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It is all an Illusion – Love, Wendy

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Sometimes you have to learn to live with the realization that resolution never comes…and that more of us live with this truth than we admit.

There’s something you desperately want to control, something you believe will enhance your life, that no matter how hard you attempt to coerce it, never comes to fruition… although at times you feel you are “almost there,” which eventually reveals itself as an illusion.

Perhaps it is someone you have prayed would get out of their own way so they might experience true love and joy…someone you hope will one day realize that their patterns are diminishing their life experiences, and that they might finally meet your energy in a committed life together.

Or maybe you seek acknowledgment or validation you have been waiting a lifetime…or a “lovetime”…to hear. And of course, there is the familiar ache of trying to force an outcome, gripping the steering wheel tightly, to no avail…because it exists completely outside your sphere of control, far off the beaten path.

And so… patience has become a survival skill. Not the patience of watching desires finally come to fruition, but the patience of acceptance…one freaking day at a time.

Acceptance that complete surrender to external circumstances is where we take back our power…and our peace.

And the Universe will continue to assign this lesson until you finally internalize it… breathe it… speak it… sleep it… live it.

Release your grip.

It is all an illusion.

Love,

Wendy

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Death by Attachment…and Resurrection – Love, Wendy

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Attempted strangulation of any outcome

will most certainly result in death by asphyxiation.

Attachment doesn’t look like danger at first.

It disguises itself as love.

Attachment keeps one in a low-oxygen environment:

second-guessing oneself, waiting, shrinking one’s needs,

holding one’s breath for crumbs of certainty.

This kind of attachment doesn’t explode—

it erodes.

Quietly.

Over days…over months…over years…

Over a lifetime.

Attachment is a killer.

It cuts off oxygen.

A hard pill to swallow…

what is meant to be included in our lives does not require force…

Release your grip…

Release isn’t loss.

It’s resuscitation.

Resurrection of the soul…

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Shallow – Love, Wendy

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Ready to dive in?!

You cannot steady a man who refuses to stop rocking the boat.

I remain afloat in the eye—steady and sheltered.

I am exposing the cultural lie that endless diving equals love, loyalty, or virtue.

I choose…

emotional buoyancy, nervous-system safety and spiritual sobriety.

Love,

Wendy

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Life…Interrupted — And Reclaimed – Love, Wendy

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We can live a life filled with regret and self-punishment after unintentionally causing hurt and pain…

OR…

We can live a life devoted to integration…of lessons learned, changed behavior, and service.

One lifetime is not long enough, nor is it productive, to remain trapped in self-inflicted “what-ifs” or “should-have’s.”

It is long enough to practice self-acceptance, take responsibility, offer a sincere apology when needed, and adopt a mindset of “I will do better“…not through words alone, but through changed behavior.

That is how we live a fulfilled, joyful, and meaningful life.

We all make mistakes.
That is the human condition.

But the life you choose to live…and how you grow from what you’ve learned…remains completely within your agency.
This is where you “stand in your power.”

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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A Spiritual Tap on the Shoulder – Love, Wendy

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Sometimes spiritual guidance that calls one inward arrives through the voice of another…an observer with no agenda…one who says, “You are the strongest person I know. I love to see you smile. You deserve a partner who arrives with alignment, presence, and understands what a loving relationship truly is.”

As I listened, he spoke of how I had “spent years building a solid, beautiful foundation…brick by brick through recovery, prayer, self-care, and devotion to healing…and how someone who loves you does not arrive like a bulldozer, tearing through what took years to build.” He reminded me that respect is revealed in how someone moves within your space, and that what is truly loving does not arrive in a way that unsettles the soul.

And in that moment, I could hear and feel Spirit whisper:

“You can love the soul and humanity in someone… and still walk away from what is inimical to your well-being.”

It was a spiritual lesson delivered on an ordinary day…through a spontaneous invitation to lunch after years had passed…yet nothing about it was accidental. He was Spirit’s messenger. And on this day…clarity arrived…an unmistakable “aha” moment.

And I finally understand…

Empathy does not obligate proximity.
Understanding does not require endurance.

And I am at peace.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Words – Love, Wendy

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Words are as powerful and meaningful as the actions that accompany the sentiments…or lack thereof.

Words can become the foundation upon which the bridge is built when one’s actions support the foundation of the sentiments.

Words have the ability to begin a life changing dialogue…to begin a healing journey…and to create a new trajectory of love and peace…but only when they are met with consistency and presence that stays.

And…if one feels “exposed” by the words, it’s because the wound speaks truth…and truth may be the serum that heals.

Pain that has been metabolized into insight is not poison…it is medicine. And medicine can sting.

And after it settles…we have the opportunity to integrate the pain…

into power.

Love,

Wendy

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Auld Lang Syne:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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Happy New Year’s Eve, Dear Readers,

May 2026 meet you gently and bring renewed hope, wellness, peace and freedom to us all.

Here is my last blog for 2025.

Thank you so much for following my blog and supporting my journey.

Wishing you all that you desire, deserve, and dream of in the new year.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

I begin this new year with renewed hope and wellness.

Freedom…

The best gifts in life are free.

Freedom is not the absence of pain, but the presence of truth.
It arrives when we choose to release illusion.
It is the quiet release from cycles that harm,
the courage to stop romanticizing familiarity
and to choose what is steady, reciprocal, and real.

Even in grief, freedom speaks…
removing what cannot stay,
making room for what is real, regulated, and safe.

Especially now.

May I choose what is steady, reciprocal, and real…

May what is no longer mine fall away with grace,
and may what is meant for me arrive without force.

I remember…without clinging…

I honor…without romanticizing…

I release…without bitterness…

I move forward…without force.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Progress? OR Pretend?:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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“The mind must be tested in situations where its quality can be revealed. Not by how many ideas you’ve absorbed, but by how you actually behave when tested. Not by what you understand intellectually, but by what you demonstrate practically. This is the measure that destroys most people’s self-assessment. Because by this standard, your progress isn’t measured by how much you’ve learned or how many insights you’ve had. It’s measured by whether you respond differently to situations that used to overwhelm you.

Do you still react with the same defensiveness when criticized? Do you still avoid the same uncomfortable conversations? Do you still make decisions from the same fears?

If the answer is yes, then whatever progress you’ve made exists only in theory. You’ve upgraded your understanding without upgrading your behavior, which is like downloading new software but never installing it. You walk around with all this potential transformation stored in your mind, never actually running it when situations demand it.”

by Stoic Wisdom

Interpretation by Wendy Blanchard:

Growth is not proven by what we understand, but by how we respond when tested.
Insight that doesn’t change behavior is only theory.
Real progress shows up when old fears no longer run our choices, when we stop avoiding hard conversations, and when we no longer sacrifice our wellbeing to be chosen.
Until behavior changes, the mind is only running in circles…full of potential, never applied.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Merry Christmas Eve:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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In the very recent noise, confusion, and old heartbreak patterns, love arrived this Christmas Eve without demand, without fear, without strings. It just flows with grace and reciprocity…friendship, conversation, ease, and connection as it has for 8 years.

My bestie confirmed something my soul already knows:

I am loved as I am, not for what I can prove, fix, tolerate, or endure.
Not conditionally.
Not anxiously.
Not with disappearance looming behind it.

Just love. Spoken plainly. Offered freely. Backed by actions that bring safety, consistency, smiles, and peace to my nervous system.

“Happy Christmas Eve. I just called to tell you, you are loved…you are loved.”

This is such a contrast moment and contrast moments are sacred. They clarify truth without having to analyze anything. One voice brings dysregulation and doubt and heartbreak; the other brings calm, warmth, and feelings of connection.

Peace and blessings on this Christmas Eve.

Love,

Wendy