A Non-Fiction Narrative:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
In order to create new healthy patterns, you have to unlearn unhealthy patterns and behaviors… Those patterns that you observed and that which caused the dismantling of the relationship are all still there…they are still toxic…they are masking them behind the apologies and tears… completely fictitious… but trust me… nothing changes if nothing changes… Patterns are strong predictors of true presence…or lack thereof… I may…
Keep readingFrom Where I Stand – Love, Wendy
Childhood reflections: “Little girls and little boys who grow up in a world of noise rather than experiencing the joys of a loving family may find their heart and soul destroyed… They have a heart that begins to roam For a place that they may call their home But find that they are all alone And live an empty life unknown to the experience of…
Keep readingThe Human Condition:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
We all crave connection…seek validation and recognition whether in our personal relationships or in our professional lives.It is the very essence of the human condition. Connection is medicine for anxiety, and companionship calms the body in ways logic never can… We can take a break from being “the strong one” when love is present. Love and blessings, Wendy
Keep readingFriendship:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Sometimes gratitude stops me mid‑sentence, searching for language big enough to hold it. My heart swells with gratitude. How do you thank a bestie who doesn’t hesitate when your child is hurting? When he offers support that is not offered out of obligation, but from the quiet place of presence, wisdom, and love…When someone willingly gives their precious time and hard‑earned expertise to help your…
Keep readingClear Eyes:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
While participating in a book study of The Anxious Generation, and in my lived and field experience, I see that the same patterns of seeking constant validation, neediness, comparison, and dependence that present in children often show up in adults…sometimes subtly, sometimes very overtly. Comparison culture doesn’t dissolve with age…it simply becomes more disguised. In adults, it often masquerades as productivity, sensitivity, or the need to be…
Keep readingOrdinary Grace:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
I awake to warmth on a snowy morning in my comfy bed… I get ready to go to work…a career that is meaningful to me, and that I am proud of and look forward to each day. I open my cabinets each day and I get to choose which coffee I will drink, and which snacks I will eat, and in my fridge, is a…
Keep readingImagine:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Choosing compassion, empathy, and consistent presence reveals a deep desire for connection and commitment. Meaning and intention become visible through behavior…quietly, honestly, unmistakably… Signs of affection are offered without persuasion, urgency or demand… When one has the capability and willingness to love. Love and blessings, Wendy
Keep readingButterflies:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
There comes a point when you realize that some things in life do not respond to patience or reason. Like a fly that keeps circling your head…buzzing, distracting, disappearing just long enough to make you think it’s gone…only to return again. You swat it away once, twice, dozens of times, hoping it will finally leave you in peace. But it never does… It feeds on…
Keep readingIt is all an Illusion – Love, Wendy
Sometimes you have to learn to live with the realization that resolution never comes…and that more of us live with this truth than we admit. There’s something you desperately want to control, something you believe will enhance your life, that no matter how hard you attempt to coerce it, never comes to fruition… although at times you feel you are “almost there,” which eventually reveals…
Keep readingDeath by Attachment…and Resurrection – Love, Wendy
Attempted strangulation of any outcome will most certainly result in death by asphyxiation. Attachment doesn’t look like danger at first. It disguises itself as love. Attachment keeps one in a low-oxygen environment: second-guessing oneself, waiting, shrinking one’s needs, holding one’s breath for crumbs of certainty. This kind of attachment doesn’t explode— it erodes. Quietly. Over days…over months…over years… Over a lifetime. Attachment is a killer.…
Keep readingShallow – Love, Wendy
Ready to dive in?! You cannot steady a man who refuses to stop rocking the boat. I remain afloat in the eye—steady and sheltered. I am exposing the cultural lie that endless diving equals love, loyalty, or virtue. I choose… emotional buoyancy, nervous-system safety and spiritual sobriety. Love, Wendy
Keep readingLife…Interrupted — And Reclaimed – Love, Wendy
We can live a life filled with regret and self-punishment after unintentionally causing hurt and pain… OR… We can live a life devoted to integration…of lessons learned, changed behavior, and service. One lifetime is not long enough, nor is it productive, to remain trapped in self-inflicted “what-ifs” or “should-have’s.” It is long enough to practice self-acceptance, take responsibility, offer a sincere apology when needed, and adopt a mindset…
Keep reading“Am I Really “Safe?” – Love, Wendy
I have written in my book, Write Pray Recover: A Journey to Wellness Through Spiritual Solutions and Self Care, that “Uncertainty tends to encourage us to stay where we feel safe.” But when I examine this more closely… am I really safe? In the quiet of my space, I know exactly what I “should” do. Why don’t I just take action? What is making me feel so restrictive in acting…
Keep readingA Spiritual Tap on the Shoulder – Love, Wendy
Sometimes spiritual guidance that calls one inward arrives through the voice of another…an observer with no agenda…one who says, “You are the strongest person I know. I love to see you smile. You deserve a partner who arrives with alignment, presence, and understands what a loving relationship truly is.” As I listened, he spoke of how I had “spent years building a solid, beautiful foundation…brick by…
Keep readingWords – Love, Wendy
Words are as powerful and meaningful as the actions that accompany the sentiments…or lack thereof. Words can become the foundation upon which the bridge is built when one’s actions support the foundation of the sentiments. Words have the ability to begin a life changing dialogue…to begin a healing journey…and to create a new trajectory of love and peace…but only when they are met with consistency…
Keep readingSelf as Sanctuary – Love, Wendy
I had been asked to speak to a group of 100 high school girls and to write an inspirational quote that I could print on a business card for them to keep as a gentle reminder to always carry “forward motion.” I wanted to write something that centers agency rather than adversity, invites gentle courage instead of hustle, and speaks to awakening as often as…
Keep readingAuld Lang Syne:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Happy New Year’s Eve, Dear Readers, May 2026 meet you gently and bring renewed hope, wellness, peace and freedom to us all. Here is my last blog for 2025. Thank you so much for following my blog and supporting my journey. Wishing you all that you desire, deserve, and dream of in the new year. Love and blessings, Wendy I begin this new year with…
Keep readingIntermission:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
When you are a writer but have lost your voice after a blow to your soul… it is time to sit in silence,to pray in silence,to listen in silence… until the next right step is revealed. A sacred pause rather than an absence. This is not an ending,but a holy intermission…the kind that precedes truer words. Love and blessings,Wendy
Keep readingProgress? OR Pretend?:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
“The mind must be tested in situations where its quality can be revealed. Not by how many ideas you’ve absorbed, but by how you actually behave when tested. Not by what you understand intellectually, but by what you demonstrate practically. This is the measure that destroys most people’s self-assessment. Because by this standard, your progress isn’t measured by how much you’ve learned or how many…
Keep readingAccess Denied:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Women do not owe access to men who cannot show up regulated, present, and accountable…who are unwilling to compromise, yet still expect emotional access. Nothing changes if nothing changes… Love, Wendy
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