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Adulting – Love, Wendy

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The only control that we have is how we are taking care of ourselves, daily, and the way in which we choose to respond to external situations of which we have no control. 

We really DO have control over our lives in many ways and we need to utilize our power and filter it to our benefit. I will not dignify anyone or anything that does not align with my values and chooses to be hurtful. 

When we choose “to adult” and to use these social emotional living practices, we can make room for love and friendship on our terms and hopefully have the relationships that both sides are excited about. 

This is an opportunity to stand in our power. 

“Self care is the actions that we take to achieve wellness, and wellness is where we stand in our power.”

Wendy Blanchard-Write Pray Recover:A Journey To Wellness Through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care

www.writeprayrecover.com 

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Living in my truth – Love, Wendy

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Live your life in your truth confidently, and with conviction. Take the time to explore who you are, and even when your circumstances change around you, continue to be that person. Continue to stand firmly in your truth…your power, regardless of the circumstances or opinions.

This is the inner work that guides you, and builds character, strength and self awareness. It leads to healthy living through choosing healthy practices and loving relationships.

When we are rooted in self-discovery and personal growth, and we recognize the positive ripple effect it can have on others, we create a space of empowerment…

For everyone.

My reflection:

Being on my own for so many years has given me the opportunity, time after time, for self discovery and exploration. 

And just when I think I “get it,” I am given another opportunity to go deeper and to learn even more. 

Being a lifelong spiritual student is not for the faint hearted. However, it creates such a deep sense of self and connection to Spirit that builds resilience. 

When I look back on my 12+ years of recovery from substance use disorder and mental health disorders, and I recognize where I am in the present moment and how I arrived here, I am in awe of how I have embraced the lessons and have empowered myself to become the woman, mom, grandmother, and friend who I admire, who I depend upon, solely, and most importantly, who I love. 

There have been so many times where I became so filled with anxiety and felt hopeless, but when I pause and reflect, it reminds me of the many times before that one where I felt the same way and used my knowledge and experiences to help me take another step forward. 

I speak up. I advocate for myself. I live my life as me, for me.

www.writeprayrecover.com

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Thoughts on losing our Democracy and Freedom – Love, Wendy

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I was taught to never question Him. I have always stood strong in my faith. But today, as I continue to process, I question Him. I question everything. I question how our constitution allows a convicted felon, rapist, racist, sexual predator, traitor, etc., to even run for president as a role model, especially for our young people. 

So are we saying to our younger generations that it’s OK to lie, cheat, steal and to be a predator because there will be no punishment and you can even become the president of the United States?!

I try to be very impartial when I post about politics, but I know I am not alone in the way that I’m feeling today. Betrayed. Confused. Alone. 

I always teach my clients and my children to look for the positive in every situation. 

So here is my small take away. Reds engaged in an insurrection when their candidate lost. Blues became silent and practiced beautiful acceptance with dignity and grace. 

Take away – I’m proud to be a blue Democrat and I’m proud of the way we are loving and supporting each other through this very surreal and difficult time.

To my children…

My dearest son, daughters and granddaughters…

I’m so sorry that you were born into a world with so much evil. 

But I implore you to think about all of the beautiful things that we have and encourage you to concentrate on your own life, to stay in your own lane, and to create your own way. 

Enjoy your friends, travel, your family, your job and your treasured relationships that are meaningful to you. Practice daily self care. Do all of the things that are healthy for you and bring you happiness. And don’t wait another minute to do so. As you can see, life is precious, and it is fleeting. Most importantly, my dear loved ones, please do not be bitter. Bitterness only creates discourse in your body and in your mind. 

Yes, take time to process and to grieve for the loss of our democracy and freedom. 

Lead the way through by loving each other and staying close. Put humanity and love over hate. And there are no better words to live by for us at this time than to live “one day at a time.“

I love you all so much. I’m so sorry for us all.

Live your life with dignity, integrity, love and grace.

Love always, Mom/Grandma

Wendy Blanchard, MS, INHC, NYCPS

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Music – Love, Wendy

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Music, including melody and lyrics, is the universal language of expression. Music is the accompaniment to one’s experiences, and where one feels safe to “feel” and to emote.

Music reignites our soul and encourages us to reflect, to express our emotions, to be vulnerable, and deepens the process of processing our experiences.

Music invites us to remember, to connect to our joys and sorrows, to celebrate, and to heal in the safe space of our own memories.

Love, Wendy

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“Carry Quietly” – Love, Wendy

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Recently, the famous saying, “There are none so blind who will not see,” has pierced my heart. It has become very personal.

And so as I typically do, I asked a question of the angels as to how I will move forward with this information, and they answered me through music. A song entitled, “Carry Quietly” began to play on my Pandora station immediately upon posing my question.

I take it to mean to hold that relationship with love, not to challenge what I observe, to simply practice acceptance without judgement, and to “carry it quietly,” as “there are none so blind who will not see.”

Love can still shine through the cracks of our differences, illuminating the genuineness of the human condition.

By embracing acceptance, we cradle the beauty of imperfection, allowing compassion to blossom even in the face of ignorance.

And perhaps at another time, we plant another seed.

It’s in this quiet carrying that we find strength—not in force, but in gentle resilience, nurturing connections that remind us we are all part of a larger tapestry, woven together by shared experiences and emotions.

Perhaps we can even find a lesson of a deeper understanding of the human condition creating a deeper connection to Spirit, to ourselves, and to others as we “carry it quietly.”

Love, Wendy

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Normalize Making Mistakes – Love, Wendy

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Let us normalize making mistakes.

We all make our wisest decisions with the knowledge that we have based on life experiences at any given time.

As we evolve, we have the opportunity to embrace new wisdom and perspectives.

Embracing this process allows us to be more compassionate toward ourselves and others.

Forgive yourself and use your experiences to fuel your growth, transforming challenges into lessons that guide you toward a more enlightened path.

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WE CAN NEVER “UN-KNOW” WHAT WE NOW KNOW – Love, Wendy

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We can never “un-know” what we now know to be the truth.
We can never “un-know” what we know happened.


We can only unlearn unhealthy behaviors that keep us stuck in a situation that is toxic, or with a person that is mentally unhealthy and causing us grief, and infusing their toxicity into our personal space.


We can learn new healthy practices to promote our own mental health and wellness.

And we can remind ourselves that their poor and toxic choices is not about us, but rather about their own lack of self love, their inability to feel empathy and compassion, and of the inability to self regulate.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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“ZOOMOLIDAYS”:THE NEW NORMAL – LOVE, WENDY

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We are all experiencing such adversity and challenge and we worry constantly about how this is affecting our children no matter how old they are. There has been so much loss this year on so many different levels. Loss of life, loss of job, loss of home, the ability to buy food to eat, loss of security and feelings of safety, loss of contact in the way that the human condition thrives, and many of us wake up each day wondering “how does this end?“ And this year due to COVID, no Thanksgiving, no Hanukkah or Christmas in person. It’s a “ZOOMOLIDAY.”
I worry about my adult children in the different challenging situations that they are facing. I worry about my 12 year old granddaughter, Rosie, and wonder what emotional and physical challenges may manifest in the future related to the pandemic. I worry about my pregnant daughter, Olivia, who is a school counselor and COVID cases that are in her school, and her baby, my future granddaughter’s health, my daughter, Sarah, who is feeling deeply saddened by a broken relationship and the social distancing from our family and friends where hugs and connection are healing and that which she craves and longs for, especially now, and my beloved son, Matthew, who moved last week and placed us further away in proximity, and that is heartbreaking for both of us. I visited him and spent quality time with him every week. I am already crying as even more distance now prevails.

I worry. I cry. I pray. I meditate. I practice self care. And each day I get up, show up, stay connected to my loving family, friends, colleagues, and clients, and go to work. I live my life believing that God is in control and that these experiences are planned for us for reasons known only to Him. I trust Him. I have great faith that one day, in the coming years that we will all be reunited and truly appreciate all of what we have been blessed with…family.

Happy Thanksgiving however you are celebrating.

Love and blessings,

Wendy