When you connect with one who can stand their own ground in the storm while at the same time chooses to offer you shelter… you have found your haven.
Two souls, each grounded in their own strength, choosing to meet in stillness, offering refuge without losing themselves.
Love and blessings,
Wendy
Recently, I passed through my beloved hometown where I once lived with my ex-husband and children. Driving through those streets where my whole heart once lived wasn’t just a trip home…it was a pilgrimage through the layers of my life.
Every corner holds echoes of love, family, laughter, and loss. I ached, I sobbed, and I reflected as I touched sacred ground…my own history…and my body responded with the only truth it knows: grief still lives here.
It’s been thirteen years…yet thirteen years or a lifetime…grief doesn’t measure time. It measures love. And I loved deeply…my children, my home, even the life that no longer fits.
When we revisit those memories, our nervous system relives them too. Research shows that this kind of emotional flood can trigger a Lupus flare. The immune system listens to the heart more than most people realize.
I believe my body was literally trying to expel what’s too heavy to carry anymore. With this soul-deep visit to my hometown, layered atop everyday stressors, I reached my limit.
After you’ve carried so much strength for so long…this was my body finally saying, “I can put it down for a while.”
So today, I implemented a pause point…no analyzing, no pushing through…just allowing the waves to move as I reminded myself:
“My tears are cathartic. My rest is recovery. My peace is returning.”
I remind myself, as I so often remind my children, friends, and clients:
“You are allowed to feel what you feel for as long as you feel it. There are no time constraints. Just don’t stay there for too long by yourself.”
Ask someone to keep you company as you pause, as you process, and as you find your way back to the present…
Love and blessings,
Wendy
Growth isn’t about age…it’s about courage, faith, and the willingness to begin again.
Starting over in midlife doesn’t mean limitations or age restrictions whether in a relationship or a career.
It means we’re given the opportunity to choose again after earlier chapters, relationships, and career paths have reached their natural end.
This time, we choose with a stronger sense of self, and with the wisdom that only lived experience can bring. We choose what aligns with our deepest desires, what stirs joy, and…perhaps for the first time…what honors our own agency and autonomy.
Reframe starting over as an invitation: a season of growth, renewal, and fulfillment through the lens of enthusiasm and a growth mindset.
And above all, practice daily self-care to nurture your strength, your peace, and your longevity.
Note to self, “Continue forward…always evolving, always becoming…unafraid, unapologetically and with grace.”
Love and blessings,
Wendy
There are moments when we witness behavior that contradicts every value we hold sacred…kindness, collaboration, respect. When this happens in our world, our communities or our circles of influence, it can leave us questioning what leadership truly means, and how we can preserve our own light amid the shadows.
True leadership never thrives on division or control.
When someone stirs the pot, targets others without cause, and spreads friction instead of collaboration, that’s not leadership…it’s ego desperately wanting to be seen and heard…yet futile.
Many quietly compare notes, feeling the sting of this behavior yet fearful to speak their truth. And those who should hold this person accountable often look away.
A real leader lifts others, models respect, and creates a safe space for every voice to be heard. When domination, division, and fear replace service, unity, and care, ego has taken the throne. #NOKINGSNOQUEENS
This is control over compassion versus living with compassion over conflict—the latter of which is innate. Those who need control live with feelings of inadequacy and jealousy; they crave the spotlight to ‘feel’ in control, but this is the furthest thing from the truth. It’s an illusion that exists only in an unwell mind and with a hunger for real inclusion and acceptance.
When toxicity replaces teamwork, it’s time for the collective to rise…stronger, wiser, and united in integrity.
Shake it off. Reclaim your peace. #NOKINGSNOQUEENS
Even in the presence of discourse and division where one demoralizes and diminishes, we have a choice to remain rooted in dignity.
Leadership begins within: how we treat others, how we respond to conflict, and how we protect our peace. I no longer choose compassion over conflict with those who abuse their power; I choose character over conflict.
When we lead with character, we become the real leader that guides others back to kindness.
How we lead reveals our character…
And it has.
Love and blessings,
Wendy
#NOKINGSNOQUEENS
I am grounded and wise. I have done the work, re-built my life, and I know my worth.
Anyone who steps into my world to join my journey now needs to meet me fully present…eager, aware, spiritual, and aligned with my energy…not stuck in old patterns or memories.
This is a powerful boundary and standard where my worth is non-negotiable:
no coaxing, no waiting, no trying to “fix” someone.
I no longer wait for potential; I open my heart on this wide, open road to those already awake to love.
I’m ready.
Love,
Wendy
“The partner that you choose is a reflection of you…your character, your integrity, and your truth.
Your choice reflects your own self-worth.”
I wrote those words in October of 2020, not realizing how many versions of myself I would still have to meet. I’ve loved deeply, lost painfully, and rebuilt myself from the ashes more times than I can count. Each heartbreak has stripped away an illusion and left behind another layer of truth.
And yet, some things remain the same. I still believe that the people we choose mirror our own belief in what we deserve. I’ve chosen men who reflected both my light and my unhealed wounds. I’ve chosen love that challenged me to finally see my worth beyond what anyone else could give.
I still want to fall in love, travel, write, laugh until my stomach hurts, and dance in my kitchen. I still believe that someone will love me for the fire in my heart and the depth of my soul, not for the number on my birth certificate.
I’ve earned every one of these years…and I’m going to live them boldly, in living color, with music, with meaning…with deliberate animation and purpose.
“You cannot yell at a seed to force it to grow quickly. Instead, you love and nurture it. You meet all of its needs, and slowly, deliberately, it blooms into a beautiful flower. Find peace within yourself. Continue to stay grounded in faith, emulate gratitude, and practice patience. Go to a place of acceptance, and everything you desire will be waiting for you there.”
— Write Pray Recover
Through gratitude, prayer, and self-care, we remember that our spirit never ages…
it simply expands.
Love and blessings,
Wendy
Those of us who thrive in our given circumstances are those of us who awaken each day with gratitude for what we have, and for an eagerness to experience every moment throughout our day with excited anticipation of what is to be revealed!
“Practice gratitude, and experience extraordinary joy in all of the ordinary moments.” – Write Pray Recover:A Journey To Wellness Through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care
Love and blessings,
Wendy
Allow yourself to cry…
It’s the soul’s way of releasing what one may have been holding onto for way too long. It’s the soul’s way of cleansing and surrendering.
It’s the soul reminding us to release the burdens we choose to bear, and to trust that the Universe will take it from here…IF we are willing to give over.
Cry…It is a body, mind, and spiritual renewal, grounding you in your own being and awakening your heart’s capacity for love.
And then…
Start living again…your new normal…without comparison of the shadows of the past.
It will look different, and feel different…and…
Depending upon your mindset and openness, it can surpass all of your past experiences, growing into a life filled with deeper, unwavering love, tender, unspoken intimacy, and profound, soul-stirring kinship.
Love and blessings,
Wendy
Not everything has to have two sides. Sometimes there is a straight path to the final destination that just takes the back roads.
A straight path can absolutely wind through back roads, taking its time, gathering wisdom, and finding its own way home…
The route may be long and unexpected, but still steady in its purpose.
I am a woman of unwavering heart and faith…and even through all that I have endured, I still choose to believe in love, in transformation, and in “something” larger guiding it all. It is my journey of living deeply, loving unapologetically and experiencing profound spiritually heightened awareness.
Now, after more than 13 years of deep inner work, epiphanies, joy and disappointments, I want to mark this moment as both an ending and a beginning…
Of a renewed sense of acceptance of what is in this season.
And, as the trees undress, freely letting go of their remaining leaves like one who is well aware that change is inevitable, and there is no holding onto these branches, I am comforted in knowing that nature promises a spring with every winter…
And although this season brings vibrant color…it exits with barely a hint of what was…
And even in the heart of this spiritual woman, I anxiously and with a bit of hesitation, release the last leaf hanging gingerly…ready to fall.
And I whisper to myself…
“Just remember, in the winter, far beneath the bitter snow, lies the seed that with the sun’s love, in the spring, becomes…
the rose.”
Love and blessings,
Wendy
P.S. Love and new life are always quietly waiting beneath every surrender. ❤️
As I awaken, I am greeted by Dan’s heartfelt empathy and loving support in a poem that speaks of awareness, gratitude, and the quiet strength that arises through life’s shared challenges…a gentle reminder of the warmth and connection we hold through our words and writing.
His words uplift me and offer healing on my journey towards wellness.
Our connection is grounded in a shared spiritual friendship and experiences, and his writing reminds me of the power of human connection to lift us, even over the most challenging moments.
In this brief reflection, I celebrate our friendship and healing that words and unexpected connection can bring.
Love and blessings,
Wendy
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