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Be A Champion – Love, Wendy

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I observe others who are living in their riches and skewed perception where they have never faced adversity or serious challenges that have affected their peace and wellbeing.

If you’re not in the “ring” getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested in your “don’t worry about a thing, everything‘s going to be all right” ignorant response…

Many times things do not turn out all right…

TKO…

People suffer.

People grieve.

People spend their entire lives striving for peace and wellness and praying for relief that never comes.

And when you’ve never faced the kind of challenges that alter your nervous system, your body, or your sense of safety, your optimism can become a form of “dismissal.” Pretending it isn’t there and slapping platitudes over wounds that are still open is your own inability to process the reality of the depth of human suffering.

So…do not minimize the experiences of those of us in the “ring” fighting for justice and peace while you’re sitting in the cheap seats and passing judgment.

As Brené Brown said “If you’re not in the arena also getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested in your feedback.“

Be a champion.

Stand in the corner as one recovers their resilience.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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A Human Cushion – Love, Wendy

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We cross paths with people every day who are quietly surviving unimaginable loss.
Often, they don’t need to be fixed—they just need to be heard.

A little empathy, kindness, and presence can matter more than we’ll ever know.

When we create a safety net for others and we carry that frequency…one of “I see you,” others sense it and unburden themselves there. That’s not accidental. It’s presence.

The human condition thrives on connection, caring and compassion.

In a world that feels increasingly inflammatory and fractured, let us be a soft place to fall…

And when one falls, they feel the cushion versus the stone cold pavement.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

#truestory

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Roll the Credits – Love, Wendy

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You can love someone and still despise what they stand for—and sometimes, quietly, painfully, that contradiction kills the love altogether. Beliefs are no longer abstract; they are mirrors of character. What once inspired admiration—intellect, confidence, brilliance—can be stripped bare by alignment with cruelty, intimidation, and moral cowardice.

Respect erodes when someone chooses bullies over courage and kindness, power over humanity, and noise over conscience. There comes a moment when you see clearly: they are no longer part of the solution. They are the problem.

The person you grieved was never real—a projection, a mask filled with what you thought you saw. And then the mask fell.

Brainwashing works best on those without a grounded sense of self, who cling to movements because they lack the courage to live authentically. They hide behind identities they “see” as powerful, mistaking volume for virtue and allegiance for integrity, so far entrenched in extremism they cannot see balance, nuance, or “truth” from any angle but what feeds their shallow ego.

Love does die—not suddenly, but slowly, like rot beneath the floorboards. When it is finally buried, what remains is not bitterness, but deep, unshakable gratitude for the divine hand that pulled me free before the collapse became my own.

The most awakening truth came when I realized he became a clone—a male version of a Stepford wife: obedient, empty, and programmable.

“I’ve been to the movies, and I’ve seen how it ends…and the joke’s on them.

Roll the credits.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Trust the Universe – Love, Wendy

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As in a phrase popularized by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. , “Trust the moral arc of the universe…”

Choose integrity, and turning it over knowing that alignment brings peace, and misalignment brings its own consequences.

Make peace with circumstances that will not make peace with you…and have faith.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Rock On! – Love, Wendy

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When you are blessed with brilliance but crippled with insecurity, your intended message does not arrive with its full power, because doubt distorts the delivery.

Arrive with assertiveness…

Rock that confidence!

Inspire innate talents and abilities to emerge.

Brilliance reaches its full expression when confidence leads the way—vibrant, undiluted, and unapologetic.

Rock on!

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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A Non-Fiction Narrative:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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In order to create new healthy patterns, you have to unlearn unhealthy patterns and behaviors…

Those patterns that you observed and that which caused the dismantling of the relationship are all still there…they are still toxic…they are masking them behind the apologies and tears…

completely fictitious…

but trust me…

nothing changes if nothing changes…

Patterns are strong predictors of true presence…or lack thereof…

I may not say a word…but believe me…

I see everything…

on the cover, and inside between the lines.

It is the same old story.

I have read it before…

the plot twists, the illusion of change…

I know how this ends.

I have closed the book on this familiar fairy tale, and have chosen a beautiful piece of a non fiction narrative…realistic, riveting, ready to meet us where we are, and rooted in truth…

where love is the happily ever after I have prayed about.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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From Where I Stand – Love, Wendy

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Childhood reflections:

“Little girls and little boys 

who grow up in a world of noise 

rather than experiencing the joys 

of a loving family

may find their heart and soul destroyed…

They have a heart that begins to roam

For a place that they may call their home

But find that they are all alone

And live an empty life unknown

to the experience of love.”

Wendy Blanchard, MS, INHC

EMPATHY

Instead of judging one who is exhibiting poor behavior and practicing unhealthy habits, ask yourself, “I wonder what it was/is like for them?”

This is known as a trauma informed approach.

There is always a reason why one displays anger, anxiety, depression, addiction, etc.

Showing empathy may disarm one who is experiencing symptoms of repressed emotions, and may encourage them to share and release as a first step to healing.

Empathy is putting yourself in the mindset and circumstances of another that you may not have experienced in your own life.

In my lived and field experience, I have observed others, and have experienced myself that when another loving human offers an opportunity for me to “unpack” or just sits with me as an active listener with EMPATHY as their gift, we DO begin to de-escalate and to consider taking the following steps to healing.

We should never stand in judgement of that which we have NOT experienced ourselves. Be kind. Be compassionate. Offer a hand, a shoulder and an ear. YOU can be the conduit to one connecting to their most inner emotions that catapults them into healing and recovery.

Happy Saturday. Stay warm, safe and KIND. Love and empathy is the antidote…

Love and blessings, Wendy

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The Human Condition:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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We all crave connection…seek validation and recognition whether in our personal relationships or in our professional lives.
It is the very essence of the human condition.

Connection is medicine for anxiety, and companionship calms the body in ways logic never can…

We can take a break from being “the strong one” when love is present.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Friendship:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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Sometimes gratitude stops me mid‑sentence, searching for language big enough to hold it. My heart swells with gratitude.

How do you thank a bestie who doesn’t hesitate when your child is hurting? When he offers support that is not offered out of obligation, but from the quiet place of presence, wisdom, and love…When someone willingly gives their precious time and hard‑earned expertise to help your child navigate a sudden, destabilizing moment…Some questions aren’t meant to be answered. They’re meant to be witnessed.

This is the language of a loving friendship…one that is reciprocal without keeping score, consistent without conditions, dependable without fanfare. It’s mentorship wrapped in compassion. It’s steadiness in a season of free‑fall.

And today, as my child faces loss, anxiety, and uncertainty, I am deeply aware that this kind of friendship is rare and sacred.

Gratitude feels insufficient…but love recognizes love. Friendship recognizes friendship. And sometimes, that is everything.

Love and blessings,

Wendy