This is no longer just about hurt feelings—this is a chronic pattern that is physically, emotionally, and spiritually depleting. And when you live with health challenges, the stress weakens the immune system further…and you step off of the merry go round when you finally admit that you are simply going in circles and that this is not sustainable.
It is a conscious choice to step out of a dynamic that is a constant source of pain…
You finally see clearly what remains when you are no longer the one holding it all together…
It crumbles.
This may not have a resolution in the way a loving, mutual relationship would.
No breakthrough conversation.
No moment where another suddenly understands and meets you with openness and a willingness to “see” a different perspective.
Sometimes… it just stays as it is…especially when there is negative, skewed outside influence.
And what’s left is simply…
Grief.
Not loud, not dramatic—just…present.
The kind that sits beside you, even when you’re doing everything “right.” It continues to gnaw at you…taps you on the shoulder daily, and keeps you engaged in a cycle of dysfunction…theirs.
There’s nothing that is needed to be “fixed” here. And nothing…no words or actions that are missing.
Just one quiet truth that you are left with…
You can love someone…even family…
and still step out of the reach of what hurts you.
This is your greatest self care, self preservation and self respect…
Those two things can exist together.
Both are painful, but when you mindfully choose yourself…you choose to live a full life of joy, love and peace…on your own terms…where another does not have the power to disrespect and dismiss you, deplete your energy, and discount your worth…at their every whim…an unpredictable change that can be stunning…and destabilizing…
Your peace is decided in every decision that you make…
“Peace begins with me.”
Love and blessings,
Wendy
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