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Look Up, Child:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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This date is now a threshold — the final goodbye as I step into freedom. I never look back…I excitedly walk toward you where the soil is fertile, and there is space for love to blossom. I no longer hold back in fear…I walk forward in faith.

There is a palpable energy shift…a space created for love aligned with my values and soul to enter…a new trajectory that marks a turning point where my heart, mind, and spirit are fully open to love that is mutual, sacred, and ready…

I now step into a garden of sunflowers, where love can turn its face fully toward the light.

“Look up, Child…”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Kismet:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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When you gasp at someone’s words because they mirror your own, Spirit is showing you resonance.

Is it romance? Perhaps…perhaps not…

In any case…it does mean alignment. We see the world through lenses that refract light in similar hues.

In today’s culture and climate, alignment is rare…and we cherish our connection. As the Universe continues to conspire and bestow bliss upon our connection, there are no “labels”…

We savor the flavors of our differences as we taste one another’s intimate musings and shared, uncertain contemplations.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Love and Grace:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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Love and grace are more powerful than your deepest remorse and guilt.

Remorse and guilt can weigh heavily on someone’s heart, often keeping them stuck in fear or shame, but love and grace — when fully embodied — have the power to transform, heal, and release even the deepest emotional burdens…for you, for me…for us.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Roadblocks to Love:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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People don’t connect the way they used to…or love the way they used to. Something has changed.

Relationships now feel like a complicated road map. Turn to the left and you’re met with a brick wall. Turn to the right and you’re on a one-way street. Try to turn back, and there are barriers blocking your way…

Roadblocks to love.

It’s as if we’ve all been caught in endless “traffic”…so much noise, so much exhaustion that we no longer have the energy for the commitment of a long lasting, winding journey of true intimacy. We take the quickest route, the shortest visit, the surface-level conversation that demands the least of us — where most people I meet seem to feel “safe.”

I see it in the “Good Morning, how are you?” that is mumbled as they never stop to make eye contact…not authentic…and the times when we are experiencing hardship, heartbreak, or pain and those “safe” in their own cocoon look the other way in order to avoid a conversation that could be uncomfortable. People have forgotten how to offer empathy.

But I remember another way. When I was growing up, and even when my children were growing up, we greeted each other with a kiss on the cheek, a hug, and a smile. Connection was natural, tactile, warm and animated. Today it’s barely a hug, sometimes just a tap where one barely leans in…a gesture that says, “Don’t get too close.”

What has happened to humanity? Have we become so afraid of intimacy that we keep love at arm’s length?

I believe we have. Fear has replaced trust. Self-protection has replaced presence. And yet…my heart still longs for the genuine embrace, the unhurried conversation, the love that lingers.

So I choose to keep loving the “old way.” To keep showing up fully. To keep offering a hug, a smile, and a heart wide open. Because even if the world has changed, my love, my compassion, my authenticity remains.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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A “Sobering Truth” – Love, Wendy

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In a matter of one minute everything can change. And it does.

Your life can take a turn you did not expect. It may feel incredibly foreign. Unfamiliar. New information that is old is delivered.

Sobering.

You are forced to see new perspectives, and to practice acceptance of information that is unconscionable, yet undeniable.

And, you carry the disturbing burden of this new information, and a new perspective into the present day in order to remind yourself that nothing and no one is ever really one hundred percent of what, or whom they present to others.

And there are some who are complete imposters, one hundred percent.

Sobering…

Lesson offered over and over again finally sinks in, and is learned.

When the truth reveals itself the first time, accept it. Put down the rose colored glasses, stop listening to fairy tales, kick the garbage to the curb, and move on.

Take care of yourself. Depend only upon yourself. Love and nurture yourself. Forgive yourself for loving and trusting the wrong person…over and over…

And keep moving forward…

Sober.

The “truth” was pure deceit.

Love,

Wendy

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Foolish Games:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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You can never build trust with someone who runs from accountability.
And…you can never grow with someone who sees boundaries as a personal attack.
They don’t reflect…they deflect.

They don’t communicate…they react rather than respond constructively.

Never allow what someone else brings the table be the only thing you have to eat.

And…strive to be respected, rather than to be liked.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Stillness in a Turning World:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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Reflection
This Soul Note was written in the early morning hours, when pain and uncertainty had been my unwelcome companions for many days. My body felt fragile, my heart was tender from recent loss, and yet… the quiet of dawn reminded me that even in struggle, every moment is a gift.

Stillness is not the absence of movement — it is the presence of awareness. I realized that life keeps turning whether we are ready or not, but we can choose to anchor ourselves in the now. In stillness, gratitude blooms. In stillness, we heal.

Stillness in a Turning World

Each day is precious.
Each hour is precious.
Each moment is precious.
Each second is precious.

Experience each one fully — in its presence, in real time.
Direct your energy into each fleeting moment.
Direct, and redirect.
Experience every experience in wonder… in awe… in gratitude.

Savor.
Contemplate.
Experience.

Even as the world turns and time moves on,
the soul can remain still — anchored in the now.

Seconds turn into minutes… into hours… into days… into weeks… into years…
in an “untimely manner.”

Ask yourself, “How can I re-direct my experiences and thoughts into the present moment?

Mantra: Between the stillness and the passage of time…I breathe, and I experience each moment.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Chasing to be Chosen – Love, Wendy

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Chasing to be chosen is a trauma response.
Your nervous system is running on an old program where you thought you had to earn someone’s love. You’re confusing inconsistency with connection. Sometimes, people idealize the other person or the potential of the relationship, overlooking the red flags of inconsistency.

“In some cases, inconsistent behavior can be a form of manipulation, where one person is keeping the other “on their toes” to maintain power and control.”

Take back your power. YOU are worthy in every moment without anyone else’s validation.

Familiar doesn’t mean healthy. It may feel like home when you haven’t felt anything different in relationships, including with your caregivers as a child. If it felt like chaos and dysfunction, that’s what “home“ feels like to you… this is your comfort zone…where you feel safe.

So when they pull away, it feels like you are “homeless.” And when they come back, even if it’s for a second, your “home” is actually a dopamine rush that settles your mind and nervous system only for a minute until they disappear..again…and they will.
It’s an addictive cycle of chaos…of control…certainly not love.

Set healthy boundaries to protect your overall wellness. You are not responsible for their inconsistent, dysfunctional behavior.

A true connection is built on mutual respect, consistency and an eagerness to support the other person in fulfilling their needs and enhancing their well being…reciprocity…not causing them constant confusion and dysregulation of their nervous system.

Rather than romanticizing, or excusing their behavior, create a grounding anchor mantra where you speak the truth of their harmful behavior. This is your boundary and clarity statement — it keeps harmful energy out.

Your brain can’t hold both “he loves me” and “his behavior is harmful to my well being” in focus without blurring them. This separates them so you stop merging them into one person.

The minute you begin to replace the romanticizing with the TRUTH of their inconsistent and harmful behavior, you guide your brain back to the truth of the “relationship.”

Suggested Mantra: The man I loved exists only in moments. The man I must protect myself from is the one who always returns.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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A Garden of Peace:Soul Notes-Love, Wendy

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Each day, I bloom a little brighter, nourished by sweet love, gratitude, and the joy of growing and becoming as the petals fall to the ground to make room for new blossoms.

Tend to your own garden…the soil eventually devours the weeds. 😉

Everything changes when everything changes.🌻

Love and blessings,

Wendy