When we remain open and approachable, we create space for forgiveness to flow and for communication to blossom.
Love,
Wendy
Author: wendyblanchard044
Author, Mental Health and Wellness Educator, Board Certified Peer Specialist in mental health and substance use disorder, Integrative Nutrition Health Coach
What Do You Think? – Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Just observe your thoughts…welcome them, so that you can release them rather than replay them on a loop of skewed perception or a story you’ve been telling yourself without authentic facts or evidence.
Remind yourself: this is only something you are thinking—influenced by experience, bias, learned behaviors, or environment. It is perspective, but not necessarily reality.
When we refrain from assigning meaning to every single thought, we create space to recognize its “performance.” In that moment, we owe it to ourselves to bow out in order to use discernment to rewrite the script.
Choose the opposite thought for a moment…what does that look like? What does it feel like in your body? You may discover a doorway to peace, where you recognize that you are not your thoughts—you are the observer with the power to shift them.
Ask yourself, “What else could this thought mean?”
Mantra: “I use deliberate thinking and discernment to understand my thoughts and feelings.”
Look Up, Child:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
This date is now a threshold — the final goodbye as I step into freedom. I never look back…I excitedly walk toward you where the soil is fertile, and there is space for love to blossom. I no longer hold back in fear…I walk forward in faith.
There is a palpable energy shift…a space created for love aligned with my values and soul to enter…a new trajectory that marks a turning point where my heart, mind, and spirit are fully open to love that is mutual, sacred, and ready…
I now step into a garden of sunflowers, where love can turn its face fully toward the light.
“Look up, Child…”
Love and blessings,
Wendy
Kismet:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
When you gasp at someone’s words because they mirror your own, Spirit is showing you resonance.
Is it romance? Perhaps…perhaps not…
In any case…it does mean alignment. We see the world through lenses that refract light in similar hues.
In today’s culture and climate, alignment is rare…and we cherish our connection. As the Universe continues to conspire and bestow bliss upon our connection, there are no “labels”…
We savor the flavors of our differences as we taste one another’s intimate musings and shared, uncertain contemplations.
Love and blessings,
Wendy
Love and Grace:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Love and grace are more powerful than your deepest remorse and guilt.
Remorse and guilt can weigh heavily on someone’s heart, often keeping them stuck in fear or shame, but love and grace — when fully embodied — have the power to transform, heal, and release even the deepest emotional burdens…for you, for me…for us.
Love and blessings,
Wendy
Roadblocks to Love:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
People don’t connect the way they used to…or love the way they used to. Something has changed.
Relationships now feel like a complicated road map. Turn to the left and you’re met with a brick wall. Turn to the right and you’re on a one-way street. Try to turn back, and there are barriers blocking your way…
Roadblocks to love.
It’s as if we’ve all been caught in endless “traffic”…so much noise, so much exhaustion that we no longer have the energy for the commitment of a long lasting, winding journey of true intimacy. We take the quickest route, the shortest visit, the surface-level conversation that demands the least of us — where most people I meet seem to feel “safe.”
I see it in the “Good Morning, how are you?” that is mumbled as they never stop to make eye contact…not authentic…and the times when we are experiencing hardship, heartbreak, or pain and those “safe” in their own cocoon look the other way in order to avoid a conversation that could be uncomfortable. People have forgotten how to offer empathy.
But I remember another way. When I was growing up, and even when my children were growing up, we greeted each other with a kiss on the cheek, a hug, and a smile. Connection was natural, tactile, warm and animated. Today it’s barely a hug, sometimes just a tap where one barely leans in…a gesture that says, “Don’t get too close.”
What has happened to humanity? Have we become so afraid of intimacy that we keep love at arm’s length?
I believe we have. Fear has replaced trust. Self-protection has replaced presence. And yet…my heart still longs for the genuine embrace, the unhurried conversation, the love that lingers.
So I choose to keep loving the “old way.” To keep showing up fully. To keep offering a hug, a smile, and a heart wide open. Because even if the world has changed, my love, my compassion, my authenticity remains.
Love and blessings,
Wendy
A “Sobering Truth” – Love, Wendy
In a matter of one minute everything can change. And it does.
Your life can take a turn you did not expect. It may feel incredibly foreign. Unfamiliar. New information that is old is delivered.
Sobering.
You are forced to see new perspectives, and to practice acceptance of information that is unconscionable, yet undeniable.
And, you carry the disturbing burden of this new information, and a new perspective into the present day in order to remind yourself that nothing and no one is ever really one hundred percent of what, or whom they present to others.
And there are some who are complete imposters, one hundred percent.
Sobering…
Lesson offered over and over again finally sinks in, and is learned.
When the truth reveals itself the first time, accept it. Put down the rose colored glasses, stop listening to fairy tales, kick the garbage to the curb, and move on.
Take care of yourself. Depend only upon yourself. Love and nurture yourself. Forgive yourself for loving and trusting the wrong person…over and over…
And keep moving forward…
Sober.
The “truth” was pure deceit.
Love,
Wendy
Man vs Coward – Love, Wendy
In recognizing the difference between fear-based running and authentic connection, we see that a coward ghosts and discards…
a man communicates his feelings and thoughts in order to more deeply connect.
BOOM…
Love,
Wendy
Shallow – Love, Wendy
Shallow waters will always thrash and churn—chaos, games, and empty words. They pull, they provoke, they spiral.
But shallow has no depth.
Shallow has no peace.
Shallow has no truth.
I refuse to drown in it.
Time after time, the games repeat. The patterns reveal themselves. No self-control, no regulation, no growth.
And still, no winners.
I live in the deep. In presence, integrity, and love. That is where I breathe. That is where I rise.
Shallow can never touch me there.
“You’re off the deep end… and I always dive in.”
Love,
Wendy
Man In The Mirror:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
If your behavior has deeply hurt another especially ghosting, deceiving, and simply disappearing without a trace…you need to take the time to get the appropriate help you need to understand why you call this love…and then just maybe there can be forgiveness and a new healthy relationship.
Until then…your healing is your responsibility. My peace is mine.
Look at the “man in the mirror,” and “make that change.”
Love,
Wendy
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