Choosing compassion, empathy, and consistent presence reveals a deep desire for connection and commitment.
Meaning and intention become visible through behavior…quietly, honestly, unmistakably…
Signs of affection are offered without persuasion, urgency or demand…
When one has the capability and willingness to love.
Love and blessings,
Wendy
There comes a point when you realize that some things in life do not respond to patience or reason. Like a fly that keeps circling your head…buzzing, distracting, disappearing just long enough to make you think it’s gone…only to return again.
You swat it away once, twice, dozens of times, hoping it will finally leave you in peace. But it never does…
It feeds on access, on hesitation, on your hope that restraint will be enough. And eventually, you understand that the only way to restore your peace is to stop swatting and take decisive action.
Not out of anger, but out of self-preservation. You let it die. You do not resurrect it. You do not explain yourself. You choose silence, stillness, and peace…and you breathe again.
I am partial to butterflies…they know how to glide and when the time is perfect, they land gently…with grace and presence.
Love and blessings,
Wendy
Sometimes you have to learn to live with the realization that resolution never comes…and that more of us live with this truth than we admit.
There’s something you desperately want to control, something you believe will enhance your life, that no matter how hard you attempt to coerce it, never comes to fruition… although at times you feel you are “almost there,” which eventually reveals itself as an illusion.
Perhaps it is someone you have prayed would get out of their own way so they might experience true love and joy…someone you hope will one day realize that their patterns are diminishing their life experiences, and that they might finally meet your energy in a committed life together.
Or maybe you seek acknowledgment or validation you have been waiting a lifetime…or a “lovetime”…to hear. And of course, there is the familiar ache of trying to force an outcome, gripping the steering wheel tightly, to no avail…because it exists completely outside your sphere of control, far off the beaten path.
And so… patience has become a survival skill. Not the patience of watching desires finally come to fruition, but the patience of acceptance…one freaking day at a time.
Acceptance that complete surrender to external circumstances is where we take back our power…and our peace.
And the Universe will continue to assign this lesson until you finally internalize it… breathe it… speak it… sleep it… live it.
Release your grip.
It is all an illusion.
Love,
Wendy
Attempted strangulation of any outcome
will most certainly result in death by asphyxiation.
Attachment doesn’t look like danger at first.
It disguises itself as love.
Attachment keeps one in a low-oxygen environment:
second-guessing oneself, waiting, shrinking one’s needs,
holding one’s breath for crumbs of certainty.
This kind of attachment doesn’t explode—
it erodes.
Quietly.
Over days…over months…over years…
Over a lifetime.
Attachment is a killer.
It cuts off oxygen.
A hard pill to swallow…
what is meant to be included in our lives does not require force…
Release your grip…
Release isn’t loss.
It’s resuscitation.
Resurrection of the soul…
Love and blessings,
Wendy
Ready to dive in?!
You cannot steady a man who refuses to stop rocking the boat.
I remain afloat in the eye—steady and sheltered.
I am exposing the cultural lie that endless diving equals love, loyalty, or virtue.
I choose…
emotional buoyancy, nervous-system safety and spiritual sobriety.
Love,
Wendy
We can live a life filled with regret and self-punishment after unintentionally causing hurt and pain…
OR…
We can live a life devoted to integration…of lessons learned, changed behavior, and service.
One lifetime is not long enough, nor is it productive, to remain trapped in self-inflicted “what-ifs” or “should-have’s.”
It is long enough to practice self-acceptance, take responsibility, offer a sincere apology when needed, and adopt a mindset of “I will do better“…not through words alone, but through changed behavior.
That is how we live a fulfilled, joyful, and meaningful life.
We all make mistakes.
That is the human condition.
But the life you choose to live…and how you grow from what you’ve learned…remains completely within your agency.
This is where you “stand in your power.”
Love and blessings,
Wendy
I have written in my book, Write Pray Recover: A Journey to Wellness Through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care, that “Uncertainty tends to encourage us to stay where we feel safe.”
But when I examine this more closely… am I really safe?
In the quiet of my space, I know exactly what I “should” do. Why don’t I just take action? What is making me feel so restrictive in acting on knowledge that I know is the healthy, forward-thinking choice?
And here it is…
It is the story attached to the action.
Ending a toxic relationship means admitting judgment failure…holding space for it far too long and even returning to it after finding my resolve to exit. Having an honest and difficult conversation means facing my own suppressed truth and the conflict I avoided because conflict feels intolerable and instills a sense of loss—even when that loss is actually a gain to my health, my wellness, my peace, and my freedom.
The timing is never the “right time.” Especially when we’ve framed the relationship as a love story, or the job or career as security…even when that security was never truly safe.
Circumstances rarely change on their own. People do not change simply through conversation…change requires action, implemented consistently and often. It requires the willingness—and sometimes the eagerness—to create change that enhances your life and well-being.
There is a space…a crevice…between knowing and taking action. Simply “holding space” or waiting does not close that gap or change the truth. The only way to securely bridge it is the decision to act despite the restrictive feelings that inhibit a growth mindset…one that is forward-thinking and active.
We can continue to ask, “Am I really safe?” And the truth will either become gradually embodied—or gradually buried beneath inner dialogue and “justification” for inaction.
And regardless of our action…love may always remain…
That pause between knowing and acting is deeply uncomfortable. The uncertainty can be debilitating because it reveals agency in situations where feeling powerless is more comfortable. As unhealthy as this is within a fixed mindset, more often than not, it is the human condition.
As I also write in my book, “Self care is the actions that we take to achieve wellness, and wellness is where we stand in our power.”
Love and blessings,
Wendy
Sometimes spiritual guidance that calls one inward arrives through the voice of another…an observer with no agenda…one who says, “You are the strongest person I know. I love to see you smile. You deserve a partner who arrives with alignment, presence, and understands what a loving relationship truly is.”
As I listened, he spoke of how I had “spent years building a solid, beautiful foundation…brick by brick through recovery, prayer, self-care, and devotion to healing…and how someone who loves you does not arrive like a bulldozer, tearing through what took years to build.” He reminded me that respect is revealed in how someone moves within your space, and that what is truly loving does not arrive in a way that unsettles the soul.
And in that moment, I could hear and feel Spirit whisper:
“You can love the soul and humanity in someone… and still walk away from what is inimical to your well-being.”
It was a spiritual lesson delivered on an ordinary day…through a spontaneous invitation to lunch after years had passed…yet nothing about it was accidental. He was Spirit’s messenger. And on this day…clarity arrived…an unmistakable “aha” moment.
And I finally understand…
Empathy does not obligate proximity.
Understanding does not require endurance.
And I am at peace.
Love and blessings,
Wendy
Words are as powerful and meaningful as the actions that accompany the sentiments…or lack thereof.
Words can become the foundation upon which the bridge is built when one’s actions support the foundation of the sentiments.
Words have the ability to begin a life changing dialogue…to begin a healing journey…and to create a new trajectory of love and peace…but only when they are met with consistency and presence that stays.
And…if one feels “exposed” by the words, it’s because the wound speaks truth…and truth may be the serum that heals.
Pain that has been metabolized into insight is not poison…it is medicine. And medicine can sting.
And after it settles…we have the opportunity to integrate the pain…
into power.
Love,
Wendy
I had been asked to speak to a group of 100 high school girls and to write an inspirational quote that I could print on a business card for them to keep as a gentle reminder to always carry “forward motion.”
I wanted to write something that centers agency rather than adversity, invites gentle courage instead of hustle, and speaks to awakening as often as one feels called to without urgency or force. and to align with self care, wellness, and self trust.
“Making a plan without action is just a dream…dreams only come true when you wake up with courage, and move toward creating the reality that you dream about.”
Wendy Blanchard, MS, INHC, CPS
On the flip side of the business card, I wrote an acronym GREAT…
GREAT
BE YOU! DO YOU! FOR YOU! – Wendy Blanchard, MS, INHC, CPS
This reminder card is suitable for the young women that I spoke to, and I use it for myself, daily, as a reminder that dreams do come true…and that dreams do not have an expiration date.
My inspirational quote and acronym are suitable for anyone with a dream!
Choose a narrative that leaves room for possibility at every stage of life!
Love and blessings,
Wendy
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