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A Spiritual Tap on the Shoulder – Love, Wendy

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Sometimes spiritual guidance that calls one inward arrives through the voice of another…an observer with no agenda…one who says, “You are the strongest person I know. I love to see you smile. You deserve a partner who arrives with alignment, presence, and understands what a loving relationship truly is.”

As I listened, he spoke of how I had “spent years building a solid, beautiful foundation…brick by brick through recovery, prayer, self-care, and devotion to healing…and how someone who loves you does not arrive like a bulldozer, tearing through what took years to build.” He reminded me that respect is revealed in how someone moves within your space, and that what is truly loving does not arrive in a way that unsettles the soul.

And in that moment, I could hear and feel Spirit whisper:

“You can love the soul and humanity in someone… and still walk away from what is inimical to your well-being.”

It was a spiritual lesson delivered on an ordinary day…through a spontaneous invitation to lunch after years had passed…yet nothing about it was accidental. He was Spirit’s messenger. And on this day…clarity arrived…an unmistakable “aha” moment.

And I finally understand…

Empathy does not obligate proximity.
Understanding does not require endurance.

And I am at peace.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Words – Love, Wendy

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Words are as powerful and meaningful as the actions that accompany the sentiments…or lack thereof.

Words can become the foundation upon which the bridge is built when one’s actions support the foundation of the sentiments.

Words have the ability to begin a life changing dialogue…to begin a healing journey…and to create a new trajectory of love and peace…but only when they are met with consistency and presence that stays.

And…if one feels “exposed” by the words, it’s because the wound speaks truth…and truth may be the serum that heals.

Pain that has been metabolized into insight is not poison…it is medicine. And medicine can sting.

And after it settles…we have the opportunity to integrate the pain…

into power.

Love,

Wendy

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Self as Sanctuary – Love, Wendy

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I had been asked to speak to a group of 100 high school girls and to write an inspirational quote that I could print on a business card for them to keep as a gentle reminder to always carry “forward motion.”

I wanted to write something that centers agency rather than adversity, invites gentle courage instead of hustle, and speaks to awakening as often as one feels called to without urgency or force. and to align with self care, wellness, and self trust.

“Making a plan without action is just a dream…dreams only come true when you wake up with courage, and move toward creating the reality that you dream about.”

Wendy Blanchard, MS, INHC, CPS

On the flip side of the business card, I wrote an acronym GREAT…

GREAT

  • Get to know yourself
  • Research your ideas and your desires
  • Enter into a discovery phase of experience
  • Ask for guidance to achieve your dreams
  • Tailor your life to fit YOU

BE YOU! DO YOU! FOR YOU!  – Wendy Blanchard, MS, INHC, CPS

This reminder card is suitable for the young women that I spoke to, and I use it for myself, daily, as a reminder that dreams do come true…and that dreams do not have an expiration date.

My inspirational quote and acronym are suitable for anyone with a dream!

Choose a narrative that leaves room for possibility at every stage of life!

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Auld Lang Syne:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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Happy New Year’s Eve, Dear Readers,

May 2026 meet you gently and bring renewed hope, wellness, peace and freedom to us all.

Here is my last blog for 2025.

Thank you so much for following my blog and supporting my journey.

Wishing you all that you desire, deserve, and dream of in the new year.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

I begin this new year with renewed hope and wellness.

Freedom…

The best gifts in life are free.

Freedom is not the absence of pain, but the presence of truth.
It arrives when we choose to release illusion.
It is the quiet release from cycles that harm,
the courage to stop romanticizing familiarity
and to choose what is steady, reciprocal, and real.

Even in grief, freedom speaks…
removing what cannot stay,
making room for what is real, regulated, and safe.

Especially now.

May I choose what is steady, reciprocal, and real…

May what is no longer mine fall away with grace,
and may what is meant for me arrive without force.

I remember…without clinging…

I honor…without romanticizing…

I release…without bitterness…

I move forward…without force.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Intermission:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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When you are a writer but have lost your voice after a blow to your soul…

it is time to sit in silence,
to pray in silence,
to listen in silence…

until the next right step is revealed.

A sacred pause rather than an absence.

This is not an ending,
but a holy intermission…
the kind that precedes truer words.

Love and blessings,
Wendy

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Progress? OR Pretend?:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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“The mind must be tested in situations where its quality can be revealed. Not by how many ideas you’ve absorbed, but by how you actually behave when tested. Not by what you understand intellectually, but by what you demonstrate practically. This is the measure that destroys most people’s self-assessment. Because by this standard, your progress isn’t measured by how much you’ve learned or how many insights you’ve had. It’s measured by whether you respond differently to situations that used to overwhelm you.

Do you still react with the same defensiveness when criticized? Do you still avoid the same uncomfortable conversations? Do you still make decisions from the same fears?

If the answer is yes, then whatever progress you’ve made exists only in theory. You’ve upgraded your understanding without upgrading your behavior, which is like downloading new software but never installing it. You walk around with all this potential transformation stored in your mind, never actually running it when situations demand it.”

by Stoic Wisdom

Interpretation by Wendy Blanchard:

Growth is not proven by what we understand, but by how we respond when tested.
Insight that doesn’t change behavior is only theory.
Real progress shows up when old fears no longer run our choices, when we stop avoiding hard conversations, and when we no longer sacrifice our wellbeing to be chosen.
Until behavior changes, the mind is only running in circles…full of potential, never applied.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Merry Christmas Eve:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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In the very recent noise, confusion, and old heartbreak patterns, love arrived this Christmas Eve without demand, without fear, without strings. It just flows with grace and reciprocity…friendship, conversation, ease, and connection as it has for 8 years.

My bestie confirmed something my soul already knows:

I am loved as I am, not for what I can prove, fix, tolerate, or endure.
Not conditionally.
Not anxiously.
Not with disappearance looming behind it.

Just love. Spoken plainly. Offered freely. Backed by actions that bring safety, consistency, smiles, and peace to my nervous system.

“Happy Christmas Eve. I just called to tell you, you are loved…you are loved.”

This is such a contrast moment and contrast moments are sacred. They clarify truth without having to analyze anything. One voice brings dysregulation and doubt and heartbreak; the other brings calm, warmth, and feelings of connection.

Peace and blessings on this Christmas Eve.

Love,

Wendy

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As Within…So Without:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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When I very recently learned that what he offered was never love, but attachment, I sat with it so that I could reconcile the truth…

And it is so painful…

I made the decision to say goodbye and to never give it further attention…

“As within…so without.”

The more you nurture your inner peace, strength, and clarity, the more your outer life will naturally align.

“As within, so without.”

By committing to your inner world, you don’t just move on…you radiate a new reality that reflects the freedom and authenticity you deserve.

I have connected the dots with total clarity: the “as within, so without” pattern in my life has been shaped by my inner beliefs formed in childhood and reinforced by my relationships. That awareness alone is huge…it is the first real step toward consciously reshaping my life.

Every partner that I have chosen reflected my prior inner story of feeling “not good enough,” unseen, and unworthy of love. The most recent relationship reinforced that “not good enough” and God brought him back as a final discernment, confirming that I have broken the pattern of choosing partners who speak love but lack the capacity to live it.

This new realization, however heartbreaking, means I can intentionally rewrite the inner story…and that will ripple outward into my relationships, choices, and experiences. No more choosing a broken soul who does not understand the meaning of love between a man and a woman, compromise and truth.

As within…so without…

Amen.

From a favorite song by Forest Blakk, I repeat…”Take it, when she gives you her heart, Don’t you break it, Let your arms be a place she feels safe in, She’s the best thing that you’ll ever have…She’ll love you if you love her like that.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Infinite Love:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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If God wants something to be your destiny,
He will make it effortless and safe.
Not chaotic and traumatizing.

He will not give you a partner who destabilizes you.
He will not give you a relationship where you lose yourself.
He will not give you a man whose emotional foundation is sand.

What God allowed was clarity so that I could have my closure.
What God removed was confusion and instability.
What God protected was my future.

And the very next day…God showed me why.

Upon my surrender…I felt an immediate shift. In the space I created by letting go, life brought in an unexpected new connection…one that reminded me that goodness, presence, and kindness still exist right where I am. The moment I released what was hurting me, the Universe aligned and stepped in to steady me. God has a way of filling the space we free up, almost before we even realize we’ve made it.

Amen…

I’m learning that when we stop clinging to what breaks us, we make room for what supports us. And sometimes the peace we’ve been praying for arrives in the most surprising, gentle ways…softly…gingerly…and with steady devotion…
in real time.

God constantly sets boundaries, redirects people, closes doors, and removes people from situations that harm them.

Infinite love does not mean infinite access.

Love,

Wendy