Where has the desire for disconnection come from?
What has happened to the warmth of the human condition I once knew?
I’m observing more and more people who seem to want connection—but only on their terms, and only when it suits them.
Many seem content with surface-level interactions: “How do you do? What do you do? I’m going to be busy for a while…”
Or they re-direct every conversation back to themselves, too absorbed to truly see or hear the other.
But true connection is a deliberate act.
It is the desire to be witnessed—and to witness.
To care for—and to be cared for.
To love—and to be loved…consistently.
Connection is a commitment.
It lives in mutual understanding, in the willingness to meet one another’s needs.
It is the sacred act of showing up—with selfless devotion and quiet persistence.
It binds one heart to another without pause.
Disconnection, too, is a choice.
It is the quiet closing of a door.
A pulling away before something meaningful can take “heart”.
A deliberate retreat from the vulnerability that connection requires.
Ask yourself, “What am I feeling physically—and fearing emotionally—when I get too close?”
Mantra: I choose connection over fear.
Love and blessings,
Wendy
(This is an excerpt from my upcoming book, Soul Notes) Copyright © 2025 Wendy Blanchard/Soul Notes
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