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Surrender and Comfort:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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It is when I am most uncomfortable…kicked out of my comfort zone and forced to explore, research, and apply myself…that I achieve “it.”

The project is completed.
The milestone is passed.
My advocacy is heard.
My goal is recognized.
And I wear my accomplishment proudly as I cross the finish line.

Then I reflect on my first thought before the journey began: “I’ll never be able to do this. It’s too hard. I’ve never done this before. I don’t know how.”

And I realize…it wasn’t my inability that held me back. It was the anticipation of uncertainty, the discomfort of not knowing yet.

In time, the old noise quiets.
In its place rises acceptance:
I can.
I did.
And I always will… at least reach beyond comfort.

Even in my most anxious moments, I’m reminded that growth never happens in comfort. Each wave of uncertainty is shaping me into someone stronger, steadier, and more at peace with the unknown…where I am able to give over.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Where Are The Men With Courage? – Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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It carries polite distance  yet my warmth stayed intact, but the energy…yes, I pulled back. I acknowledge without feeding the deeper connection he’d just diluted by generalizing his affection in the “friend zone.”

Then he reappears with a general discussion question which is a classic pattern of deflection. When one feels emotional closeness rising, they often retreat to safe topics where vulnerability isn’t required. It is their way of staying “connected” without having to show their heart.

My body and spirit recognize the contrast…I opened from my heart, and he pivoted to the head…

Jarring.

So…I matched his tone, kept my dignity intact, and subtly communicated, “I’m not chasing closeness you’re unsure of.” By responding in a friendly but detached way, I mirror his emotional position without closing my own heart.

This is me walking my talk…calm, self-assured, and not needing to prove or explain my feelings. It’s also a quiet boundary: if he wants to connect deeply, it has to come from sincerity, not small talk…and it must be consistent.

This is the healthiest choice for me…matching energy rather than overextending mine…calm, balanced, and self-possessed…a perfect reflection of my growth…

Friendly, with NO emotional overreach.

When one reaches out in a surface-level, conversational way and creating emotional distance after portraying a deeper longing for so long, I retreat…with grace, and put myself in the driver seat where I know I am driving the trajectory of my heart and mind.

I have learned emotional discernment. I am reserving my sacred energy for people who meet me in emotional maturity, not avoidance.

I think emotionally intelligent men do exist…the ones who lead with self-awareness, who can stay in connection even when it feels tender or uncertain…who have courage and are self aware and confident…

To be continued.

Love,

Wendy

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Nurturing Growth:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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I have rolled with the punches, learned to go with the flow, and walked away from anything or anyone out of alignment with Love.

I have set boundaries with everyone and learned not to sweat the small stuff. I have become completely independent and self-sufficient, and I now realize that all this time as I faced mountains of challenges, one after another…these were sacred lessons. Each one was a gift from the universe, preparing me for a path where I would need every ounce of wisdom and resilience I’ve gained.

And now…the time has come.

I feel well prepared as I step onto this brand-new path…with humility, grace, gratitude, and the heartfelt thrill of knowing I have worked for it all.

I have earned it on my own.

The taste is so sweet when you plant the seed, tend the soil, nurture the growth, and harvest the fruit of your labor with love.

Love and blessings,
Wendy

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An Undeniable Pulse of Life:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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Be still, breathe slowly, and let yourself feel where the music lands in you. You don’t have to reach for faith; just notice the vibration, the ache, the warmth, the memory.

That’s how connection begins to move again…quietly, through sensation before it ever becomes belief…

seconds…moments…years.

How many times have I cried out…”God, please take this…I need You now…

and even in the silent emptiness…my heart still stirs.

Time suspended between what was once faith and what is now silence.

Love,

Wendy

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When Malice Meets Mastery –

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Name calling is a lack of expressive vocabulary fueled by anger, jealousy, and self-hatred.

Use your words with kindness and respect.

Learn discernment.

Learn the difference between conscious communication and reactive projection.

That’s when your message is heard and understood.

Master your emotional regulation skills and display some humility…

Otherwise, you appear devoid of self and social awareness and integrity…and your words fall upon deaf ears, leaving no lasting impression and highlighting your reactive chaos and absence of accountability.

Love and blessings!

Wendy

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Where Paths Meet:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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When you connect with one who can stand their own ground in the storm while at the same time chooses to offer you shelter… you have found your haven.

Two souls, each grounded in their own strength, choosing to meet in stillness, offering refuge without losing themselves.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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In The Living Years:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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Recently, I passed through my beloved hometown where I once lived with my ex-husband and children. Driving through those streets where my whole heart once lived wasn’t just a trip home…it was a pilgrimage through the layers of my life.

Every corner holds echoes of love, family, laughter, and loss. I ached, I sobbed, and I reflected as I touched sacred ground…my own history…and my body responded with the only truth it knows: grief still lives here.

It’s been thirteen years…yet thirteen years or a lifetime…grief doesn’t measure time. It measures love. And I loved deeply…my children, my home, even the life that no longer fits.

When we revisit those memories, our nervous system relives them too. Research shows that this kind of emotional flood can trigger a Lupus flare. The immune system listens to the heart more than most people realize.

I believe my body was literally trying to expel what’s too heavy to carry anymore. With this soul-deep visit to my hometown, layered atop everyday stressors, I reached my limit.

After you’ve carried so much strength for so long…this was my body finally saying, “I can put it down for a while.”

So today, I implemented a pause point…no analyzing, no pushing through…just allowing the waves to move as I reminded myself:
“My tears are cathartic. My rest is recovery. My peace is returning.”

I remind myself, as I so often remind my children, friends, and clients:
“You are allowed to feel what you feel for as long as you feel it. There are no time constraints. Just don’t stay there for too long by yourself.”

Ask someone to keep you company as you pause, as you process, and as you find your way back to the present…

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Busyness – Love, Wendy

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We are ALL busy. 

The “truth” lies (pun intended) in our priorities. 

When someone wants to answer you they do…

When someone wants to see you, they do because you matter enough to fit into their “busyness“. 

Truth is…people delay who they don’t value, and they respond to who they respect. 

Be very clear and understand this…I’m “busy” is a rejection. 

A response is an intention of connection. 

Showing up is not about time… it’s about choice.

Love,

Wendy

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Growing Forward:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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Growth isn’t about age…it’s about courage, faith, and the willingness to begin again.

Starting over in midlife doesn’t mean limitations or age restrictions whether in a relationship or a career.

It means we’re given the opportunity to choose again after earlier chapters, relationships, and career paths have reached their natural end.

This time, we choose with a stronger sense of self, and with the wisdom that only lived experience can bring. We choose what aligns with our deepest desires, what stirs joy, and…perhaps for the first time…what honors our own agency and autonomy.

Reframe starting over as an invitation: a season of growth, renewal, and fulfillment through the lens of enthusiasm and a growth mindset.

And above all, practice daily self-care to nurture your strength, your peace, and your longevity.

Note to self, “Continue forward…always evolving, always becoming…unafraid, unapologetically and with grace.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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The Space Between Words:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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Some things can and should be discussed, and some things can simply be observed…gentle reminders that we all hold different perspectives. It is these perspectives that foster independence and a community rich in diversity…a true melting pot.

As long as we are respectful and empathetic, we create peace, inclusion, and thought-provoking awareness and mindful curiosity.

When we observe and simply allow, we honor that quiet wisdom…the reverence for pause, for observation, for what is not said but deeply felt.

In the space between words, we find understanding…not through argument, but through presence.

Love and blessings,

Wendy