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Patterns are Conscious Choices – Love, Wendy

It took me years…and countless tears…to understand this.

We all inherit behaviors, coping mechanisms, and stories. But at some point, we become the authors of our own patterns. We are given opportunities to look inward, to break cycles, to choose differently.

And when we don’t… that, too, is a choice.

It’s heartbreaking to watch people we love remain in loops of toxicity, to see them refuse the mirror, to deny the healing that could change everything. But I’ve learned that detachment doesn’t mean indifference…It means no longer abandoning myself to save someone who isn’t choosing to be saved.

I hold compassion from afar. I grieve. I release. And I continue choosing new patterns…ones that honor my growth, my peace, and my truth.

Sometimes the kindest thing we can do is step back and allow someone their own path, even when it’s shadowed with pain or resistance to growth.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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A Divine Bath – Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

Today begins a new story…

A stream of harmony, steady hope, divine connection…

Oneness.

After all I’ve walked through…after years of protective solitude…my heart stepped forward. That’s sacred. And it means I am alive, receptive, growing. And that is not lost time.

Sometimes, it’s that life presents mirrors until we fully choose not to hold what doesn’t reflect our worth. Each time you recognize the misalignment faster, speak your needs clearer, and walk away sooner…that’s growth. That’s co-creating your healing with God.

Ask yourself…

  1. What did this experience teach me about what I truly need in a relationship?
  2. Where did I show growth in how I expressed my needs and protected my peace?
  3. What part of me is healing now, even in this disappointment?
  4. What kind of love am I ready to receive now—more than ever before?

Never, ever negotiate your worth.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Dating is Exhausting – Love, Wendy

In today’s dating culture and climate, I observe challenges in finding compatible partners. Finding a partner who genuinely says what they mean, and means what they say has become almost obsolete.

In my experience with the men I have dated, they come on strong, or love bombing, and then within two weeks, they ghost you because they lack the emotional intelligence to thrive in a loving relationship. And they have misrepresented themselves which unfolds organically right before my eyes.

Dating is exhausting. It reminds me of why I was unmotivated in the first place.

I love being in love, and experiencing the joy, closeness and connection with another. I will continue to search with discernment, the man that will bring 100% of himself grounded in truth, integrity and devotion.

He is out there.

I remind myself to set boundaries, stand in my truth, and observe, and never, ever discard my gut feeling right from the first yellow flag…or worse yet, red flag.

Practice self care that promotes your well being and self confidence.

He is out there.

Love,

Wendy

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The One That Got Away – SoulNotes

I am not here for you to step on as the foundation of who you pretended to be.
I once told you…I am not your relationship tutor.
If you didn’t have the capacity to love me the way I deserve,
you should have stepped aside.

And yet… here you are, still in my orbit, years later.

I am here for reciprocity.
For unconditional love I can feel, even when I’m alone…
not unrequited love that lives only in your empty words,
never in your behavior.

Your attention-seeking now that I’ve moved on is exhausting.
It is disrespectful.

You would not recognize this version of me.
And for that, I thank you.

Because you forced me inward…to seek truth,
to build love from within,
to meet a new relationship from a whole and healthy place.

am the one who got away—
because you never had the courage to connect with yourself,
let alone with me.

Find your self-respect.
Move forward.
Be well.

Closing Mantra
I release the need for closure from anyone but myself.
I do not grieve who they were—I honor who I’ve become.
I am no longer available for half-love, false hope, or emotional residue.
I walk forward in truth, in dignity, and in devotion to my peace.
I trust that love, when it’s real, will never require me to abandon myself.
Each time I begin to abandon my beautiful self,
God whispers, “It’s okay to peek at the past with fondness—just don’t romanticize the poetry. After all, it’s just another line on an empty page.”

Love and blessings always,

Wendy

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The Universe Tweaks My Assignment – Love, Wendy

Sometimes, the Universe keeps putting people on our path not to show us what we lack, but to reveal how much we’ve grown. I am being called to refine my discernment—to notice, even sooner, who is capable of meeting me fully, and who is still orbiting their own unhealed places. It is empowering…I am no longer chasing love. I am curating my inner circle with care.

The Universe shows me over and over, that the love I am seeking will have to match the depth, the softness, and the strength which I have cultivated in myself. When we raise the bar, the right people rise to meet us there. We strive for absolute balance as we aim to reach the bar on each glorious day. 

With clear eyes, I’m learning to stay open to love…even in the face of uncertainty.

Spirit is my teacher.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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From Stress to Serenity- Love, Wendy


Our emotional health is such an overlooked factor in influencing the length and quality of an individual’s life.

Shaping lifespan refers to the ways in which both genetic and environmental factors influence the length and quality of an individual’s life. The concept encompasses a range of biological, social, and lifestyle determinants that interact to affect longevity. 

Poorly managed, or unmanaged chronic stress, an allostatic load, fuels unhealthy coping habits like overeating and substance use that promotes dis-ease, eroding health and wellness, and shortening one’s lifespan, especially when we are not taking time to practice self care to balance our emotional and physical states. When we are experiencing chronic stress, the body remains in a constant state of ‘fight or flight,’ which leads to persistent inflammation, hormonal imbalances, and a weakened immune system.

This ongoing wear and tear, known as allostatic load, accelerates the aging process, increases susceptibility to chronic illnesses like heart disease, diabetes, and autoimmune disorders, and can severely impact mental health.

Moreover, in severe cases, poor emotional health impacts one’s longevity when individuals who are feeling unwell, emotionally, or living with a mental health disorder that goes untreated, tragically end their own lives prematurely…which is occurring at unprecedented rates.

At this time of year between holiday stress, financial stress, living with a chronic illness, grieving those we’ve lost, or reflecting on a year filled with challenges, it’s imperative to remember the importance of self-compassion and balance. 

When we actively practice self-care—whether through mindfulness, exercise, healthy eating, or seeking professional support—we can counteract the effects of stress, restore balance to our bodies and minds, and cultivate a more sustainable, healthier lifestyle.

When we invest in our well-being, we promote long-term health, vitality, and even longevity. The choices we make for ourselves on a daily basis either creates inflammation, or wellness.

Please remember to take a break when you need to during this season, and throughout the year as a lifestyle practice.

This can look like unplugging from social media, daily intentional self care, or reaching out to a trusted friend or mental health professional when you need support.

TAKE A BREAK.

For more self care and spiritual solution ideas to manage your chronic stress, read my book, Write Pray Recover:A Journey To Wellness Through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care.

This is an interactive journal that guides one from stress to serenity.

https://a.co/d/3ZSZsHv

Wishing you and yours a healthy, joyous and blessed holiday season.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Your Spiritual Compass – Love, Wendy

That intense, warm intuitive feeling in the depths of your gut is angel communication. Pay close attention to these details from the Divine.

The language of the Divine is unmistakable and speaks not through loud demands, but through a gentle tap on the shoulder, feelings, or synchronicities that resonate deeply within…

Follow your spiritual compass.

Love,

Wendy

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Managing Daily Stress For Lasting Wellness – Love, Wendy

Find your inner strength and resolve to allow your mind to steer you towards wellness, recognizing that true resilience comes from within with every opportunity that affords you to practice navigating with a clear mind and healthy body, not from the fleeting relief of external substances. External situations, no matter how challenging, should never dictate your choices or push you towards unhealthy coping mechanisms.

By recognizing and nurturing your inner clarity, you have the opportunity to make healthy practices a lifestyle. Try grounding yourself in healthier ways to manage stress—such as mindfulness, exercise, organic foods, loving connections, and self-reflection where you empower yourself to face life’s challenges and adversity, disappointments and hardships with awareness, grace and stability.

In choosing wellness over temporary escapes, you honor your body and mind, building lasting strength, and a sense of agency that no external circumstance can take away. Remember, the power to heal and grow always resides within you when you practice daily self care, self respect and self preservation.

As it states in my book, Write Pray Recover:A Journey To Wellness Through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care, “Self care is the actions that we take to achieve wellness, and wellness is where we stand in our power.”

Take care of yourself for yourself, and to demonstrate to others how you expect to be treated. By honoring your own needs and setting clear boundaries, you show others that you value yourself and deserve to be treated with kindness and consideration. 

And perhaps, you will encourage those observing your agency and practices to set their own standards a little higher.

Love and blessings,

Wendy