Healing from Lupus:Acceptance Promotes Peace – Love, Wendy
As I continue to head towards remission from Lupus, there is something so sacred about 3:23 am when the world hasn’t started asking anything of you yet. Coffee warming your hands, Calm Radio on Pandora holding the nervous system steady, heat softening your back, and your words flowing freely…that’s medicine too. Deep, “lived and learned” medicine…WISDOM. I know movement and stress will invite the swelling…
Keep readingRecovery Coaching – Love, Wendy
When you regulate your body…when you speak to yourself with kindness and empathy…and when you choose to live in peace and truth regardless of external circumstances, you intentionally interrupt the signal of dysregulation in both body and mind. Within this mindset lies the possibility of healing alongside the ongoing processing and inner work that anxiety often reveals. Rather than resisting the trigger, we validate it,…
Keep readingShowing Up and Growing Up – Love, Wendy
I have a son. I am not available to raise another adult who has not finished growing up. Many men are deeply uncomfortable when they are not desired or made the center of a woman’s universe. Instead of curiosity or self-reflection, they resort to self righteousness…dismissal, minimization, or narrative control. I have witnessed this pattern repeatedly, across dozens of interactions. Emotional immaturity. I would rather…
Keep readingBe A Champion – Love, Wendy
I observe others who are living in their riches and skewed perception where they have never faced adversity or serious challenges that have affected their peace and wellbeing. If you’re not in the “ring” getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested in your “don’t worry about a thing, everything‘s going to be all right” ignorant response… Many times things do not turn out all right……
Keep reading“I Hope You Dance” – Love, Wendy
I’m learning to hear the music without the weight of meaning or memory, and in that quiet space, I recognize acceptance, resilience, and hope that has allowed me to open the space for love to re—enter… And I dance. Love and blessings, Wendy
Keep readingA Human Cushion – Love, Wendy
We cross paths with people every day who are quietly surviving unimaginable loss.Often, they don’t need to be fixed—they just need to be heard. A little empathy, kindness, and presence can matter more than we’ll ever know. When we create a safety net for others and we carry that frequency…one of “I see you,” others sense it and unburden themselves there. That’s not accidental. It’s…
Keep readingRoll the Credits – Love, Wendy
You can love someone and still despise what they stand for—and sometimes, quietly, painfully, that contradiction kills the love altogether. Beliefs are no longer abstract; they are mirrors of character. What once inspired admiration—intellect, confidence, brilliance—can be stripped bare by alignment with cruelty, intimidation, and moral cowardice. Respect erodes when someone chooses bullies over courage and kindness, power over humanity, and noise over conscience. There…
Keep readingTrust the Universe – Love, Wendy
As in a phrase popularized by Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. , “Trust the moral arc of the universe…” Choose integrity, and turning it over knowing that alignment brings peace, and misalignment brings its own consequences. Make peace with circumstances that will not make peace with you…and have faith. Love and blessings, Wendy
Keep readingRock On! – Love, Wendy
When you are blessed with brilliance but crippled with insecurity, your intended message does not arrive with its full power, because doubt distorts the delivery. Arrive with assertiveness… Rock that confidence! Inspire innate talents and abilities to emerge. Brilliance reaches its full expression when confidence leads the way—vibrant, undiluted, and unapologetic. Rock on! Love and blessings, Wendy
Keep readingA Non-Fiction Narrative:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
In order to create new healthy patterns, you have to unlearn unhealthy patterns and behaviors… Those patterns that you observed and that which caused the dismantling of the relationship are all still there…they are still toxic…they are masking them behind the apologies and tears… completely fictitious… but trust me… nothing changes if nothing changes… Patterns are strong predictors of true presence…or lack thereof… I may…
Keep readingFrom Where I Stand – Love, Wendy
Childhood reflections: “Little girls and little boys who grow up in a world of noise rather than experiencing the joys of a loving family may find their heart and soul destroyed… They have a heart that begins to roam For a place that they may call their home But find that they are all alone And live an empty life unknown to the experience of…
Keep readingThe Human Condition:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
We all crave connection…seek validation and recognition whether in our personal relationships or in our professional lives.It is the very essence of the human condition. Connection is medicine for anxiety, and companionship calms the body in ways logic never can… We can take a break from being “the strong one” when love is present. Love and blessings, Wendy
Keep readingFriendship:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Sometimes gratitude stops me mid‑sentence, searching for language big enough to hold it. My heart swells with gratitude. How do you thank a bestie who doesn’t hesitate when your child is hurting? When he offers support that is not offered out of obligation, but from the quiet place of presence, wisdom, and love…When someone willingly gives their precious time and hard‑earned expertise to help your…
Keep readingClear Eyes:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
While participating in a book study of The Anxious Generation, and in my lived and field experience, I see that the same patterns of seeking constant validation, neediness, comparison, and dependence that present in children often show up in adults…sometimes subtly, sometimes very overtly. Comparison culture doesn’t dissolve with age…it simply becomes more disguised. In adults, it often masquerades as productivity, sensitivity, or the need to be…
Keep readingOrdinary Grace:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
I awake to warmth on a snowy morning in my comfy bed… I get ready to go to work…a career that is meaningful to me, and that I am proud of and look forward to each day. I open my cabinets each day and I get to choose which coffee I will drink, and which snacks I will eat, and in my fridge, is a…
Keep readingImagine:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Choosing compassion, empathy, and consistent presence reveals a deep desire for connection and commitment. Meaning and intention become visible through behavior…quietly, honestly, unmistakably… Signs of affection are offered without persuasion, urgency or demand… When one has the capability and willingness to love. Love and blessings, Wendy
Keep readingButterflies:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
There comes a point when you realize that some things in life do not respond to patience or reason. Like a fly that keeps circling your head…buzzing, distracting, disappearing just long enough to make you think it’s gone…only to return again. You swat it away once, twice, dozens of times, hoping it will finally leave you in peace. But it never does… It feeds on…
Keep readingIt is all an Illusion – Love, Wendy
Sometimes you have to learn to live with the realization that resolution never comes…and that more of us live with this truth than we admit. There’s something you desperately want to control, something you believe will enhance your life, that no matter how hard you attempt to coerce it, never comes to fruition… although at times you feel you are “almost there,” which eventually reveals…
Keep readingDeath by Attachment…and Resurrection – Love, Wendy
Attempted strangulation of any outcome will most certainly result in death by asphyxiation. Attachment doesn’t look like danger at first. It disguises itself as love. Attachment keeps one in a low-oxygen environment: second-guessing oneself, waiting, shrinking one’s needs, holding one’s breath for crumbs of certainty. This kind of attachment doesn’t explode— it erodes. Quietly. Over days…over months…over years… Over a lifetime. Attachment is a killer.…
Keep readingShallow – Love, Wendy
Ready to dive in?! You cannot steady a man who refuses to stop rocking the boat. I remain afloat in the eye—steady and sheltered. I am exposing the cultural lie that endless diving equals love, loyalty, or virtue. I choose… emotional buoyancy, nervous-system safety and spiritual sobriety. Love, Wendy
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