed about.

Love and blessings,

Wendy