Author: wendyblanchard044

Author, Mental Health and Wellness Educator, Board Certified Peer Specialist in mental health and substance use disorder, Integrative Nutrition Health Coach
BOOK, Harmonious Health 4 Life, Soul Notes, Write Pray Recover

The Square and the Circle – Love, Wendy

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No matter how many different ways you try…the square peg will not fit into the circle…

and I have tried.

Lesson: Do not try to shape something into form that you know is never going to fit.

Mantra: With discernment and awareness, I honor the truth of this situation. I choose authenticity. I create my peace.

Ask yourself, “How much longer do I want to linger in false energy that inherently I know will never bring me solace? What is one small action step that I can take this week to begin to pivot my energy onto a positive and productive path?”

Love,

Wendy

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WORLD BEHIND THE WINDOW – LOVE, WENDY

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Healing doesn’t make you immune to pain. It makes you more attuned to it. You become a mirror, and not everyone wants to see their reflection.

It’s not that you disappointed people. It’s that you evolved past the roles they were comfortable with. And some people…consciously or not…punish growth, especially when THEY ARE stuck.

What you’re seeing now in those that you once shared a loving connection with…avoiding eye contact, dismissing kindness, or speaking ill, is the externalization of their inner conflict. It’s easier to isolate the “bright one” than admit they are dimming themselves. Your discomfort here is evidence of your alignment. Your nervous system is rejecting environments that dishonor truth and tenderness. That’s not dysfunction…it’s discernment.

So now comes the hard truth…you cannot change them, but you can choose not to let them define your worth. And you can quietly, fiercely, choose sacred boundaries. Not walls…but clear water between yourself and what contaminates your spirit.

Your presence holds a frequency that not everyone is ready for…and that’s not your burden…

It’s your gift.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Boundaries Are Self Care – Love, Wendy

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Alienation and estrangement in relationships occurs over a course of time and is the result of patterns…

betrayal of trust, unmet needs, accumulated emotional triggers, and repeated attempts to connect that go ignored or invalidated.

Setting firm boundaries at the onset of a relationship is the only way to preserve mutual respect and emotional safety…

and the only defense against the heartbreak of disconnection.

Love,

Wendy

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Patterns are Conscious Choices – Love, Wendy

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It took me years…and countless tears…to understand this.

We all inherit behaviors, coping mechanisms, and stories. But at some point, we become the authors of our own patterns. We are given opportunities to look inward, to break cycles, to choose differently.

And when we don’t… that, too, is a choice.

It’s heartbreaking to watch people we love remain in loops of toxicity, to see them refuse the mirror, to deny the healing that could change everything. But I’ve learned that detachment doesn’t mean indifference…It means no longer abandoning myself to save someone who isn’t choosing to be saved.

I hold compassion from afar. I grieve. I release. And I continue choosing new patterns…ones that honor my growth, my peace, and my truth.

Sometimes the kindest thing we can do is step back and allow someone their own path, even when it’s shadowed with pain or resistance to growth.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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A Divine Bath – Soul Notes – Love, Wendy

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Today begins a new story…

A stream of harmony, steady hope, divine connection…

Oneness.

After all I’ve walked through…after years of protective solitude…my heart stepped forward. That’s sacred. And it means I am alive, receptive, growing. And that is not lost time.

Sometimes, it’s that life presents mirrors until we fully choose not to hold what doesn’t reflect our worth. Each time you recognize the misalignment faster, speak your needs clearer, and walk away sooner…that’s growth. That’s co-creating your healing with God.

Ask yourself…

  1. What did this experience teach me about what I truly need in a relationship?
  2. Where did I show growth in how I expressed my needs and protected my peace?
  3. What part of me is healing now, even in this disappointment?
  4. What kind of love am I ready to receive now—more than ever before?

Never, ever negotiate your worth.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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Dating is Exhausting – Love, Wendy

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In today’s dating culture and climate, I observe challenges in finding compatible partners. Finding a partner who genuinely says what they mean, and means what they say has become almost obsolete.

In my experience with the men I have dated, they come on strong, or love bombing, and then within two weeks, they ghost you because they lack the emotional intelligence to thrive in a loving relationship. And they have misrepresented themselves which unfolds organically right before my eyes.

Dating is exhausting. It reminds me of why I was unmotivated in the first place.

I love being in love, and experiencing the joy, closeness and connection with another. I will continue to search with discernment, the man that will bring 100% of himself grounded in truth, integrity and devotion.

He is out there.

I remind myself to set boundaries, stand in my truth, and observe, and never, ever discard my gut feeling right from the first yellow flag…or worse yet, red flag.

Practice self care that promotes your well being and self confidence.

He is out there.

Love,

Wendy

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The One That Got Away – SoulNotes

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I am not here for you to step on as the foundation of who you pretended to be.
I once told you…I am not your relationship tutor.
If you didn’t have the capacity to love me the way I deserve,
you should have stepped aside.

And yet… here you are, still in my orbit, years later.

I am here for reciprocity.
For unconditional love I can feel, even when I’m alone…
not unrequited love that lives only in your empty words,
never in your behavior.

Your attention-seeking now that I’ve moved on is exhausting.
It is disrespectful.

You would not recognize this version of me.
And for that, I thank you.

Because you forced me inward…to seek truth,
to build love from within,
to meet a new relationship from a whole and healthy place.

I am the one who got away—
because you never had the courage to connect with yourself,
let alone with me.

Find your self-respect.
Move forward.
Be well.

Closing Mantra
I release the need for closure from anyone but myself.
I do not grieve who they were—I honor who I’ve become.
I am no longer available for half-love, false hope, or emotional residue.
I walk forward in truth, in dignity, and in devotion to my peace.
I trust that love, when it’s real, will never require me to abandon myself.
Each time I begin to abandon my beautiful self,
God whispers, “It’s okay to peek at the past with fondness—just don’t romanticize the poetry. After all, it’s just another line on an empty page.”

Love and blessings always,

Wendy

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The Universe Tweaks My Assignment – Love, Wendy

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Sometimes, the Universe keeps putting people on our path not to show us what we lack, but to reveal how much we’ve grown. I am being called to refine my discernment—to notice, even sooner, who is capable of meeting me fully, and who is still orbiting their own unhealed places. It is empowering…I am no longer chasing love. I am curating my inner circle with care.

The Universe shows me over and over, that the love I am seeking will have to match the depth, the softness, and the strength which I have cultivated in myself. When we raise the bar, the right people rise to meet us there. We strive for absolute balance as we aim to reach the bar on each glorious day. 

With clear eyes, I’m learning to stay open to love…even in the face of uncertainty.

Spirit is my teacher.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

Soul Notes

After the Storm – Love, Wendy

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I’ve lived through storms that could have swallowed me.
I’ve known love that vanished without warning,
and words that were louder than actions.

I carry a story shaped by fire,
and still—I choose to speak gently, to hope bravely,
to open my heart with discernment, not fear.

If someone is drawn to my light
but disappears when it flickers with truth—
that’s not my failure.
That’s their unfamiliarity with real strength…
and a reflection of their lack of readiness.

One’s silence is not a reflection of my worth, my story, or my strength. My past is not a liability—it’s a testament to my power. Anyone who doesn’t see the resilience, courage, and transformation in my story is simply not ready for a woman who’s done the hard work to rise.

Sometimes people are moved by intensity in the moment, but when it comes time to actually step into something real—with complexity, depth, and vulnerability—they retreat. Not because you were too open, but because they weren’t ready for the kind of truth and intimacy that requires.

I will continue to live out loud…not just to live in my truth…
but to hold the space for others who need an example of “to thine own self be true.”

This isn’t just about me.
It’s about the sacred ripple of authenticity…
how one voice saying “this is who I am”
gives permission for another to whisper, “me too.”

Ask yourself,
“Where are you holding back in speaking your truth for fear of being ghosted? What would you tell a dear friend in this same situation if they wanted to hide their scars that revealed their own fight to live? Whose silence might your truth help to break?”

To be an advocate for others…we must always share our own story to stand in our truth.
This is the space where we stand in our power.

Love and blessings,

Wendy

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An Invitation to Love – Love, Wendy

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When we’re not used to being loved in a healthy, safe, and steady way, it can actually feel threatening at first. Our nervous system may interpret it as unfamiliar, even unsafe, because it disrupts patterns we’ve long used to protect ourselves…patterns born from trauma, neglect, or rejection. So when love finally shows up, it can stir up confusion, fear, or even a need to retreat.

In that retreat, that quiet space the Universe (or God) offers, we’re given a sacred pause…a moment to look inward. That space isn’t punishment or absence. It’s an invitation to:

  • Notice what’s coming up (fear of abandonment, unworthiness, distrust, etc.)
  • Get curious instead of reactive.
  • Ask ourselves: What part of me still believes I don’t deserve this? What am I afraid will happen if I fully receive this love?

That pause, that distance, can be divine timing—meant for healing, not for punishment.

True story…

Love,

Wendy