Month: June 2021

If you listen to the sound of my voice, you will hear my heart. The soul leaves it’s message there.”

Love, Wendy

“The Angels shined their light so brightly that it melted his fear. He turned the doorknob and slightly cracked the door open to peek at the sun, and there, under a sky filled with lighted Grace, he surrendered.

In the sound of silence, we speak our own truth. With humility, we ask for God’s Grace…

Recovery…Rebirth…Release…

Love and blessings,

Wendy

“The more I step back and release, the closer Spirit moves in and creates.”

Love, Wendy

“When I choose forgiveness, I choose peace.”

Love, Wendy

“When we are experiencing uncertainty on our path, we must be mindful of our body’s physical feelings to any given situation and heed its information. This is either our warning bell to stop, a sign for us to slow down, or it may be the signal that it is safe to approach. Green, yellow, or red, inherently we will “know” how to proceed.” Wendy Blanchard, M.S., CHHC, CPS

BRIAN BAILEY…”THIS LITTLE LIGHT OF MINE.”

In order that we experience awareness of others to the extent of connection, and of serving, we must be fully connected to self, and to God/Spirit/Universe. We must authentically live with a heart and mind filled with empathy and logic, remaining steadfast in clear intention, and allow Spirit to guide us. Here is a story of epic awareness…awareness of self, of another, and of Spirit.

Recently, as I read my dear friend, Brian’s Instagram page about his own book being prepared for publishing, my heart filled with so much gratitude and love for my friendship with Brian. We met in 2013, shortly after I began my recovery, and Brian had been attending a 12 step meeting that I decided to give a try. It turned out that the 12 step approach was not for me, and instead, I opted to create, and to follow my own holistic “Wellness Approach to Recovery,” however, Brian was the Divine blessing and gift in my short time of attending these meetings. Spirit brings us all that we need…people, situations, and places in the most creative and healing ways.

Brian’s journey was one of severe childhood abuse and neglect, being imprisoned and sexually trafficked at the age of four years old, needing the protection of Child Protective Services, living in a foster home. Later on, Brian battled addictions, and other challenges which we know are a direct “trauma response.”

Brian and I became fast friends. One of the kindest and sweetest souls I’ve ever met. In the beginning of my own recovery, I was hosting a radio show on Intention Radio on the internet called, “The Rx Diaries,” and my dear friend Brian, in an attempt to help me to succeed in sharing my own story of lifelong prescription drug addiction and co-occurring disorders, as well as to share his own story to help others, agreed to allow me to interview him for my radio show.

His story was almost unbelievable, yet so true, and more common than we know. It was compelling, chilling, awe inspiring, and probably the most frightening account of abuse and neglect of a child that I had ever heard. As I listened to his account, my stomach tightened, my heart was racing, I felt a rush of tears thinking about what my friend had lived through at the hands of the people who were supposed to protect him, and I found myself completely engrossed in this sweet soul’s account of his “childhood.”

Brian and I enjoyed our friendship time together. I went to see him perform locally in “The King and I,” a brilliant performer, and we took my granddaughter, Rosie, out for lunch in our town, as well as spending lots of time texting and talking on the phone, engaging in many, many meaningful, heartfelt conversations. Eventually, after Brian moved to Rhode Island, (I live in New York) we lost touch, yet I always loved my friend, and my heart smiled when he crossed my mind. He had been such a great comfort to me, as well as a loving support, when I felt completely lost in early 2013 just starting out in my recovery.

And then, God/Spirit/Universe, had a “reunion” planned for us one late night in 2018, even though we were living states apart, a reunion that would literally save Brian’s life.

Unable to sleep late one night in 2018, approximately 11:00 PM, restless and uneasy, I tapped my Facebook app to log on to divert my busy mind, and I immediately saw my friend Brian doing a Facebook LIVE. Brian was clearly intoxicated, and he seemed hopeless, helpless, and experiencing suicidal ideation. He was not making any sense, and was escalating in his agitation. He was also clearly delusional. I knew I had a limited window of opportunity to help my dear friend. Brian was spiraling, LIVE in real time. 

He needed help fast. He lived hours away in Rhode Island. I was trying to join him on the LIVE, unsuccessfully, and typing in the LIVE comments as I tried to guide him, and to let him know I was there, to no avail.

Brian was completely oblivious in his mental state and acuity, and was not responding to me. My heart began racing, and all I could do in that moment was to remember my Mental Health First Aid and Suicide Safety training…I’ve taught these steps to hundreds in my work throughout my community…breathe, remain present in order to be clear in stating the facts in order to send for help, and speak confidently. CALL 911. Unfortunately, implementing the ALGEE action plan (Mental Health First Aid-ASSESS for risk of suicide or harm, LISTEN NON-JUDGMENTALLY, GIVE REASSURANCE AND INFORMATION, ENCOURAGE APPROPRIATE PROFESSIONAL HELP, and ENCOURAGE SELF HELP AND OTHER SUPPORT STRATEGIES) associated with my training and education where we attempt to administer Mental Health First Aid until help arrives or until the situation is resolved, was not an option, as I could not reach my friend via phone, Facebook, or text.

I immediately called the police in Brian’s town to assist. I calmly explained what I had just observed on Facebook, and that I was a Recovery Specialist who works in the field of mental health, and asked that they go over to Brian’s home to do a “wellness check.” 

Unbeknownst to Brian, he was about to begin a brand new type of recovery…body, mind and spirit, as I reached out to a friend/colleague who works in the field at a top drug/alcohol/mental health facility in the country…if Brian made the decision to accept the help.

The very next morning, Brian called me while I was at work at the Mental Health Association. He was deeply grateful for my intervention, what we know was “Divine Intervention.” We talked for some time, and I suggested that he allow me to guide him in finding the perfect rehabilitation “fit,” for him so that he could begin a “holistic recovery” through an integrated approach, body, mind, and spirit, aligned with a traditional medical approach. He agreed gratefully.

I stayed close in support of Brian over the next couple of months as he reached out very often to vent, or to talk, or to tell me what he was afraid of as he prepared for treatment. I always took his calls, and checked up on him a few times a week while he awaited an empty bed in the facility. It was like this in every facility. A break down in “supply and demand.” This breakdown was life threatening, so I gratefully stood in as the “transition” until a bed became available. I knew once Brian entered the facility, he would not be allowed to have his phone to continue our communication. I let him know that I would be there in “spirit,” and cheering him on in the background, and praying for his wellness.

Brian is doing so well today, and writing his book so that he may share all that he has experienced in order to serve others. Brian has crawled out of the darkness through Spirit’s light and grace, and now shines his light, also led by Spirit, for others to find their own way.

Here is what he wrote to me in May, 2021.

“EARTH ANGEL! oh. Do I have your permission to tell our story, cause you threw a bouy…my dear!”

What a blessing to have been chosen by Spirit to help my friend in God’s grace. My answer?, “Of course. Anything for you my dear friend.”

Brian went on to thank me for all of the work that I do daily in being of service to those who are living with Substance Use Disorder, and Mental Illness.

“And bravo for the daily work you BE for guiding our future! Not work for the faint of heart! The work ahead requires complete transparency. Vulnerability. And how we lift each other cause sometimes we can’t lift ourselves!”

God/Spirit/Universe guided and used me that night to save Brian’s life. This was the purpose which brought us to cross paths in 2013. And, It was an answer to my daily prayer…

“Today please show me who to see, where to go, what to say, and to whom, to help another person.”

As a matter of routine, I am never up at that late hour, and certainly not on Facebook. I was guided there by our loving Universe. Spirit is always guiding us and using us to serve and support others. If we are open to Divine communication, we are able to see and hear beyond our physical limitations, and truly serve. Humility.

Brian is one of my truest inspirations. What an incredible and brave man and journey. I can’t wait for everyone to hear Brian’s courageous story. 

Love you my dear friend. I am honored to be your friend, and to call you mine, and I’m so grateful to be a part of your story. I cherish our friendship.

Brian’s light is shining once again, and in sharing his story, and in serving others, it becomes brighter and brighter.

My dear Brian, Spirit heard your voice singing, “This little light of mine, I’m gonna let it shine,” and answered on that late night in 2018.

“Faith that perseveres is faith that is strengthened.” And, it is food for the soul.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

“It’s not about letting it go, it’s about learning discernment.

Having the capacity to put “it” on a shelf, and to appreciate it for its place and value in the process. Being grateful for it’s purpose on your spiritual journey, and emotional healing, and looking at it every now and then as a reminder of your gorgeous transformation.

A keepsake never to be thrown away.”

Love, Wendy

VISION

Recently, I was told by a very wise healer/intuitive man not to doubt my intuition. I​ knew exactly what he meant.

I have known for most of my life that I am blessed with a gift of spiritual “knowing” and intuition. It’s divine guidance, as the Universe interacts with me through many paths of Higher Communication. In the years of recovery from my prescription drug addiction, and co-occurring mental health disorders, my spiritual connection is stronger than ever. My senses are in a heightened state of awareness and receiving. I am blessed to be fully awake to experience all of the beautiful and meaningful moments of life, as well as those I am made aware of beyond my physical limitations. 

A recent spiritual encounter happened in January, 2020, where I was shown very specific information. I had been missing an ex who had been my love for a very long time—and at this time, although we kept in touch intermittently, we had been apart for two years to be exact due to our breakup in January, 2018, after being together for three years. Steve and I had been madly in love, living together most of the time and about to move in permanently, and we were engaged (what we considered the equivalent of marriage) but we both brought unhealed trauma into our current relationship that made it painful and difficult to navigate. Many times we would inadvertently be triggered by each other, and each time it became more difficult to recover. We sought short term therapy to no avail. We separated on January 13, 2018. We were both seriously heartbroken. Spirit had been reassuring me all along that Steve, and I, would for certain find our way back to each other. Steve would intermittently keep in touch, and we would profess our love for each other. I would send him love energetically multiple times a day, and I could feel him intuitively receiving my love. However, we must always live by Divine timing. I could feel the deep loving, spiritual energy between my love and I every day. Not once did I doubt that at the perfect time as the Universe coordinated this reunion Steve and I would find each other again, and that led by Spirit, we would know at that time if we were meant to be together for a season, or a lifetime. I knew we would forever be connected energetically steeped in love, guided by the Divinity within us, and always blessed by Spirit to have shared love, time and space, even if it were to be temporary.  On January 15, 2020, the synchronicities and messages from Spirit became so clear that Steve and I would be brought together on January 17, 2020. These clear signs were exactly what I had envisioned and believed with certainty. 

I share this often in my book because it has deep meaning to me… A Course in Miracles says, “Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait, and wait without anxiety.” This became my mantra over the years. Although I missed Steve terribly, I was certain of the outcome of at least seeing him once again. I was also prepared to let him go if Spirit communicated that would be in our highest blessings. I would trust the process. I would trust that God/Spirit/Universe knows what would serve us at this time in our lives, both of us being in our 60s, and perhaps in different places in our lives that were not in alignment. I would wait for that information. I lived my life every moment to the fullest, in joy, in the present moment, with family, friends, and work, waiting with a full expectation of a miracle for us to meet again, whether for a short time, or if it would be our “always and forever.” 

As the day went on January 17, 2020, the signs, through the Universe/God/Spirit, became deafening in a beautiful and reassuring way. Through music, through others words, and through my intuition. I had been invited by my friends Jason and Ann to attend a music event. I “knew” that Steve would be there. I could feel it in my gut. Our song, “At Last” had been playing throughout the last week more than usual followed by a “theme” offering information through music, and a week prior, a car had passed me on my way home from work with the license plate “Atlast2.” Steve’s name, first and last, continued to reveal itself to me, and our number 555 as well. Daily signs, messages, synchronicity from Spirit showed up.

As I pulled into the venue to meet Jason and Ann, I heard our song play on Pandora. I also asked the Universe on my drive there to show me our number (Steve’s birth month and birth year) and as I pulled up to the light before the venue, a truck pulled alongside of me with a license plate with the last three numbers 555! Then, as I said thank you to Spirit and started to get very emotional, loud sirens began to blow right where I was driving. In the past, Spirit has made loud declarations in this way! It has been my sign of validation of Spirit’s communication. I was getting so excited! I could not wait to see Steve. I was experiencing that “certainty and knowing!” It was thrilling! We hadn’t seen each other in so long! As I was about to get out of my car at the venue, through my rear view mirror, I could see a car began to back up into the space next to me. It was dark, but I could see the license plate and make of the car, and my heart began to race with excitement. I got out of my car, and there was Steve behind the wheel! He saw me, looked shocked, and motioned for me to approach. I actually felt lightheaded and began to feel faint as I approached my beloved. In fact, I think I lost my balance for a moment! I was nervous and excited at the same time. Everything that I “knew” to be true and that I was certain of through spiritual communication had come to fruition. I had dreamed about, and prayed for this day. 

That night was a reminder and validation that everything that I feel and believe energetically and spiritually is a manifestation of my positivity, my beliefs, and my gorgeous spiritual practice that keeps me connected to the truth through the loving guidance of the Universe/God/Spirit. Steve and I danced, we flirted, and we hugged. With us, our deep soul love, we don’t need words to feel the love. We are love and it is palpable to us and to anyone in our company. Steve and I both have said that we have never truly been in love before we met. A first for both of us. 

Although Spirit eventually revealed to me in May, 2020 that my love and I were only fated for a season, I trust that there is a Divine blessing in this separation. I may never know what that is, but my faith is so strong, that I “know” it is in both Steve and my highest blessings. We have been so blessed to have found each other and to share the time and experiences that we had enjoyed as a couple, and with our beautiful children, and grandchildren. Even when people leave our lives physically, love always keeps them close in memory, and in matters of the heart. Steve Roman, you will have a piece of my heart, always and forever. May God always bless you and your beautiful family. God always has the last word, so I take comfort in that. 

We co-create our masterpieces. Envision it daily, stand firm in a spiritual practice that resonates with you, believe with certainty all that you know, and wait patiently in excitement and certainty. Communication with Spirit is my most treasured time of each and every day, even if the message doesn’t align with my desires because I am certain that Spirit is demonstrating unconditional love that which I have never before experienced. Unwavering faith. This is my grounding principle to the foundation of my wellness. 

Every artist excitedly memorializes their art and yearns to share its beauty and message. Each morning I sit and reflect and I meditate and pray for divine guidance for the day. As each detail is revealed to me and my “knowing” and intuition are validated, I add another tile to my mosaic as I continue to see my vision come to life. I record each and every beautiful stroke as the tiles continue to tell a story. My story. The story that began with a troubled soul like a caterpillar in the darkness of a cocoon, that has now evolved into a magnificent butterfly flying freely and experiencing abundance through the Divine. I’m living in blissful harmony, always in the present moment, and stopping to smell all of the flowers along the way. I am connected to the Universe, always with my loved ones in my heart. We’re connected soul to soul, no matter where we are in the physical realm. My intuition guides me. Spirit is always my guide.

Through Kything, a communion skill, a spirit-to-spirit loving presence which can bring about a deep sense of peace, I connect to my loved ones. I offer them an expression of my love and support, and let them know I am always with them through the flowing energy of the Universe. 

My artwork is a reflection of my soul. It has expression that reveals inner beauty and rich and vibrant color with a stillness that offers energy and healing from the cracks that once broke my foundation. Those cracks are now barely visible to others, yet are always a part of my tapestry. They are a reminder that Isurvived, even with all of the cracks in my foundation. I am always renovating, and yes, sometimes, even rebuilding.

My walk has purpose. I’m not always certain of the path, yet I know where I am headed, one slow and purposeful step at a time. I am never afraid as I walk along my spiritual path, and I am always certain that I am never alone.

Our perspective is what we choose to see. Our willingness to see beyond our limiting beliefs allows us to create the opportunity to reorganize and reassign our energy to awaken to new ideas and new solutions. 

Simply state what you desire. Envision it in color. You draw the sketch and allow the Universe to fill in the details. Then you wait patiently with faith. A masterpiece cannot be rushed. And when it has been completed and you have reached your destination, perhaps only then, do we understand the journey.

What do you envision? What do you see when you look beyond your physical limitations? What does your masterpiece look like? Using descriptive words, write your blueprint, and include the details of how your spiritual practice helped you to “see” and to be certain of the outcome. Signs? Intuition? Events? Synchronicity? Music? Technology? Write them down.

You may want to start your own Spiritual Log and document your experiences to be shared to inspire others to Write Pray Recover!“

Write Pray Recover:A Journey To Wellness Through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care is tentatively scheduled to be released in December, 2021!

Please check back often for updates and giveaways!

Love and blessings,

Wendy

Today I choose the following as my trauma response recovery activity to promote healing:

• A peaceful environment
• Connection to Spirit through prayer and meditation
• Trauma Informed journaling for 20 minutes
• Talk therapy response to wellness goals
• Walk in nature with calming music
• Lots of water
• Gratitude journaling for my abundant blessings
• Serving others

Through my training, education and lived experience in trauma informed care, I continue strengthening my wellness muscle through spiritual solutions and self care as I continue on my healing journey. Here I choose healthy practices of natural and organic solutions.

Resilience expands as we practice being resilient.

Love, Wendy

“Healing can only take place when we are willing to look into a mirror, naked, vulnerable and with deep compassion as we connect to our truth.

In this safe space, I remind myself that my healing is a reflection of my self worth.
I am worthy of feeling well. I am worthy of experiencing wellness. I provide for myself the pace, and the space to heal, and to experience my birthright of wellness…

Body, Mind and Spirit.”

Love,

Wendy