Author: wendyblanchard044

Author, Mental Health and Wellness Educator, Board Certified Peer Specialist in mental health and substance use disorder, Integrative Nutrition Health Coach
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Thoughts on losing our Democracy and Freedom – Love, Wendy

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I was taught to never question Him. I have always stood strong in my faith. But today, as I continue to process, I question Him. I question everything. I question how our constitution allows a convicted felon, rapist, racist, sexual predator, traitor, etc., to even run for president as a role model, especially for our young people. 

So are we saying to our younger generations that it’s OK to lie, cheat, steal and to be a predator because there will be no punishment and you can even become the president of the United States?!

I try to be very impartial when I post about politics, but I know I am not alone in the way that I’m feeling today. Betrayed. Confused. Alone. 

I always teach my clients and my children to look for the positive in every situation. 

So here is my small take away. Reds engaged in an insurrection when their candidate lost. Blues became silent and practiced beautiful acceptance with dignity and grace. 

Take away – I’m proud to be a blue Democrat and I’m proud of the way we are loving and supporting each other through this very surreal and difficult time.

To my children…

My dearest son, daughters and granddaughters…

I’m so sorry that you were born into a world with so much evil. 

But I implore you to think about all of the beautiful things that we have and encourage you to concentrate on your own life, to stay in your own lane, and to create your own way. 

Enjoy your friends, travel, your family, your job and your treasured relationships that are meaningful to you. Practice daily self care. Do all of the things that are healthy for you and bring you happiness. And don’t wait another minute to do so. As you can see, life is precious, and it is fleeting. Most importantly, my dear loved ones, please do not be bitter. Bitterness only creates discourse in your body and in your mind. 

Yes, take time to process and to grieve for the loss of our democracy and freedom. 

Lead the way through by loving each other and staying close. Put humanity and love over hate. And there are no better words to live by for us at this time than to live “one day at a time.“

I love you all so much. I’m so sorry for us all.

Live your life with dignity, integrity, love and grace.

Love always, Mom/Grandma

Wendy Blanchard, MS, INHC, NYCPS

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Music – Love, Wendy

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Music, including melody and lyrics, is the universal language of expression. Music is the accompaniment to one’s experiences, and where one feels safe to “feel” and to emote.

Music reignites our soul and encourages us to reflect, to express our emotions, to be vulnerable, and deepens the process of processing our experiences.

Music invites us to remember, to connect to our joys and sorrows, to celebrate, and to heal in the safe space of our own memories.

Love, Wendy

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“Carry Quietly” – Love, Wendy

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Recently, the famous saying, “There are none so blind who will not see,” has pierced my heart. It has become very personal.

And so as I typically do, I asked a question of the angels as to how I will move forward with this information, and they answered me through music. A song entitled, “Carry Quietly” began to play on my Pandora station immediately upon posing my question.

I take it to mean to hold that relationship with love, not to challenge what I observe, to simply practice acceptance without judgement, and to “carry it quietly,” as “there are none so blind who will not see.”

Love can still shine through the cracks of our differences, illuminating the genuineness of the human condition.

By embracing acceptance, we cradle the beauty of imperfection, allowing compassion to blossom even in the face of ignorance.

And perhaps at another time, we plant another seed.

It’s in this quiet carrying that we find strength—not in force, but in gentle resilience, nurturing connections that remind us we are all part of a larger tapestry, woven together by shared experiences and emotions.

Perhaps we can even find a lesson of a deeper understanding of the human condition creating a deeper connection to Spirit, to ourselves, and to others as we “carry it quietly.”

Love, Wendy

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Normalize Making Mistakes – Love, Wendy

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Let us normalize making mistakes.

We all make our wisest decisions with the knowledge that we have based on life experiences at any given time.

As we evolve, we have the opportunity to embrace new wisdom and perspectives.

Embracing this process allows us to be more compassionate toward ourselves and others.

Forgive yourself and use your experiences to fuel your growth, transforming challenges into lessons that guide you toward a more enlightened path.

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A Person of Influence – Love, Wendy

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When we are the person of influence in any room, others tend to sync their energy with ours.

In order to create a productive, positive and meaningful experience, lead with a smile.

Provide a balance of openness, inclusion, focus and constructive feedback. Balancing these elements can help create a harmonious atmosphere where everyone feels valued and motivated to contribute!

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Expressive Writing for healing – Love, Wendy

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This is part of an “expressive writing” exercise that I created and assign to clients.

Part of our healing is being willing to reset our thinking and to reshape/realign our nervous system with wellness. This can support us as we recognize that the past is over, and that we can make healthy choices in the present to support our overall health and safety.

Boundaries is one component in healing.

Boundaries create a framework for healthier interactions and help us prioritize self-care.

Stand in your power. Do not disrespect, dishonor, diminish or disown your own needs and desires. Do not minimize all that you so well deserve…in love, in peace, in joy, in freedom. THIS IS YOUR RIGHT. We demonstrate to others how we expect to be treated by the way we take care and honor ourselves.

Write down your top 5 (or more), non negotiable, relationship must have’s. Write down your top 5 (or more) non negotiable daily self care practices.

Honor yourself.

Set your boundaries.

Heal.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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“Feeling” is a spiritual practice – Love, Wendy

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Supressing one’s feelings is fruitless and unhealthy.

Feel them. Feed them full of empathy. Follow the emotions to acknowledge the source.

Free them. Emotions need a voice before we can release the pain.

And in many, many situations, we need to repeat the process as necessary. We may “feel” that we have released the pain when unexpectedly we begin to “feel” the pain begin to resurface. 

It can, and does, manifest in a variety of ways, including dis-ease and dis-orders. And this is typical of deep rooted pain. 

Take your time. There is never a time limit on feeling your feelings. Be sure to engage in daily self care in order to continue to fill your “wellness account” so that you do not become energetically depleted. 

Whatever self care practices nourishes your soul, do it.

“Self care is the actions that we take to achieve wellness, and wellness is where we stand in our power.” 

Sending love to all who are experiencing the experience of “feeling.” It can be daunting through the process, but is freeing…one minute, one hour, one day at a time. 

Love and blessings, Wendy

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Personal Agency – Love, Wendy

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I affirm, daily, that I give myself permission to outgrow, and to pivot from people and relationships that no longer align with the vision that I hold for living my most authentic and meaningful life.

I remind myself that I have the right to move on from connections that are no longer serving me, allowing for ongoing personal growth and evolution in my life.

I have learned that in every moment, I have the opportunity to choose again.

I choose wellness, joy, and peace of mind where love is the foundation of every choice that I make.

I set healthy boundaries, and I embrace the transition that opens space for new, more fulfilling connections.

I take ownership of every choice that I make. And if it doesn’t work out, I choose again.

And again. And again.

Love, Wendy