Physical pain can manifest from unspoken and unprocessed emotions and feelings.
It can be our reminder to find a safe space and safe person where we can release our emotions in a constructive way.
Pain can be a reminder that change is necessary in order to heal.
The first step is awareness of our emotions, and then taking a step forward towards an action that will safely and slowly release our inner pain.
Through acknowledgement of what is, we can find peace.
Love and blessing
If someone had only believed in me as I was growing up, encouraged me to reach my full potential, and loved me unconditionally, I could have followed my dream. I could have been someone that I chose to be.
Instead, I live the life that I was told to live because I wasn’t “good enough/intelligent enough/talented enough” to follow my passion and my dream.
I was told that I’d “never get an interview” because I wasn’t good enough. I got that interview. However, the constant degrading and abuse of my character and of my dreams were trampled upon, daily, and I became lost and despondent. Layers of abuse leading to decades of prescription drug addiction to mask the pain.
I exist in a life that is not by choice now as I am of a certain age and lost so many years in my addiction.
The silver lining is my 10 1/2 years of sustained sobriety, and the deep love of my family and other special people.
Now I give to my children what I did not get. I believe in their ability to achieve everything they dream of, and I encourage them to never give in, or give up.
I plant a seed and then step back and allow the seed to grow as they would like to grow their grit, their craft, and to shape their life, even as full grown adults, and I support them every step of the way.
Love,
Wendy
“The psychology of forgiveness has various definitions. The broadest definition is an adaptive human instinct activated in certain social situations (McCullough, 2008). By this definition, forgiveness does not require a future relationship with someone who has wronged you. It frees you instead of the instinct for vengeance.
The psychology of self-compassion has been empirically backed through the work of Kristin Neff. Self-compassion is conceptualized in three components” (Neff, 2003):
For many of us, it is usually self compassion and self forgiveness that challenges us. We get stuck where self love and self respect that is necessary to let ourselves off the hook has not been our experience, and we come from an emotional mind/response, rather than our logical/wise mind.
“These two virtues of forgiveness, and self-compassion are found in all areas of religion in various ways. Spirituality and science overlap in foundational ways to allow for the human experience to bond us in a collective experience. Interventions that value the unique worldview of each individual will be more impactful, as they allow for individual belief systems to be enhanced by science.”
Love and blessings,
Wendy
When God tells you that you must unlearn unhealthy behaviors and learn to be “like a rock” in order to lead your family and to live your own best life, and then your son turns to you during, and in the aftermath of a family emergency and says, “Mom, you are my rock,” I recognize the blessing that God has bestowed upon me. My daughter speaks similar sentiments and says, “Mom, you have changed so much over the last decade. You are so calm and filled with insight and wisdom. I need you.”
Although it took years of deep and intense inner work over the years, and I continue this work, I have recognized myself “like a rock” in order to lead my family as God has asked of me, and in order to remain in a wellness mindset for myself.
Last night, after 36 hours of complete confusion and heartbreak, I too marveled at the order and zen that I felt and displayed at work, and for my family in the middle of one of the most heartbreaking and frightening times as a family…
My precious granddaughter, Rosie, age 15, has Leukemia.
Blindsided and devasting for all of us. She will receive treatment immediately, and we know she WILL beat this.
The gift of recovery (from addiction, now over a decade of sustained wellness for me) is finding oneself through God/Spirit/Universe/Divine, and then using that power of self to lead by example. And of course, gently sharing my Spiritual beliefs with my children so that they understand that in times of adversity and challenge, for me, it has been God and my faith in God that has carried me through.
As I write about in my book, Write Pray Recover:A Journey To Wellness Through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care, God is at the core of every word that I speak, and every action that I take. And, the first chapter of my book is entitled, “Look Up, Child.”
Amen.
Look Up, Child.
Love and blessings,
Wendy
Upon learning about the “love scam,” cheating, deceit and lies, I went from feeling a spiritual love and connection second to none, to full disdain.
It is always the “truth” that sets you free, no matter how unpleasant and disdainful it turns out to be, and Spirit is always surrounding us with the love, support and guidance that steers us back to pure love.
Love,
Wendy
My spiritual beliefs and the way in which I practice spending time with God and hearing His message is very personal.
And I have heard God speak to me, and have seen Him show me information that I would have never seen if I had not been open to a spiritual relationship…one where I hear, see and feel beyond my physical limitations.
He is the foundation on which I continue to build my life.
I experience His message every morning in prayer, and all throughout the day as I continue to seek Him as my guide and teacher.
God/Spirit/Universe/Source is a subjective and personal experience for each of us as we align with a spiritual relationship that brings us joy, love, peace and a deeper understanding of the Divine individual purpose in our lives.
Love,
Wendy
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