Embracing the Boredom:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Boredom is not something to escape…it’s something to embrace…and dare I say… Revere… We’ve become a culture that constantly fills the space—scrolling, watching, distracting…mistaking stimulation for engagement and activity for productivity… But when the noise stops, something else begins. Fourteen years ago, in the earliest days of my recovery, I didn’t have the option to distract. I had to sit with myself. Hours turned into…
Keep readingGrief and Peace:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
This is no longer just about hurt feelings—this is a chronic pattern that is physically, emotionally, and spiritually depleting. And when you live with health challenges, the stress weakens the immune system further…and you step off of the merry go round when you finally admit that you are simply going in circles and that this is not sustainable. It is a conscious choice to step…
Keep readingIn Pieces:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
In order for transformation to occur, you must experience enlightenment… Being willing to face your truth without rose colored glasses or convenient excuses, and doing the inner work is the first step… Enlightenment occurs in pieces…slowly…a breakdown—and then a purposeful rebuilding… “Build it up…tear it down…leave the pieces on the ground… Better take it easyTry to find a way outBetter start believing in yourself…” -…
Keep readingReaction vs. Peace:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
I no longer feel a pull to engage. I embody a completely different energy. This is not detachment in a cold sense.It is, in fact…emotional sovereignty. Kindness does not require access. Compassion does not require engagement. I wish them well, always, but I choose not to engage. No guilt required… Because guilt used to come from this belief: “I am responsible for maintaining this connection.”…
Keep readingThe Bridge Between Us:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
There is something sacred about being in the presence of another human being…really being there. Not just exchanging words, but exchanging energy, tone, breath, pauses…the subtle language of being seen and heard…communication that uses language, inflection, and even non verbal responses that create depth to the exchange. So much of our communication today lives behind screens, where meaning can become lost in translation, and intention…
Keep readingInformation Travels Quietly:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Information Travels Quietly For a long time, I carried the weight of being misunderstood.Of having my struggles minimized.Of feeling like I had to justify what my body was going through… But recently, I didn’t have to say a word…and I felt the shift. The truth spoke for itself. Not loudly.Not forcefully.But quietly… and clearly. And in that quiet, something else arrived too… Support.Kindness.Community. It made…
Keep readingFrom A Distance:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
I have been researching and studying “low engagement responding” aka a way of avoiding deep conversation and connection. This pattern is more often a form of emotional distancing. People who carry unresolved resentment toward a parent or loved one sometimes manage it by limiting emotional contact rather than confronting the feelings directly. It is important to remember that this silence is about THEIR capacity, not…
Keep readingMixed Signals:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Stay on your own side of the street. If you are not asked to step off the curb into the intersection on my behalf to help me clear the way…please don’t take it upon yourself to ignore the red light… Read the sign—-NO TRESPASSING. This is where emotional fatigue sets in after repeated hurt and I no longer feel moved or connected because…the pattern is…
Keep readingWeaponizing Words:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Your tongue can be a shieldwhen guided by restraint… and when we choose a spiritually aligned mindset. But without impulse control,it becomes a weaponwith the power to destroy. Character is revealed in how we use it. Love and blessings, Wendy
Keep readingPeace Begins With Me: Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
When the body feels safe, it can access curiosity, kindness, peace, even humor. Without safety, the body goes straight into fight, flight, or freeze. When we mindfully practice composure—it is self-leadership and can promote equanimity and peace. “Peace begins with me.” Love and blessings, Wendy
Keep reading“The Joker and the Queen” – Love, Wendy
When I heard the song, The Joker and The Queen by Ed Sheeran and Taylor Swift…it deeply resonated. It reminded me that love arrives gently when the timing finally lines up. The metaphor is beautiful… The queen doesn’t have to chase, or prove her worth. The joker is the one who recognizes her value, and chooses her with his whole heart. And the deeper message…
Keep readingHappy International Women’s Day – Love, Wendy
Be a loving example for your daughters and granddaughters of strength, determination, and love of self—especially in today’s world. The little ones and young women in our lives are always watching. They learn not only from what we say, but from how we live, how we carry ourselves, and how we care for our own hearts and bodies. Be mindful of the young women who…
Keep readingSink, Swim…or Float? Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
Today I am too tired to swim, so I am choosing to float… It is where the noise of the world softens, and the heart and body that have carried too much can finally rest, like the gliding of a goldfish in the gentle rhythm of the water, knowing that even floating is a form of strength. Love and blessings, Wendy
Keep readingHonor and Trust – Love, Wendy
The way others trust you with their private struggles says a lot about the energy you carry. People can feel when someone is safe… when they won’t gossip, judge, or weaponize vulnerability. Trust like that is not accidental; it grows slowly through consistency and integrity. It isn’t built by trying to be liked.It isn’t built by positioning or influence. It is built quietly…over time…by showing…
Keep readingThis is Where Our Freedom Begins – Love, Wendy
“You have no idea what you are made of until the candle burns out andyou are left to use that tiny little ember to ignite the flame that will lightyour way. It’s that or “rest in pieces” in the hollow, dark hole. Challenge yourself. When you finally rise up, a little bruised but not broken, you willbegin to live. My greatest spiritual shifts have come…
Keep readingTurn Off The World:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
OPEN A BOOK… TURN ON THE MUSIC… TAKE A MINDFUL WALK OUTDOORS… TURN OFF THE WORLD… BRING YOURSELF INTO THE PRESENT MOMENT, AND CHANGE THE TRAJECTORY OF YOUR DAY BY ADAPTING HEALTHY PRACTICES BODY, MIND AND SPIRIT. PROMOTE YOUR WELLNESS. Self care is the actions that we take to achieve wellness, and wellness is where we stand in our power. Love and blessings, Wendy
Keep readingPerspective, Reality and Truth:A Hammer to the Heart – Love, Wendy
Reality whispered to Perspective,“Use discernment… It is not what you think you see.” Perspective did not take it to heart. Reality tapped Perspective on the shoulder and said,“Please, look again.” Perspective did not heed the warning. He continued to view “it” through his own limited frame of reference…“There is goodness in everyone…”— but without boundaries. Some time later, Reality took a hammer to the heart…
Keep readingMirrors:Soul Notes – Love, Wendy
I meet you where you are.I show up for you as you show up for me.I communicate with you as you communicate with me.I am there for you, as you are there for me. I am your mirror.I reflect back to you what you offer… All or nothing. I behave according to my character…regardless of yours. Soft heart. Strong spine. Nothing left to prove. Nothing…
Keep reading“Let Freedom Ring” – Love, Wendy
A blanket of corruption Conditional love Fair weather friendships May-December relationships “Bursts” of kindness that fades at a whim… Silence in the chaos… Entitlement over empathy. Cunning whispers over conscience. Self-serving “souls” Environments where love is transactional…loyalty is seasonal…and kindness is performative… Systemic. Cultural. Normalized. Corruption isn’t a flaw in the system — it is the system. But here’s the deeper question: Is this truly “new”…or is…
Keep reading“But, You Don’t Look Sick!” About Lupus – Love, Wendy
“But you don’t look sick!” I hear this too often. Instead of smiling one more time without knowing how to respond, especially during this current flare…I am sharing this in the hope that those who truly want to understand what I — and millions of others live with, will pause to read and learn about Lupus. For nearly six years after my last serious flare,…
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