Choose to no longer become entangled in their behavior, their chaos, their distortion.
Do not speak their language.
See it clearly through the lens of discernment and compassion…
What they cannot or will not say with words,
they say with misaligned behavior.
I observe …I do not judge another’s inability or unwillingness to communicate effectively,
even at the cost of their own dignity.
This reflects my compassionate lens.
I see through behavior to the root of trauma… to disorder…
Without excusing it, and without allowing it to invade my peace.
When someone thumbs their nose at my boundaries again and again,
I now recognize it: symbolic defiance, a testing of strength,
a bid for attention through manipulation.
I do not engage or play.
I stand in my power.
I’ve taken my peace off the board.
Maybe they seek connection…
Maybe it’s passive aggression…
Maybe it’s just a cry to be noticed.
Either way…I honor the wound from afar.
Their “language” is a learned survival skill,
the truest reflection of their inner world…
disorder, self-judgment, self-loathing.
I no longer internalize their language.
They are the only one listening.
Their behavior is an overt reflection of low self-worth…
a desperate attempt to be seen and heard,
even at the cost of their own dignity.
And so, I say with calm compassion,
“Play on… read on…
Solitaire.”
Love and blessings,
Wendy
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