Month: December 2021

“Seek understanding of every situation through a spiritual lens.

Oh, and set boundaries.

Some may mistake your spiritual actions as weakness.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

Here is my take on love…my two cents…

We never just disappear from someone’s life without a word. And then just show up again just as unexpectedly. It demonstrates deep disrespect.

We must display enough respect to speak our truth. No white lies. No half truths. No withholding of facts. We trust our beloved in a safe space. And be certain that if our beloved asks about a particular situation, our beloved already knows the truth.

We are mature in that we can use our words to express our deepest emotions and feel safe to do so because we are connected on a deeply spiritual level. Usually in this type of connection, love and the deep bond cannot be broken.

If we truly are “in love” and have experienced a “divine moment,” we build upon that relationship, with God at the center of it all. We must humble ourselves and put our beloved at the same space where we meet ourselves. “Love people where they are.” We ask for spiritual guidance when we feel uncertain, and for validation all along the journey. We remain devoted. We offer ourselves from a place of deep empathy and kindness. We remain monogamous. We cherish the “divine love” that we speak of. We exercise patience. We offer unconditional love. We navigate the toughest terrain…with our emotional vocabulary, and with our actions that which align with our words. We have an ongoing dialogue. We communicate which is the key to a lasting, loving, spiritual foundation.

We do everything to make sure never to break our beloved’s heart, again and again, for our own agenda.

Over the recent past, I am learning more and more what “divine love” really means.

My suggestion is to search “for the coping skills that resonate and see the bigger picture perspective that’s necessary to really heal.” Alone and together. This was something that my beautiful daughter, Nicole, shared with me today after losing the love of her life suddenly at age 46 two days ago. It is so profound.

Love, I believe, is non linear because it does have ups and downs, just like life itself, BUT, the emotions are always with us deep within our soul and are felt energetically if this love is truly “divine.”

We may get angry, or triggered, which is good information to be used to heal, and can actually be formed into a coping skill. It is a choice to love over that of fear.

If love is truly “divine,” it is always present.

I believe it is.

Love always,

Wendy

“Beware of the one who posts pretend “heartfelt love posts” for attention and for entertainment.

There is a whole other situation going on behind the words…Smoke screen…

Remember, watch the behavior.”

Love,

Wendy

“When we live with a mental illness and/or disorder, we cannot conceivably connect to the pain and suffering that we inflict upon our loved ones that may cause permanent damage.

When we heal, perhaps years later, and we understand the magnitude of our loved ones severe pain and their own struggles that affected every moment of their lives, including their own perception of self, and of the world around them, it may be irreparable.

On the other hand, we may be blessed with many lessons through these challenges, and through prayer, and deep inner work within ourselves, and then deep connective work with our loved ones, we may have the opportunity to begin again.

And somehow, we must learn to forgive ourselves.

Thy will be done.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

“There is such beauty and awe in wonder…in not knowing the when, or the how.

To me, not knowing feels like a surprise gift from God when it is finally revealed.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

Once I recognized our counterfeit connection and reflected upon my “sense of belonging” to someone offering what seemed to be a safe space, and unconditional love, my deep reflection illuminated the truth that one I was “connected to” was in actuality seeking control, not love and connection.

My upcoming book sheds light on this former love connection where Spirit stepped in to show me the truth and liberated me from a counterfeit soul of the heart.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

NOTE: Edits made as late as yesterday in order to reflect “truth” of my experience(s), and book is slated for publishing in mid January.

“When I reflect upon any situation through the lens of spirituality, I connect with love. My deeply rooted spiritual practice supports a loving and meaningful perspective of every situation that I encounter.

When I choose to connect to, or better yet, when I choose to empathize with another’s circumstances, feelings, and their individual perspective, this in and of itself, is the spiritual implication of interconnectedness.

When I begin to feel “triggered,” I pause, breathe, and remind myself to view the situation through the lens of a spiritual energy. My goal in every situation is to love.

I recite one of my favorite prayers in a moment of pause, and then I reconnect to love…

Prayer of St. Francis:

“Lord, make me an instrument of Thy peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;

Where there is injury, pardon;
Where there is doubt, faith;

Where there is despair, hope;
Where there is darkness, light;
Where there is sadness, joy.

O Divine Master,
Grant that I may not so much seek
To be consoled, as to console;
To be understood, as to understand;
To be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
It is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
And it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.”

My message is so simple, and yet too many of us struggle with this simple suggestion.

“Search your heart. Seek connection through a spiritual energy. Allow yourself to experience love through this connection. Speak your truth.”

The meaning of connection is love.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

“Today in a moment of grace, I was reminded of the path of destruction that my former substance use disorder has left on another’s long and winding road…

I was also reminded that while I was deeply unwell, and feel deep remorse over the pain that I unintentionally inflicted, there are some that are unwilling and/or unable to forgive. And of course, I empathize with their feelings, and I respect their choices. I too was once a victim of these same circumstances.

The pain that one has experienced bears scars that are just too deep to heal without treatment. And, when one refuses to speak their own truth to express their suppressed emotions, to validate their emotions, and to allow themselves to be validated, to process, and to forgive, they themselves remain unwell.

Further, I am reminded that all of this is out of my control. I have done my part, over and over again. Perhaps the trauma is that knife still impaled into the soul.

I have used this day as an opportunity for reflection of my past life, and have also reflected on these past nine years of my wellness recovery from addiction. I will not live in a space of guilt and shame. There is no guilt and shame in being unwell. I offer myself fully in the present day, every day in complete wellness in sobriety.

I continue to command respect. I continue to remind myself that I never walk alone. I continue to pray for grace and healing for all.

Thy will be done.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

“You get what you pray for.”

Love,

Wendy

“You cannot ”find joy,” you have to create it.”

Love, Wendy