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Stillness in a Turning World:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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Reflection
This Soul Note was written in the early morning hours, when pain and uncertainty had been my unwelcome companions for many days. My body felt fragile, my heart was tender from recent loss, and yet… the quiet of dawn reminded me that even in struggle, every moment is a gift.

Stillness is not the absence of movement — it is the presence of awareness. I realized that life keeps turning whether we are ready or not, but we can choose to anchor ourselves in the now. In stillness, gratitude blooms. In stillness, we heal.

Stillness in a Turning World

Each day is precious.
Each hour is precious.
Each moment is precious.
Each second is precious.

Experience each one fully — in its presence, in real time.
Direct your energy into each fleeting moment.
Direct, and redirect.
Experience every experience in wonder… in awe… in gratitude.

Savor.
Contemplate.
Experience.

Even as the world turns and time moves on,
the soul can remain still — anchored in the now.

Seconds turn into minutes… into hours… into days… into weeks… into years…
in an “untimely manner.”

Ask yourself, “How can I re-direct my experiences and thoughts into the present moment?

Mantra: Between the stillness and the passage of time…I breathe, and I experience each moment.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Chasing to be Chosen – Love, Wendy

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Chasing to be chosen is a trauma response.
Your nervous system is running on an old program where you thought you had to earn someone’s love. You’re confusing inconsistency with connection. Sometimes, people idealize the other person or the potential of the relationship, overlooking the red flags of inconsistency.

“In some cases, inconsistent behavior can be a form of manipulation, where one person is keeping the other “on their toes” to maintain power and control.”

Take back your power. YOU are worthy in every moment without anyone else’s validation.

Familiar doesn’t mean healthy. It may feel like home when you haven’t felt anything different in relationships, including with your caregivers as a child. If it felt like chaos and dysfunction, that’s what “home“ feels like to you… this is your comfort zone…where you feel safe.

So when they pull away, it feels like you are “homeless.” And when they come back, even if it’s for a second, your “home” is actually a dopamine rush that settles your mind and nervous system only for a minute until they disappear..again…and they will.
It’s an addictive cycle of chaos…of control…certainly not love.

Set healthy boundaries to protect your overall wellness. You are not responsible for their inconsistent, dysfunctional behavior.

A true connection is built on mutual respect, consistency and an eagerness to support the other person in fulfilling their needs and enhancing their well being…reciprocity…not causing them constant confusion and dysregulation of their nervous system.

Rather than romanticizing, or excusing their behavior, create a grounding anchor mantra where you speak the truth of their harmful behavior. This is your boundary and clarity statement — it keeps harmful energy out.

Your brain can’t hold both “he loves me” and “his behavior is harmful to my well being” in focus without blurring them. This separates them so you stop merging them into one person.

The minute you begin to replace the romanticizing with the TRUTH of their inconsistent and harmful behavior, you guide your brain back to the truth of the “relationship.”

Suggested Mantra: The man I loved exists only in moments. The man I must protect myself from is the one who always returns.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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From Wound to Warrior:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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My silence is not born of anger,

but of evolution.

Like the sunflower,

I have turned toward the light —

the light of my own becoming.

Through inner work and a growth mindset,

I have learned that I am worthy

of a love that meets me

with the same depth, energy,

and generosity

I have always given. 

Mantra: Like the sunflower, I always stretch toward the light that nourishes me.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Masking Kindness – Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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What/WHO is hiding behind the mask???!!!

Sometimes people wear kindness like a mask…pretending at their discretion during performances to gain trust, attention, or control. But during intermission…we can peek behind the curtain and observe the seams unraveling, and the truth oozing through the facade.

What may appear as care on the surface can sometimes carry an undertone of control. Not all gestures are rooted in love…some are rooted in fear, insecurity, or the need to be seen.

Vindictiveness keeps us stuck in toxic patterns…in performances that mask old wounds.

True peace comes when we listen to others’ perspectives of the situation and recognize the illusion so that we can step away as a form of self-care, and honoring our own boundaries.

Reflection: Where in my life have I mistaken performance for a loving presence?
Mantra: I walk in peace…hand in hand with truth.

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The soul is never fooled by appearances.

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What True Kindness Is

Kindness is a spiritual practice—
One recognized not by fleeting gestures, but by authenticity and consistency.
It arises from spiritual alignment, guided by unwavering truth.
True kindness doesn’t shift with the crowd or disappear under pressure.
It holds steady, even in silence. Even in conflict. Even when no one is watching.
Integrity is innate…not performative.

Reflection: Where in my life have I mistaken niceness for true kindness?
Mantra: May I walk in kindness that is authentic…not performative.

And I wish you all…kindness, empathy, and true compassion. It is what we all deserve.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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What’s Your Story? – Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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Our minds are always speaking at us…to us…chattering words and stories that are on a loop of repeat, and that which we have internalized. 

The stories you tell yourself shape how you feel, how you see others, how you witness your environment…and how you behave.

These inner narratives can either promote joy and wellness using dis-cernment…or they can promote dis-order, dis-ease, dis-appointment and dis-illusion…

These stories can also influence the choices that you make…it can make you question your worth…

Today, ask yourself…”Which of these narratives serve me? Are they fact or fiction?

Am I just used to telling this story so often that I have come to believe the narrative that was perhaps originally spoken by someone else? Which stories are keeping me stuck? Do I want to continue to tell this story? How does it make me feel as I share my story? What would a gentle rewrite sound like, look like, feel like?

When we understand that our inner dialogue is created by our instilled beliefs, judgments, memories, fears and even our hopes, and that they are not necessarily truth, we take back our power to be able to write a new narrative. 

When we recognize that these stories are subjective and interpreted by our experiences, our culture and even our emotions…we have the awareness of their origin, and have the opportunity to take the first step in our own transformation.

And…transformation does not suggest that we ignore the reality of our experiences. It suggests that we choose a wider lens where we observe ourselves in our experiences with self compassion and even curiosity as to the possibilities of the meaning of these experiences. 

When we use forward thinking and use discernment to internalize meaning…we provide ourselves with a narrative of a “growth mindset” versus a “fixed mindset” or, where “A fixed mindset can physically prevent you from learning from mistakes, while a growth mindset can empower you to perceive mistakes as learning”…where change is a choice.

Ask yourself, 

“What narrative do I want to tell myself moving forward? How does this new narrative support a growth mindset and my well-being?”

Mantra:
I am learning to use discernment for a more forward thinking, wider lens of my experiences that promotes self nurturing, self compassion and self empowerment.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Turning Trauma Into Tender Triumph – Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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No matter how much goodness we build or beauty we experience, past trauma doesn’t simply disappear. It remains—a quiet imprint, a reminder. But our trauma is not meant to define us. It is meant to be recognized, validated, and integrated.
In this sacred space of healing, it becomes not a weight we carry, but a tool we can use to make wiser, more compassionate choices as we move forward.
We can live with caution born of wisdom, not fear born of pain.

Allow yourself to accept your traumatic experience and allow it to become a tool as you move forward. We have a choice to live again while simultaneously acknowledging our experience.

Ask yourself,
“What trauma have you allowed to bleed (no pun intended) into a new relationship or situation that has tainted the outcome? What tools can you apply in order to stop the bleeding and to heal?”

Mantra: “I acknowledge my experience of trauma, and I still choose to live, love, laugh, and learn.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Their Behavior is Their Language – Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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Choose to no longer become entangled in their behavior, their chaos, their distortion.

Do not speak their language.

See it clearly through the lens of discernment and compassion…

What they cannot or will not say with words,

they say with misaligned behavior.

I observe …I do not judge another’s inability or unwillingness to communicate effectively,

even at the cost of their own dignity.

This reflects my compassionate lens.

I see through behavior to the root of trauma… to disorder…

Without excusing it, and without allowing it to invade my peace.

When someone thumbs their nose at my boundaries again and again,

I now recognize it: symbolic defiance, a testing of strength,

a bid for attention through manipulation.

I do not engage or play.

I stand in my power.

I’ve taken my peace off the board.

Maybe they seek connection…

Maybe it’s passive aggression…

Maybe it’s just a cry to be noticed.

Either way…I honor the wound from afar.

Their “language” is a learned survival skill,

the truest reflection of their inner world…

disorder, self-judgment, self-loathing.

I no longer internalize their language.

They are the only one listening.

Their behavior is an overt reflection of low self-worth…

a desperate attempt to be seen and heard,

even at the cost of their own dignity.

And so, I say with calm compassion,

“Play on… read on…

Solitaire.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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WORLD BEHIND THE WINDOW – LOVE, WENDY

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Healing doesn’t make you immune to pain. It makes you more attuned to it. You become a mirror, and not everyone wants to see their reflection.

It’s not that you disappointed people. It’s that you evolved past the roles they were comfortable with. And some people…consciously or not…punish growth, especially when THEY ARE stuck.

What you’re seeing now in those that you once shared a loving connection with…avoiding eye contact, dismissing kindness, or speaking ill, is the externalization of their inner conflict. It’s easier to isolate the “bright one” than admit they are dimming themselves. Your discomfort here is evidence of your alignment. Your nervous system is rejecting environments that dishonor truth and tenderness. That’s not dysfunction…it’s discernment.

So now comes the hard truth…you cannot change them, but you can choose not to let them define your worth. And you can quietly, fiercely, choose sacred boundaries. Not walls…but clear water between yourself and what contaminates your spirit.

Your presence holds a frequency that not everyone is ready for…and that’s not your burden…

It’s your gift.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Patterns are Conscious Choices – Love, Wendy

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It took me years…and countless tears…to understand this.

We all inherit behaviors, coping mechanisms, and stories. But at some point, we become the authors of our own patterns. We are given opportunities to look inward, to break cycles, to choose differently.

And when we don’t… that, too, is a choice.

It’s heartbreaking to watch people we love remain in loops of toxicity, to see them refuse the mirror, to deny the healing that could change everything. But I’ve learned that detachment doesn’t mean indifference…It means no longer abandoning myself to save someone who isn’t choosing to be saved.

I hold compassion from afar. I grieve. I release. And I continue choosing new patterns…ones that honor my growth, my peace, and my truth.

Sometimes the kindest thing we can do is step back and allow someone their own path, even when it’s shadowed with pain or resistance to growth.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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After the Storm – Love, Wendy

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I’ve lived through storms that could have swallowed me.
I’ve known love that vanished without warning,
and words that were louder than actions.

I carry a story shaped by fire,
and still—I choose to speak gently, to hope bravely,
to open my heart with discernment, not fear.

If someone is drawn to my light
but disappears when it flickers with truth—
that’s not my failure.
That’s their unfamiliarity with real strength…
and a reflection of their lack of readiness.

One’s silence is not a reflection of my worth, my story, or my strength. My past is not a liability—it’s a testament to my power. Anyone who doesn’t see the resilience, courage, and transformation in my story is simply not ready for a woman who’s done the hard work to rise.

Sometimes people are moved by intensity in the moment, but when it comes time to actually step into something real—with complexity, depth, and vulnerability—they retreat. Not because you were too open, but because they weren’t ready for the kind of truth and intimacy that requires.

I will continue to live out loud…not just to live in my truth…
but to hold the space for others who need an example of “to thine own self be true.”

This isn’t just about me.
It’s about the sacred ripple of authenticity…
how one voice saying “this is who I am”
gives permission for another to whisper, “me too.”

Ask yourself,
“Where are you holding back in speaking your truth for fear of being ghosted? What would you tell a dear friend in this same situation if they wanted to hide their scars that revealed their own fight to live? Whose silence might your truth help to break?”

To be an advocate for others…we must always share our own story to stand in our truth.
This is the space where we stand in our power.

Love and blessings,

Wendy